It's estimated that consumers will spend approximately 17.6 billion dollars in cards, flowers, chocolates, jewelry, and other Valentine's Day paraphernalia today. We live in a culture that idealizes family and relationships and oppresses those who are single. As a therapist who loves to help same-sex couples, I have probably been guilty of perpetuating that oppression myself.
But today I am reminded that many people remain single. Some do so by choice, others as a result of circumstances beyond their control. Let's include our whole community in today's festivities by recognizing the top ten advantages to being single:
- You don't have to tolerate snoring, burping, farting, dirty socks on the floor, and other disgusting habits.
- You can watch television, get drunk, or knit an afghan sweater without getting anyone else's approval.
- You can save for retirement or buy a 1955 Mercedes 300 SL Gullwing for 4.62 million. It's your money.
- You can stay up all night having sex with someone named Alessandro that you met briefly at a party, or drift to sleep watching the Golden Girls at 8:30.
- You only have to pay off your own debt.
- You can go to the freezer and trust that your ice cream will still be there.
- You can make reservations for one at Chez Pannise or heat up that leftover burrito from Uncle Buck's Bar & Grill. Only your doctor will tell you what to eat.
- You don't have to ask anyone for permission to have an orgasm.
- You can focus on managing your own emotions and never have to read any boring books on codependency or stupid love languages.
- You can join Occupy Valentine's Day and organize a nonviolent protest against the "romantic-industrial complex."
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