Don Sherfick

Preserving my domestic tranquility: What the next day means

Filed By Don Sherfick | May 20, 2008 3:00 PM | comments

Filed in: Entertainment, Living, Marriage Equality, The Movement
Tags: nex week, scheduling

The only plausible connection to the subject matter of this post to the GLBT community discourse has to do with peace in my own particular same-sex household. My beloved and I have long been at odds over what "Next Monday, next Friday, etc." means. The difference between us has more than once sparked near cataclysmic misunderstanding concerning our calendars, business, social, medical, and otherwise.

He says that invariably the term "next X" means the "X" in the week after the one we're currently in, regardless of how far into the current one we find ourselves. I say it's at least ambiguous. To me, when it's Monday, "next Saturday" is the last day of the current week; but if it's Friday already, the same term refers to "a week from tomorrow". I can't even begin to think about the impact of the California marriage decision on our own relationship in Indiana until that other pressing interpretational dispute is settled. Bilerico Project jurors, what say you all? Your unanimous decision will be final and binding on me.

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I always use "next X-day" to mean the first X-day after today, so you're both wrong. :)

Don Sherfick Don Sherfick | May 20, 2008 4:46 PM

Now, Andrea, my other half and I, despite our differences here, have to stick together against an agressive "you're both wrong" verdict. United we stand, divided we.......well......neither one of us can find our eyeglasses in the morning.

So five seconds to midnight at the end of Tuesday, next Wednesday still means ten seconds from now? Interesting. Any other Bilerico jurors ready to give me the envelope?

Don, I think I'm with you, if I understood you correctly. If its Tuesday, then 'next Saturday' would be four days away. But if you can use 'tomorrow' instead, then the 'next whatever-day' would be eight days away.

Jerry is correct. 110% (At least in my book!)

In your example, Don, "next Saturday" would mean a week from the upcoming Saturday. Otherwise you'd have simply called it "Saturday." You're saying, "Not this Saturday, but the next Saturday after that."

"Let's get together Saturday" = lets get together at the end of this week
"Let's get together next Saturday" = lets get together at the end of next week

What does he get if we all vote his way, Don? How will victory be celebrated?

I'm with Don and marc.

If it's Friday, then "next Saturday" is 8 days away. If it's Thursday, then "next Saturday" is 9 days away. If it's Wednesday, then "next Saturday" is 3 days away.

I'm guessing the line is 3 days for me?

Don Sherfick Don Sherfick | May 20, 2008 8:22 PM

Bil: "How will victory be celebrated?"

Of course it depends on our conflicting views concerning the meaning of "victory", as well as "who" is the deafeator and "who" is the defeatee.

But it looks as if exit polling from the Bilerico jury box already indicates a split verdict. [I would say "hung jury" but then I would REALLY be in deep dooo-dooo]

But let the verdicts continue to come in, and there is no limitation on the number of alternate jurors. Meanwhile, I am going to do some special polling by phoning Larry Craig and telling him he needs to go to the Minneapolis Airport "next Thursday" for a special vetting of John McCain's short list of Vice-Presidential nominees. Anybody for stake-out duty?

hung jury? I knew we had a fun crowd around here, but I didn't know it was because of that....

Robert Ganshorn Robert Ganshorn | May 21, 2008 7:08 AM

Some of us are more popular at parties than others...

Could you perhaps form a compromise?

I am trying to remember euchre and all those "bars" that I used to have to try and remember. My suggestion is that you both err on the side of assuming the other party is extremely dense in all things. That assumption has proven itself to me, to be valid over and again, these soon to be 32 years of partnership.

Try saying: "Eight Days From Now" Larry Craig will be in a bathroom stall in the Minneapolis Airport. Each of you should also have a day/date minder kept in coordination at all times.

But don't get carried away! A week from now minus two could throw everything off.

Don Sherfick Don Sherfick | May 21, 2008 7:42 AM

Thanks for the advice, Robert, and congratulations to you and your own beloved on your nearly 32 years together.

As an aside, you mention euchre, a card game popular in the Midwest but not all that well known in other parts of the country. You use the term "bars" but I think you mean "bowers", referring to the fact that the Jacks of the trump suit and the Jack same color as the trump suit are known as "The Right Bower", and "The Left Bower", respectively, making them the highest cards during play. I've always thought that when gay men play the game the Queens ought to be the bowers.

At least when they play on the last Sunday after next Tuesday.