It is delicious when public figures are caught engaging in the very sex acts that they condemn in their official capacities. Payback's a bitch. However, we must be careful not to hurt our own cause. We must be unequivocal in condemning the hypocrisy, not the sex acts.
A man who served in the United States Congress for 26 years did a tea dance in a rest room seeking a consensual, anonymous same sex encounter. The issue, if we are angry with this man, is his wrong-headed, discriminating, hate-filled legislative actions while he was a Senator - NOT the tea dance in the bathroom. After all, don't we want to be able to choose our own forms of consensual sexual expression with others?
And how about the Judge just caught wearing a dress? I mean, come on, people! How can we advocate for the right of free sexual expression without government interference and then cheer when someone is vilified for doing exactly what we want to be able to do? If we have an issue with the Judge, who was forced to step down because of the shame he felt at being caught cross-dressing, then let's look at his record on the bench to see whether there is anything there worthy of criticism.
And now we have a very pro-LGBT Governor who will almost certainly have to step down from his elected position for engaging in a victimless crime with a consenting partner. Is the issue that he engaged in prostitution or is the issue that he has campaigned against prostitution while engaging in it himself? Or is the issue, perhaps, that Americans need to re-think laws about sexual expression and to reconsider them in terms of the reality of our current morality in this country.
If we join in the glee and finger-pointing when the light shines on a hypocritical public figure who engages in consensual sexual expression, are we not in some way also joining in the denigration of those sexual behaviors? Don't we run the risk of inflaming the sexphobia that victimizes and marginalizes us?
Instead, let's refocus that light, let's seize these occasions, to point out that there is nothing wrong with what these people are doing sexually. We scorn their hypocrisy, not their sexual expression. Sexual freedom is a fundamental human right that extends even to people we don't like very much.