Sara Whitman


Filed By Sara Whitman | March 05, 2010 4:00 PM | comments

Filed in: Living, Politics
Tags: David Patterson, LGBT issues, New York

Compromise. I realize that is the name of the game these days. LGBT issues are now the third rail of politics, right along with abortion.

I'm not against it, it's just that there are times I think you cannot compromise without losing your integrity. I don't like that.

After the last few days of negotiations here in Massachusetts, I have come to understand why politicians lose their way. I look at Governor David Patterson of New York and I get it. Eventually, all the compromises eat away at your sense of right and wrong.

Doesn't give him an excuse- some of the allegations are pretty horrific. But when you dance with that line often enough, you lose yourself.

I don't ever want that to happen to me.

I know now that the good guys aren't always good guys. A friend who is a lawyer said that law school is designed to take away your soul. I don't know if that's true, I am not a lawyer.

Politics will take away your soul, too. It's a big game of negotiations and no one wants to lose. Getting on the losing side too many times means you are no longer effective. I know I don't want the good guys to be without strength.

But at what cost?

I'm not sure.

Recent Entries Filed under Living:

Leave a comment

We want to know your opinion on this issue! While arguing about an opinion or idea is encouraged, personal attacks will not be tolerated. Please be respectful of others.

The editorial team will delete a comment that is off-topic, abusive, exceptionally incoherent, includes a slur or is soliciting and/or advertising. Repeated violations of the policy will result in revocation of your user account. Please keep in mind that this is our online home; ill-mannered house guests will be shown the door.

Compromise is not always possible and is not always a good idea.

The one thing you can never compromise on is your principles.

Something forgotten far too often by the good guys because, well...

They are good guys.

Robert Ganshorn Robert Ganshorn | March 5, 2010 10:07 PM

Barney Frank once said:

"The left and the right live in parallel universes. The Right listens to talk radio, the left uses the Internet and they just reinforce one another. They have no sense of reality."

This is not a spanking new quote from Barney, but it speaks volumes about the difficulty of the process of legislative compromise. Everyone comes out of it feeling as though they need a shower.

It's not that it takes away your soul, Sara, as that you learn that your soul has no place in the system. Lawyers are the plumbers of bureaucracy; it's not an elegant job but it is in demand.

It's not that it takes away your soul, Sara, as that you learn that your soul has no place in the system. Lawyers are the plumbers of bureaucracy; it's not an elegant job but it is in demand.

ah, too true about the soul having no place.

you know, the problem is, no one ever takes a stand anymore. no one says,

"I believe"

without having scanned, polled, previewed and vetted...

passion is performed. sincerity rehearsed.

with the lives of so many very real human beings in the balance.

rapid butterfly | March 6, 2010 10:07 AM

law school cannot take away anything, a soul or anything else, that one is unwilling to lose.

I wasn't willing to lose mine, and didn't. And Dr. Weiss, you are a hero of mine, but as a legal services lawyer I can tell you that at least in my practice, soul does indeed have a place in the system. And that is why I do what I do.

Rick Sours | March 6, 2010 1:39 PM

Compromise should be a agreement whereby atleast two parties make equal concessions to settle a dispute. In theory, in a perfect world, the results would be a win-win situation for all parties.
In the real world, sometimes one side gains too much and the other side loses in terms of their basis needs.