Nadine Smith

TEDxTalk: Why LGBT Couples 'Refuse To Lie'

Filed By Nadine Smith | July 15, 2011 11:00 AM | comments

Filed in: Marriage Equality, Politics, The Movement
Tags: direct action group, gay marriage, marriage equality,, same-sex marriage, TEDx

They just released the video of a TEDx Talk I did in Tampa Bay to an almost exclusively straight audience on marriage equality and the RefuseToLie campaign. Find out more about this grassroots, direct action campaign at

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I think it's good for us to stand in front of straight audiences and point out, not only how our families pressure us into lying, but the US government even requires us by law to lie.

As you pointed out, Nadine, under DOMA, the IRS tries to require us to lie.

There are also situations in which DADT effectively required us to lie. It wasn't supposed to by design, but when a military psychiatrist asks you, "Are you gay?" what are you to say? Replying "That question violates military policy" hardly works in the middle of a counseling session -- and at the same time, it's hardly a non-answer.