"I thought that transgender people must have felt much worse than I did in order to risk losing all the things that one can lose by transitioning. Until I really accepted this about myself and got over any of my own transphobia that I had, I really felt like I wouldn't be accepted. I thought I would ruin my life. I thought it was, 'Be yourself but become a pariah and put your family through hell,' or, 'Don't be yourself and live a horribly uncomfortable existence where everybody relates to you in a way that's not you.' "