Marla R. Stevens

For Phyllis, who surprised me with love unending...

Filed By Marla R. Stevens | November 07, 2007 11:51 PM | comments

Filed in: Living, Marriage Equality, The Movement
Tags: Love, marriage, weddings

In all the drama of late, 'SPLENDA in the Mud', if you will, I neglected to announce that Phyllis and I celebrated our twenty-third religious wedding anniversary recently. The original event was on Sweetest Day in 1984 and, ever since, we've celebrated it on Sweetest Day instead of the calendar date anniversary. (We do celebrate our civil marriage anniversary on its calendar date in July. This year marked our fourth of that one.)

We make it a point to point out that we have separate religious and civil wedding anniversaries to help people understand the difference between them and that the First Amendment works both ways, meaning that we have had the right to hold religious weddings all along just as churches have had the right not to marry us all along, too -- that what we need in this country and are working for now is civil marriage equality and that nothing in civil marriage equality will change the First Amendment's two-way protection of our right to religious marriage nor the right of religions and their institutions to forego participation in it.

To my beloved spouse, miles and the demands of life and work may sometimes separate us but our hearts will ever beat as one. Every day with you is an anniversary of love unfolding. Here's to the surprises yet to come!

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Congrats, Marla! 23 years is too real!

bill perdue | November 8, 2007 2:06 AM

Marla. Please. I'm starting to get all mushy here.

Anyway, congrats to you and your sweetheart Phyllis on so many years.

As the Irish say "Maireann croí éadrom i bhfad. A light heart lives long."

Marla R. Stevens Marla R. Stevens | November 8, 2007 2:26 AM

Thank you, Alex. It really is amazing that, after all our years being tight as ticks to each other, we still discover new things about one another -- and that, quite often, they're things we have in common. Our latest is what had been an individually secret pleasure of watching professional bull riding. After figuring out that we both love it, we now share it, tending to follow the bulls more than the riders. Phyllis is particularly taken with Big Bucks whereas I have a thing for one called Scene of the Crash. But a great, big, ornery son of a cow called Bad Action steals both our hearts. A hot date can now be composed out of a five-star hotel, king-size temperpedic bed with Pratesi sheets, room service from their best restaurant, and the latest from the PBR!

Marla R. Stevens Marla R. Stevens | November 8, 2007 2:28 AM

Bill -- what a beautiful sentiment. I feel embroidery coming on!

Don Sherfick Don Sherfick | November 8, 2007 6:39 AM

Jerry and I add our congratulations on your 23 years together in marital bliss, both civil and religious. May you celebrate many more of each kind!

Now, please provide all of us who you've permitted to eavesdrop on your little conversation about professional bull riding with one or more suitable links so that we can find out what we've been missing all of these years. I myself am a bit skepitcal of what happens when the bull looks better than the rider to me.

Congratulations to Marla and Phyllis! May you have another 23 years of love and devotion together! I have to say from knowing you both when you lived in Indianapolis, I don't know that I've ever seen two people so perfectly matched in love. Blessings on your home and lives. *kisses*

Happy anniversary Marla
May you have many more.