Two women have been put in the public spotlight for having married now-famous men who later confessed that they were gay. The spotlight could not have found better examples of gracious acceptance.
Jemma Thomas, wife of gay rugby star Gareth Thomas, states that she has "no regrets" for having married him. Friends as teenagers, the two were married in 2001. Gareth struggled with his orientation before finally coming to terms with it, and he told his wife. Three years later, he told the world as their marriage was coming to an end. But the end of their marriage did not lead to bitterness on her behalf. In a recent article from BBC News, Jemma affirms that they had a "great life together."
In an interesting parallel, Christian singer Ray Boltz came out to the public in the fall of 2008, also three years after his confession to his wife. Married for 30-plus years, Ray and Carol have since divorced amicably, and Carol has become an outspoken advocate for the gay community. She has a blog, "My Heart Goes Out..." which expresses the love she still has for Ray as he faces hateful reactions from the public, Christian and not. She continues to receive ugly emails and comments and faces them with grace and steadfast conviction that one's orientation is God-given and a non-issue in regards to one's faith. Carol is now on the board for SoulForce, a Christian organization campaigning for LGBT acceptance in religious schools and institutions.
Jemma and Carol set an example that is catching the public eye. Their model of acceptance surprises some and angers others, but they are calm defenders of their ex-husbands. Their unique circumstances make them powerful allies. If you have a chance to do so, please offer your supportive comments to both women. While I do not have a link to Jemma Thomas, you can find Carol's email address on her blog.