Michele O'Mara

50 Ways to Keep Your Lover: # 37-38

Filed By Michele O'Mara | April 25, 2008 1:30 PM | comments

Filed in: Living
Tags: advice column, lesbian, relationship, tips

In my book, Love Tips and Trips for Gay and Lesbian Relationships, I have identified 50 Ways to Keep Your Lover. My post last Friday offered strategies 35-36, this week I am sharing strategies 37-38. Look for more strategies next Friday!

37. Exercise Exceptional Self-Care. Eat right, exercise, and sleep well. These are the fundamental building blocks for a healthy life. Your physical body is symbolic of your emotional health. How you treat your body is an indication of how you feel about yourself.

Remember that you are the resource that your partner has invested in. If you are not taking care of yourself, no one can do that for you.

38. Be Disciplined.
Happy people are disciplined people. To be disciplined we must exercise self-control and self-regulation. When considering the five dimensions of our life, we can identify many forms of self-discipline that will greatly improve the quality of our life, and our personal growth and satisfaction. Physical discipline, for example, requires us to exercise healthy eating habits, get regular exercise, adequate sleep, and relaxation. Spiritual discipline may include regular prayer, meditation, or acts of service.

The unhappiest people are those who do nothing, and find themselves in envy of those who do. Discipline requires keeping your focus on what you need, not on what you want. Being disciplined requires that you know what will add to your life, and know what will take away from your life. OUTstanding partners develop the ability to separate their wants from their needs, and they consistently work to make the next right choice toward their highest good.

Michele O'Mara, LCSW

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