Guest Blogger

Future Sex

Filed By Guest Blogger | July 06, 2008 7:00 PM | comments

Filed in: Living
Tags: Bruce Bagemihl, changing sexuality,, genetics, Helen Fisher, reason for homosexuality, sexuality

Editors' Note: Guest blogger Dr-Helen-Fisher.jpgDr. Helen Fisher is the founder and Chief Scientific Advisor to Dr. Fisher has been posting every Sunday evening for the past month, so I hope someone fixed her a plate.

Hi all,

I'm learning a lot from reading your responses. Thank you. And I must admit, I get a bit lost at times with genetics too. I study love, not DNA. But genetics is part of my background. And I wanted to give you a taste of the academic buzz on homosexuality.

You might also be interested in the book, BIOLOGICAL EXUBERANCE: Animal Homosexuality and Natural Diversity, by Bruce Bagemihl. It was the "Publisher's Weekly Best Book of 1999." It has chapters on elephants, antelopes, seals, and, of course, the birds and the bees.

As the great evolutionary biologist, JBS Haldane wrote, "The universe is not only queerer than we suppose, it is queerer than we can suppose." So, as I wrote in my first blog, I have long wondered what the fuss is all about.

Which brings me to the future of sex and homosexuality. We are currently experiencing two dramatic worldwide social changes: 1) the aging world population (some demographers say we should begin to regard middle age as up to age 85); and 2) the entrance of women around the world into the paid labor force.

Both are initiating dramatic changes in sexuality worldwide. Where women work, they can afford to be themselves. As a result, we are seeing the rise of childhood and teenage sexuality, and more sexual expression by men and women across their lives. Our lives are likely to be long, too. And with Viagra, estrogen replacement, hip replacements and many other medical advances, more and more people will be sexual into old age.

I think these trends bode well for the gay and lesbian communities. The rigid agrarian concepts of "man" and "woman" are breaking down, replaced by far more educated and flexible concepts of sex, love and human variation.

For every trend there is a counter-trend, of course. Many current religious tenets are tethering sexual expression. Nevertheless, as the Arabs say, "The dogs may bark but the caravan moves on." We are gradually moving toward far more accepting sexual mores. Frankly, I'm glad to be alive now. I would probably have made a bigger hash of things had I lived 100 years ago.

And so, I feel complimented to have "talked" with you and I wish everyone happiness and romance.


PS: Thanks to the reader who just joined I hope we give you what you are looking for. Everyone needs love.

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Love for lesbian trans women are not highly probable on most all same-sex dating sites, including It isn't your fault, and it isn't something you can fix. In my case, when I get past the age issue, then I get stopped by the trans issue. They don't even have to know whether I had the surgery or not. The "T-word" scares them. My "dating pool" is smaller than a drop of water. I try to count the molecules. On, I'm lucky to get one new possible match a week, and not the "five per day."

There are plenty of lesbian trans women who are in great relationships. But, in my dating pool, all the best molecules are spoken for.

While we're talking about the intersection of science and diversity, I'd like to recommend "Evolution's Rainbow: Diversity, Gender, and Sexuality in Nature and People" by Joan Roughgarden.

Monica brings up an excellent point (imagine my shock lol)

Transsexual and intersexed women are seen as otherworldly sexual fantasies by far too many thanks to the images of she-male porn. Not someone to have a relationship with, just sex. When the reality of a nice older or middleaged woman with trans or intersexed background meets that expectation, she is left with less chance of a potential relationship than being struck on the head by a meteor.

Everyone may need love, but some of us only get to fill that with our pets, and sex? forget it.

I've frankly given up on ever being partnered again.

Thanks for joining us for the past month on the Bilerico Project, Dr. Fisher. We've enjoyed having you here and your posts have sparked some interesting discussions. I'd welcome your return to go more in depth with some of your topics!

Stop by any time!

she has said absolutely NOTHING ! zero

These are interesting issues. I don't think necessarily that moving into an industrial age will liberate anyone further, considering that's what started the medicalization of homosexuality in the West, but it'll definitely shift things around. And I could use a good shift.