Marriage Equality: February 2009

This post is a "must read"

Filed by Bil Browning | February 28, 2009 | 7:00 PM | comments

This has been a great week for Bilerico Project. On Tuesday, the Washington Post named us one of four "must read" LGBT blogs "rebooting the gay rights movement in a decentralized, spontaneous, bottom-up way." To prove we've earned the honor,...Read More

James Dobson resigns as chairman of Focus on the Family board

Filed by Bil Browning | February 27, 2009 | 4:00 PM | comments

Oh happy day! James Dobson has stepped down as chairman of the board for Focus on the Family. Conservative evangelical leader James Dobson has resigned as chairman of Focus on the Family but will continue to play a prominent role...Read More

Compromise doesn't happen 5 miles before the finish line if you're serious

Filed by Alex Blaze | February 27, 2009 | 12:00 PM | comments

Laurie Higgins, of the Illinois Family Institute, responded to one of my particularly colorful posts here at Bilerico and called it "deeply troubling." Similar to what my fifth-grade teacher said about me.... Actually, one thing I love about the rightwing...Read More

Stumbling on the way to Equality

Filed by H. Alexander Robinson | February 27, 2009 | 11:00 AM | comments

Like many others who watch political leadership closely, we were initially optimistic about the election of Michael Steele as the chair of the Republican National Committee. Not only did he offer a different face to the party, his profile had...Read More

And Blankenhorn and Rauch think these people will compromise on marriage?

Filed by Pam Spaulding | February 26, 2009 | 5:00 PM | comments

WingNutDaily agrees with Colorado State Senator Scott Renfroe (R) that gays should be put to death. Or, more accurately, "gays," since WND doesn't acknowledge the use of that word as the rest of society does at this point. It's no...Read More

Colorado Republican and Democrat: No HIV screening for sluts!

Filed by Alex Blaze | February 26, 2009 | 10:00 AM | comments

Colorado Senator Dave Schultheis (R-Colorado Springs) is opposed to HIV screening for pregnant women, because if a woman has HIV she's obviously a slut who deserves to die from AIDS: "This stems from sexual promiscuity for the most part, and...Read More


How Gay Marriage Put an End to Gay Sex

Filed by Yasmin Nair | February 25, 2009 | 6:30 PM | comments

As the push for gay marriage becomes more relentless, images of gay men kissing spring up everywhere. But that's where it ends, without the slightest hint of what might come after the kiss. There is nary a whisper about the reality of gay male partnerships.Read More

The Cost of War

Filed by Sara Whitman | February 25, 2009 | 5:30 PM | comments

I'm still digesting the President's speech last night. Mostly, he did a good job being serious, focused and being honest about the problems we face. I found one part of what he said particularly interesting... "We will never again hide...Read More


How they won Prop 8

Filed by Ed Team | February 25, 2009 | 7:30 AM | comments

"The dynamics of the Proposition 8 campaign were unique. We were asking voters for a Yes vote to ban same-sex marriage and restore traditional marriage... We needed to convince voters that gay marriage was not simply "live and let live"--that...Read More

RNC Chair Michael Steele: Gay Rights? Depends on when you ask me...

Filed by Waymon Hudson | February 24, 2009 | 10:00 AM | comments

Michael Steele, the new RNC Chair who has promised an "off the hook" make-over for the Republican Party, can't seem to get all of his issues squared away or remember what he's said in past interviews. Steele, who has a...Read More

No marriage amendment for Indiana but the dollars flow on

Filed by Bil Browning | February 23, 2009 | 7:00 PM | comments

This is almost becoming old hat by now. There will be no marriage amendment voted on this year. The Indiana Family Institute is conceding defeat and while expressing "disappointment" at the Republican Senate leaders' decision not to bring the matter...Read More

There is compromise on this issue, but this isn't it

Filed by Alex Blaze | February 23, 2009 | 5:30 PM | comments

Guest blogger Jack Drescher and Nan Hunter both addressed this recent NY Times column on a supposed compromise on the issue of same-sex marriage. I wanted to address the column from a different point of view, but both of their...Read More

A Plea for Putting Health Care at the Center of Our Movement

Filed by Paige Schilt | February 23, 2009 | 4:30 PM | comments

This past Saturday, I received two telling pieces of mail. The first was a thick package of postcards for the upcoming Philadelphia Trans-Health Conference at the Mazzoni Center. The second was a doctor's bill. My wife, Katy, has rheumatoid arthritis....Read More

Mary J. Brenny: More Important Than The Gay

Filed by Scott Kaiser | February 23, 2009 | 4:00 PM | comments

The following is from a blog post that was forwarded to me by my partner. It was written by JC Christian of the blog Jesus' General. The post illustrates well the absurdity of gay politicians voting against gay issues. I...Read More

The new peace proposal on marriage

Filed by Nan Hunter | February 23, 2009 | 3:00 PM | comments

In today's N Y Times, there is a jointly-authored proposal for a compromise on marriage by David Blankenhorn (self-described liberal anti-gay marriage advocate) and Jonathan Rauch (self-described gay conservative). It's likely to be the beginning of an effort to build...Read More

Prop 8: Our Children's Perspective

Filed by Dana Rudolph | February 23, 2009 | 12:30 PM | comments

If you're like me, you've read an awful lot about Prop 8. While you still want to spread the word to those who need education about it, you're probably getting a bit tired yourself of reading yet another article pro...Read More

And the Winner Is...Gay Marriage! Or: Why Milk and Sean Penn's Acceptance Speech Do not Equal the Need for Gay Marriage

Filed by Yasmin Nair | February 23, 2009 | 11:00 AM | comments

As expected, Milk received major 2008 Oscar awards, including the one for Best Original Screenplay and Best Actor (Sean Penn). And, as I expected, the success of Milk has become, in a bizarre fashion, some kind of emblem for the...Read More

What Would King Solomon Do?

Filed by Guest Blogger | February 23, 2009 | 10:00 AM | comments

Editors' Note: Guest blogger Jack Drescher, M.D. is a psychiatrist and psychoanalyst in private practice in New York City. He is a Distinguished Fellow of the American Psychiatric Association, and presently serves as a Consultant to APA's Committee on Public...Read More

Working Toward a Real Economic Recovery

Filed by Guest Blogger | February 22, 2009 | 2:00 PM | comments

Editors' Note: Guest blogger Rea Carey is the Executive Director of the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force. President Obama just signed the stimulus bill, which holds promise for at least beginning to alleviate some of the hardship inflicted by...Read More

The Curious Case of Bristol Palin

Filed by Kate Clinton | February 22, 2009 | 12:00 PM | comments

My niece declined a glass of wine at dinner, beamed and announced she is pregnant. I am thrilled for her and her husband. I am amazed at the implied optimism - they are going to be able to afford food,...Read More

The Best of Bilerico Project this week

Filed by Bil Browning | February 21, 2009 | 6:00 PM | comments

What a week on Bilerico Project! This week social networking and new media seemed to be the topic everyone was talking about, but we had several great posts on other topics too! Here's the best posts from last week that...Read More

GLAAD: Get on Track and Fight Back!

Filed by Cathy Renna | February 20, 2009 | 3:30 PM | comments

This week, we saw something unprecedented happen in the media. The New York Post apologized (sort of, which for them is saying a lot) for a nasty editorial cartoon by Sean Delonas, a longtime fixture on the editorial page of...Read More

Minnesota's Gay Republican Senator Koering Answers Questions about his Anti-Equality Vote with Nasty Email

Filed by Waymon Hudson | February 20, 2009 | 2:00 PM | comments

Wow. If this is "damage control", I'd hate to see him stick his foot in his mouth! State Sen. Paul Koering, R-Fort Ripley Minnesota, is answering those who are asking him about his statement that he will not vote for...Read More

Not without its share of surprises

Filed by Guest Blogger | February 19, 2009 | 6:30 PM | comments

Editors' Note: Guest blogger George True Simpson is the eCommunications Associate at Equality California and blogs at The California Ripple Effect. Interests include any and all internet fads/trends/memes and harnessing the extraordinary potential of online organizing to advocate for justice...Read More

They are Exactly Who We Said They Were

Filed by Sean Bugg | February 19, 2009 | 2:00 PM | comments

In some of the least surprising news of all time, anti-gay (and primarily Mormon) members of the Utah state legislature have defeated a series of pro-gay bills that would have secured inheritance, medical, adoption and employment rights for gay and...Read More

10,000 Dresses Celebrates Transgender Children

Filed by Dana Rudolph | February 19, 2009 | 2:00 PM | comments

Beginning with the vibrant sunburst and smiling child on its cover, Marcus Ewert's 10,000 Dresses is a joyous book about self-acceptance and identity. It is also the only children's picture book that features an openly transgender protagonist, and does so...Read More

Just Tell Mama

Filed by Father Tony | February 19, 2009 | 12:00 PM | comments

Message: I have worked for the Catholic Church most of my life. I have seen many relationships that were hushed. I do find that the Church is a safe place for the clergy to be a couple, or carry...Read More

It came from the bog... it's OCTO-MOM!!!!!

Filed by Jason Tseng | February 19, 2009 | 10:00 AM | comments

To say that the media blitz surrounding Nadya Suleman and the recent birth of her eight children (of fourteen) has been monumentous would be an understatement. Accusations of everything from an unhealthy obsession with motherhood and clinical insanity to criminal...Read More

Bending the Law

Filed by Dana Rudolph | February 18, 2009 | 5:00 PM | comments

"Family law is very vague," says Kimberly Richman, an associate professor of sociology and legal studies at the University of San Francisco. "That leaves room for a lot of open interpretation." In her new book, Courting Change: Queer Parents, Judges,...Read More

The Next Governor of Indiana

Filed by Douglas Meagher | February 17, 2009 | 9:30 PM | comments

Right now the idea of enduring another political campaign sounds about as appealing as listening to fingernails on a chalkboard, but Election Day 2012 is a mere forty-five months away. Never mind that we'll have elections in 2010 and 2011,...Read More

Things that make you go HUH?: Minnesota's gay Republican will not vote for marriage equality bill

Filed by Waymon Hudson | February 17, 2009 | 6:00 PM | comments

Can someone please explain this "logic" to me? From the Minnesota Independent (via Pam's House Blend & Tips-Q): State Sen. Paul Koering, R-Fort Ripley, told KLKS on Friday that he will not vote for the Marriage and Family Protection Act,...Read More

ACTION: Urge Mayor Fenty to Recognize Gay Relationships

Filed by Michael Crawford | February 17, 2009 | 12:30 PM | comments

LGBT activists are calling on D.C. Mayor Adrian Fenty to recognize marriages, civil unions and domestic partnerships legally performed in other jurisdictions as domestic partnerships in the District. The D.C. City Council passed a law last year giving the mayor...Read More

Raleigh, Charlotte dioceses pushing same-sex celibacy, NC marriage amendment

Filed by Pam Spaulding | February 16, 2009 | 5:30 PM | comments

And the Catholic church wonders why people are leaving in droves. This article turned up in Sunday's edition of the News & Observer. The Raleigh diocese is launching a Courage ministry to "help" gay and lesbians pray away same-sex attractions....Read More

I don't agree with that Suze Orman video everyone loves!

Filed by Alex Blaze | February 16, 2009 | 4:30 PM | comments

Can we admit, as LGBT people, that this makes no sense? In my opinion it is such a travesty that, a few months ago, Proposition 8, in California, passed. Proposition 2, in Florida, passed. What is that about, everybody? We...Read More

The Time to Wait is Over

Filed by Sean Bugg | February 16, 2009 | 3:00 PM | comments

I'm old enough to remember the days when government and citizens firmly believed that homosexuals shouldn't be in government or military service because their perverted lifestyles meant they could be blackmailed and attacked by the nation's enemies. These being more...Read More

Suze Orman on Marriage Equality

Filed by Michael Crawford | February 16, 2009 | 6:30 AM | comments

Suze Orman makes a powerful case for marriage equality in this clip from her show. By being denied the freedom to marry in 48 states and being denied the federal rights and responsibilities of marriage nationwide, same-sex couples are put...Read More

What about the freedom NOT to marry?

Filed by Nancy Polikoff | February 15, 2009 | 4:00 PM | comments

Freedom to Marry week garnered more attention than usual this year, no doubt a result of all the attention to California's Prop 8 and the litigation challenging it. Most Freedom to Marry activists say they want same-sex couples to have...Read More

President Clinton Sleeps With The Wrong People (Again)

Filed by Jeremy Bishop | February 14, 2009 | 5:30 PM | comments

LGBT-Rights Pioneer, Cleve Jones recently posted to The Huffington Post an article entitled, "What Would Harvey Milk Say About President Clinton's Speech at the Manchester Hyatt?" In it, Jones states, "This Sunday, President Clinton is scheduled to give a paid...Read More

Tell President Clinton He Is Wrong

Filed by Bo Shuff | February 14, 2009 | 11:30 AM | comments

The Courage Campaign has done a great job harnessing the reaction to the passage of Prop 8. Today they bring to light that former President Clinton will headline an event at a hotel that is not only in dispute with...Read More

Robin and Diane Get Married for You

Filed by Karen Ocamb | February 14, 2009 | 10:00 AM | comments

Robin Tyler and Diane Olson seem drawn to the Beverly Hills Courthouse, having filed the first lawsuit challenging California's marriage laws shortly after being denied a marriage license there on Feb. 12, 2004. That lawsuit was folded into the historic...Read More

Ken Starr's fudging the truth about Prop 8

Filed by Alex Blaze | February 12, 2009 | 4:00 PM | comments

David Hart finds this interesting quotation from Ken Starr, the man who held the nation hostage with his obsession with Bill Clinton's sex live: "What is being argued before the California Supreme Court is: Do the people have power under...Read More


Ken Starr doesn't really care about marriage or gays

Filed by Ed Team | February 12, 2009 | 7:30 AM | comments

"What is being argued before the California Supreme Court is: Do the people have power under the California constitution to amend the constitution so as to overturn a specific decision of the California Supreme Court? It's a very important but...Read More

Lobbying 101

Filed by Guest Blogger | February 11, 2009 | 1:30 PM | comments

Editors' note: Frequent guest blogger Monica Helms is the president of the Transgender Americans Veterans Association. 'Tis the season where new Senators and Representatives begin getting used to their new jobs, while the cherry blossoms bloom in the springtime. Capital...Read More

Marriage Equality and the Protection of Children

Filed by Dana Rudolph | February 10, 2009 | 3:30 PM | comments

This seemed appropriate for Freedom to Marry Week. It first appeared in slightly modified form at Denying marriage to same-sex couples harms our children. So said the New Jersey Civil Union Review Commission, which published its final report at...Read More

Sturm und Drang

Filed by Alex Blaze | February 10, 2009 | 12:00 PM | comments

I posted, elsewhere, a couple months ago, and I mentioned without even thinking about it that there was no guarantee that the US was going to get more queer-accepting in the future, and, if it did, that it would remain...Read More

Really? Michelle Malkin is complaining about this one?

Filed by Alex Blaze | February 09, 2009 | 5:00 PM | comments

Both opponents of Prop 8 in California and Amendment 2 in Florida have set up websites to show the names of donors and their zip code based on information given to their respective states' secretaries of state. The NY Times...Read More

Freedom To...Starve?

Filed by Rebecca Juro | February 09, 2009 | 2:30 PM | comments

I don't know about you, but I'm long past sick of the elitist tunnelvision of these so-called marriage equality advocates. America is in the beginnings of a massive recession. Americans are losing their jobs by the millions. LGB and especially...Read More

Blog for Freedom to Marry Week: The Only Agenda Is Love

Filed by Dana Rudolph | February 09, 2009 | 10:00 AM | comments

Please join a blogswarm for the Freedom to Marry! Today, bloggers in the LGBT community and our allies will be participating in "The Only Agenda Is Love," a blogswarm in support of Freedom to Marry Week. By being a part...Read More


Better Know a Contributor: Dana Rudolph

Filed by Father Tony | February 08, 2009 | 7:00 PM | comments

Editor's Note: You've seen Steven Colbert's "Better Know a Lobbyist," but our version is so much gayer! Each weekend, we spotlight a different TBP contributor. This week, I've tagged our delightful Dana Rudolph with ten questions. In addition to being...Read More

Regarding that video ...

Filed by Jessica Hoffmann | February 08, 2009 | 5:30 PM | comments

Regarding that video, Please don't forget to be critical about marriage. Please love the weirdo queers, too. Please don't exclusively equate love with long-term, two-party commitment. Or atomized nuclear families. Please don't think assimilation + inclusion are justice + freedom....Read More

Point: The Matthew Shepard Act will show that hate is not tolerated

Filed by Mercedes Allen | February 08, 2009 | 1:00 PM | comments

I'm not one to believe that legislation is a be-all and end-all solution to the troubles that plague us, but it can be a necessary step in order to achieve equality in spirit. Hate crime laws exist because assumed and...Read More

Invalidate Prop 8

Filed by Michael Crawford | February 08, 2009 | 10:30 AM | comments

I don't know how anyone can look at the divorce video by Courage Campaign and say "I'm not political." The video which has been viewed nearly 100,000 times puts a face to the 18,000 married same-sex couples in California facing...Read More

1989 ACT UP marriage demonstration

Filed by Bil Browning | February 08, 2009 | 7:00 AM | comments

WCBS-TV New York, Channel 2 News coverage of ACT UP protest at Manhattan's marriage license bureau in 1989. The report features an on-camera interview with former Lambda Defense and Education Fund executive director, the late Thomas B. Stoddard. As...Read More

Marriage Equality News from Vermont

Filed by Ellen Andersen | February 07, 2009 | 2:30 PM | comments

All hail from the wonderfully snowy Vermont! I've been AWOL from Bilerico ever since my move this summer (sorry Bil and Alex!), but I'm back with some pretty exciting news to report. Yesterday, a marriage equality bill (H. 178) was...Read More

Map Showing Supporters of Florida's Amendment 2 Hits the Web

Filed by Waymon Hudson | February 07, 2009 | 1:00 PM | comments

Financial supporters of Florida's Amendment 2, the dangerously worded constitutional amendment banning same-sex marriage in the state, may now have their day in the sunshine. A new website called has launched with a handy, searchable database and map so...Read More

Equality California Sponsors Lobby Day Urging Invalidation of Proposition 8

Filed by Father Tony | February 07, 2009 | 10:00 AM | comments

Equality California is sponsoring Lobby Day at the California State Capitol. There will be training, rallying, meetings with legislators and much more. Details after the jump....Read More

A Question of Religion

Filed by Waymon Hudson | February 06, 2009 | 1:30 PM | comments

I'll be the first to admit that I have a long and messy history with organized religion. Having been chased out of the Southern Pentecostal church I grew up in for at first asking too many questions, then for coming...Read More

A casual chat with NGLTF's Ex Dir Rea Carey

Filed by Bil Browning | February 05, 2009 | 3:30 PM | comments

Rea Carey is one of my favorite people, so I should warn you that in this interview I'm pretty casual as versus some of the other interviews I did that were more formal. Rea "gets it" and unlike a few...Read More

Something's Up in Colorado

Filed by Nancy Polikoff | February 05, 2009 | 2:30 PM | comments

Thanks to my colleague, Tony Varona, for alerting me to new legislation introduced in Colorado allowing two unmarried people to designate each other as entitled to make medical decisions, inherit, sue for wrongful death, and more, through use of a...Read More

Taking Out the Trash

Filed by Father Tony | February 05, 2009 | 11:00 AM | comments

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Gay Penguins Get Married

Filed by Prince Gomolvilas | February 05, 2009 | 10:00 AM | comments

Remember that pair of male penguins who tried to become daddies by stealing other penguins' eggs? And remember how the Chinese zoo in which they live ultimately let them adopt two of them? Well, since the incredibly gay duo have...Read More

Ted Haggard issues with his homosexuality

Filed by Rev Irene Monroe | February 04, 2009 | 6:00 PM | comments

After a publicity junket promoting the HBO documentary The Trials of Ted Haggard, which landed him on Oprah and Larry King Live fallen evangelical star Haggard has risen from public obscurity to tell us he's not gay - he's "heterosexual...Read More

20% of same-sex couples in Oregon got registered

Filed by Alex Blaze | February 04, 2009 | 5:00 PM | comments

From A year after Oregon established a domestic partner registry, about 2,600 Oregon same-sex couples - about one in five - have registered.[...] Under the partnership law, couples who register are guaranteed the right to visit partners in hospital...Read More

The Peter is flipping out about the gay nom for Office of Personnel Management

Filed by Pam Spaulding | February 03, 2009 | 6:00 PM | comments

As Josh at Right Wing Watch puts it, Peter LaBarbera sees the nomination of openly gay John Berry to head up the Office of Personnel Management as some sort of "gay mole", one with a sinister plot to homosexualize the...Read More

LGBT Parenting Roundup

Filed by Dana Rudolph | February 03, 2009 | 5:00 PM | comments

Assorted recent news about LGBT families: California's KNBC-TV refused to air an ad during the Super Bowl from, featuring a gay family. They say the NFL Legal Department considered the ad "advocacy," and would not let it run. During...Read More

Creating Change Plenary Speech on HIV/AIDS

Filed by Guest Blogger | February 03, 2009 | 12:30 PM | comments

Editor's Note: Kenyon Farrow is an organizer, communications strategist and writer working on issues at the intersection of HIV/AIDS, prisons and homophobia. A current Policy Institute fellow with the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force, Farrow is working on a...Read More

API Equality Celebrates Chinese Lunar New Year

Filed by Karen Ocamb | February 03, 2009 | 10:00 AM | comments

The 10th annual Golden Dragon Parade through Chinatown in downtown Los Angeles is one of the most colorful celebrations in a city renown for its colorful creativity. And for the fourth year in a row, API Equality participated in the...Read More

Mormon Church Spent More to Pass Prop 8 Than It Originally Reported

Filed by Michael Crawford | February 02, 2009 | 5:00 PM | comments

Props to Pam Spaulding for bringing this to our attention: Six weeks into an investigation by California's Fair Political Practices Commission, the Church of Latter-Day Saints has admitted that it spent nearly $188,000 more on the campaign to approve Proposition...Read More

No thaw in Icelandic-Hoosier relationships

Filed by Don Sherfick | February 02, 2009 | 9:45 AM | comments

The news from Iceland about that tiny North Atlantic island just naming the world's first openly lesbian head of state has no doubt sent chilling winds blowing through the halls of the Indiana General Assembly. No doubt, the same lawmakers...Read More

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An Open Letter to the Citizens and Elected Official in the Great State of California

Filed by Guest Blogger | February 01, 2009 | 4:00 PM | comments

Editors' Note: Guest blogger Carlos Mock, MD has published three books and is the Floricanto Press editor for its GLBT series. He was inducted in the Chicago Gay & Lesbian Hall of Fame in October of 2007. He grew up...Read More

"Domestic Partnership" Does Not Equal Marriage

Filed by Michael Crawford | February 01, 2009 | 11:30 AM | comments

An editorial on marriage in the Portland Press Herald laid out in the clearest language possible why the debate around relationship recognition should about marriage and not just the collection of rights and responsibilities accessed through marriage. A domestic partnership...Read More