Living: September 2012


Reverse or Rebirth?

Filed by Davina Kotulski | September 30, 2012 | 3:30 PM | comments

After getting divorced last year and all that disappears in your life when your marital status changes, it was time for something fresh. New territory has a sort of healing balm to it. Free of haunting memories, life is created anew. Read More

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Trans Women in San Diego Prison Stage Hunger Strike

Filed by Tobi Hill-Meyer | September 30, 2012 | 1:30 PM | comments

Two trans women incarcerated in the R.J. Donovan Correctional Facility in San Diego County have been on hunger strike for over a week in an attempt to be allowed to share a cell together.Read More


Gleam of the Golden Years

Filed by Mark Segal | September 30, 2012 | 12:00 PM | comments

Think about how many times you've heard your friends and family members complain or worry about age. It's one constant we all hear. Well, I'm now officially old, and I'm here to tell you it's not that bad - and can actually be great.Read More


Giving Myself a 40th Birthday Present

Filed by Bil Browning | September 28, 2012 | 11:30 AM | comments

My 40th birthday is coming up ten days. To celebrate, I'm giving myself the best present I can think of. I'm going to stop smoking.Read More


Wake The F*ck Up Edition [What You Need To Know]

Filed by E. Winter Tashlin | September 28, 2012 | 10:00 AM | comments

Barney Frank dives back into racial waters, the Red Planet was once blue, home HIV tests now available, a conservative religious argument for SSM, and more. Plus: Samuel L. Jackson gives us a wakeup call. Read More

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Taking the Good with the Bad in Texas

Filed by Leslie Robinson | September 27, 2012 | 6:00 PM | comments

Here's the latest from Texas, where you win some, and you lose six teeth.Read More


Register to Vote in California Online or Via Smartphone

Filed by Karen Ocamb | September 27, 2012 | 4:00 PM | comments

The main reason people don't register to vote is simply because they were never asked. Now asking will just take a quick email or text message.Read More

KD Lang & Partner Separate

Filed by Bil Browning | September 27, 2012 | 3:00 PM | comments

Singer KD Lang has separated from her domestic partner, Jamie Price. The couple have been together since 2003 and registered a domestic partnership in 2009.Read More


Death By Austerity

Filed by Terrance Heath | September 27, 2012 | 1:30 PM | comments

Americans now stand a greater chance of dying from the effects of austerity than being killed in a car crash. Suicide now kills more Americans than car accidents.Read More


Sex-Crazed SM-ers Edition [What You Need To Know]

Filed by E. Winter Tashlin | September 27, 2012 | 10:00 AM | comments

Dan Savage on Folsom Street Fair, FL hazmat plan held up over non-discrimination, a guide for tribal governments on Two-Spirit & LGBT rights, and more. Plus: a satirical Australian take on opponents of marriage equality. Read More


Not So 'Queer' After All

Filed by E. Winter Tashlin | September 26, 2012 | 2:30 PM | comments

I wrote a year ago about why I felt "queer" was the right word for who I was and how I lived my life. Now I find myself feeling as if I can't continue to identify as "queer" anymore, but what could work better? Read More


End Times Politics

Filed by Guest Blogger | September 26, 2012 | 1:30 PM | comments

While America wrestles with the tragic deaths in Libya and the unrest roiling the Middle East, Christian Zionist pastors such as John Hagee of Cornerstone Church in San Antonio, Texas are using the conflict to feed the ever-present fear and hatred of Muslims.Read More


Brave Little Girl Edition [What You Need To Know]

Filed by E. Winter Tashlin | September 26, 2012 | 10:00 AM | comments

A transgender girl finds acceptance, NOM gives Michelle Bachman their email list, Obama nominates a gay judge, and more. Plus: a young Cher doing a one-woman gender-bending West Side StoryRead More


Marriage at the Ballot: Beth & Valerie in Maine

Filed by Adam Polaski | September 25, 2012 | 2:00 PM | comments

In November, Mainers will be asked to approve the freedom to marry at the ballot. Beth Allen of Mainers United for Marriage and her partner Valerie are one of the couples who will be affected by the vote - read their story.Read More

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Prop 8 Update: Not on SCOTUS List This Week

Filed by Karen Ocamb | September 25, 2012 | 1:00 PM | comments

The US Supreme Court did not include Prop 8 this week on their list of cases to hear.Read More


Fresh Air at 30,000ft Edition [What You Need To Know]

Filed by E. Winter Tashlin | September 25, 2012 | 10:00 AM | comments

Mitt Romney on airplane windows, Paul Ryan on DADT, Minnesota's same-sex-marriage ban amendment, Fred Phelps' son gives an interview to Salon, Andrew Sullivan says Obama could be the Democrats' Reagan, and firefighters talk brotherhood and same-sex-marriage. Read More


How Much Would You Have to Work to Pay Taxes?

Filed by Bil Browning | September 24, 2012 | 5:00 PM | comments

Mitt Romney thinks that the poors should take "personal responsibility" for their lives and pay taxes. How many hours would you have to work at a minimum wage job before you actually pay taxes? The answer will shock you.Read More


Marriage at the Ballot: Lindsey & Jessica in Maryland

Filed by Adam Polaski | September 24, 2012 | 4:00 PM | comments

In November, Marylanders will be asked to uphold the freedom to marry at the ballot for all couples - including Lindsey and Jessica, a beautiful couple who recently bought a house together in Silver Spring, MD.Read More


Zach Wahls Speaks at Obama Fundraiser

Filed by Bil Browning | September 24, 2012 | 11:30 AM | comments

Zach Wahls has been hitting the campaign trail hard on behalf of President Obama. Not only did he speak at the Democratic convention, he's also out on the road talking to voters at smaller events across the country.Read More

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God, Science, & Bigotry Edition [What You Need To Know]

Filed by E. Winter Tashlin | September 24, 2012 | 10:00 AM | comments

A bigoted judging using God and science at the same time to discriminate, Jesse Tyler Ferguson tying a knot for gay marriage, General Mills revealing the impact of NOM's boycott, fabulous anti-bigotry ads from Australia, and more. Read More

Kevin McClatchy, National Coming Out Day, & You

Filed by Guest Blogger | September 23, 2012 | 5:30 PM | comments

Given the various life experience of each of us, everyone's story is going to be different than our own. Fortunately, this is one of those instances where we can joyfully shout: "Vive le diference!"Read More

Straight Spouses: The Collateral Damage of the Ex-Gay Myth

Filed by Michael Hamar | September 23, 2012 | 4:00 PM | comments

A topic that needs more exposure is the damage done to straight spouses who find themselves in marriages to gay/lesbian spouses.Read More

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Meet My (Pro-Equality) Parents: Lyle & Michele Becker

Filed by John M. Becker | September 23, 2012 | 11:30 AM | comments

Their love for each other is an inspiration to Michael and me, and their passion for social justice and equality for all members of the human family is what kindled my own passion for activism. They are true heroes in my book.Read More


DADT Repeal Anniversary

Filed by James Holmes | September 20, 2012 | 3:30 PM | comments

Well it has been a year. The world hasn't ended. The military is still intact. America has not been destroyed. Read More

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This Week at Rancho Bilerico: Visitors Log

Filed by Bil Browning | September 19, 2012 | 3:30 PM | comments

Rancho Bilerico is hopping this week. I've said before that the biggest perk to living in DC now is how many folks come to stay and this is a pretty darn good week in the Projector visitation calendar.Read More


Honey Boo Boo Dubstep Remix & Why I Despise Them Both

Filed by James Holmes | September 19, 2012 | 2:30 PM | comments

Two things I despise remixed into one minute and seven seconds of addictive hell. Read More

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Where Are the Trans 4 Trans Dating Websites?

Filed by Drew Cordes | September 18, 2012 | 4:45 PM | comments

There is no shortage of sites for people looking to date a trans person, but none is tailored for trans people to find other trans people. We're all playing the game on the Away field.Read More


The Power of '8'

Filed by D Gregory Smith | September 18, 2012 | 2:00 PM | comments

I am thrilled to announce that Dustin Lance Black's play "8" will be performed in a staged reading next week at the Bozeman Public Library - and I'm also thrilled that (full disclosure) I'll be reading! Read More


An Invitation to Rupert Everett: Come Meet Our Kids!

Filed by Kergan Edwards-Stout | September 17, 2012 | 3:30 PM | comments

A gay dad responds to Rupert Everett's comment that there is "nothing worse" than being raised by LGBT parents.Read More


What Are Your Superstitions? [Open Thread]

Filed by Bil Browning | September 17, 2012 | 2:30 PM | comments

I have certain rituals that I follow every time I'm getting ready to leave town. As I thought about it, they've become a comforting framework. In short, these patterns have become superstitions.Read More

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Your Constitution Day Primer

Filed by Guest Blogger | September 17, 2012 | 10:30 AM | comments

Here's a quick overview on some of what the Constitution really says as compared to what the GOP and Tea Party would have you believe.Read More


DC Launches New Ad Campaign for Trans Rights & Respect

Filed by Viktor Kerney | September 16, 2012 | 11:00 AM | comments

The D.C. office of Human Rights just launched their first Transgender and Gender Identity Respect Campaign this past Thursday. There will be ads featuring members of the transgender community across bus stops all over DC.Read More


Demand Cameroon Drop Criminal Charges for Gay Text Message

Filed by Joe Mirabella | September 14, 2012 | 2:30 PM | comments

Roger was arrested last year for sending a text message that said, 'I am very much in love with you' to another man. He was charged and convicted under Cameroon's law that criminalizes "homosexual behavior," and sentenced to three years in prison.Read More


Consultant on Anti-Islamic Film Also Anti-Gay, Anti-Mormon

Filed by Karen Ocamb | September 13, 2012 | 5:00 PM | comments

While authorities are investigating the supposed writer/director of the film, "Sam Bacile" - Steven Klein, owner of Wise Insurance Agency in Hemet, says he served as a consultant on the film and has no regrets about the violent outrage. Read More


Not a Good Way to Handle the Situation

Filed by Bil Browning | September 13, 2012 | 2:00 PM | comments

I can understand the frustration of seeing a loved one constantly subjected to anti-gay animus, but attacking the mouthy perpetrator with pepper spray after the event is never a good idea. Especially when you're spraying down a 14 year old girl.Read More


Back to School for Transgender Elementary Students

Filed by Paige Schilt | September 13, 2012 | 10:00 AM | comments

This fall, as elementary-age kids head back to the classroom, some transgender students are returning with more than just new school supplies. For these children, the beginning of the academic year is an opportunity to introduce a new name, new pronouns, and a new social identity.Read More


Gay LA Councilmember Rosendahl Returns to City Hall After Cancer Diagnosis [Video]

Filed by Karen Ocamb | September 12, 2012 | 5:00 PM | comments

Bill Rosendahl returned to City Hall on Tuesday, Sept. 11, where he was greeted with a standing ovationRead More


Sexual Flavors: When You Want Your Penis to Taste Like Mango

Filed by James Holmes | September 12, 2012 | 4:00 PM | comments

Did we really need this? A product to make oral sex taste better? Well, now a fruity penis is a breath strip away. Read More


One Day and a Special Judge

Filed by Norm Kent | September 12, 2012 | 12:30 PM | comments

If you are a kid who grew up in the 1960's, smoking pot in your dorm room and calling for peace and love and truth, days like 9/11 are reminders that the world has grown up, but not the way we planned for it to be.Read More


What Is Appropriate on a Day of Remembrance?

Filed by James Holmes | September 11, 2012 | 6:30 PM | comments

Today I faced an ethical dilemma. In a post written to remember 9/11, pictures were included of victims jumping to their death from the Twin Towers. In the end, I chose not to post them. Read More


Working as a Flight Attendant on 9/11

Filed by Waymon Hudson | September 11, 2012 | 4:00 PM | comments

It's important that we remember what happened and how we reacted as individuals and as a nation, especially in light of the recent abhorrent and repugnant bigotry, divisions, and fear that many have stoked in the name of scoring political points.Read More


Remembering September 11, 2001 in Photos

Filed by Karen Ocamb | September 11, 2012 | 1:30 PM | comments

The big difference between remembering those lost in the horrific Sept. 11, 2001 attacks is that this year, on orders from President Obama, Seal team 6 killed 9/11 mastermind Osama Bin Laden. Read More


Re-Remembering 9/11

Filed by Patrick J Hamilton | September 11, 2012 | 10:00 AM | comments

We mark September 11th with solemnity and remembrance, eleven years after a crisp and horrible September day changed our city, country, the world. But what has looking back taught us about 9/11? What has it taught us about us? Read More

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Trans Activist Leslie Feinberg Re-Charged for Cece McDonald Protest

Filed by Toshio Meronek | September 10, 2012 | 5:00 PM | comments

A Minnesota prosecutor has charged trans author and activist Leslie Feinberg with a "gross misdemeanor" for a solidarity action outside the court where Cece McDonald was being sentenced on June 4. Read More


ACT UP's Robert Navarret Has Died at 72

Filed by Karen Ocamb | September 10, 2012 | 3:00 PM | comments

There is something unfair about AIDS warriors who fought so hard and survived during the worst calamity in LGBT history to die. I know it's unreasonable to think they should have some sort of get-out-of-jail-free card, but longevity ain't too much to ask for.Read More


9/11: Losing Friends, Gaining Empathy

Filed by Kergan Edwards-Stout | September 10, 2012 | 11:00 AM | comments

Our friends Ron Gamboa, Dan Brandhorst, and their young son, David, were on United Airlines Flight 175, the second plane to hit the World Trade Center. The week Bin Laden was killed, I wrote this post...Read More


Be Not Monolithic

Filed by Norm Kent | September 09, 2012 | 10:00 AM | comments

It is not just about being gay. It is about being who you are and doing what you want when you want and where you want.Read More


Missed Opportunity

Filed by Terrance Heath | September 07, 2012 | 2:45 PM | comments

With the 2012 Democratic convention over, it's that kinda day.Read More

Grindr Edition [What You Need to Know]

Filed by Rodrigo Ugarte | September 07, 2012 | 10:00 AM | comments

Grindr may be the key to getting gay men out to vote this November. Learn about important LGBT issues while cruising on your iPhone or Droid. This and more news you need to know!Read More


Personal or Political?

Filed by Terrance Heath | September 06, 2012 | 2:00 PM | comments

From the fortune cookie that came with my lunch.Read More

The Speech I Wish the President Would Give (But He Won't)

Filed by E. Winter Tashlin | September 06, 2012 | 11:00 AM | comments

It's an issue close to the hearts and wallets of many Americans, and one that the new GOP platform attacks, using language written by none other than radical anti-LGBT hate-group president Tony Perkins.Read More


The Bomb Edition [What You Need to Know]

Filed by Joseph Gentile | September 06, 2012 | 10:00 AM | comments

Growing up, I used to be afraid of the telephone. Never did I imagine though that pesky telemarketers literally had it out for me, as one Colorado man did after a bomb threat. Hello, operator? It's what you need to know! Read More


Gender of Novelists in Gay Fiction: Does It Matter?

Filed by Kergan Edwards-Stout | September 05, 2012 | 3:00 PM | comments

More authors in gay fiction are not only using pseudonyms, but actually trying to pass themselves off as gay men in interviews and marketing efforts. Which begs the question, "Does the truth matter when writing fiction?" Read More


A Trans-Warrior Must Reverse Cross Dress?

Filed by Guest Blogger | September 05, 2012 | 11:00 AM | comments

Jenn came out to her commanding general and all the top brass back in May but would have to report to Fort Dix to finalize the paperwork that would officially retire her from the Army. That presented a problem. Read More

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Forward, Not Back Edition [What You Need to Know]

Filed by Rodrigo Ugarte | September 05, 2012 | 10:00 AM | comments

We were reminded last night how important it is to move this country forward. The advances we've made in LGBT issues have been extraordinary and the LGBT delegates continue moving us forward. Now, some more news you need to know!Read More

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'O.S.U. Haters' Shames Bigots With Their Own Words

Filed by E. Winter Tashlin | September 04, 2012 | 5:00 PM | comments

Expressing your opinions on the internet is a lot like picking your nose at a traffic light. You might feel like you're in a private space, but really, everyone can see you.Read More

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Chick-fil-A Brings Hate To Montana (For A Day)

Filed by D Gregory Smith | September 04, 2012 | 4:00 PM | comments

Maybe Chik-fil-A thought no one would notice the hate that's being spread in an out of Montana. Maybe they thought no one would care and a nasty little religious group would rake in some serious cash to spread lies and intolerance. Read More

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Climate Change Republicans Can Believe In

Filed by Joseph Gentile | September 04, 2012 | 3:00 PM | comments

Mitt Romney deeply cares about your family, but apparently not their planet. Questioning the impact of climate change the night before, then pitying its victims the next day, hints at a gathering storm of Republican hypocrisy headed straight for us. Read More


The 'Just Like Me' Fallacy of Same-Sex Intimacy

Filed by E. Winter Tashlin | September 04, 2012 | 1:30 PM | comments

The reality of course, is that not everyone who identifies a certain way, or has a particular anatomy, will find the same things desirable or fulfilling in an erotic or sexual context. Read More


DNC Delegates & Guests Arrive in Charlotte

Filed by Matt Comer | September 04, 2012 | 12:35 PM | comments

LGBT groups begin week with receptions and special welcome parties.Read More


Janet Mock to Keynote LGBTQ Youth Empowerment Conference

Filed by Viktor Kerney | September 04, 2012 | 12:00 PM | comments

Transgender activist Janet Mock will give the keynote speech at the Hispanic Black Gay Coalition's 2012 LGBTQ Youth Empowerment Conference. Janet is a great choice for this conference. Her story is truly inspiring and a grand example of accomplishment.Read More

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Reunion Edition [What You Need to Know]

Filed by Joseph Gentile | September 04, 2012 | 10:00 AM | comments

High school isn't for the faint of heart. It eventually ends for us physically, if not figuratively. However, for the alumni of one Louisiana high school, yesteryear's cliques haven't lost their charm, or color. Who spiked the punch? It's what you need to know! Read More


Labor Day [Open Thread]

Filed by James Holmes | September 03, 2012 | 10:00 AM | comments

How has organized labor affected your life? Are you from a union family? Or do you side with the Republicans' attacks on workers' rights? Helpful or harmful, how are you celebrating American workers today? Read More


A Bad Thing Happened on the Way to the Carousel [Comment of the Week]

Filed by Bil Browning | September 02, 2012 | 6:00 PM | comments

What do you think? Would it be worse if something degrading happened in front of people you know or if it was public humiliation in front of strangers?Read More


Our Decadent Ways & the Weather

Filed by Leslie Robinson | September 02, 2012 | 12:00 PM | comments

Hurricane Isaac, like Hurricane Katrina seven years ago, is our fault. Or else it's a sign that the planners of Southern Decadence need to move it the hell out of hurricane season.Read More

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Ms. Jackson Edition [What You Need to Know]

Filed by Joseph Gentile | September 02, 2012 | 10:00 AM | comments

If I had a nickel for every delusional utterance former Saturday Night Live comedian Victoria Jackson spews forth, I could afford to run for the presidency of the United States. Cha-Ching! It's what you need to know! Read More