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Watersports or "piss play" is one of those play modalities that elicit cries of "why would anyone do that?" The answer is, of course a bit complicated. If you've read past "How's That Work" posts, you know by now that different people can have different reasons for choosing to engage in some form of play.
Before we can get to why or how though, let's establish what exactly we mean by watersports play.
On the most basic level, watersports refers to a form of erotic or BDSM play that involves urine. This kind of play can be done solo or with with a partner(s), and most often entails peeing on someone/being peed on, and can also include taking urine into one's mouth, with or without swallowing.
While there are forms of medical play and diaper/ABDL play that can incorporate urine, those are a bit beyond the scope of this post. Watersports is rarely a purely stand-alone activity, but rather tends to be a part of play.
There are three primary reasons people engage in watersports as part of their play: intimacy, humiliation, and D/s.
For some, there is deep intimacy to be found in sharing a bodily fluid and function with a partner. Sharing in such a taboo act, especially with another person, can also be a source of that sense of connection. In this way, people engaging in watersports play are not unlike people who have a fondness for ejaculating on a partner's face, or who enjoy sweat as part of their play.
As a society we've got all sorts of hang-ups around urination, going right back to our childhood potty training. Being "forced" to urinate in front of someone else or on oneself can be a powerful form of humiliation play, and being urinated on can be contextualized as a deeply humiliating situation.
Then there's D/s. Dominance/submission is perhaps how watersports is most commonly portrayed in the gay men's world. It's a related, but distinctly separate form of play from using watersports for humiliation. As a tool for D/s, the act of urinating on someone else is be used as a way to establish or reinforce the dominant/submissive dynamic in a rather primal fashion, i.e. the alpha(s) establishing a hierarchical position, or even an animal marking its territory or property.
So if one wanted to explore watersports play, here are some things that would be good to know:
- A great way to start exploring watersports is through solo play. This give one a practical idea of what they might want to explore with a partner, as well as some first hand experience with the mechanics of the activity itself. It's a good idea to try different positions, as well as with incorporating sexual elements or not, to help build a sense of what forms of watersports play are intriguing.
- The shower or tub is your friend. There are plenty of useful resources available for folk who want to engage in watersports outside of the bathroom, but that's definitely 301 level play. The shower/tub makes clean up of everyone involved incredibly straightforward and takes care of environmental clean-up all on its own.
- It may be useful to make sure that everyone is on the same page about what they hope to get out of a watersports scene before hoping in the tub. If Partner A is looking for a tender moment of intimacy, and Partner B grabs them by the hair and calls them a dirty little piss slut, an important step has been missed.
- It's a really good idea to have the pee-er drink a large quantity of water before watersports play, especially when starting out. Some people prefer a stronger scent and/or taste, but that's something to work up to. It's also worth noting that, perhaps even more than with semen, what someone eats and drinks can effect the composition of their urine.
- Sometimes things that seem hot in theory, fantasy, or porn, don't turn out to be as intriguing in person. At the same time, the reverse is also true, and something that one wouldn't have imagined liking can turn out to be seriously hot.
- As with all taboo play, it's not uncommon to get off from watersports play and then feel somewhat weird about it afterwards. It can take time to become accustomed to playing on these sorts of edges, and plenty of people find themselves saying "never doing that again" after getting off, only to find that when their genitals get hard/wet they are up for giving it another go.
Finally, it's worth sparing few words about watersports and safety.
Urine is generally considered a low risk factor for transmitting bacterial and viral infections. This is not to say that there is no risk. There is the possibility that a number of common STIs could be transmitted through urine contacting the eye or throat, although as you'd imagine, solid data is difficult to come by. However, STIs aren't the only risk factor to consider. Drinking large quantities of urine can put some strain on the kidneys from what I understand. If this particular sort of play is preferred, it's very important that all partners involved, both receptive and giving, drink lots of water before hand, as well as after the fact in the case of the receptive partner.
Perhaps the biggest safety issue to be aware of is that drugs and alcohol are excreted in urine. There are stories of alcoholics relapsing after consuming significant quantities of alcohol through urine at parties where they were bottoming to watersports play (specifically piss drinking), and drinking one's own urine is an old junkie trick for getting more bang for the buck from a heavy dose of street drugs. Be conscious of the fact that what one person puts in their body, someone else may be directly exposed to. Food allergies could even be a factor if the reaction is severe enough.
So that's today's glimpse into an area of sexual expression and relationships. Maybe it was a trip down memory lane, or perhaps you now know far more than you'll ever needs about how other people play.
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