Congressman Chris Lee, who was found on Craiglist looking for a little lovin' and then resigned last month, turns out to have been searching for something other than heterosexual, extra-marital, cis-man/cis-woman, missionary position, for-the-purposes-of-procreation-only fun. Read the whole thing at Gawker (h/t Kathy Padilla).
The revelation that he was seeking "ts/cd" women isn't really all that interesting - love and sexual attraction are complicated especially when we consider the cultural ramifications of various desires. Discussing all this in terms of right and wrong, professional and unprofessional is just silly.
While a representative in a seeking a more accepted relationship could have been expected to stay in office after a presser with his wife, someone like Lee who may question his own heterosexuality was quick to resign.
Which just goes to show that reifying sexual mores will always work against the interests of LGBT people. While some of us think that adding monogamous, long-term same-sex relationships to the buffet of acceptable family configurations will solve all our problems, it won't. So long as some people are labeled "freaks" because of who they are or whom they're attracted to, there will always be queerness even if people stop identifying as queer.
Even though he seems like a standard-issue neo-Randian Republican, I don't think Lee should have resigned for that reason and I don't think that what he did was all that terrible. Posting pics on Craigslist is utterly banal and seeking sex with someone else while married has been going on for millennia - I just don't buy the ridiculous proposition that humans are programmed for monogamy.
But we have a long ways to go before we're a lot more accepting about what our bodies are and what they want, and, until then, people are going to have to act like they're ashamed of just being who they are for the benefit of the rest of us. As always, the irony: Lee himself would probably have done nothing to make the world more accepting for what he wanted to do.