Sara Whitman

Al and Tipper Gore No More

Filed By Sara Whitman | June 02, 2010 8:30 AM | comments

Filed in: Entertainment, Marriage Equality
Tags: Al Gore, break up, filing for divorce, longterm relationships, relationships, separating couples, Tipper Gore

Tipper and Al Gore are getting divorced. Forty years of marriage and they don't hate each other, there is no other man or woman. Just grew apart.


Life does that sometimes. Gotta go here, gotta do this, you have your work you believe deeply in and suddenly, you realize you're never in the same house in the same bed anymore.

And you don't mind.

Still, you know that we are beings that crave comfort, intimacy and love. Somewhere inside their heads must have been that voice that said, I'm lonely.

I miss being loved passionately.

It is the hardest thing in marriage, over time, to deal with. You go from intense passionate love to great love to old love. Deep with layers and layers of experience together. It is the goal to keep enough of the intense passion alive while moving through the years.

It's not easy. It takes a lot of work. There are many things that can happen but the reality is, it is often the path of least resistance. I do not doubt for one minute that they still love each other, in a way that is unlike anything they will ever experience again.

And I wonder if their hearts ache for one more chance at having that intense spark of new love.

I'm sorry to see them split. I don't know them personally and my sadness is purely selfish- as I enter my 20th year, I need some role models.

Not many left.

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I've read about and watched some videos of the cable coverage of this break up. It's almost as if these people just don't get that sometimes married couples separate and either there's nothing specifically to blame or it's just not anyone else's business.

Hopefully they'll be happier now. That's all that should matter.

Let's be mindful of terminology. Just as we acknowledge a difference between 'marriage' and 'civil union', let's note that Al and Tipper are getting separated, not divorced. I assume that's to keep things simple and lawyer-free...

Rick Sours | June 2, 2010 8:01 PM

I appreciate the idea that this is probably simply a business move. My question or concern is since
one function of these publications is to provide information to the LBGT community, will LBGT
individuals be able to locate these publications within a direct term like LGBT or Gay in the title?

Rick Sours | June 3, 2010 7:32 AM




Rick Sours | June 2, 2010 8:05 PM

In agreement, this is a sad personal matter.

Over the years, Tipper Gore has been very supportive of the LBGT community.

Robert Ganshorn Robert Ganshorn | June 4, 2010 12:20 AM

People change and times may move on, but there is more to this. I have known people to be "separated" for years without choosing divorce.

I also remember "That Kiss" at the Democratic Convention and how Al Gore's eyes sought out Tipper's when he received the Nobel Prize. I think they are still mature and "loving" but perhaps not "in love at the moment." They remain soul mates. That is plenty for many post 60, but apparently not them right now.

I have also known committed gay couples who maintain separate residences in places like Germany, Illinois, Thailand and Florida who have no intention of living together, but loving one another intensely. They typically have their partner over as "a guest" and prepare dinner and/or treat every night together in the others home to be a fresh new date. It minimizes conflicts and maximizes benefits. It also allows each partner to have their junk, hobbies, pets if they want them and general "stuff" without compromise. (apologies to cat lovers out there)

There are a variety of ways to keep loving one another. I think it is advisable to embrace all of them.

soooowhat is the point of this story?

Robert Ganshorn Robert Ganshorn | June 8, 2010 5:26 AM

Honey, if you have to ask you aren't ready for the answer anyway.