Former contributor Melissa Williams posted this back in November 2006, but I thought it would make a great open thread for today. Melissa is bisexual and talks about gendered activities like bridal showers. What are your thoughts on events like these?
Sigh....I just got back from a bridal shower that I couldn't really get out of attending. I never feel comfortable at such gendered activities, and I literally had a knot in my throat the whole time. I tried to convince my husband to get me invited to the bachelor party, where I would have felt a lot more comfortable, but he just mumbled, "I really don't have control..." What are other queer people's experiences in these gendered spaces? How did you handle it? I always feel so lonely, like I am missing something, like there is no space for me. I never understand what is so good about the bridal games and talking about the dresses, wedding planning, etc. etc. I would rather be drinking beer at the strip club.