While I would normally refrain from responding to a third-party post on someone else's home page, I found the need to respond to your statements overrode my sense of etiquette. I apologize to my cousin in advance for using her page as a forum. That a murder or rape of another human being would not impact on your life speaks volumes as to the size of your heart and your sense of your place in the wider community of mankind. For that, I, like my cousin Marlene, am sad for you. A murder or rape inherently involves the victimization of one human being at the hands of another. A same-sex marriage does not involve victimization. It is the opposite of such criminal acts in that it is an expression of love and commitment by one human being for another. As I don't know you personally, I do not know if you are married or not. If you are married and your own expression of love and commitment for your spouse would be undermined and diminished by a similar commitment made by two other people, then the commitment in your own heart is fundamentally flawed. If you truly loved your spouse, then you would wish the same love and commitment for all people. I know that my [straight] cousins' relationship has always been a wonderful role model for my own.
As a Jew, I am troubled by the expression of ignorance and bigotry directed toward any minority group based merely upon their membership in that minority group. This kind of narrow-minded ignorance feeds and fuels holocausts. As a child, I was sufficiently privileged to have belonged to a congregation led by a Rabbi who recognized the importance of protecting the civil rights of all human beings. He marched with Martin Luther King Jr. to oppose segregation and degradation based upon racial animus. Our beloved Rabbi had been in the Europe of the Nazis and understood that if the civil rights of the weakest citizen is not protected, then no one is safe. I'm sure that you remember that millions of homosexuals faced the same fate as Jews at the hands of the Nazis: just another minority whose rights could be abrogated at the whim of a biased and hatefully ignorant majority. My experiences have taught me that homophobia on the other hand comes out of a fear of something secret within one's own heart rather than out of experience with another.
The issue of same sex marriage is one of fundamental Human Rights. Article XVI of the Universal Declaration of Human Rights, as adopted by 58 member states in 1948 and now translated into over 250 languages, provides:
'Men and women of full age, without any limitation due to race, nationality or religion, have the right to marry and to found a family. They are entitled to equal rights as to marriage, during marriage and at its dissolution. Marriage shall be entered into only with the free and full consent of the intending spouses.'
At the time this Declaration was made, many states' laws in this country still prevented miscegenation: marriages between people of different races. Such laws were declared unconstitutional by our courts because ignorance on the part of the majority does not justify the deprivation of fundamental human rights to the members of a minority. Our Supreme Court struck down laws against homosexual conduct in 2003 recognizing that the LGBT community had too long been victimized by prejudice and ignorance. State Courts in many jurisdictions have come to recognize that heterosexual-only marriage laws perpetuate the same prejudices and ignorance. Perhaps you should consider that our northern neighbors in Canada have respected same-sex marriages for over 5 years and Canadian society remains in remarkably good shape. I do not believe that the Canadians have sanctioned bigamy or pedophile rape, even though allowed in the Bible. While I am sure their Parliament, just as our Congress, could always use an injection of "horse sense", they have not elected any horses to office. (We cannot say the same --as the hind-part of a horse previously occupied our executive mansion.) As a society, our view of the commandments has evolved, but love thy neighbor as thyself still rings true.
As to your remaining biblical concerns, I would hope that, before you begin casting stones, you check yourself: Dick, please be entirely certain that all of the fabrics in your wardrobe and household are of made from single fibers and not blended in any fashion: It would be a shame for your community have to burn you for owning cotton-polyester blend shirts. If you have ever owned a pair of Hush Puppy shoes, you may also be in jeopardy because of the handling of the skin of a dead pig (Leviticus XI:7). I'll leave it for you to have the discussion with all those big tough football players regarding their transgressions. If you have a daughter, I hope that, despite the provisions of Exodus XXI:7 and the current economic downturn, you will not be selling her into slavery. Despite such biblical allowances, our 13th amendment prohibits slavery. Now Exodus XXXV:2 states that those who work on the Sabbath should be put to death. I hope that you won't be heading over to smite the clerk at the 7-11.
The Old Testament does tell the story of the love between David and Jonathan and that of Ruth for Naomi. I don't recall any passages where any of them were stoned. Actually, Leviticus XVIII: 22 does not call for the stoning of homosexuals, nor does it per se prohibit homosexuality. (Stoning was not that uncommon a biblical punishment: It would have been proportionate punishment should you plant different crops side-by-side.) Moreover, you can rest assured that as an honorable God-loving Gay man, not only do I abhor shirts with polyester blended in, I have never lied with womankind as with mankind!
There you have the crux of this response: As a Jewish Gay man who married his love legally in Ontario and again spiritually before clergy, family, and friends, I take personal offense to your comparing my marriage to bestiality. God has blessed me both in the loving family to which I was born and the one created for me by that marriage and I value and seek to protect both those families. My cousins honor our Jewish traditions when they show the openness of their heart and stand up for the minorities among us. Perhaps you can look inside yourself and see what it is that has brought you to your fallacious conclusions.