As Terrance Heath pointed out here at Bilerico recently, there was a perplexing and, some might say, offensive article on the Details Magazine blog about straight men's reaction to the idea of having a gay son. Even the most progressive of heterosexual men, blogger David Hochman concludes, just can't come to grips with the idea of having a gay son. These Prius-driving, Obama-supporting, Project Runway-watching future dads, Hochman would have us believe, just aren't quite ready to experience the world of "butterfly wings" and "tea parties" in the boy's room at home.
Which, of course, begs two important questions: First, Straight men watch Project Runway?! And second, what pre-historic rock does David Hochman live under?
There are, of course, plenty of heterosexual men who haven't just accepted - but have also fully embraced - their gay sons. And they're speaking out in response to Hochman's absurdity in a week-long series on the PFLAG blog.
The series, which will feature a different story from a PFLAG dad each day this week, kicks off today with PFLAG National president John R. Cepek, father of both a gay son, and a straight one, too.
"A child of the sixties, I wanted my children to march to a different drummer, and so when I learned John is gay, I clapped along with the beat," Cepek writes.
"As a matter of fact, I also have a straight son. The three of us went fishing, threw snowballs at each other, wrestled, chased each other around Uncle Frank's house, argued and fought, played soccer, played catch, watched movies, threw water balloons, went swimming, and participated in nearly all the activities dads and sons undertake. Truth be told, John didn't come out until his first year in college. If he had come out earlier, I'm sure he'd agree we have done all of the same things together."
That's a far cry from the anonymous straight men in Hochman's article, who, he says, love sipping margaritas with the gay couple across the street, but become concerned when their sons watch Hannah Montana "with a little too much glee."
Which begs two more questions: Someone over 12 knows who Hannah Montana is? And why couldn't Hochman find a straight man with the -ahem- "cajones" to go on the record?
"Frankly, the article strikes me as phony," Cepek writes today. "I'm not keen about anonymous sources for one thing. For another, the article confuses gender identity and sexual orientation, dishing up stereotypes left and right. Finally, the article cites an expert who observes that parents 'overestimate the miserable life their children will have if they're gay.' But all three of the anonymous sources are surrounded by successful, presumably happy, gay men. How could these three be so intelligent and progressive and ignore their own experience?"
So Cepek and other PFLAG dads are setting the record straight about their experiences with their gay sons.
Perhaps Hochman's anonymous dads would like to invite them over for a margarita, so they can learn that it's perfectly OK to drive a Prius and love your gay son, too.
(The PFLAG dads' series will continue throughout the week, on the PFLAG National blog.)