We start the WYNTK today with a little Public Service Announcement for my cisgender LGB brethren:
If you're a gay-identified person talking publicly about how you don't support people "choosing" to be trans*, "believe" in trans* identity/experience, or that you don't support the "trans* lifestyle," you sound like an asshole.
That's not to say that heterosexual cisgender folk don't also sound like assholes when they say those sorts of things, but I'm sorry to say that expectations are simply set a bit higher if you're gay, lesbian, or bisexual. If you aren't self aware enough to notice that one could swap out "gay" for "trans*" and what you're saying could have been lifted from NOM or FRC's media hymnals, that makes you sound like a bigger asshole than when a straight cis person says the same thing.
I'm not say that if you think or say these things you automatically are an asshole. After all, this post is directed at a pretty hypothetical "you." You could simply be unfamiliar with or don't understand the issues involved in the trans* experience. Likewise you could be unaware that your narrow perspective makes you sound like an asshole. Hence the PSA.
Now before we move on to the WYNTK, a quick spot of shameless self-promotion on my part:
On Saturday I'll be presenting two workshops at the Five College Queer Gender & Sexuality Conference at Hampshire College in Amherst, Massachusetts.
My two workshops this year are:
- "Considerations in Trans/Cis Erotic Play," which was created as a companion to my popular "Exploring Dynamics in Trans/Cis Relationships" workshop.
- "Sex, Kink, and Disability" which draws on my experiences as a adaptive technology designer, disability advocate, and sex/kink educator, to discuss how disability impacts our sexuality, and how to work both around and with disabilities in the bedroom or dungeon.
It's an awesome conference, made all the more impressive by the fact that it's almost completely student created and run, and if you're in the general Amherst, MA area I'd strongly encourage you to check it out.
With all that out of the way, here's what you need to know: