Living: July 2013


Why Do Gay Men Date Closet Cases?

Filed by Guest Blogger | July 31, 2013 | 11:30 AM | comments

When is a little less lonesome no longer enough? Where along the way did compromising a serious, full-on committed relationship and accepting fragments of some sort of fictitious affection become appealing to us?Read More


Bradley Manning Verdict [Open Thread]

Filed by John M. Becker | July 30, 2013 | 2:30 PM | comments

Do you agree with today's verdict in the Bradley Manning trial? How much time do you think Manning should serve in prison, if any? And do you view Manning as a hero or a traitor?Read More


What Does Love Look Like After 27 Years?

Filed by Bil Browning | July 29, 2013 | 2:30 PM | comments

Danny and Annie were married for 27 years when they recorded the story of their first date and the subsequent years between.Read More


Suicide: A Love Story

Filed by Mark S. King | July 29, 2013 | 1:00 PM | comments

Suicide was common for gay men in the 1980's. But rather than being a result of bullying or despair, it was very often empowering for AIDS patients to die on their own terms, sometimes with a loved one's assistance.Read More

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Louisiana Police Arresting Gay Men for Consensual Sex

Filed by John M. Becker | July 28, 2013 | 4:30 PM | comments

Sheriff's deputies in East Baton Rouge Parish, Louisiana are targeting and arresting gay men in undercover sex stings, citing the state's unconstitutional sodomy law.Read More

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What You Need To Know (7/21-7/27)

Filed by E. Winter Tashlin | July 27, 2013 | 3:00 PM | comments

Radical Feminists academics declare war on trans* identity, Dr. Turing will be pardoned, an anti-LGBT protest in Haiti leaves two dead, Desmond Tutu would choose hell over a homophobic heaven, and more. Read More


Russian Skinheads Entrapping, Torturing LGBT Teens

Filed by John M. Becker | July 25, 2013 | 4:45 PM | comments

Russian homophobes are creating bogus online personal ads to trick gay men into showing up for a date, then torturing them. Publicly. And the police are letting it happen.Read More

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'Sex By Deception' and the Shades of Yes

Filed by Mercedes Allen | July 25, 2013 | 10:15 AM | comments

Is a person's gender identity a deception? And does failure to disclose one's gender identity invalidate or alter sexual consent?Read More

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Getting Silly With Vodka Without Drinking

Filed by Guest Blogger | July 24, 2013 | 3:30 PM | comments

I don't drink and I don't care what anybody else drinks. Just don't drink the Kool Aid. Read More

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Read: Virginia's Marriage Amendment Challenge

Filed by Michael Hamar | July 24, 2013 | 12:30 PM | comments

Last week a challenge to Virginia's constitutional marriage ban was filed in the U. S. District Court for the Eastern District of Virginia. We have a copy of the complaint.Read More

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Tweet With the Pope, Get Out of Purgatory Faster

Filed by John M. Becker | July 23, 2013 | 6:00 PM | comments

Pope Francis will grant the plenary indulgence to all who participate in World Youth Day in Rio de Janeiro, even if they do so on Twitter. Less time in purgatory, whee!Read More


Was Lucy Lobdell Truly Transgender?

Filed by Guest Blogger | July 23, 2013 | 4:30 PM | comments

One day in 1855, Lucy Ann Lobdell cut her hair, changed clothes and went off to live the rest of her life as a man, making gender history at every turn. Read More

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'Straight Magazine' Isn't So Straight Anymore

Filed by Bil Browning | July 22, 2013 | 4:00 PM | comments

Anyone have any more information about this magazine from the 1950s? While a title like that was a-okay at the time, it definitely doesn't mean the same thing now. Especially not with covers like these!Read More

The Sound of German vs Other Languages

Filed by Bil Browning | July 22, 2013 | 1:00 PM | comments

Any word that's sweet sounding in a Romance language can be turned into a curse or harsh rebuke in German (or Russian).Read More


Dustin Cranor: The Oceans' Advocate

Filed by Jesse Monteagudo | July 21, 2013 | 4:00 PM | comments

One of Cranor's most popular projects is managing Oceana's partnership with the Discovery Channel's annual Shark Week.Read More

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What You Need To Know (7/14-7/20)

Filed by E. Winter Tashlin | July 20, 2013 | 4:00 PM | comments

The Queen signs a same-sex marriage law, violent attacks in Kenya, the history of homosexual panic in Miami, the Illinois Family Institute pushes "ex-gay" therapy, and more. Read More


Lawsuit Filed Challenging Virginia Marriage Ban

Filed by Michael Hamar | July 20, 2013 | 2:00 PM | comments

While LGBT Virginians await the filing of a promised lawsuit by the ACLU challenging the Marshall-Newman Amendment, one Norfolk couple has moved forward on their own and filed a lawsuit yesterday in Norfolk.Read More

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ALEC & the NRA Have Blood on Their Hands

Filed by Terrance Heath | July 19, 2013 | 1:00 PM | comments

Attorney General Holder didn't mention the American Legislative Exchange Council or the National Rifle Association by name, but his words are a reminder of the amount of blood on the hands of both groups.Read More

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'Born This Way' Chronicles Plight of LGBTs in Cameroon

Filed by John M. Becker | July 19, 2013 | 10:00 AM | comments

Slowly but surely and against all odds, brave LGBT Cameroonians are courageously stepping out of the shadows and into the light.Read More

Getting Religion Out of the Marriage Business, Part II

Filed by Michael Knaapen | July 18, 2013 | 11:30 AM | comments

The government getting out of marriage and leaving it to religion would imperil the institution itself. We would have no useful, universal way of understanding marriage across religious and nonreligious lines.Read More

Bigotry Knows No Boundaries: Matthew Shepard & Trayvon Martin

Filed by Rev Irene Monroe | July 18, 2013 | 10:00 AM | comments

A young man has become the symbol of the horrific result of racial stereotyping, and is fast becoming the symbol for a movement. Just as Matthew Shepard's death galvanized a nation, Trayvon Martin's death is doing the same.Read More


Newlywed With Terminal Cancer Hopes to Go to Disneyland

Filed by Karen Ocamb | July 17, 2013 | 4:00 PM | comments

This month, Pam Holt -- terminally ill with cancer, with less than a year to live -- was finally able to marry the love of her life, Helen Anderson. The couple hopes to go on a honeymoon before it's too late.Read More


A Totally Gay Tour of Congressional Cemetery

Filed by Mark S. King | July 17, 2013 | 2:30 PM | comments

You haven't lived until you've hosted a game show in a cemetery. There I was, engaged in complete silliness while standing directly over the remains of more than 25,000 of the dearly departed. And I was doing it with the authorities.Read More

Getting Religion Out of the Marriage Business, Part I

Filed by Michael Knaapen | July 17, 2013 | 11:30 AM | comments

Marriage has molted countless arcane practices and beliefs in each new season of enlightenment, but it still has one prominent vestige to shed: religion. Read More


Pride in the Hamptons

Filed by John M. Becker | July 17, 2013 | 9:30 AM | comments

Earlier this month, Michael and I had the privilege of attending Pride in the Hamptons in beautiful East Hampton, NY. Over $100,000 was raised for Live Out Loud, an LGBT youth organization.Read More

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Thomas Roberts to MSNBC: We Can Do Better

Filed by John M. Becker | July 16, 2013 | 9:30 AM | comments

In an on-air conversation yesterday about the Zimmerman acquittal, MSNBC's Thomas Roberts said that his network should do more to highlight the experiences of groups who are "othered" in American society such as racial minorities, women, and LGBT people.Read More


Trayvon Martin & Black Man 101: The New Curriculum

Filed by Terrance Heath | July 15, 2013 | 5:30 PM | comments

The murder of 15-year-old Trayvon Martin, and the acquittal of his killer, may make it necessary to revise the curriculum for Black Man 101.Read More


Goodbye Corey Monteith: You're the Jazz

Filed by Bil Browning | July 15, 2013 | 3:30 PM | comments

Back in 2009, Glee actor Corey Monteith gave Bilerico Project our first "celebrity endorsement."Read More

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What You Need To Know (7/7-7/13)

Filed by E. Winter Tashlin | July 13, 2013 | 3:00 PM | comments

Orrin Hatch votes for ENDA, the Pennsylvania AG won't defend the state's DOMA, a supercomputer makes progress on HIV, Google raises money for an anti-quality climate denier, and more. Read More

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LGBT Healthcare Takes Giant Leap Forward in 2013

Filed by John M. Becker | July 12, 2013 | 6:00 PM | comments

For the first time, there isn't a single state in the nation without at least one hospital willing to publicly commit to LGBT equality.Read More


Looking Back: Barbara Walters & Harvey Fierstein

Filed by E. Winter Tashlin | July 12, 2013 | 10:00 AM | comments

Some of the questions and a lot of the phrasing and word choices are cringe-worthy by today's standards, but it's clearly a groundbreaking moment.Read More


Because Wet French Twinks Hate Gay Marriage?

Filed by Bil Browning | July 11, 2013 | 6:10 PM | comments

Homophobes are stupid. Now we're forced to watch young, skinny, white, hairless anonymous boys run around flexing their muscles in wet swimsuits. Nothing gay about that.Read More

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An Anti-Voting Rights, Pro-Marriage Equality World

Filed by Rev Irene Monroe | July 11, 2013 | 11:00 AM | comments

The Supreme Court rulings on DOMA, Prop. 8, and the Voting Rights Act force LGBTQ people of color like myself to reside a bifurcated reality in terms of full civil rights protections.Read More

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The Sound of Stigma

Filed by Mark S. King | July 10, 2013 | 5:30 PM | comments

Attitudes about HIV and gay men range from self-righteousness to outright contempt. From whatever our vantage point, we've shamed and stigmatized everyone else into a corner; the result is a community revolting against itself. We are a snake eating its tail.Read More

LGB Transphobia Rearing Its Ugly Head?

Filed by Guest Blogger | July 10, 2013 | 3:30 PM | comments

Was this another case of "transgender exceptionalism"? Read More


Equality, Freedom, & Public Displays of Affection

Filed by Jeff Lutes | July 10, 2013 | 1:30 PM | comments

Do those of you who live in one of the 13 states with marriage equality find it any easier to publicly display affection for the one you love?Read More


Coming Out as a Person of Faith

Filed by Guest Blogger | July 09, 2013 | 11:00 AM | comments

The Coming Out as a Person of Faith exhibit is important because it highlights a group of people often forgotten in the search for LGBTQ rights.Read More

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Civil Unions, Domestic Partnerships Officially Unequal

Filed by John M. Becker | July 09, 2013 | 10:00 AM | comments

The U.S. government just made it crystal clear that "separate but equal" relationship recognition structures are not equal at all.Read More


Back to Christopher Street

Filed by Mark Segal | July 08, 2013 | 2:00 PM | comments

Very few know LGBT history, but GLF NY 1969-71 literally was the foundation that what we have today was built on. Read More

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Gay Country Singer: Gay Men Are Sad, Predatory Drunks?

Filed by Mark S. King | July 08, 2013 | 10:00 AM | comments

If "All-American Boy" singer Steve Grand really wants to challenge stereotypes, why the hell is he portraying gay men as sad, predatory drunks?Read More


Oregon Takes a Step Towards Debt-Free Degrees

Filed by Terrance Heath | July 07, 2013 | 2:00 PM | comments

I got a check from the U.S. Treasury in the mail this week. It was both a surprise and a mystery.Read More


Foreskin Restoration: Becoming Whole Again

Filed by E. Winter Tashlin | July 07, 2013 | 12:00 PM | comments

For a long time, I had a complicated and often unhappy relationship with my penis. But the process of foreskin restoring has made an incredible difference in how I relate to my body and to my sexuality. Read More

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Who Wins When Boxers Smooch?

Filed by Mark S. King | July 07, 2013 | 10:00 AM | comments

Maybe homosexual panic is good for your upper cut?Read More

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What You Need To Know (6/30-7/6)

Filed by E. Winter Tashlin | July 06, 2013 | 4:00 PM | comments

Costa Rica "accidentally" passes marriage equality, a post-Pride bashing in NYC is caught on tape, DC makes changing a birth certificate easier, and more stories you need to know. Read More


Reflecting Community Through Pride

Filed by E. Winter Tashlin | July 05, 2013 | 4:30 PM | comments

Pride shouldn't be a universal experience, it needs to take its cues from the character of the community hosting it.Read More

All-American Boy

Filed by Bil Browning | July 04, 2013 | 9:30 AM | comments

To celebrate, here's Steve Grand's new video "All-American Boy" just in time for the Fourth of July. Interesting side note: Grand's love interest in the video is a porn site model.Read More

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HIV Cures Come With a Price

Filed by D Gregory Smith | July 03, 2013 | 4:30 PM | comments

We've had some excellent news about the curing of HIV-infected people in the past year. But it comes at a price.Read More


Rattled with PTSD: Post Traumatic Snake Disorder

Filed by Rev Irene Monroe | July 03, 2013 | 12:30 PM | comments

This 4th of July there will be no grilling on my back porch. And here's why. Last weekend a red-tailed boa constrictor showed up uninvited at my door.Read More