Davina Kotulski

Freedom to Marry Day 2010

Filed By Davina Kotulski | February 12, 2010 2:30 PM | comments

Filed in: Marriage Equality, The Movement
Tags: Freedom to Marry, Freedom to Marry Day, gay marriage, marriage equality, marriage license, same-sex marriage

On 12, 2001 I went down to the San Francisco City Hall and asked for a marriage license with my then bride, Molly McKay. Not surprisingly, we were turned away. We continued to go ever year to San Francisco City Hall and to country clerks around northern California asking for a marriage license. We wanted to render visible the discrimination that is enforced every day because same-sex couples are denied the right to marry.

Three years later we received our first marriage license from the City of San Francisco when Mayor Gavin Newsom decided it was wrong to deny loving same-sex couples the right to marry. We completed our rally on the City Hall steps then went inside and were happy couple number 17 to be legally married. And we were legally married for 6 months until the California State Supreme Court annulled our marriage with the 4,000 other couples who were married in what is now known as the Winter of Love.

You can revisit history by checking out the following documentaries Freedom to Marry the Journey to Justice and Pursuit of Equality. Both are available on Marriage Equality USA's Amazon

Even after our marriage license was invalidated, we returned every year asking for a marriage license. Today is the Freedom To Marry Day. While we won't be asking for another marriage license because Molly and I were legally married in September 2008 before Prop 8 passed, we will be there to support the couples who want to get married and are denied that right.

I invite you to join Marriage Equality USA in our annual marriage counter actions by going down to your county clerk or City Hall marriage license counter and ask for a marriage license. Straight allies, you too can help engage in public education outreach to raise awareness of the harms and impact the inability to marry causes LGBTQ people and their families.

Marriage equality for all!

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Good for you and your partner, Davina!

The campaign for equality under the law is an engine that will drive our whole society towards revolutionary social progress.

It may start with issues like partnering and workplace equality but it'll end up as a fight over economic and political equality by working people as a whole.

That's something the looter class will never grant. They'll fight to the death to maintain their rule but we'll win.

I can't imagine going to the marriage counter and asking for a license just knowing I'd be denied. It would be too depressing for me.