Marriage Equality: May 2009

The Lambda Literary Foundation honors the shy, the wry and the sly in NY (with the help of many a Bilerico guy)

Filed by Father Tony | May 31, 2009 | 7:00 PM | comments

On Thursday, May 28th, I attended the 21st Annual Lambda Literary Awards, gladly scooping up the invitation from Charles Flowers, Executive Director of the Lambda Literary Foundation, to Bilerico. Like all bloggers, I have my literary heroes, some of the...Read More

Non-travelogue: Istanbul, Turkey

Filed by Alex Blaze | May 31, 2009 | 5:30 PM | comments

Back in February, I took a week off this site and went on down to Istanbul with Alberto. Well, I had to tell Bil where I was going, and he mentioned the Four Lads song, famously covered by They Might...Read More

Beyond the Matthew Shepard Act: A Conversation Worth Listening To

Filed by Guest Blogger | May 31, 2009 | 11:30 AM | comments

Rachel Segal-Sklar is a sophomore at Skidmore College, and co-creator of the Skid TV/Youtube series: SEXILED. Monday night on May 18th, the New York City Anti-Violence Project's Heroes Council held a very interesting and rousing conversation between Judy Shepard, mother...Read More


Not If, but When

Filed by Ed Team | May 31, 2009 | 7:30 AM | comments

"As an African-American, I urge my own people to take a deep look at our own struggles and not wish them upon anyone else. Simply, civil rights for all is about being connected as humans, united, tolerant, loving and brave....Read More

From chicken butt to shaving your bush

Filed by Bil Browning | May 30, 2009 | 6:00 PM | comments

It was a week chock full of discussion, gossip and news on Bilerico sites this week. From the Prop 8 decision to Alex's birthday, we've got plenty to enjoy. Here's the best from this week: Friday Shaving the bush makes...Read More

The scandalous details of the antichrist's sex life

Filed by Alex Blaze | May 29, 2009 | 2:00 PM | comments

Several events last year, like Sarah Palin's nomination and Ted Stevens's prosecution, gave America a crash-course in Alaskan politics. It turns out it's not just another state up there - it's another planet. Well, Don Sherfick sent me this link...Read More

New York court hurts children of lesbian parents again

Filed by Nancy Polikoff | May 29, 2009 | 1:30 PM | comments

Since the disgraceful case of Alison D. almost 20 years ago, New York courts have closed their doors to nonbiological mothers seeking visitation rights with their child after the couple splits up. Doesn't matter if the child knows she has...Read More

"No Excuses. No Delays." Do we really mean it?

Filed by Nadine Smith | May 29, 2009 | 12:30 PM | comments

At a recent speaking engagement, I asked a group of people what the world would be like if from the day they were born prejudice had never touched their lives. No homophobic bullying in school. Supportive families at homes No...Read More

Parental Rights Clause Gives the Right a New Weapon Against Diversity

Filed by Mercedes Allen | May 29, 2009 | 10:30 AM | comments

On Thursday May 28th, The Alberta Government passed Bill 44, which makes changes to the Province's Human Rights Act. Bill 44 includes a proposal to extend to parents the right to exempt their children from any teaching about "subject-matter that...Read More


A Historical Parallel

Filed by Ed Team | May 29, 2009 | 7:30 AM | comments

"In my mind, it's not that different from Plessy v. Ferguson's tragic "separate but equal" ruling that confronted my great-grandfather and millions of other African-Americans looking for simple equality in the late 1890s." --Carlos Watson, MSNBC anchor and founder of...Read More

Sex with ducks

Filed by Bil Browning | May 29, 2009 | 7:00 AM | comments

Pat Robertson once said that allowing gay marriage would lead to sex with ducks. I guess he was right after all... (Hat tip to Projector Mike R)...Read More

Solidarity? I think knot

Filed by Alex Blaze | May 28, 2009 | 2:30 PM | comments

I'm just sick of these people who think that the LGBT movement is just a chance to make money: LEVI'S is getting in the spirit of the season by dressing its storefront mannequins in white. In Levi's-owned stores in New...Read More

More on the federal suit for marriage

Filed by Alex Blaze | May 28, 2009 | 11:30 AM | comments

As I posted yesterday, I'm not at all optimistic about the federal suit filed to overturn Proposition 8 (and legalize same-sex marriage). Yes, I think these folks are right in that equal protection and due process should mean that everyone...Read More

Prop 8: The Think Positive Edition

Filed by Dana Rudolph | May 28, 2009 | 9:30 AM | comments

The blogosphere is awash in news and analysis of Prop 8. I'm working on a more thoughtful piece of my own, but in the meantime, I wanted to highlight a few of the more positive pieces I've found. Call me...Read More


We Are Winning

Filed by Ed Team | May 28, 2009 | 7:30 AM | comments

"We witnessed an eighteen point shift in favor of gay marriage in California in just eight years. We can move another four points. We just have to stay in the fight and remind ourselves and each other that we are...Read More

Prop 8 is a Distraction, or: NOW can we Dump Gay Marriage as a Cause?

Filed by Yasmin Nair | May 27, 2009 | 7:30 PM | comments

Note from Bil: I've pushed Yasmin's post back up to the top because comments are still going strong, but it had fallen pretty far down the page. I've pushed it back up so others can check out the conversation and...Read More

Black and gay -- and reclaiming 'civil rights'

Filed by Pam Spaulding | May 27, 2009 | 5:00 PM | comments

Note from Pam: OK, I know people can be hesitant to jump into a thread that touches upon race. Don't let it become an orphan thread. Speak your mind - be part of the solution of open communication, not part...Read More

Proposition Hate Redux

Filed by Rev Irene Monroe | May 27, 2009 | 4:00 PM | comments

The California Supreme Court ruled again on same-sex marriage. This time it did to uphold Proposition 8, restricting marriage to one man and one woman. In a 6-to-1 decision the justices decided that Proposition 8 would remain part of the...Read More

Prop 8 Decision: We Won't Back Down

Filed by Joe Solmonese | May 27, 2009 | 2:30 PM | comments

The California Supreme Court ruling brings bitter news: Proposition 8 will stand. While we take some solace that the loving couples who did marry in California will stay married, an estimated one million more individuals have been denied that dignity...Read More

The Prop 8 Ruling: Discrimination as a Constitutional Principle

Filed by Guest Blogger | May 27, 2009 | 2:00 PM | comments

Editors' note: Editors' Note: Guest blogger Greta Christina is editor of the new anthology, "Best Erotic Comics," and "Paying For It: A Guide by Sex Workers for Their Clients," a book of advice for sex work customers, written by sex...Read More

Prop 8 Decision a Major Blow, Silver Lining Remains

Filed by Guest Blogger | May 27, 2009 | 1:00 PM | comments

Editor's Note: Howard L. Simon is executive director of the American Civil Liberties Union of Florida. The disappointing decision by the California Supreme Court is but one step back in the midst of a human rights revolution for gays and...Read More

Federal case to overturn Prop 8

Filed by Alex Blaze | May 27, 2009 | 12:00 PM | comments

The Advocate is reporting that a new org, the American Foundation for Equal Rights, has filed a federal equal protection suit to overturn Prop 8, and, as Salon is reporting, to overturn marriage bans everywhere. I'm sure we'll find out...Read More

How The Mormon (Grinch) Stole Everything

Filed by Bil Browning | May 27, 2009 | 10:30 AM | comments

The Big Gay Sketch Show put out their first animated short yesterday. They call it, "How the Mormon Stole Everything," but I rather like "The Grinch Stole Marriage!" *grins* More Gay & Lesbian Video At More

Reactions to Prop 8 court decision

Filed by Karen Ocamb | May 27, 2009 | 9:30 AM | comments

The reactions to the California Supreme Court decision upholding Prop 8 continue to pour in. Here are some highlights: Whte House spokesperson Robert Gibbs: "I have not talked to the president about it. I think the issues that ... the...Read More

We Lost... For Now

Filed by Sara Whitman | May 26, 2009 | 7:30 PM | comments

I have never been a graceful loser. I have, however, learned a few things about patience and strategy in my life that has made losing a little easier to take. The California court ruled to keep some marriages, take away...Read More

Equality California says go back to the ballot in 2010

Filed by Karen Ocamb | May 26, 2009 | 7:00 PM | comments

I'm trying to pull together a wide selection of reactions to the Prop 8 ruling - - but this just landed in my email and I wanted to share it right away. This is from Equality California Executive Director Geoff...Read More

California's Prop 8: Limited Edition Married Gays, Still Separate and NOT EQUAL

Filed by Waymon Hudson | May 26, 2009 | 6:00 PM | comments

My head is spinning. After the long wait, the decision on Prop 8 has come. It was something my husband and I were watching very closely, since we are 1 of the 18,000 couples married in California while it was...Read More

Prop 8 reaction from South LA

Filed by Karen Ocamb | May 26, 2009 | 3:00 PM | comments

The room at the Lucy Florence Café in South Los Angeles was packed with reporters listening to prayers from religious leaders from across the religious spectrum. At 10 o'clock - the room fell still until a reporter announced the ruling...Read More

California Court upholds Prop 8

Filed by Father Tony | May 26, 2009 | 1:30 PM | comments

Wake up, South Florida. If you don't make some noise, you will never have what was just lost in California, where at least the 18,000 gay marriages that were made before Prop8 are still valid. Here is the ruling in...Read More

United We Mourn, United We Stand

Filed by Kate Kendell | May 26, 2009 | 1:30 PM | comments

Today, the California Supreme Court diminished its legacy as a champion of equality. By upholding Prop 8, an initiative that stripped the right to marry from same-sex couples in California, the Court's decision has undermined the central principle that all...Read More

California Supreme Court Upholds Proposition 8

Filed by Alex Blaze | May 26, 2009 | 1:00 PM | comments

Updated below the jump The California Supreme Court just ruled that Prop 8 is a fully legal amendment to the constitution. Watch out for your rights, other minorities, because they're all up for a vote now. Same-sex marriages that were...Read More

What will marriage equality supporters do during the Prop 8 rallies?

Filed by Pam Spaulding | May 26, 2009 | 12:00 PM | comments

As we await the 1PM ET ruling on the constitutionality of Prop 8, here is a thoughtful piece by Christopher [email protected] Law Dork. He discusses the forthcoming Prop 8 ruling by the California Supreme Court and the possible reactions in...Read More

Memorial Day with the family

Filed by Cathy Renna | May 26, 2009 | 11:00 AM | comments

My family ended up having the most " traditional" Memorial Day I could think of - completely unplanned. While visiting a cousin in Fallas Church, Virginia we decided to take in the the local fair and parade. It was like...Read More

Obama nominates Sonia Sotomayor for Supreme Court

Filed by Alex Blaze | May 26, 2009 | 10:20 AM | comments

Updated after the jump Obama just announced that he nominates Sonia Sotomayor to replace Souter on the Supreme Court later this year. I'm elated by his decision here on civil rights and civil liberties issues, but I'm not finding much...Read More

Jesus Christ took away my Sin Freedom

Filed by Zac Hart | May 26, 2009 | 8:00 AM | comments

(Please note this article was written BEFORE the official decision by the CA Supreme Court was released. Any views expressed in this entry may not hold true depending on whether Prop8 is upheld or not) Today is D-Day for the...Read More


California Marriage Equality: First Opinion

Filed by Ed Team | May 26, 2009 | 7:30 AM | comments

"Affording same-sex couples access only to the separate institution of domestic partnership, and denying such couples access to the established institution of marriage, properly must be viewed as impinging upon the right of those couples to have their family relationship...Read More

Best heterosexual wedding video?

Filed by Bil Browning | May 26, 2009 | 7:00 AM | comments

Brian & Eileen's Wedding Music Video. from LOCKDOWN projects on Vimeo. Hopefully our brothers and sisters in California will have the same chance to make one of these videos after the Supreme Court rules this afternoon. This wedding video from...Read More

The Master's Tools, Pt. 2

Filed by Terrance Heath | May 24, 2009 | 2:30 PM | comments

(Read part 1.) For the master's tools will never dismantle the master's house. They may allow us temporarily to beat him at his own game, but they will never enable us to bring about genuine change. ~ Audre Lourde The...Read More

Opposing gay marriage for all the wrong reasons

Filed by Alex Blaze | May 24, 2009 | 1:00 PM | comments

Via LaFeminista, here's a particularly bizarre article in opposition to same-sex marriage. The writer, who is neither a historian nor social scientist, nor a lawyer, has taken it upon himself to prove that there are reasons to oppose same-sex marriage...Read More

California: Families, No Matter What the Court Rules

Filed by Sara Whitman | May 24, 2009 | 11:30 AM | comments

It's quiet today, minus the cats howling at my ankles looking for food. The sun is out, and we have many projects around the house lined up. Zachary is off at a sleep over, Ben just rolled out of bed,...Read More

Chock full of Bilerico goodness

Filed by Bil Browning | May 23, 2009 | 6:00 PM | comments

It was a week chock full of discussion, rumors and important announcements on Bilerico sites this week. From Sara Whitman's announcement that she's moving to Bilerico Project as her full-time blog home to Prop 8 rumors and finding out when...Read More


Core Values

Filed by Ed Team | May 23, 2009 | 7:30 AM | comments

"I believe that allowing gays and lesbians the freedom to marry is an idea whose time has come. Though my opinion is no doubt influenced by my family's public role in political life, I still approach this from personal experience,...Read More

The Master's Tools

Filed by Terrance Heath | May 22, 2009 | 4:00 PM | comments

For the master’s tools will never dismantle the master’s house… ~ Audre Lourde That’s for Marion Barry, a number of D.C.’s black ministers, and many African-Americans who seem to need the reminder. When the D.C. city council voted to...Read More

Should we march on Washington? What would we march for?

Filed by Alex Blaze | May 22, 2009 | 11:00 AM | comments

Over these past few weeks, we've seen building pressure on Obama to act on his LGBT promises from the campaign trail. More and more high-profile military officers have been discharges, two laws related to LGBT benefits and rights were proposed...Read More

A Conversation with the Chair: Seeking Quality Part 3

Filed by Bo Shuff | May 21, 2009 | 12:00 PM | comments

This is an ongoing series that began at Bears Left. This is part three and was originally published on May 18th. Further posts will be simultaneous. Today I sat down with Chris Redfern, Chairman of the Ohio Democratic Party to...Read More

Two marriage items: Back to committee in New Hampshire and California ruling delayed by Gavin Newsom

Filed by Alex Blaze | May 20, 2009 | 5:30 PM | comments

UPDATED: Gavin Newsom's office is denying the charges published by Towleroad. Their statement added to the end of the post. The New Hampshire house has sent the amendment to create a religious exemption to their same-sex marriage bill back to...Read More

Senator Duane: Where are you on New York State's Gender Expression Non-Discrimination Bill?

Filed by Dr. Jillian T. Weiss | May 20, 2009 | 3:30 PM | comments

It was hot weather when I met Senator Tom Duane at a picnic last summer up in Sullivan County, New York, where my partner and I live. I shook his hand and asked him about the New York State Gender...Read More

Equality for All Now: The Dallas Principles...join us.

Filed by Pam Spaulding | May 20, 2009 | 2:30 PM | comments

There were a lot of things I could have done this past weekend. Get to that pile of laundry, hit the pillow for some sorely-needed shut-eye, and, of course, spend quality time with my wife. But I hopped on...Read More

What does the NH religious exemption mean?

Filed by Nan Hunter | May 19, 2009 | 5:30 PM | comments

Today the New Hampshire state Senate Judiciary Committee is expected to add the language that Governor Lynch has requested to an unrelated bill and bring it to the full Senate for a vote tomorrow. If it passes the Senate, the...Read More

Is In re Marriage Cases the new Roe v. Wade?

Filed by Alex Blaze | May 19, 2009 | 2:30 PM | comments

Does anyone else get the feeling that the Republicans are now just throwing out whatever stupid strategy pops into their head and seeing what sticks? Because the Washington Post is reporting that same-sex marriage might become the new flashpoint for...Read More

"Yasmin Nair: Eat This!" Or: How to Leave Comments Without Going up In Flames

Filed by Yasmin Nair | May 19, 2009 | 1:00 PM | comments

I recently began my stint as a regular contributor on The blog, devoted to queers and money, has a tagline that reads: "We're here, we're queer, and we're not going shopping without coupons." My first post was about the...Read More

Gibbs dodges on DOMA question

Filed by Bil Browning | May 19, 2009 | 7:00 AM | comments

Advocate reporter Kerry Eleveld was able to ask White House Press Secretary Robert Gibbs a question at yesterday's daily press briefing. He asked about the Defense of Marriage Act and Gibbs' answer is stunning in its simplicity....Read More

Contrast: NY marriage rallies

Filed by Eric Leven | May 18, 2009 | 6:30 PM | comments

The contrast between two marriage rallies yesterday in NYC couldn't have been greater. In the early part of the day I jumped uptown to attend an anti-marriage equality rally organized mostly by a group of Hispanic and Latino church goers...Read More

Bits and Bytes

Filed by Bil Browning | May 18, 2009 | 1:00 PM | comments

A few things worth mentioning early on a Monday afternoon: Has same-sex marriage replaced abortion as the Supreme Court litmus test? Pennsylvania will become the 16th state to offer domestic partner benefits to state employees, beginning July 1, 2009. The...Read More

Michael Steele, I'm unimpressed

Filed by Alex Blaze | May 17, 2009 | 5:30 PM | comments

Michael Steele thinks he's going to blow us away with a new argument against same-sex marriage that pretty much amounts to "Equal pay for equal work is too expensive, so we have to preserve a two-tier system of benefits distribution."...Read More

Five Years Later: Proof Positive

Filed by Dana Rudolph | May 17, 2009 | 4:00 PM | comments

May 17, 2004: The first legal marriages of same-sex couples in Massachusetts. Still locust-free here in the Bay State....Read More

Meanwhile in Moscow

Filed by Father Tony | May 17, 2009 | 12:00 PM | comments

While states topple like dominos in favor of gay marriage and polls show a waxing of public acceptance of gay rights, in other lands, demonstrators get carted away in paddy wagons, just like the Stonewall rioters of forty years ago....Read More

Mindful Living

Filed by Sara Whitman | May 17, 2009 | 11:30 AM | comments

It is hard to let go. To be totally present in the moment, not look forward, not look back, just be. Buddhists call it mindful living. Being aware of the present, all of the present. For me it's like listening...Read More


Voting for Equality Doesn't Lose Elections

Filed by Ed Team | May 17, 2009 | 7:30 AM | comments

"[In Vermont, Maine and Connecticut] I think a concern was, will I lose my job if I vote for marriage equality? And that goes part and parcel with public opinion. . . . What we've done is show that we're...Read More

Signs of Progress

Filed by Dana Rudolph | May 16, 2009 | 4:00 PM | comments

This is an older piece I published at Mombian a while back. I thought it bore reposting here, however, in light of Alex's post about NOM and their fear that children will be "confused" by LGBT parents. There's always a...Read More

New Hampshire marriage religious exemption

Filed by Alex Blaze | May 16, 2009 | 12:00 PM | comments

New Hampshire governor John Lynch yesterday determined that he would sign a bill to legalize same-sex marriages if and only if the state legislature created a religious exemption to the bill. The governor released language for that exemption. It would...Read More

First same-sex marriages in Cambridge, MA

Filed by Bil Browning | May 16, 2009 | 7:00 AM | comments

At midnight on May 17, 2004 Cambridge, MA became the first jurisdiction to issue marraige licenses to same-sex couples. Thanks to HRC for this footage from the evening....Read More

Fasten Your Seatbelts

Filed by Kate Kendell | May 15, 2009 | 4:00 PM | comments

Today is the one year anniversary of the California Supreme Court's groundbreaking ruling striking down the exclusion of same-sex couples from the right to marry. On the morning of May 15, 2008 I stood on the Supreme Court steps--with hundreds...Read More

How to Flummox the System

Filed by Father Tony | May 15, 2009 | 2:00 PM | comments

This report in the Pink News suggests one possible strategy for achieving gay equal rights. Here's an excerpt: A trans woman in Tennessee has had her marriage declared invalid after the state refused to recognise her female status. Terri Jo...Read More

NOM and CPR: Same-sex marriage will turn your kids gay

Filed by Alex Blaze | May 15, 2009 | 10:30 AM | comments

I think it's quite clear to everyone by now that any time the right accuses us of something, it means that they're just projecting their own moral failings on everyone else. Apparently that includes child exploitation. Here's a new ad...Read More

Sully: A 'sickeningly familiar feeling' Obama's team wants LGBTs and our issues to go away

Filed by Pam Spaulding | May 15, 2009 | 9:30 AM | comments

Yes, Andrew Sullivan, you hit the nail on the head this time. Emphasis mine: And it's tedious to whine and jump up and down and complain when a wand isn't waved and everything is made right by the first candidate...Read More

What if gay marriage were legal?

Filed by Bil Browning | May 14, 2009 | 1:30 PM | comments

An interesting question to pose to Projectors today... What would America be like if gay marriage were legal? The right wing likes to say everything!! would change, but what do you think would really change?...Read More

Enough Already!

Filed by Dana Rudolph | May 14, 2009 | 12:30 PM | comments

Nancy Polikoff wrote yesterday about NCLR's great win in Florida, when the Florida Court of Appeals ruled that the state must give "full faith and credit" to adoption decrees from other states. The ruling stemmed from a case in which...Read More

Before you go over the Falls

Filed by Father Tony | May 14, 2009 | 10:30 AM | comments

Dear Projectors, This week, I thought I'd invite a lawyer into my Confessional for some advice and guidance that will be useful for any gay couple considering marriage. Peter Zupcofska, a Massachusetts licensed family law lawyer with Burns & Levinson...Read More

Florida recognizes second-parent adoption from elsewhere

Filed by Father Tony | May 14, 2009 | 9:00 AM | comments

Nancy Polikoff tells us about a surprising Florida Court ruling: There's little I hate more in our community than a lesbian mom who creates a two-mother family and later decides to pretend there was only one mother. Well today Florida,...Read More

Marriage Wows

Filed by Kate Clinton | May 14, 2009 | 8:00 AM | comments

New York's marriage bill advances, Wanda Sykes does the Correspondents' Dinner, Dick Cheney has been found and my bank passed a stress test! What a week!...Read More

Florida recognizes second-parent adoption from elsewhere

Filed by Nancy Polikoff | May 13, 2009 | 6:00 PM | comments

There's little I hate more in our community than a lesbian mom who creates a two-mother family and later decides to pretend there was only one mother. Well today Florida, of all places, has ruled that she can't -- not...Read More

Same-sex marriage - it's nothing new

Filed by Father Tony | May 13, 2009 | 2:00 PM | comments

Jennifer Finney Boylan of Maine teaches college English and has a remarkable op-ed piece in the New York Times making a fine point about same-sex marriage that has been mostly overlooked: it's been around - legally - for years. Ms....Read More

I'm Here

Filed by Sara Whitman | May 13, 2009 | 9:30 AM | comments

I'm here. Finally. I thought I was coming into major fog season but in fact, the sun is out, the sky almost clear, and it feels like it might get to a rockin' 60 degrees today. I won't mention how...Read More

The Ascension of Weather Reporting

Filed by Storm Bear | May 13, 2009 | 8:00 AM | comments

click to enlarge When Iowa takes the lead in civil rights in the 21st Century, when New England (the spot in America where that Revolution thing started) becomes the hotbed of Gay marriage, when states approve of Gay marriage...Read More


Humanity First

Filed by Ed Team | May 13, 2009 | 7:30 AM | comments

"You know, gay people are seen as people first and then as gay or lesbian later, that's the way it should be. The same as African Americans. The same as Hispanics. The same as everybody who is a member of...Read More

Same-sex marriage music video

Filed by Bil Browning | May 13, 2009 | 7:00 AM | comments

Oh, the power of the internets. I watch stuff like this same-sex marriage music video and think back just a few years ago when organizations were desperately trying to come up with something cool to motivate the average American...Read More

A short lesson on polling would do the fundies good

Filed by Alex Blaze | May 12, 2009 | 3:00 PM | comments

Don Sherfick emailed me a link to Cornerstone Policy Research's site where they claim they polled everyone in the state of New Hampshire and found that 64% of that state's population opposes same-sex marriage. Yes, someone wrote that on their...Read More

Tennessee could invalidate transwoman's marriage

Filed by Alex Blaze | May 12, 2009 | 11:30 AM | comments

The Leaf Chronicle has a story on their site now about a transwoman who married a cis-man in prison in Tennessee in 2007, but whose marriage was overturned because she's legally considered male in the state of Tennessee. The Chronicle...Read More

Miss California Blames Satan

Filed by Michael Crawford | May 12, 2009 | 9:30 AM | comments

UPDATE: Donald Trump held a news conference today and announced that Carrie Prejean will retain her title as Miss California despite the controversy raging around her anti-gay activism and topless photos. Trump said "She gave an honest answer and for...Read More

Getting left at the station

Filed by Bil Browning | May 12, 2009 | 7:00 AM | comments

Day of Decision's newest video uses a train motif to ask if California will get left at the station when the marriage equality train comes around. I want to point out that I live in Indiana. The train is...Read More

Hyatt tries to donate to the gays

Filed by Alex Blaze | May 11, 2009 | 4:30 PM | comments

Fred Karger's Californians Against Hate (a pretty effective group) has had some success in their boycott of several San Diego area Hyatt hotels. They started the boycott last July because the owner of those hotels, Doug Manchester, donated $125,000 to...Read More

Hollywood on the Potomac

Filed by Cathy Renna | May 11, 2009 | 3:00 PM | comments

The White House Correspondent's dinner this past weekend was amazing. If you took the Oscars, the Grammys, a convention of the MSM's pundits and anchors AND Obama's inauguration it would basically describe the crowd. I was honored to be there,...Read More


Filed by Alex Blaze | May 11, 2009 | 1:00 PM | comments

I'm game for this meme Courtney posted over at Feministing, where she listed the four most overrated and the four most underrated things related to feminism. What about when it comes to the queer community and politics? Here are my...Read More

Repealing DADT Is Only the First Step

Filed by Dana Rudolph | May 11, 2009 | 10:30 AM | comments

I wrote this back in February for, but it seemed timely to repost it here (with slight updates) in light of the Army National Guard's recent dismissal of West Point graduate and Arabic linguist Lt. Dan Choi under "Don't...Read More


The Maine Difference Between Marriage and Civil Unions

Filed by Ed Team | May 11, 2009 | 7:30 AM | comments

"In the past, I opposed gay marriage while supporting the idea of civil unions. I have come to believe that this is a question of fairness and of equal protection under the law, and that a civil union is not...Read More

We can all get they-ah from hee-ah

Filed by Guest Blogger | May 10, 2009 | 7:00 PM | comments

Editors' Note: Guest blogger Sue Hyde is a Massachusetts resident and longtime staffer at the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force. Some folk say, "You can't get they-ah from hee-ah." But in the great region of New England, we know...Read More

Queer leftovers

Filed by Bil Browning | May 10, 2009 | 5:30 PM | comments

Every week we get tons of tips and press releases that I never get around to blogging about. I'm considering starting a Sunday afternoon roundup of all the stuff I get; it's a good way to clean out the inbox...Read More

Moni Goes To Washington

Filed by Monica Roberts | May 10, 2009 | 2:30 PM | comments

I've spent the last three days since my May 4 birthday in our nation's capital exercising my constitutional right to petition my legislators for 'redress of grievances'. Translation: I've been lobbying. Lobbying isn't just for high priced hired guns working...Read More

Helping the Next Generation

Filed by Zac Hart | May 10, 2009 | 10:30 AM | comments

We can all remember what it was like to be young. For some, it may be harder than others (don't worry I'm not naming names). But for those who grew up around the Indianapolis Area as a "Queer Youth," we...Read More

I got left home alone!

Filed by Bil Browning | May 09, 2009 | 6:00 PM | comments

The Editorial Team all went on vacation this week and left me home alone! Thank goodness the other contributors helped out by posting so many good posts like these: Sunday Likewise: An Interview with Graphic Novelist Ariel Schrag Filed by:...Read More

Will Democrats Seize the Marriage Moment?

Filed by Terrance Heath | May 08, 2009 | 3:30 PM | comments

DC has approved a same-sex marriage law. Washington DC city council has voted to recognise same-sex marriages conducted in other US states. Because Washington DC is not a state, the decision will now have to be approved by Congress before...Read More

CNN report 'Gay Issues Closing In On Obama' shows the MSM is noticing the White House silence

Filed by Pam Spaulding | May 08, 2009 | 2:30 PM | comments

When I walked in the door yesterday evening, I caught the last minute or so of a segment on CNN, "Gay Issues Closing In On Obama." This is an interesting breakthrough, because finally, finally, there is recognition by the MSM...Read More

The Right Side of History

Filed by Sara Whitman | May 08, 2009 | 12:30 PM | comments

I went to a concert this morning for my son Jake. They sang the song, Nifty Fifty United States... I kept thinking, oh, win, win, gonna win, gonna win... long time for that one. The truth is, we are making...Read More

Arresting queers in the name of Christ and other fundie e-blasts

Filed by Bil Browning | May 07, 2009 | 4:00 PM | comments

One of the side effects of running a popular LGBT blog is that not only does every queer org send you their press releases and promos, but you get all the far right screeds from anti-gay religious groups too. Two...Read More

Cambridge Welcoming Ministries honors a "Reconciling Saint"

Filed by Dana Rudolph | May 07, 2009 | 2:00 PM | comments

(Originally published in Bay Windows, April 16, 2009. I wrote this as coverage for a local event, but I think it has broad interest, especially in light of a recent ruling by the Judicial Council, the highest court of the...Read More

Will NH Governor sign same-sex marriage bill?

Filed by Bil Browning | May 07, 2009 | 12:30 PM | comments

With all the hoopla over Maine becoming the fifth state to allow same-sex marriage (and the first to do it without passing civil unions or domestic partnerships first), the news that New Hampshire's House of Representatives passed marriage quality legislation...Read More

How to Miss the Bus

Filed by Father Tony | May 07, 2009 | 10:30 AM | comments

Have you ever seen the bus you want to catch depart before you could get to the stop? You run across traffic, wave your hands and shout to the driver, but you are too far away, and your baggage and...Read More

Domestically Partner Registered: Why We're Doing It

Filed by Guest Blogger | May 07, 2009 | 9:30 AM | comments

Editors' Note: Born and raised on Long Island in New York, guest blogger John Farina moved to Cleveland in 1991 where he resides with his partner, Adam Tully, and their two cats, Emma and Hex. He is a fundraiser for...Read More

Maine: What Happens Next

Filed by Ellen Andersen | May 06, 2009 | 6:30 PM | comments

As Nancy Polikoff has noted, Maine recorded a number of "firsts" today. It became the first state to pass marriage equality without first trying a quasi-parallel status such as civil unions. And Maine's Gov. Baldacci became the first governor in...Read More

How Motherhood Earned Me a Free Sex Toy

Filed by Paige Schilt | May 06, 2009 | 4:00 PM | comments

When I was pregnant with my son, I heard a comedienne talking about the aftereffects of childbirth: "I'm peeing all the time. I'm actually peeing right now," she said. That will never happen to me, I told myself. I was...Read More

Maine governor signs marriage bill

Filed by Nancy Polikoff | May 06, 2009 | 1:30 PM | comments

Maine Governor John Baldacci this afternoon signed the bill authorizing marriage for same sex couples. In his written statement, he acknowledged that the people of Maine have the last word on the issue. His statement that "civil union is not...Read More

Outrage: closeted gay politicians, Elizabeth Birch, and queer challenges to the status quo

Filed by Mattilda Bernstein Sycamore | May 06, 2009 | 10:00 AM | comments

Earlier tonight I went to a preview screening of the movie Outrage, "a searing exposé of the secret lives of closeted gay politicians." More than an exposé of those secret lives, the movie serves to focus on hypocrisy of closeted...Read More

Those northeastern liberals are at it again...

Filed by Ellen Andersen | May 06, 2009 | 9:30 AM | comments

Yesterday, the Maine House of Representatives voted 89 to 57 in favor of marriage equality. The State Senate approved a virtually identical bill last week by a vote of 21-14. The bill will now head back to the Senate for...Read More

New Hampshire marriage commercial

Filed by Bil Browning | May 06, 2009 | 7:00 AM | comments

This ad by New Hampshire Freedom to Marry has started to air in the Granite State. What do you think? Effective?...Read More

NOM ads on LGBT sites: A pheNOMenal waste of money

Filed by Jerame Davis | May 05, 2009 | 7:00 PM | comments

There has been some discussion lately of the National Organization for Marriage (NOM) and their latest online advertising campaign. Their anti-marriage equality ads are popping up on LGBT websites across the web. Many of these sites are banning these ads...Read More

Miss California shows everyone what God, er, the pageant gave her

Filed by Pam Spaulding | May 05, 2009 | 5:00 PM | comments

You knew it was only a matter of time before the another thing that Maggie's pious National Organization for Marriage touches blows up in its face. Nude photos of Miss Pageant-Paid-for-Jugs-for-Jesus have surfaced and the devoted "Christian" is forced to...Read More

Maine House passes same-sex marriage

Filed by Bil Browning | May 05, 2009 | 4:30 PM | comments

Gay marriage passed another hurdle this morning in Maine. Legislation to allow same-sex marriage passed the state's House of Representatives 89 to 57. It had already been approved by the Senate and now goes to Governor John Baldacci for his...Read More

Virginian Partisans Endorse Brian Moran for Governor

Filed by Michael Hamar | May 05, 2009 | 4:00 PM | comments

At the Equality Virginia Commonwealth Coalition Dinner on April 4, 2009, the boyfriend and I had the opportunity to meet and have a substantial conversation with Brian Moran, one of the Democrat nominee candidates for Governor of Virginia. I was...Read More

DC City Council votes 12-1 to recognize same-sex marriages from elsewhere

Filed by Nancy Polikoff | May 05, 2009 | 1:30 PM | comments

Former Mayor and civil rights activist Marion Barry was the only member of the DC City Council to vote against recognizing same-sex marriages performed in other states. The bill will now go to Mayor Adrian Fenty to sign. From there...Read More

Joe the Plumber's queer friends

Filed by Bil Browning | May 05, 2009 | 9:30 AM | comments

My God, every time this douchenozzle opens his mouth, more crap just falls out. In an interview with Christianity Today, Joe the Plumber tells the world what he thinks of gays and lesbians. Q: In the last month, same-sex marriage...Read More

Overwhelmed By Events

Filed by John Shields | May 05, 2009 | 9:30 AM | comments

It's been an interesting couple of months for the gay and lesbian community. In just eight weeks, the "news" has gone from California to Iowa to Vermont to the floor of the U.S. House of Representatives. As one intimately involved...Read More

Unclear against whom the "rage" should flow

Filed by Guest Blogger | May 04, 2009 | 3:30 PM | comments

Editors' Note: Guest blogger Chris Worden is a family-law attorney and political commentator. Chris has managed two successful statewide races in Indiana, including the campaign to elect Pam Carter, the nation's first African-American woman attorney general. Outrage, Kirby Dick's new...Read More

President Obama - Give Us an LGBT Advocate

Filed by Karen Ocamb | May 04, 2009 | 10:30 AM | comments

I didn't bother writing a story on President Obama's first 100 Days. Other than a few appointments, there wasn't much to write about from an LGBT perspective. So my heart quickened when I heard him talk about picking a replacement...Read More

Miss California is a BOOB job! Miley & Nick 4-eva! Obsessed!

Filed by Michael Buckley | May 04, 2009 | 8:00 AM | comments

In this video, I talk about Miss California's crusade to protect her boobs and opposite marriage. Miley and Nick back together? New couple alert- Selena and Taylor (not Swift). The movie Obsessed! Stay tuned for preview of Miss CA...Read More

Gay Bars and Bachelorettes, Oh My!

Filed by Yasmin Nair | May 03, 2009 | 11:30 AM | comments

Remember all the fuss about gay bars banning bachelorette parties? The story erupted with Dawn Turner Trices's piece in the Chicago Tribune. In it, she wrote about Geno Zaharakis, the owner of Cocktail, putting a sign outside stating that the...Read More

Oh, what a week

Filed by Bil Browning | May 02, 2009 | 6:00 PM | comments

What a week it's been for LGBT news! Not only did we bring you the latest headlines, we also served up a heaping helping of our contributors' opinion pieces. You won't want to miss any of these posts from this...Read More

Renewed Hope

Filed by Kate Kendell | May 02, 2009 | 4:00 PM | comments

With its groundbreaking marriage decision a year ago, the California Supreme Court set us on a path that -- despite some setbacks -- has led to one marriage victory a week in the past month: A first-ever unanimous state supreme...Read More

Brokeback Poetry that will 'Blaze the Trail' for TBP

Filed by Bobby Parker | May 02, 2009 | 12:00 PM | comments

My friend, Dwayne Purrington, a poet from the Twin Cities area, has accepted the challenge to be what I hope is the first of many creative writing projectors. His brand new, never published poems, like spring breezes this time of...Read More

White House website de-gayed

Filed by Alex Blaze | May 01, 2009 | 5:06 PM | comments

**Updated after the jump** Remember how the civil rights agenda page of the White House website had a huge section on LGBT equality? Well, his Civil Rights Agenda page has been changed. Gone is the large LGBT section, and it's...Read More

Proud Mom

Filed by Sara Whitman | May 01, 2009 | 4:00 PM | comments

Today, my son Ben ran his first track meet. He was.. um.. a little wound up and nervous. But all smiles when he was done. He ran a 2:59 in the 800meters, and to me, he seemed like he was...Read More

NOM board member advocates criminalization of homosexuality, overthrow of government

Filed by Pam Spaulding | May 01, 2009 | 3:00 PM | comments

The folks at the National Organization for Marriage are quickly earning a reputation as an incompetent, delusional organization ill-prepared to handle defending "traditional marriage." I mean come on -- all these people have managed to do is make their cause...Read More

Regarding those petitions in Iowa....

Filed by Alex Blaze | May 01, 2009 | 1:00 PM | comments

Earlier this week I mentioned that some people had protested the beginning of same-sex marriage in Iowa by handing in petitions to county clerks asking them not to hand out licenses. They're saying that they've gathered 17,860 signatures from Iowans,...Read More

We matter

Filed by Guest Blogger | May 01, 2009 | 11:30 AM | comments

Editors' Note: Guest blogger Lena Dahlstrom is a crossdresser from the San Francisco Bay Area who also performs as a drag queen under the stage name "Joie de Vivre." Wednesday was a bit of an emotional roller coaster for me....Read More

The bathroom argument wins again

Filed by Alex Blaze | May 01, 2009 | 10:30 AM | comments

The New Hampshire Senate voted this week to legalize same-sex marriage. They also voted to unanimously reject a bill to ban discrimination against transgender people. (The Union-Leader article says "sexual identity issues," but I think they meant "on the basis...Read More

The same as abolishing marriage?

Filed by Nancy Polikoff | May 01, 2009 | 9:30 AM | comments

After many years of advocating that marriage should be abolished as a legal institution and left entirely to religion, I changed my mind at some point in the process of writing Beyond (Straight and Gay) Marriage. I heard so many...Read More


Mass. Nuptials Don't Affect Nuptial Masses

Filed by Ed Team | May 01, 2009 | 7:30 AM | comments

"To those who are worried that legislation of same-sex marriages will impinge on religious freedoms, I say don't be concerned about that, because it certainly has not happened in Massachusetts." --Thomas Shaw, Bishop of Massachusetts (Episcopal), in Marriage Equality and...Read More