Mark S. King

The Value of Asking for What You Want

Filed By Mark S. King | December 07, 2011 2:00 PM | comments

Filed in: Living
Tags: Christmas, Christmas gifts, gratitude, Santa

Remember when we were little, and if we wanted something we simply asked for it? It felt easy. It seemed natural. And if there was really something special we had to have, there was a golden opportunity every year to ask the person who made all things possible: Santa Claus.

Santa List.jpgBut then we got older, and life became more complex, and we were told it was better to give than to receive. Asking for what we wanted felt selfish, and many even a sign of weakness.

I wish we could look at this differently. Admitting we want something can be liberating. It acknowledges we are human, and there is grace, beauty even, in revealing our need and being vulnerable and allowing someone to help us.

Just because we don't ask for toys anymore doesn't mean we don't want anything. We want friendship. We want to be accepted. We want our health. Maybe it's asking a friend to listen, or wanting a medication with fewer side effects.

Just saying, I need this. I want to feel better. Or, I need you.

Wanting is not limited to children, my friends. But we might take a lesson from their transparency. Sometimes the answer, the help we need, the gift waiting for us, will only appear when we take a chance, when we finally have the courage to ask for what we want.

Happy holidays, and please be well.

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