Cathy Renna

Memorial Day with the family

Filed By Cathy Renna | May 26, 2009 11:00 AM | comments

Filed in: Marriage Equality, Media
Tags: Don't Ask Don't Tell, gay families, gay soldiers, gays in the military, LGBT families, Memorial Day

My family ended up having the most " traditional" Memorial Day I could think of - completely unplanned. While visiting a cousin in Fallas Church, Virginia we decided to take in the the local fair and parade. It was like something out of a movie - Knights of Columbus driving the teeny cars, politicians, etc but if you looked closely you saw the change in America - even in Falls Church, VA. First, there was much more racial diversity that I had seen in a long time - many Asian and Southeast Asian families. After a harrowing 4 rounds on the giant inflatable slide (Rosemary is very very brave for her age), Leah and I had to take turns doing it with her, we played in the playground with some other families who were super friendly. I wonder if they know my family would have no legal rights in VA if we loved there.

The most poignant image though, was the Falls Church Republican Club. There was - and I will say this as nicely as I can - a truly decrepit looking white man who looked to be in his 90's. Nice shirt and slacks, but clearly not well, hunched over and alone at the booth. If that doesn't sum up the GOP right now I don't know what does. I should have taken a picture but, frankly, I felt pity for him. I thought a lot yesterday about our brothers and sisters serving in silence, their partners and families who wait at home in fear and solitude. I was thrilled to see a few events commemorating their service in Atlanta and other places, but this issue seems to continue to be ridiculously elusive to solve. A friend recently pointed out to me that countries with marriage equality only achieved that after integrating their military for gay servicemembers.

Something to think about as we put another Memorial Day in the books.

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