Note from Scott: This was originally written by me elsewhere on the web for a primarily straight audience.
I'm a gay man, but Perez Hilton is an idiot. He doesn't speak for me nor does he speak for the gay community at large. He's just someone who happens to be gay and became famous by gossiping and making nasty comments about celebrities. As far as I'm concerned, he can go back to the rock he crawled out from under.
I believe in being tolerant of other people's beliefs. Miss California Carrie Prejean has a right to believe gay marriage is wrong if she so chooses. I disagree with her of course and think her views are bigoted and ignorant, but she is entitled to them. As long as her beliefs don't violate my civil rights, she can believe what she wants. I reserve the right to try to educate her about why I feel gay marriage should be allowed, but in the end I will not demand she adopts my point of view.
However there are consequences. People seem to think that free speech gives them a free ticket. I'm here to remind them it doesn't. You are entitled to a prejudiced viewpoint, yet you cannot expect others to ignore it. If someone chooses to believe African-Americans should be segregated and publicly makes those views known, they probably won't be asked to speak at the next NAACP meeting. General Mills probably won't put that person on their next box of Wheaties. The same is true with the Miss USA pageant
Should Carrie Prejean have been denied the Miss USA crown? She wasn't disqualified because of her response so she wasn't "denied" anything as some people might have you believe. Still it might have swayed votes. That's completely fair. I, as a gay man, know I would not have voted for her because of her response. Other judges might have.
Ultimately when the votes were counted, she lost out. Don't try to convince me she was a victim.