Annette Gross

Happy Passover

Filed By Annette Gross | April 12, 2006 9:31 PM | comments

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Tonight marks the first night of Passover, which signifies the Israelites escape from Egypt and their move toward liberation. Every year I begin to think about the Passover story a few weeks before the holiday begins. As I was reflecting on the holiday and what it signifies, I (once again) thought about how the Passover story can resonate within the GLBT community. The Jews were oppressed, living in a harsh and painful world. But they didn't know any other way to live. When they reached the desert and had little provisions, many of them wanted to go back to Egypt. I think of coming out as a GLBT person's exodus. It is not done easily, and it takes a lot of thought and deliberation. I'm sure there are times when they have wanted to go back in the closet, where it may not be ideal, but it's comfortable. As the Jews wandered the Sinai desert, they had to come to terms with who they were and who they wanted to be. GLBT people must do the same wandering and soul-searching, and decide how they want to live. I admire anyone who does this difficult work - I saw my son struggle and it's not easy. At this time of year, when there is more light and the world is green again, I wish you all an easy journey as you pursue your personal exodus.

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What a beautiful post, Annette. Happy Passover!

melissa williams | April 13, 2006 10:16 AM

If you are interested, I have a great Haggadah called "Love and Peace in Times of War." It is written with gender inclusive language and is GLBT/trans friendly. It talks about each person's journey out of "Mitzraim". Each one of us has our own personal psychological bondage that we have to journey out of. I didn't have a Passover seder this year, but I am regretting it now, because I love this Haggadah and it's interpretation of this wonderful holiday.

John Metzinger | April 13, 2006 11:46 AM

I had a Passover Seder, for the first time, at my boss's home last night. My partner Eric joined my Jewish boss, his Catholic wife, their children, and two Catholic priests from St. Tom's in a beautiful ceremony. Annette, your post struck a chord with me as well, and was a "stream in the Dessert." Being "out" is hard work indeed, and the comfort of the closet does beckon sometimes. But I'm going to press forward in remembrance, honor of, and celebration of my own redemption from the closet.

I too did not go to a seder this year. Passover is the most meaningful holiday, and it's true that we all have psychological bondage to journey out of. It's a continuous trip. I would like to see that Haggadah, if possible. Happy 2nd night!

melissa williams | April 13, 2006 10:45 PM

Here is the link to download a free copy of the Haggadah ( is called Love and JUSTICE in times of War) I have used it for the last two years at my house and witnessed it's use alongside more traditional haggadot once at my friend's parent's seder (it sparked some good questions).
I downloaded a free copy and made copies at Kinko's. It worked out really well.