Bil Browning

Not-So-Heartwarming Video: Gay Soldier Comes Out to Mom

Filed By Bil Browning | September 30, 2011 11:30 AM | comments

Filed in: Living
Tags: coming out of the closet, Don't Ask Don't Tell, gay soldiers

Remember the young soldier who came out to his father on a video from the war zone? Right after Don't Ask Don't Tell was repealed, the video of him coming out to his dad went viral with it's heartwarming message of acceptance and love.

A half hour later, the soldier came out to his mother and filmed it too. It didn't go as well.

While he warns the viewers that his mom is more conservative than his dad, instead of telling him that she loves him no matter what, she goes silent before she finally tells him "God created Adam and Eve not Adam and Steve" and says she's worried about his "spiritual well-being."

You can see the pain in his face as she reacts and the difference between his relief after talking to his dad and the disappointment after talking to his mom is stark and striking.

Watch the video after the break.

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Rick Elliott | October 1, 2011 3:32 AM

I found this video mesmerizing. But I felt uncomfortable and almost turned it off several times. I felt like I was like a peeping tom, viewing something deeply personal that it wasn't my place to watch. However reinforcing it might be to someone considering coming out to parents, I don't think the video should have been shared like it's being shared. As much as I abhor the mother's position, she didn't given the option to decide whether or not she would be viewed by a global audience. It's quite intrusive.
Of course, it breaks my heart to watch the pain on the man's face and body language. From time to time, he would be face down as though to keep secret some of his his feelings.
I believe Bilerico should remove this posting and give this man some privacy even though he had to have known how often the video would be viewed.

Rachel Bellum | October 1, 2011 4:42 AM

This is a very touching video. While I would have wished this young man a wonderful coming out, it's probably especially compelling to see the same young man have one conversation go well and another not as well within 30mins. Hopefully as time passes his entire family will come around as he suggested has happened previously.

I would like to thank this brave young man for posting these videos which will undoubtedly affect a lot of people.

In the short amount of time DADT has been nulled, we've seen a number soldiers coming forward to make themselves visible. A local paper of mine has already posted a story about a local gay vet (discharged under DADT) who is considering re-enlisting. These young men and women are performing a service for our LGBT community while serving their country. It is difficult in the US to take a publicly disresepectful stance against vets. I believe that in standing up for themselves they are standing up for us all in a manner that is difficult to oppose.