Waymon Hudson

Gay Teen in Georgia Kicked Out by Parents Over Bringing Boyfriend to Prom

Filed By Waymon Hudson | March 25, 2010 12:00 PM | comments

Filed in: Living, Media
Tags: Bleckly County, Candace McMillen, Derrick Martin, Georgia, LGBT youth, Prom

Derrick Martin, 6a00d8341c730253ef01310fd743d9970c-800wi.jpga gay teenager from Georiga who was inspired by the Constance McMillen cancelled Prom story in Mississippi, asked to bring another boy to prom. His request was approved by the School Superintendent.

A happy ending for the Bleckly County High School student, right?

Wrong. Derrick has been kicked out of his home by his parents now that his story has hit the media:

because of the media attention, Martin's parents have kicked him out and the teen is staying with a friend, he said.

Much more, including video, after the jump...

It's appalling this is happening to a brave, bright young man who simply wanted to take his boyfriend to prom. Derrick seems to be remaining strong and is proud of the stand he took, saying:

Maybe (other gay students) will think if Bleckley County will let them, maybe my school will.

I can only say how proud I am of Derrick Martin for the stand he is making and how angry I am at his parents for kicking him out. Instead of the unconditional love a parent should have for their child, they are doing what still happens to too many LGBT youth that come out by rejecting them. I hope that our national orgs, like PFLAG or the National Gay & Lesbian Task Force, move in to help this brave young student or set up a way for all of us to pitch in. I also hope his parents will be reached out to and educated so their family can heal.

This is what those opposing equality, that demonize us in every campaign, speech, and referendum, do: they plant seeds of bigotry and hate that tear apart families. They cultivate fear and loathing that causes a parent to kick out their child simply for wanting to go to a dance with the person he cares for. That's some definition of "Family Values"...

Stories like this are why we fight. This is why we educate, lobby, protest, take to the street, and continue to live our lives openly. We talk a lot about the strides we have made as a community. Yet we still have so far to go.

We have a new generation of young, energized activists ready to make sacrifices to stand for equality. We must do all we can to stand with them and give them the resources they need to not only continue the fight, but live their lives to the fullest and without fear.

(h/t Joe.My.God. for video)

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65% of the viewers of a local news program said that "same-sex couples should not be allowed to attend the prom."

What are we doing about those people? Lobbying their elected leaders? Marching around town? Or just complaining?

As a movement we keep wasting all our money on the wrong crowd - we never communicate, we simply demonstrate.

I'm glad Derrick took a stand, but what are WE doing to support that?


I think this is an instance that really strongly supports your point. But I still don't think that strategies are useless just because they don't help this specific instance.

Having a lobby visit with my representatives or signing a petition doesn't directly help this stuff very much -- but that's not the only thing I'm doing. I present at a diversity in family and human services class once a term, and a variety of other classes less regularly. I spent two years giving multiple presentations a month to middle and high school classrooms on domestic violence. I produce zines with the intent that they may be a cultural lifeline to people who don't have much other support. And I typically get half a dozen other speaking gigs throughout the year.

It's not as if NOT signing the petition or NOT visiting my representative would have meant I was having more conversations or doing more speaking gigs. It's not an either-or situation, but a both-and situation. I fully support you in encouraging folks to do more on-the-ground work, but I don't see the need to discourage people from doing the work they already are engaged in and feel good about.

Have you looked to see if there is an organization in the area that does speaker engagements? If you find one you can donate in order to support their work. I know that recent focus on marriage equality has funneled a lot of money away from organizations that educate on more general LGBT issues and especially the organizations that deal with youth issues.
I know in my area we have some organizations which train and provide speakers. It is these sorts of organizations which train and provide speakers and information of general LGBT issues that we need and we certainly need more youth services within our community.

Maybe we need to bring attention to the acceptable forms of CONDITIONAL love of parents toward their children...

I couldn't care less what straight folk think about me. I only care that the government lives by the Constitution and treats me equally. That's all I can fight for. I am not about preaching acceptance at all. They can do all they want to their own families, but one day those fuckers will realize that they missed having a wonderful son all their lives becaues of their own vile bigotry.

When his folks get to be in their 80s and need someone to wipe their asses, they hadn't better call on this brave young man.

They should be SO PROUD of their precious son for standing up for who he is.

This is what's meant by being PRO-FAMILY? Some people don't deserve the great kids they have. It's heart breaking! :-(((((

Just to pass this info on, it looks like pflagmacon.org has set up a system through their website and/or Facebook page where donations can be made to help out.
I can't completely verify as I am not on Facebook. {Part of my hermit issues.} :-) If someone else here could verify and let us know, I'm sure it would be appreciated.
(If it could be crossposted at Pam's House Blend, that would also be really cool. Assuming it hasn't already.)

I was disowned by mt parents the second I took my first dose of estrogen. I used to work with LGBT homeless/runaway youth. I know first hand how hard and painful this situation can be for a young person.

Stories like this still make me sick way down deep in my stomach.

Facebook does have a page with a PayPal link for donations: http://www.facebook.com/#!/group.php?v=info&ref=search&gid=112406088769420

I can't vouch for the group or link, so I don't know if the money will actually go to Mr. Martin.

What a great kid! If his fucked-up parents don't want him, he can come live with me! And if he misses the South, he can just go to the other side of town and find all the rednecks he wants...

Shame shame on them how could they actually do that it's someone from their own blood i just don't get how these people dont seem to have a heart i WOULD like to have a talk with those parents!!!

Since this is so public, why aren't Derrick Martin's parents charged with child abuse or abandonment. Isn't he still a minor?

But then again, maybe he's safer by living away from them.

Not sure of the laws in Georgia, but Derrick is a Senior who recently turned 18, so that may preclude them from those charges.

Plus, it's Georgia, so I'm not sure the state would come to the defense of a gay kid.

I'm working on verifying a way to get support to Derrick. I've reached out to him personally and I'll report back as soon as I find a way.

Thanks, for this, let us know where we an send something for him.

I read an unconfirmed report that one of his parents is a teacher at his school. Does anyone have information which can confirm and then detail this?

I didn't hear that. i'll try and find out...

That's messed up. But it highlights the fact that we aren't really all that much further than we were in the 70's when it comes to some people.