Bil Browning

Open Thread: Life's regrets

Filed By Bil Browning | August 14, 2009 9:30 AM | comments

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An open thread to start out your morning...

If you had the chance to undo your biggest regret, what would it be and how would you do it differently?

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Non, je ne regrette rien, ni le bien qu'on m'a fait ni le mal.


Honestly, i live a life free of regrets. Everything i have ever done, every decision i have ever made, led me to where i am now. Everything i have, for better or worse, i asked for. There is still much room for improvement, and things i would not repeat... but to spend time on regret would take time away from appreciating what - and whom - i have in my life right now.

I would of stood up for myself when I was 17 instead of letting the parents scare me from my sexuality. If I would of done this my entire life would of been different. But I figure better late than never. Came out 2.5 years ago at the age of 46.

Regrets. I've got plenty, but the biggest one is not listening to that voice in my head at age 14 that was trying to get my attention, that all was not as it should have been. 24 years is too long to be deaf, dumb, and blind to one's own self.

Most definitely I would have come out when I was 14 instead of living a heterosexual life until I was 41, I'm now 46.

While I am much happier on many fronts coming out at an older age can be very challenging and for some of us everything you have created is gone or dramatically changed.

In came out as an openly Gay male at age 22 in
1972. For years I struggled for acceptance by my
family. Finally, I accepted the fact that they
will not acecpt the fact that I am an openly Gay

Robert Ganshorn Robert Ganshorn | August 15, 2009 8:36 AM

Rick, that is so much their loss. I am the Gay uncle who has disowned his family. I'll create my own Gay family thank you.

Hoo boy... I often thought that if I wrote an autobiography, I would have to title it, "Regrets, I've Had Nothing But..."; as a riff on the Sinatra song! ;-)

I've done many stupid things which teach me life lessons, and I've learned a LOT.

But my only real regrets are those times I've hurt people. How I wish I could go back and undo that. Since I cannot, I try my best to honor those people by learning from that moment and trying never repeating that mistake.

Chitown Kev | August 15, 2009 1:32 AM

I'd have chosen to go to my state university ad of the out-of-state university in the South that I went to. For reasons far too deep to go into.

seems to be somewhat common here - coming out too late. well, maybe not too late, but later than i should have. i am now 60, but my initial inkling that i enjoyed more than just the simple male companionship of my youth came when i was about 24. my first two sexual encounters with men were not fruitful, and i tried to convince myself that they were just one-time flings that would never recur.
i guess i should have known that all the gay porn and playgirl that i read and masturbated with had to mean more than just fantasy. it wasn't until i was 48 that i ran the risk of checking my sexuality with another man.
so the overall regret is that i didn't take heed of my desires in my 20s but waited so long.