Living: May 2012

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Why You Should Attend A Rural Pride Event This Year

Filed by D Gregory Smith | May 31, 2012 | 5:00 PM | comments

Many of us actively fled rural life to get to urban safety. I get that. But I want you to consider going to a gay pride event in an out-of the-way place this summer. Why? Because we need you. Read More


A Vital If Unpopular LGBT Civil Right

Filed by E. Winter Tashlin | May 31, 2012 | 12:00 PM | comments

The story is hardly unique, buts it's mine, and it's consequences fundamentally changed how I and my partners lived our lives.Read More


Child Sings 'Ain't No Homos Gonna Make It To Heaven'

Filed by Viktor Kerney | May 31, 2012 | 11:00 AM | comments

Over the weekend at the Apostolic Truth Tabernacle a four-year-old boy was put on stage to perform a hateful song. Once the child was finished, the church members gave a disturbing standing ovation. Read More


Dharun Ravi Abstractly Apologizes for Webcam Spying

Filed by Karen Ocamb | May 30, 2012 | 5:00 PM | comments

New Jersey Star-Ledger reports that Dharun Ravi - the former Rutgers student convicted of the webcam spying on his gay roommate Tyler Clementi appeared in court on Tuesday, May 29, and requested that he start his 30-day jail sentence soon. Read More

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Creating Community: Western PA LGBTQA Social Media Advocates

Filed by Sue Kerr | May 30, 2012 | 3:00 PM | comments

I recently blogged about an initiative to build a network among LGBTQA Social Media users in Western PA with a shared goal of promoting equality. The response has been quiet but reflects interest in building a network. Read More


On Becoming Positive: An Open Letter to Manny

Filed by Patrick J Hamilton | May 30, 2012 | 12:00 PM | comments

Dear Manny: Thank you for sharing with me your news, even though of course the moment does not seem great. I am moved and honored that you trusted me enough to tell me you were just diagnosed HIV Positive. Read More


Why Did I Change My Birth Certificate?

Filed by Drew Cordes | May 30, 2012 | 11:00 AM | comments

I recently changed the sex on my birth certificate. I did feel a sense of closure and relief, though it was mostly in the legal, official, my-ass-is-now-bureaucratically-covered sense. On the more personal side of things, I felt a little conflicted. Read More


ACT UP/LA Warrior Pete Jimenez Remembered

Filed by Karen Ocamb | May 29, 2012 | 3:30 PM | comments

It is appropriate that the life and activism of ACT UP/LA's Pete Jimenez be commemorated during Memorial Day weekend. The war Pete fought was at home, against the US government, against the godless cruelty of the Religious Right, homophobia and the willful neglect of people with AIDS. Read More

43% Of Black Gay Teens Have Contemplated Or Attempted Suicide

Filed by Viktor Kerney | May 29, 2012 | 12:00 PM | comments

A survey conducted by the National Strategy for Black Gay Youth in America has some staggering results about Black gay teens.Read More


Kale, Fire Roasted Tomatoes, & Black Eyed Peas [Vegan Ain't All Bad]

Filed by James Holmes | May 29, 2012 | 11:00 AM | comments

For the first time I am bringing you a recipe I created myself. It has become a favorite of my friends, and can be very flexible. Depending on the time of the season, more veggies can be added or substituted. Read More

LGBT Youth: Resiliency, Strength, & Hope

Filed by Guest Blogger | May 29, 2012 | 10:00 AM | comments

In the midst of the merriment came the youth, their faces catching the rays of the sun, marching side-by-side, hand-in-hand, middle school, high school, and college Gay/Straight Alliance banners waving in this storm of humanity, announcing their entry, solidarity, feisty outrage, and yes, their pride.Read More

In the Navy [Open Thread]

Filed by James Holmes | May 28, 2012 | 10:00 AM | comments

Now that we are over one year into the repeal of Don't Ask Don't Tell, would you consider suiting up for our country? If so, what branch and why? Family ties or just what uniform looks better?Read More


Comment of the Week: Guardian Angels for Gays

Filed by Adam Polaski | May 27, 2012 | 7:00 PM | comments

Michael Thomas Ford's observations on the Shorter University story bring up a new perspective on socially liberal people living or working in socially conservative environments.Read More


Greed vs Fairness: Bigger Than Bain

Filed by Terrance Heath | May 27, 2012 | 5:30 PM | comments

The Bain debate isn't about capitalism vs. "socialism." It's about choosing what kind of capitalism we want. It's about the future, and deciding what kind of economy we want. It's about deciding who and what our economy is for.Read More


My Thoughts on the Smith College Commencement Ceremony

Filed by Guest Blogger | May 27, 2012 | 11:30 AM | comments

Guest Blogger Rhys McGovern reflects on Smith College's commencement ceremony, where speaker Jane Lynch addressed the assembled student body as "ladies," ignoring and erasing the experiences of the non-female graduates in the audience. Read More

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Do You Mourn Celebrity Deaths? [Open Thread]

Filed by Bil Browning | May 26, 2012 | 12:15 PM | comments

The recent spate of celebrity deaths has spawned a multi-day conversation between Jerame and me. I don't believe the grief is real; Jerame thinks I'm just hard-hearted.Read More


Southern Baptists: Even We Aren't that Anti-Gay!

Filed by Bil Browning | May 25, 2012 | 2:05 PM | comments

All of the crazed zealotry emanating from North Carolina Baptist churches lately has put the Southern Baptist Convention on the defensive. They'd like for you to know that those Baptist ministers aren't playing for their team. Read More


Memories & Memorial Day

Filed by Kergan Edwards-Stout | May 25, 2012 | 10:15 AM | comments

For me, Memorial Day is about honoring not only those who died fighting for our freedom, but also those closer, lost to far different battles, particularly AIDS.Read More


The (Gay) Jury Is Out: The Power of a Single Voice

Filed by Guest Blogger | May 24, 2012 | 11:00 AM | comments

"As a lesbian, I am no longer considered a full citizen of the state of North Carolina due to the recent passage of Amendment One and therefore I decline to fulfill my civic duties until my civil rights have been restored to me in full."Read More


Ask to Correct the Definition of Marriage

Filed by Joe Mirabella | May 24, 2012 | 10:00 AM | comments sees nearly 50 million visitors a month, with millions of words looked up each day. When visitors look up "marriage," they find two separate definitions, one for heterosexual couples and one for gay and lesbian couples.Read More


Did My Marriage Cause Obama's Evolution?

Filed by Steven Cheslik-DeMeyer | May 23, 2012 | 5:30 PM | comments

We so wanted our marriage not to be a political event, so it was almost comical on our honeymoon cruise to read that Chan's home state of North Carolina voted to extra-double-duty outlaw gay marriage and a day later President Obama came out in favor. Read More


Richard Noble Nearing End of His Walk Across America

Filed by Karen Ocamb | May 23, 2012 | 3:30 PM | comments

Activist Richard Noble is almost finished with his walk across America for LGBT rights. This beautiful video tribute of his time on the road shows the people he's met, the proclamations of support he's elicited, the joys and troubles he's overcome.Read More


White House LGBT Pride Reception: I'm on the List

Filed by Bil Browning | May 23, 2012 | 10:00 AM | comments

Yesterday I was honored to discover that I've been invited to the White House on June 15th to celebrate LGBT Pride Month with President Obama.Read More


A True False Prophet & My Tongue Talking Days

Filed by James Holmes | May 22, 2012 | 3:30 PM | comments

In the new documentary Kumare: The True Story of a False Prophet, film maker Vikram Gandhi explores the topic of human spirituality by posing as an Indian guru in Phoenix, AZ to great success. This reminds me of my own spiritual journey. Read More


Happy Harvey Milk Day! Event Notice and Video

Filed by Karen Ocamb | May 22, 2012 | 2:30 PM | comments

There are a number of events happening today to commemorate the late Harvey Milk.Read More

Go vegan!

PETA's Sexiest Vegetarian Likes Men More Than Beef

Filed by James Holmes | May 22, 2012 | 1:30 PM | comments

No animals were harmed in the making of this body. Not only is PETA's Sexiest Vegetarian 2012, Zachary Koval, hot as hell - he also bats for our team. Read More


A Requiem for the Queen of Disco

Filed by Guest Blogger | May 22, 2012 | 11:00 AM | comments

Within minutes of the announcement of Donna Summer's death, guest blogger Dennis Daniel's Facebook news feed began filling with obits. A few people tempered their remarks by referencing the homophobic controversy she was embroiled in during the 1980s.Read More


88% of Baptist Univ Faculty Quit Over Anti-Gay Pledge

Filed by Bil Browning | May 21, 2012 | 6:00 PM | comments

Shorter University, a Baptist college in Georgia, is losing scads of faculty and students after requiring all teachers to sign a "Personal Lifestyle Statement" that requires them to reject homosexuality, pre-marital sex, public drinking, adultery and drug use and mandates that they attend church regularly.Read More

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Coming Out with Donna Summer

Filed by Mark S. King | May 21, 2012 | 5:00 PM | comments

Donna Summer is among the spirits now, joining the legions of ghosts haunting brightly colored discos from another era. She is still cooing to them, to these throngs of boisterous men, inviting them to the dance, and there is everything to celebrate and nothing to forgive.Read More


Dharun Ravi Sentenced to 30 Days for Webcam Cyber-Bullying

Filed by Karen Ocamb | May 21, 2012 | 3:00 PM | comments

Superior Court Judge Glenn Berman in New Jersey sentenced Dharun Ravi to 30 days in jail for what he called a "bias crime," not a hate crime in the landmark case about cyber-bullying.Read More


Wanda Sykes on Obama & NAACP Support for Same-Sex Marriage

Filed by Karen Ocamb | May 21, 2012 | 12:00 PM | comments

On the red carpet at the L.A. Gay & Lesbian Center's "An Evening with Women," actress/comedienne Wanda Sykes talked about President Obama's declaration that he supports same-sex marriage and the vote by the board of the NAACP to unequivocally support marriage equality.Read More

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Super Easy Salsa [Vegan Ain't All Bad]

Filed by James Holmes | May 20, 2012 | 4:30 PM | comments

This week's recipe comes to you from my partner's mother, Delfia. I have been making this for years now and my friends always love it.Read More


Do Boycotts Work? [Open Thread]

Filed by Bil Browning | May 19, 2012 | 11:00 AM | comments

Whether it's rightwing Christians or the gays, we both love our boycotts. The question for today is, do they work?Read More


Justice Department Issues New Rules on Sexual Assault of LGBT Inmates

Filed by Karen Ocamb | May 18, 2012 | 3:00 PM | comments

This is a big deal. The US Justice Department released a new set of rules on Thursday in conjunction with a new Memorandum from President Obama to address the epidemic of sexual assaults in prison that particularly impacts LGBT inmates. Read More


Who Would Jesus Kick Off the Softball Team?

Filed by Bil Browning | May 18, 2012 | 1:00 PM | comments

St. John United Church of Christ of St. Clair, Missouri may have played in the local St. Clair Church Softball League for the past twelve years, but they aren't now. The league's commissioner gave the church two options: either withdraw from the league or it would be disbanded.Read More


Boxer Manny Pacquiao to Gays: 'I Apologize'

Filed by Karen Ocamb | May 18, 2012 | 11:00 AM | comments

A firestorm erupted Wednesday over an "exclusive" interview in the National Conservative Examiner with professional boxer Manny Pacquiao in which the boxer cited the Old Testament. The reporter has now admitted that he - not Pacquiao - quoted the horrid death-to-gays Biblical passage.Read More


Black Pastors: Getting On the Right Side of History

Filed by Viktor Kerney | May 18, 2012 | 10:00 AM | comments

After President Obama made his gay marriage announcement, it seemed that everyone looked to the black churches for their reaction. As some pastors shrugged it off and went about their business, several pastors and church leaders fell into the classic stereotypical trap.Read More


Indianapolis Gay Teen Takes a Stand on Anti-Bullying

Filed by Annette Gross | May 17, 2012 | 4:30 PM | comments

Dynasty Young's story has resonated the young LGBT kids here in Indianapolis, and they arranged to hold a Anti-Bullying Rally yesterday in support.Read More

Welcome to Montana

MT ADAP Wait List: Tuesday, 0; Wednesday 1

Filed by D Gregory Smith | May 17, 2012 | 1:30 PM | comments

Montana has had a wait list off and on since 2002. The ADAP program in Montana currently serves 130 persons - not much in the grand scheme of things - but for a low population state, we're doing a pretty good job of taking care of our people. Read More


Surprise! Catholic Schools Still Hate Dancing Lesbians

Filed by James Holmes | May 17, 2012 | 12:00 PM | comments

It really makes me sad to hear these stories around this time every year - and unfortunately I can't remember a prom season in the last nine years since my senior prom that I haven't heard at least one report of a similar event. Read More

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Harvey Milk Day Celebrations in LA & WeHo

Filed by Karen Ocamb | May 17, 2012 | 11:00 AM | comments

LGBT Icon Harvey Milk would have been 82 years old next Tuesday - had he not been assassinated in 1978. The Harvey Milk Foundation and others are holding numerous events before and on that official day, including several in Los Angeles and West Hollywood. Read More


An Apology, Connecting Dots, & the Florida AIDS Walk

Filed by Jesse Monteagudo | May 16, 2012 | 6:30 PM | comments

I recently posted an article that I wrote about porn stars as gay men's "idolized rock stars." Though I stand by most of the views I expressed in that article, I realize that I insulted many in the profession.Read More


Caption This: No Sex In Heaven

Filed by James Holmes | May 16, 2012 | 1:00 PM | comments

Sounds like hell to me. Read More


A Federal Park Only a GOP'er Could Love

Filed by Mike Rogers | May 15, 2012 | 5:00 PM | comments

There are tons of place in the world that have names that are, well, not always 'G rated.' But one of them sticks out (so to speak) above the others. We now present the official park of the Republican Party.Read More


Some Good Hard Republican Polling

Filed by James Holmes | May 15, 2012 | 2:00 PM | comments

Looking for the perfect gift for that one gay republican couple you know? Or maybe something special for that homophobic brother-in-law who's stuck with Romney and needs a bit more Santorum to keep him perky the rest of the campaign season? Look no further. Read More


1 in 3 American Adults Sleepwalk [Not Gay Open Thread]

Filed by Bil Browning | May 15, 2012 | 11:00 AM | comments

A new study of 16,000 adults in 15 states found that about 29% said they have sleepwalked at least once in their life. It's only happened once to me, but it was particularly disturbing. Have you ever sleepwalked?Read More


Expelled Indiana Bullied Teen Beaten in Local Mall

Filed by Bil Browning | May 14, 2012 | 6:00 PM | comments

Dynasty Young, the bullied LGBT teen expelled from Indianapolis' Arsenal Tech High School last week for carrying a stun gun to school to defend himself, has been attacked and punched at a downtown mall. Khyran R. Delay, 34, has been identified as the assailant.Read More


Ripping Your Heart Out on Mother's Day

Filed by Bil Browning | May 13, 2012 | 2:30 PM | comments

Tracy Rodemeyer tackles one of the most heartrending subjects possible on Mother's Day. Her son, Jamey Rodemeyer died by suicide in September 2011 at age 14 after suffering relentless anti-gay bullying.Read More


Thanks for the Bilerico Memories!

Filed by Adam Polaski | May 13, 2012 | 1:00 PM | comments

As I prepare to graduate, move to New York City, and transition into my new position with Freedom to Marry, I want to thank everyone for all that they've done for me. I'm sure we've all had quite a year - thank you for being a part of mine. Read More


Mommy in the Middle (of Gender)

Filed by Paige Schilt | May 13, 2012 | 11:30 AM | comments

A couple of years ago, I interviewed my wife about life as a genderqueer mommy. Things have changed since that interview. In honor of Mother's Day, I decided to post an updated conversation about mothering in the middle.Read More


Of Mother's Day & Misogyny

Filed by Kergan Edwards-Stout | May 13, 2012 | 10:00 AM | comments

Having recently been called "misogynistic," on Mother's Day I ironically find myself pondering how I feel about the opposite sex.Read More

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Your Mini Vacation [Open Thread]

Filed by Bil Browning | May 12, 2012 | 2:30 PM | comments

I'm unplugging completely and going into the wilderness for a complete day away from all technology and LGBT issues in late May. If you could have a mini-vacation of a day or two by yourself and you could go anywhere, where would you go?Read More


Thoughts on the Anniversary of the Murder of Sakia Gunn

Filed by Jessica Max Stein | May 11, 2012 | 6:00 PM | comments

Nearly a decade has passed since Sakia Gunn was killed in an anti-gay attack in Newark. But has anything really changed for the LGBT movement? Read More


My 1969 High School Prom

Filed by Mark Segal | May 10, 2012 | 4:00 PM | comments

As a high school senior, I knew exactly who I was and, like those of my generation, did not completely understand it, but knew enough not to make it public. In those days, you didn't take a same-sex date to the prom, so I didn't participate.Read More

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Indiana PTA Endorses Anti-Bullying Policy to Protect LGBT Students

Filed by Annette Gross | May 09, 2012 | 2:00 PM | comments

The Indiana PTA has taken a giant step forward and passed a resolution at their state conference which says that all schools in Indiana should adopt anti-bullying policies for LGBT students and that these same students deserve to learn in a safe environment.Read More


Indiana Continues to Tacitly Endorse LGBT Teen Bullying

Filed by Bil Browning | May 09, 2012 | 1:00 PM | comments

A bullied Indianapolis teen has been expelled from high school for firing a stun gun into the air after he was surrounded by potential attackers on school property. The sad facts of the situation is this: Indiana government doesn't give one whit about LGBT people.Read More


Snapshots of Austerity: Detachment

Filed by Terrance Heath | May 09, 2012 | 10:00 AM | comments

What's end of the line for austerity? We've gone through despair, desperation, and indifference. The latter feeds the first two, creating "a tinderbox society" resulting in frustration over the inability of most people to get ahead.Read More


5 Shocking Facts About HIV+ Americans

Filed by D Gregory Smith | May 08, 2012 | 5:00 PM | comments

There are some startling new facts about HIV from the CDC. Surprisingly, only 28% of all infected persons in America are considered to have HIV under control.Read More


Wish Me Luck

Filed by Sara Whitman | May 08, 2012 | 3:00 PM | comments

Last night, I did something I don't think I've ever done. I relaxed. Truly, deeply, relaxed. I turned off my phone so there were no updates, texts, calls, games to play.Read More


Emotions After a Lesbian Sperm Ownership Court Battle

Filed by Leslie Robinson | May 08, 2012 | 1:00 PM | comments

When two Canadian lesbians broke up in 2006 they divided all their assets, but forgot about the 13 tubes of sperm they had stored in a sperm bank. Let's listen in as two figures directly involved in the sperm ownership case react.Read More


Self Care for Activists: Robyn Ochs Shows Us How

Filed by Amy Andre | May 07, 2012 | 5:00 PM | comments

"It's not enough just to change our personal relationship to our activism... It's important that we also develop a culture around us into one in which we support and appreciate each another as activists both within and across issues." Read More


Another Trans Health Insurance Victory

Filed by Drew Cordes | May 07, 2012 | 4:00 PM | comments

Beth Scott, a trans woman who was denied coverage by her health insurer for a mammogram, has won her fight against Aetna. Cases like this make up the small footsteps we must take on the path to equal treatment.Read More


N2N Bodywear Photo Shoot [Video]

Filed by James Holmes | May 07, 2012 | 2:00 PM | comments

Monday's suck, so here are some men in underwear to make it better. Read More

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Bullied Gay Teen Faces Expulsion for Firing Stun Gun at School

Filed by Viktor Kerney | May 06, 2012 | 2:00 PM | comments

Darnell Young is a gay teen who has been teased and bullied at school in Indianapolis for months. With no support from the school, Darnell's mother took matters in her own hands - she gave her son a stun gun to protect himself.Read More


Would You Shoot This Elephant?

Filed by James Holmes | May 03, 2012 | 4:00 PM | comments

My post from earlier this week on the founder of Jimmy John's sandwich chain and his lust for big game hunting has spawn a lot of comments from both ends of the animal rights spectrum. So when I saw this video today, I had to post it. Read More


Gay Marriage Hurts My Breasts

Filed by Yasmin Nair | May 02, 2012 | 6:00 PM | comments

Gay marriage is supposed to help my breasts. The gay marriage movement has created a climate where the most progressive people fail to see that healthcare is an economic matter and something that should go to everyone, regardless of their marital status.Read More


Death & the Maiden

Filed by Dr. Jillian T. Weiss | May 02, 2012 | 3:00 PM | comments

A crowd of rowdy, jeering, older white men in night-time Minneapolis, including a vicious racist with a swastika tattooed on his chest, closely surrounded the slight, feminine 23-year old trans woman, moved in, sliced her cheek open with broken glass. And she's the guilty one?Read More


Astroglide: A Product Review

Filed by Bil Browning | May 02, 2012 | 2:00 PM | comments

Back in mid-March, Astroglide sent me a sample bottle of their product and asked me to write a review. I'm not sure if they quite realized what I normally cover, but here's their review - as promised.Read More

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May Day Activists Spotlight the Cece McDonald Case

Filed by Toshio Meronek | May 02, 2012 | 12:00 PM | comments

CeCe McDonald's trial started April 30, but her supporters have been working for months to get the Minnesota judge overseeing her case to drop it. Yesterday, activists brought Ms. McDonald's fight to the May Day protests.Read More


More Than One Reason Not to Eat at Jimmy John's

Filed by James Holmes | May 01, 2012 | 5:00 PM | comments

While I have never been a fan of Jimmy John's sandwiches, I now have even more reason to never eat there again. And neither should you. Read More


I'm Not Sure I'd Make It [What You Need to Know]

Filed by Bil Browning | May 01, 2012 | 3:00 PM | comments

I ran across this photo of a penthouse bathroom in a refurbished building in Guadalajara the other day and knew I had to feature it here.Read More


Queer Contingent to Join LA May Day Parade

Filed by Karen Ocamb | May 01, 2012 | 10:00 AM | comments

A contingent from several LGBT organizations and activists will march in LA's May Day parade today.Read More