Bil went out on a limb a few months ago and admitted that he doesn't know enough about transgender people. It started several great discussions, and not just about trans people, but also about the privilege involved in asking a minority to explain itself and about how we define ourselves as a community.
Well, it wouldn't make sense to stop there. While mainstream representations of queerness tend to revolve around gay men, there's no reason to assume that everyone who identifies as L, G, B, T, or Q knows everything they want to know about gay men.
And there's no reason to assume that every gay man understands every other gay man. The behavior of people who share my sexual identity never ceases to surprise me.
So consider this an open thread on gay men with no stupid questions. And maybe the gay men who read this site will be kind enough to answer and illuminate.
I'll put my foot in my mouth and start, since Bil was kind enough to do that on his trans 101 threads: Why so territorial, gay boys? It seems like half the problems I have with gay men start with them thinking that something of mine (money, work, body, sexuality, health, etc.) belongs to them.