Bill Graber, the middle aged straight guy posing as lesbian blogger "Paula Brooks" of LezGetReal, has offered his full apology for deceiving the community. You can tell it's sincere because he posted it on his website.
I wouldn't want to say it's a desperate attempt to keep his fifteen minutes of fame going for an extra few heartbeats, but... Well, yeah. I do.
It's after the break if you feel like reading the latest writings of a fraud.
I created Paula the Surf Mom as a literary construct for my Queen of Surf Pirates blog... but as we all know now I am not a lesbian.
I wanted her to be a lesbian because in my male mind, that is a pretty strong figure; an independent woman who needs no male protectors.
So I came to your blogs to find out just what is a real lesbian... the real person to make my Paula the Surf Mom more credible.
As I read your blogs I saw you were just like me.... You went to work... you tried to pay bills... you were funny... and you have families.
But I also saw that even though you are just like me... you have none of the protection for your families or your lives that I have.
As I came to know you as on-line friends, you taught me so much about what it is to be you and the more I developed Paula... the madder I got about your treatment. This is not what MY America is all about.
I thought you needed help to make this this shit stop. I wanted to help.... but I feared you would not trust me if knew I were who I really am.
Now from my point of view, Bill Graber, straight white man, member of the most privileged class in America... I got pretty upset at your treatment by people like me. Because any person who has talked to all of you like I did and came to know you like I did... MUST be outraged at the way good folks like you get treated and they cannot stand back.
I was mad because, even though you did not know it, I WAS a member of the most privileged class in America, and could walk away anytime I wanted, but you could not.
But the only thing I had to offer was my talents as a web developer; organizer and a creative writer, and yes a Big Bull Shit artist... so I used those talents to try to do something to make it stop, and try to help make a difference. I wanted to get your message out to other people like me, so they would fight for you .
But I lied to you, and I deceived you. I also played mind games and I hurt some of you while I was doing all this... And none of my good intentions makes any of that right.
For that you cannot even imagine how sorry I am.