Phil Reese

A very special recording with a very special guy

Filed By Phil Reese | September 17, 2009 3:00 PM | comments

Filed in: Entertainment, Gay Icons and History, Media
Tags: death of a partner, HIV/AIDS, letting go, love, Lundon Calling

Whenever I record an episode of Lundon Calling with Ace Lundon and Lance Helms, I generally end up in tears, doubled over in laughter at some point. If you don't know him, Ace is a pretty goofy guy. An old-school activist from way-back-when, and an Entertainment Business legend; he's been in the business for longer than God. He knows how to get a laugh. He knows everyone, and he's always got a silly anecdote.aids_ribbon.jpg

Last night, Ace recorded his first "remote" episode from Reno, Nevada where Ace spent several years in the 80's with his partner of 13 years, Patrick. We were joined, as usual by Lance Helms in Atlanta, as well as Ace's friend in Reno, Angela Brooks. We started recording an hour later than usual, and our producer, "Spiderman," warned me in advance that we weren't going to be watching the clock--which made me a little cranky.

Despite that, last night I ended up in tears anyway... and not from laughter.

Ace shared with us--for the first time, in detail--the story of the last days there in Reno with his partner Patrick, back in 1989. I knew Patrick had died of complications from AIDS in 1989, but that was about all I knew. Ace mentions Patrick from time to time on the show if you listen, and if you've ever seen him speak at one of his many engagements around the country.

Generally during a show, Lance and I are clamoring to get a word in with the ever-chatty Mr. Lundon. Every episode, we seem to be able to edge Ace out and discuss something important for about five minutes or so, before Ace gets back on us and tries to move the topic on to penis size or crazy state laws. He loves to maintain control, no matter what (typical gay man)! However, last night, Lance and I could barely speak.

Ace shared with us the most touching story about the last days with the love of his life. I generally don't promote Lundon Calling here on Bilerico (I really don't want to sound like a commercial), but this episode was so special, I wanted to share it with you. It definitely felt cathartic and it had a special energy that we've never had before. I want you to take an hour today, and listen to the stream if you can.

If you have lost any loved ones to AIDS--or to any illness--this will be hard to listen to, but also good to listen to. This is about how to do the selfless thing and let go of that person who needs you to let them go.

It won't be easy to listen to this episode without a box of tissues, so please keep that in mind. However, I really hope you check out this spectacular episode of Lundon Calling and please, after you listen, share this with someone you think should hear it. We've all lost loved ones--its a part of being human--and this episode is a powerful testament to humanity.

Ace is a phenomenally great guy, and I'm so blessed to know him, and I was really blessed he chose to share his story with me in such a powerful way. Please take a listen, and share your love for others with them today.

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I'm proud to say that Lance is one of my close friends. We attend the same church. Because of our same last names, he calls me his sister. I have a lot of respect for Lance.