Alex Blaze

Tell it like it is, Fox News viewers

Filed By Alex Blaze | March 14, 2008 12:05 AM | comments

Filed in: Fundie Watch, Marriage Equality, Politics, The Movement
Tags: Dr. Laura Schlessinger, Eliot Spitzer, Greta van Susteren, infidelity, Silda Spitzer, unsolicited advice

Check out what Greta van Susteren had to say on Fox News' website (via Hullabaloo):

No doubt these days are extremely painful for Governor Spitzer's wife Silda. In addition to her own pain, she has 3 children -- and no doubt she is doing as any Mother would do and that is to try and help them with their own pain from their Father's conduct.

So here is your chance...if you could send a note to Silda Spitzer that you knew she would read, what would you write her? Here is your your note to her right here:

During what could be the hardest time in Silda Spitzer's life, I'm sure she'll find great comfort in the wisdom of Fox News' regular viewers.

Maybe she could learn a thing or two from Dr. Laura this week?

"When the wife does not focus in on the needs and the feelings, sexually, personally, to make him feel like a man, to make him feel like a success, to make him feel like her hero, he's very susceptible to the charm of some other woman making him feel what he needs," the popular psychologist and radio personality said.

Or maybe Beth Mares, a marriage counselor from Toronto, will have some better unsolicited advice?

[Silda] can also get some martyr points as the good, forgiving wife. That's what the Christian wife is supposed to do.

Hell, since we're asking anyone, what about commenter "Auspicious" on the message boards at Nigerian Village Square?

Is it wrong or right for spouses of public persons to stand by their partners exposed for infedility at their 'confessional press conferences'?

My answer is a simple YES, IT IS RIGHT - it is my belief that in doing so, such spouses are not just doing it for themselves, but for the public. They owe themselves and the public such comportment as long as the cheating spouse remains a public person.[...]

I think a refusal to do so is an incongruous emotional reaction that is unbecoming of a person who occupies the office of a first-lady/person in any capacity - be ye the spouse of a Governor, President, Senator or whatever.

Indeed, Auspicious. I'm sure ye have a lot of experience as a first-lady/person in any capacity.

I wonder if our reality TV and talk show culture has made us feel like we have a right to comment on anyone's love and sex lives, no matter how little we know about them. I seriously doubt that many people who'll give van Susteren a message for Silda even knew that Silda was a first-name before this heterosexy scandal broke out.

It's interesting that people would even think that they could say anything to Silda Spitzer, let alone ask the world for random submissions. I wonder if the fact that many see her as, or at least think that she's supposed to be, a helpless victim that they can pity her, looking down their noses from their wonderful relationship and sex lives at the poor woman whose husband loved high-priced hookers more than he loved her.

(In a completely reductive comparison, if Nancy Pelosi were caught with a high-priced male hooker, would anyone be asking us to send messages to the helpless and hapless Paul Pelosi?)

I'm not going to push some sort of private/public division here, but I am going to say that there's no way we know enough about this situation to even make the assumption that Silda is passive victim. Commenter Nick said the other day:

Maybe his wife got off on knowing that he was having sex with other women, and he'd come home and tell her about it while they had really hot sex together? It's certainly possible.

Who among us knows? Let's cut the infantilizing victim rhetoric about her or her appearance with Eliot while he confessed. We don't know why she did it, but we shouldn't pretend like we know better than she what she should have done.

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If Nancy Pelosi were caught with a high-priced male hooker," unfortunately she'd probably still just get elected again (I say unfortunately because, in spite of the fact that she lives in a district that is overwhelmingly in favor of ending the Iraq war immediately, she's the one keeping it going). But it would be kind of a fun scandal -- especially if it were a GAY hooker (note to Nancy: I can give you some numbers).

Of course, Silda could be thinking that, it could have been worse, he could have been with a male hooker.

Who really knows what the dynamic of the relationship is between them. All we know is that, she has fufilled the role of the good poilitical wife, and stood by her man. That may be all there is to their marriage, props for political theater.

You never really know.

On this list above many others, the diversity of they people here and the wide diversity of our experiences should give us a better understanding of what their relationship could consist of. Are they straight swingers? Do they swing with same-sex partners? Are they staunch religious people? Are they into BDSM? Do they have a "normal" relationship as per society's "standards?"

We don't know. Since we don't know, then we - or Dr. Phil - cannot give advice or even comment on this situation. If they seek help for their relationship, then the person they talk with is the one who can provide advice. We aren't that person.

The one thing we can comment on is the legality of the Gov's actions. Taking the woman across state lines is a definite no-no. If he has done other things wrong, that may or may not come out later.

Greta van Sustrin is a harridan shrew. I did a happy dance when she left CNN. I see her standards haven't improved by hanging our FOX folks.

From watching all of the majors CNN Fox MSNBC they have all been over the top on this issue so there are all guilty of ambulance chasing.Now as far as I can see the governers wife has said nothing at all so we should leave it at that until she finaly speaks out and yes shes going to at some point speak out.We should just wait and see what she has to say otherwise were just as bad as the "talking heads" on the news.