I met Nathan in DC. As some of you know, I am drawn to hot young guys. It shouldn't surprise you, then, that I found myself seated at a table with Nate. Ordinarily, I would prefer not to hear the voices of hot young men and would prefer not to witness their failed attempts to birth a viable thought through the channel of a complete sentence. Nate, however, was delightful in conversation. In fact, we were chastised for talking throughout Barney Frank' speech at the Mayflower Hotel. Nate is a fascinator and Bilerico is lucky to have him as a contributor. I know you will pardon me the shallow questions.
1. How did you get involved with the Bilerico Project?
The love started when I attended the LGBT Blogger and Citizen Journalist Initiative in DC last December. I met Bil, Jereme, Father Tony and some other Bilerico bloggers, I think Bil Fell in love with the my hat which is why I he asked me to contribute. Either that or my half nude display at Towne Dance Boutique in DC
2. You look good. All over. Can you feel it when men look at you with lust in their eyes? How does it make you feel?
I spent a year Gogo dancing in a gay club in Buffalo called Marcellas, from the first akward moments in a red tiger striped thong, I learned quick to channel the lust. When people lust after you, its empowering, but you can start to feel like a piece of meat. But for a cocky bastard like me, that's ok.
3. Nice eyebrows. Are they naturally that perfectly shaped?
Not at all. My roommate gives me a shave and a trim once or twice a month. He plucks my eyebrows too, or else I look like groucho marx. Some daddy bear once told me my unibrow was cute and I should keep it, but I think he just wanted to take me to his cave.
4. You've done some very adventurous things in your young life. Would you like to talk about any of them for our readers?
I've been around the block a few times, and I can say that I know exactly what I want in life, sexually and relationshipwise. Some people say that if you do everything early in your life, then your are boring when you get older. I think that if you make your mistakes and try new things early on, you'll save regret later on.
5. In DC, you asked me if I had seen your cock. You can explain to our readers what you meant, or not.
Haha, I have a big black cock. No really! See? I have this obsession for a small clothing label called Whiteboy, and I had their logo tattooed on my arm. It's a perfect match, I'm a little bit white trash and a whole lot of cocky.
6. Where did you grow up? What kind of town? What kind of family? What kind of child were you?
I grew up in a rural town outside of an Air Force Base in Goldsboro, North Carolina. Cotton fields everywhere, I drove a steel blue El Camino to school. I was an airforce brat, nerdy, underweight, super awkward. I was raised Southern Baptist, and I was on track via my moms wishes to become a youth minister. The minor detail that I was gay threw a wrench in to all the plans my mom had set for me and it was a wild childhood from then on. I went to "gay camp", I prayed and went for therapy. Until about 17, I struggled with who I was, conflicted with being "Christian" and being who I was.
7. How/when did you come out? Are you out to everyone? What do you like best about being an out gay man?
I came out officially to everyone in 2005. There wasn't any big unveiling, I sorta just fell out of the closet. I had spent my entire childhood hiding who I was, masturbating at night to images of men, then praying for forgiveness directly afterward, its so uplifting to be who I am and to be proud of it. I understand the pressure of being gay and living in the south, which is why I don't live there anymore.
8. Your gay role models or heroes?
Well, my dad isn't gay, but he's my hero for being the most supportive person in my life. He once drove two hours to pick me up in 2006 after I had this super violent break up fight with my lover and shattered three of his ribs. I was stranded in Buffalo and he got right in his car, drove, and picked me up. I'm a big daddy's boy, in more ways that one. As for gay role models, I don't think I have any. I tend to rely more on my straight allies. Those are my best friends. They fight for me and for gay rights, its unselfish and I'm grateful for them.
9. Tell us all about your cute boyfriend.
I have a confession: I've met every single boyfriend online. I met John over a year ago on a bear community site called bearciti. We are both big geeks and sit in offices all day so we would chat and talk a lot. He lives outside of DC and I live in Buffalo, but I finally got the balls to go see him last February and its been hot sweaty man love ever since. Long term relationships are hard but we have a lot of ways to communicate. He's so handsome, I called him my big titted blonde cause I think redheads are the sexiest beasts in the bear world.
10. If I was in bed with you and your boyfriend (and my husband, of course)....finish the sentence.
Wow, this is a hard question, Tony. I've never met your husband, but I bet you and I would end up going on and on about some past wild sexual experience or theory and our respective husbands would shake their heads at us. Then Jimbo would tell us to take it outside (inside joke!). Oh, and I'm on top.