Q. I'm single and depressed about the thought of Valentine's Day fast approaching. Any suggestions?
~ Lonely Heart
If single is your current status, embrace it whole-heartedly. You are where you are because that's where you need to be. The sooner you can step into your solo-status, and really appreciate the gifts you have to offer yourself, the sooner you are likely to find yourself a special Valentine.
Here are my suggestions for you as the massively-commercialized love-fest, otherwise known as Valentine's Day, fast approaches:
1. Send notes, letters, emails or cards to all of your friends and family that you love and adore, wishing them a Happy Valentine's Day and sharing with them what you appreciate about them. You may be very surprised by the response you get from these simple gestures of caring - remember, what goes around, comes around!
2. Treat yourself to a special date, either alone or with a friend, for Valentine's Day. Go to a movie, get a pedicure, schedule a massage, dine at your favorite restaurant, take a long warm bubble bath and rent a movie, or whatever you consider a special treat.
3. If you are tired of being single, consider changing some things in your life to become more engaged in the world around you. Volunteer. Start a new sporting interest. Explore your cultural surroundings - museums, theatres, etc. Learn a new skill such as ballroom dancing lessons.
The point is, we teach other's how to treat us. If you remain positive, hopeful and interested in yourself, then other's are likely to follow suit. Most people find someone when they are least expecting it; because they are content with who and where they are, and that's a beautiful thing to most people.
Michele O'Mara, LCSW