Father Tony

Better Know a Contributor: Dana Rudolph

Filed By Father Tony | February 08, 2009 7:00 PM | comments

Filed in: Marriage Equality, Site News
Tags: Dana Rudolph, Mombian

Editor's Note: You've seen Steven Colbert's "Better Know a Lobbyist," Dana Rudolphbut our version is so much gayer! Each weekend, we spotlight a different TBP contributor.

This week, I've tagged our delightful Dana Rudolph with ten questions.

In addition to being a Bilerico contributor, Dana is the producer of Mombian, a blog and resource directory for LGBT parents.

Continue reading what Dana has to say about her partner, her son, her blog and much more after the jump.

How did you become affiliated with Bilerico?

Bil was kind enough to publish a couple of guest posts from me, and we've kept in touch ever since. We met in person at the National Blogger Summit in DC last December, and he asked if I would become a regular contributor.

Do you miss working in corporate America?

I miss the paycheck, but not corporate politics. I also love being able to spend more time with my five-year-old son.

Tell us about your partner of 15 years.

Helen is a semiconductor engineer. She's held a variety of positions related to semiconductor research and development, and right now works at a company that develops tools for making computer chips. Having an engineer around the house is useful, although it means she regularly takes apart our electronic equipment just for fun. She's from California, whereas I'm from Connecticut, but having a mixed marriage means we have the incentive to travel with our son to visit family on a regular basis.

She's smart, funny, and practical, and not surprisingly leans towards the quantitative side of things, although she's been known to watch artsy films and read novels. I, on the other hand, am more qualitative, being a writer, marketer, and erstwhile historian, although I also have a degree in astronomy (in addition to history) and probably know more about creating Web pages than she does. She's better with the hardware, though, which is why all our home computers stay networked. We meet in the middle that way, and it's a good thing.

We married two years ago when we moved to Massachusetts from New York for her latest job. Her new company stopped offering health insurance for domestic partners once marriage became legal for same-sex couples, so we had two weeks to find a JP and get hitched. We still laugh about having a shotgun wedding after 13 years.

Helen has also been very tolerant of my blogging and writing, and even agreed to co-host the "She Got Me Pregnant" videos we've been producing in partnership with After Ellen.

I find the newest LGBT generation to be significantly different from my own. How would you assess the youngest, newly "arrived" lesbians ? Is there anything that worries or alarms you about the lesbians in their early 20s that you have encountered? Of course, we cannot generalize, but we do see things....

The only thing that alarms me about lesbians in their early 20's is that I'm not one of them anymore. Those were the days.

Is there anything about yourself that you really wish you could change or improve?

I wish I needed less sleep.

What satisfaction does Mombian give you?

I like feeling that I'm making a difference in the broader world in addition to raising my son. He's going to grow up in that world, and I want it to be a good one for him.

I also spent nearly a decade doing marketing for various online services, and like to keep those parts of my mind exercised while being a stay-at-home mom. I'm thoroughly enjoying motherhood, but feel it's healthy to maintain some of my other interests as well.

Imagine a romantic second honeymoon. Where would you and your partner be? Describe the second evening of that honeymoon. (If you are like most of us who have been coupled for many years, the first evening of any free time is spent catching up on sleep. Period.)

Oh, it could be any number of places, since we like to travel. I'd say a cottage in the south of France or a tent in a National Park. Our son would be enjoying a week with my parents. Our second evening would probably be spent playing Scrabble and drinking wine (France) or beer (park). After that, I'm not sure it's suitable for publication.

Do you consider any particular American woman qualified to be president of the USA? Names please, and don't be shy about suggesting yourself. I think there isn't a person in America who doesn't think that he or she could do a better job than the ones elected.

Well, I'm very happy with Obama, but I'd have to say Hillary Clinton is just as qualified.

I wouldn't want the job myself. Too much politicking in the politics for my tastes. I couldn't stand the constant public scrutiny. I'd rather be a force behind the scenes. My dream job would be to be Sam Seaborn (with C.J. Cregg's wardrobe).

You seem cheery and pacific. What makes you angry?

Bigots. Anyone who harms children or animals. Really bad customer service.

Look into the future. Your son is now 25 yrs old. Describe him in detail.

That's asking for trouble. Parents who have expectations for their children that are too specific are either hated by their kids or sorely disappointed.

Here's my very general image: He has a sense of kindness, justice, and compassion. He's happy and either gainfully employed at work he enjoys or in grad school with a scholarship and a case full of ramen. Someday, I hope he finds someone special to share his life with, but I don't know if he'll do that by 25.

Recent Entries Filed under Site News:

Leave a comment

We want to know your opinion on this issue! While arguing about an opinion or idea is encouraged, personal attacks will not be tolerated. Please be respectful of others.

The editorial team will delete a comment that is off-topic, abusive, exceptionally incoherent, includes a slur or is soliciting and/or advertising. Repeated violations of the policy will result in revocation of your user account. Please keep in mind that this is our online home; ill-mannered house guests will be shown the door.

cantabridget | February 9, 2009 4:57 AM

Your answer to the fourth question was perfect! And made me laugh out loud. Thanks, and nice to meet you!

an early-twenties lesbian

Dana is amazing! We are lucky to have her as part of the Bilerico family!

" Parents who have expectations for their children that are too specific are either hated by their kids or sorely disappointed."

Great advice. There are far too many parents out there like that.