Alex Blaze

Miss Manners is so awesome

Filed By Alex Blaze | September 22, 2009 2:00 PM | comments

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Tags: david froomkin, judith martin, Miss Manners, Washington Post

I used to say that Miss Manners was the best columnist the Washington Post has, but now that David Froomkin is gone there isn't even any competition. And she takes on addressing same-sex couples:

Besides, updating old customs for new times happens to be her favorite part of this job. And there are formal forms other than Mr. and Mrs. from which to choose. In fact, that is the most awkward, although the most familiar, form since it does require choosing one given name, which unnamed halves are increasingly finding off-putting.

The plural of Mrs. is Mesdames and the plural of Mr. is Messrs. So a married female couple with the same surname would be Mesdames Jenna and Aurora Acorn, and a married male couple would be the Messrs. Jackson and Hal Thornton.

Then there is the two-line form, each name with its own title. This is used when an address is shared by unrelated people or by family members, such as siblings, but also to address married couples if the wife has a title such as Dr., Senator, Judge or Dame, or, you should note, if her surname is different from her husband's.

I don't know the next time I'll be writing to an official "Dame," but I'll keep in mind that married Dames get their name on a separate line of the envelope.

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She's been my patron saint for years, particularly for her common sense, considerate and judgement-free attitude as shown in the following exchange:

Dear Miss Manners: How does one greet a gay couple at a party?

A. "How do you do? How do you do?"

One of my favorite of all time has to be the one where she chides the wife for looking through her husband's mail and finding out about his affair. She said something like: "To be deceived is the natural human condition. To read someone else's mail is despicable."

So right on.

Wow! Amazing.

I HALF Agree. Trust is important. I would NEVER go through Mike's email, mail, phone book. If I can't trust him, then why be with him.

But, if a bitch finds out about cheating in a natural organic way, she's free to beat some ass. That's my take.

I wonder what Fr. Tony would say? I bet he'd agree with me!

Hmmm... I'm thinking it's alphabetical order time. :)