Marriage Equality: November 2009

Against Equality, In Maine and Everywhere

Filed by Guest Blogger | November 30, 2009 | 3:00 PM | comments

Editors' Note: Guest blogger R. Conrad is an outlaw artist, terrorist academic and petty thief dividing his time between Lewiston, Maine and Montreal, Quebec. He is a member of the naughty north collective and his written and visual work is...Read More

Episcopalians will now officiate same-sex marriages in church

Filed by Alex Blaze | November 30, 2009 | 1:00 PM | comments

The Eastern Massachusetts diocese of the Episcopal Church is now allowing priests to officiate same-sex weddings: Five years after same-sex marriage became legal in Massachusetts, the local Episcopal bishop yesterday gave permission for priests in Eastern Massachusetts to officiate at...Read More

HIV/AIDS forum receives White House support, but where is the local community?

Filed by Michael Emanuel Rajner | November 30, 2009 | 9:00 AM | comments

Fort Lauderdale hosts community discussion on HIV/AIDS HIV/AIDS forum receives White House support, but where is the local community? For years, national AIDS activists and advocates have been demanding that the President of the United States and Congress develop a...Read More

Conservative Rapper's Delight

Filed by Terrance Heath | November 29, 2009 | 5:30 PM | comments

I now extend my request for Levi Johnston to these guys. The Christian side hug, for the unaware, is the Christian version of the standard "full frontal hug," which is a sinful abonimation and should be avoided until marriage (I...Read More

Stupak, Pitts, and the Classist, Sexist "Sin Tax" Amendment

Filed by Guest Blogger | November 29, 2009 | 11:30 AM | comments

Editors' Note: Guest blogger Louisa V. Hill is an MFA candidate at the University of Iowa's Playwrights' Workshop. LGBT folks and their allies know all too well that their human rights are often the first to be sacrificed under the...Read More


Using sexual orientation as a weapon

Filed by Ed Team | November 29, 2009 | 7:30 AM | comments

"Outing, to me, has always seemed like using sexual orientation as a weapon, like an act of violence. To out gay priests for an anti-gay Church policy, well, how is that different than outing gay and lesbian servicemembers because Congress...Read More

Weekly Reader: iPhone apps, hockey dads, & a San Francisco mixer

Filed by Bil Browning | November 28, 2009 | 6:00 PM | comments

Bilerico is coming to San Francisco! On Friday, Dec 4, we'll be hosting a mixer at the Sir Francis Drake Hotel. Stop by and say hello to Jerame and me plus tons of other contributors and readers! You can tell...Read More

Anatomy of a furry convention

Filed by Austen Crowder | November 27, 2009 | 4:00 PM | comments

It's Friday. I'm sitting in the lobby of a swank, North Shore Chicago hotel, typing away on a netbook. The chatter is lively and happy. People are hugging, laughing, trading stories from the past year. A man in a fox...Read More

Sacred cows and sacrificial lambs

Filed by Alex Blaze | November 27, 2009 | 3:00 PM | comments

That post about rich people getting kicked out of the LGBT movement the other day was intended as satire. I see from the comments that a lot of people didn't get it, even though the proposition was ridiculous, untenable, contradicts...Read More



Filed by Ed Team | November 27, 2009 | 7:30 AM | comments

"Only if you don't have a good reason for defending the existence of marriage would you be this insecure about sharing it. When your only defense of the status quo is to suggest it's always been this way and any...Read More

The 2nd Thanksgiving: A Personal Story On Conflict Resolution

Filed by Bil Browning | November 26, 2009 | 11:00 AM | comments

Since it's Thanksgiving, I thought I'd share a personal story and invite our readers to do the same in the comments section. Take a moment and tell us your standout Turkey Day memory - whether funny, sad, or heartwarming. Mine...Read More


The Benefit of Turkey Basters

Filed by Ed Team | November 26, 2009 | 7:30 AM | comments

"Millions of women might ditch their useless husbands in favour of lady partners who are cleaner, more organised, more talkative, able to keep track of birthdays and anniversaries, and not much interested in sport on TV. And turkey basters don't...Read More

Who is better for the movement: Adam Lambert or Will Truman?

Filed by Alex Blaze | November 25, 2009 | 3:00 PM | comments

I posted the other day that Adam Lambert's performance was actually kind of boring, nothing new, not really shocking. Of course, I'm not a Real American. Not only that, I'm constantly being crushed under my own massive ennui. So it...Read More

Harvey Milk and the holidays

Filed by Adam Bink | November 25, 2009 | 2:00 PM | comments

Awhile back, I wrote a piece at my home blog,, looking at the map of results in Maine, and noted the results in small towns where we lost badly. A colleague of mine at OpenLeft, Mike Lux, who has...Read More

I ♥ New York

Filed by Kate Clinton | November 25, 2009 | 1:00 PM | comments

If you are coming to New York City during the holidays and you want to see a show - book some tickets to The 39 Steps. Based on the movie by Alfred Hitchcock, it is a comedic tour de farce...Read More

The Horrible Truth About Gay Marriage

Filed by Diane Silver | November 24, 2009 | 7:00 PM | comments

The minute voters ripped the right to marry away from same-sex couples in Maine, the call rang out across LGBTQ America: Let's give up on marriage. The defeat in Maine was horrible in itself, but it was even more galling...Read More

Hate crimes up in 2008

Filed by Alex Blaze | November 24, 2009 | 5:30 PM | comments

It's not really surprising that the FBI is reporting that hate crimes based on sexual orientation went up in 2008. The trend has already been remarked in New York and in California. It's almost as if demonization of LGBTQ people...Read More

"I'm getting married!" A New Way of Coming Out?

Filed by Guest Blogger | November 24, 2009 | 4:00 PM | comments

Editors' note: Alan Schwartz, M.D., a member of the Group for the Advancement of Psychiatry, is also Co-Editor in Chief of the Journal of Gay and Lesbian Mental Health. He is a psychoanalyst at the William Alanson White Institute and...Read More

Talk the Talk, Walk the Walk

Filed by Terrance Heath | November 24, 2009 | 11:30 AM | comments

I just have one thing to say about this. Forget WWJD. The new question is apparently What Would MLK Do? A coalition of politically and theologically conservative Christian leaders, including nine Roman Catholic bishops, who have just signed a...Read More

Sodomy wasn't born yesterday

Filed by Alex Blaze | November 23, 2009 | 1:00 PM | comments

Antonin Scalia is apparently doing a speaking tour supporting the "originalist" interpretation of the Constitution, whereby a justice has to use his or her telepathic powers to read the minds of people who died 200 years ago, a power they...Read More

Outing Catholic Priests Is a Fair Game at

Filed by Father Tony | November 23, 2009 | 11:30 AM | comments

The recently launched is a retaliation for the Catholic Church's strenuous efforts to fight gay marriage rights in Maine, DC and elsewhere. There is nothing mean-spirited in churchouting. It isn't even anti-Catholic. It is the creation of Phil Attey,...Read More

Ken Hutcherson targets Microsoft for contribution to Approve 71 campaign

Filed by Joe Mirabella | November 21, 2009 | 10:00 AM | comments

Rev. Ken Hutcherson made an appearance at Microsoft's annual shareholder's meeting on Tuesday. As usual, Hutcherson was there representing the interests of Thomas Strohbar, founder of numerous anti-birth control, anti-choice, and anti-gay financial organizations. Strohbar's road to financial security has...Read More

Irene Vilar's Impossible Motherhood: Testimony of an Abortion Addict

Filed by Paige Schilt | November 20, 2009 | 4:00 PM | comments

The title of Irene Vilar's new memoir, Impossible Motherhood: Testimony of an Abortion Addict, is a bit misleading. Although Vilar chronicles 15 abortions over 15 years, "addiction" as a diagnostic category is only hastily grafted onto her tale of existential...Read More

From the Washington Blade's Ashes Comes DC Agenda

Filed by Michael Crawford | November 20, 2009 | 3:28 PM | comments

I was as shocked and saddened as anyone on Monday when it was revealed the Washington Blade (along with other Windows Media publications) had been shut down on Monday. But, the great news is Kevin Naff and the former Blade...Read More

Interview w/NGLTF Exec Dir Rea Carey (part two)

Filed by Adam Bink | November 20, 2009 | 2:00 PM | comments

TThis is part two of an interview with Rea Carey, the Executive Director of the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force. Part one focused on the No On 1 campaign in Maine, the push to repeal Prop 8 in 2010...Read More

Historic Declaration of Christian Conscience?

Filed by Donna Pandori | November 20, 2009 | 12:00 PM | comments

Today at noon national religious leaders will be releasing a 4,732-word statement signed by Orthodox, Catholic and Evangelical leaders, The statement dubbed Manhattan Declaration issues a clarion call to Christians to adhere to their convictions and informs civil authorities that...Read More

Reject 71 campaign tries to spin history

Filed by Joe Mirabella | November 20, 2009 | 11:00 AM | comments

You would think the Reject 71 campaign won in Washington from their first message to supporters after their resounding defeat by the Approve 71 campaign. In the Reject 71 Campaign Manager Larry Stickney's typical truth bending style he wrote: Not...Read More

ND's Senator Kent Conrad: Legislator of the Day

Filed by Dr. Jillian T. Weiss | November 20, 2009 | 10:30 AM | comments

North Dakota is a key state in the fight for ENDA. North Dakota's Senator Kent Conrad may be a supporter of ENDA, but his vote is unconfirmed. Please call him today to ask for his support of S.1584. Facts and...Read More

Interview w/NGLTF Exec Dir Rea Carey and Dir of Organizing & Training Dan Hawes (part one)

Filed by Adam Bink | November 20, 2009 | 9:30 AM | comments

I've been writing a lot on what happened in Maine (most recently this piece yesterday in Frontiers in LA magazine), and where our movement should go from here. NGLTF had run much of the field program in Maine, as well...Read More

Good news or bad ideas? KY, MI, OH, TX re-examine marriage amendments

Filed by Bil Browning | November 19, 2009 | 7:30 PM | comments

The marriage equality drumbeat has rumbled on with news that several states will be attempting to re-examine their state constitutional amendments banning same-sex marriage and/or civil unions. Surprisingly, this hasn't received as much attention as I assumed it would in...Read More

Wedded to stupidity: anti gay marriage rhetoricians

Filed by Gloria Brame, Ph.D. | November 19, 2009 | 5:30 PM | comments

Newsclipper services send me scurrying all over the Internetiverse, up shadowy staircases, into brightly lit rooms, through mirrored passages and sometimes into rancid larders. Thus it was that I stumbled upon this column spinning the latest complaint from the anti-gay...Read More

Judge deals a rhetorical blow to DOMA

Filed by Alex Blaze | November 19, 2009 | 1:30 PM | comments

This is a small decision that governs court personnel, but it seems to imply that there is law that is more important than DOMA when it comes to government benefits nonetheless: A gay lawyer in the federal public defender's office...Read More


I Now Pronounce You Null and Void

Filed by Ed Team | November 19, 2009 | 7:30 AM | comments

"This state or a political subdivision of this state may not create or recognize any legal status identical or similar to marriage." --Subsection B of the Texas constitutional amendment limiting marriage to one man and one woman. Barbara Ann Radnofsky,...Read More

Illinois' Jacob Meister aims to be the first openly gay Senate candidate

Filed by Phil Reese | November 18, 2009 | 5:00 PM | comments

Jacob Meister and his campaign manager, Lowell Jaffe, were standing outside of a CVS Pharmacy on DuPont Circle, in Washington DC the morning of the National Equality March. Jaffe stuck his hand out as I passed and they started a...Read More

Queer Maine - a very different anti-marriage postscript

Filed by Father Tony | November 18, 2009 | 4:00 PM | comments

When you have fifteen minutes to devote to this, I urge you to have a listen to this articulate anti-assimilationist queer as he constructs an excellent economic reframe of Maine and gives voice to a point of view that was...Read More

DC Board of Elections rejects marriage ballot initiative... a model for America?

Filed by Alex Blaze | November 18, 2009 | 2:00 PM | comments

HRC's blog reports that there won't be a ballot initiative on marriage in DC: Today, the D.C. Board of Elections and Ethics announced their ruling [pdf] that for a second time that a proposed ballot measure that would undermine marriage...Read More

Colbert & San Fran's Rep Jackie Speier

Filed by Bil Browning | November 18, 2009 | 1:30 PM | comments

Representative Jackie Speier of California's 12th District sat down with Steven Colbert for his "Better Know a District" segment. The two talk about marriage equality and whether or not sexual orientation is genetic. She's a really good sport about it....Read More

Stephen Colbert on DC Gay Marriage

Filed by Michael Crawford | November 18, 2009 | 10:43 AM | comments

Stephen Colbert takes on the DC marriage equality issue in the way only he can. The Colbert ReportMon - Thurs 11:30pm / 10:30cThe Word - Skeletons in the Closetwww.colbertnation.comColbert Report Full EpisodesPolitical HumorU.S. Speedskating...Read More

Happy Anniversary

Filed by Sara Whitman | November 17, 2009 | 6:30 PM | comments

I know, I know, I know. I've been away for a while. Partly, I needed a break after the loss in Maine. I needed to stop and think about where I am in my life, where I was heading and...Read More

First same-sex couple to marry in Latin America will be from where?

Filed by Alex Blaze | November 17, 2009 | 4:30 PM | comments

Argentina, of course. Since I'm the only person of Argentine heritage I can think of in the American LGBT blogosphere, it'd be a shame if I didn't mention this story. A judge in Beunos Aires last Friday ruled in favor...Read More

NOM's answer to "ban gay marriage" talking points: Chatty Cathy

Filed by Donna Pandori | November 17, 2009 | 3:30 PM | comments

It's difficult to make it through an entire video clip of NOM's executive director Brian Brown anymore but when I can I get a horrible déjà vu of Chatty Cathy. Somebody PLEASE stop pulling that string! Mr. Brown's "ban same...Read More

The Recession and LGBT Communities: A Series

Filed by Michelle Marzullo | November 17, 2009 | 12:00 PM | comments

The global economic recession has been rolling over the world full force for over a year now. We have seen the markets flowing in red, homeowners being turned out at a rate not seen since the great depression, and the...Read More

Not every homophobe beats up gay men after a long day of firing lesbians

Filed by Alex Blaze | November 16, 2009 | 5:00 PM | comments

Ta-Nehisi Coates discussed a phenomenon the other day I've been meaning to post about here on Bilerico: droves of straight people in media trying with all their might to prove that folks who go out and vote against same-sex marriage...Read More

Rocky Horror and the Holy Grail, or: The Problem with Defining to Exclusion

Filed by Mercedes Allen | November 16, 2009 | 4:00 PM | comments

As communities rise from the margins, they undergo a process of introspection, microscopic self-examination and self-definition. It's a process of healing, throwing off the ill-fitting definitions that had been imposed previously by a majority that didn't experience and most often...Read More

Another Catholic Church Red Herring

Filed by Nancy Polikoff | November 16, 2009 | 3:00 PM | comments

Yesterday I wrote that legislation allowing same-sex marriage will have no impact on the issue of the church's provision of foster care and adoption services, because providing those services is already subject to DC's anti-discrimination laws. The church makes one...Read More

LGBT Resistance to the Coup in Honduras

Filed by Jessica Hoffmann | November 16, 2009 | 2:00 PM | comments

On Saturday I attended a talk by Indyra Mendoza, an activist with the LGTB Coalition Against the Coup in Honduras, who was in LA for a speaking tour. Her message was simple and powerful: Murders of trans women and gay...Read More

Toward a better understanding of age in the gay community

Filed by Alex Blaze | November 16, 2009 | 1:00 PM | comments

Buried in a longer throw-away piece on how femmy TV gays are hurting the movement (no, the Bush years weren't just a nightmare - it's really 2009 and someone's still arguing that) is this paragraph on the old-young divide among...Read More


Will Ellen and Idol Lead Us to Equality?

Filed by Ed Team | November 16, 2009 | 7:30 AM | comments

"But now [Ellen DeGeneres] is on the cover of the current issue of O magazine, exclusive real estate usually inhabited by Ms. Winfrey alone. She's a pitchwoman not only for American Express but also for Cover Girl makeup, a heartland...Read More

The DC Catholic Church's red herring

Filed by Nancy Polikoff | November 15, 2009 | 2:30 PM | comments

To hear the Catholic Church tell it, if same-sex couples can marry in DC they will have to stop providing social services here. At least that's their threat, as reported earlier this week in the Washington Post. I heard the...Read More

The history maker's historian: Jon Knoll on Jim Madigan

Filed by Phil Reese | November 15, 2009 | 11:30 AM | comments

Illinois has had its share of making history lately, but we have the opportunity to make history once again with an unprecedented number of openly gay candidates going into this Spring's primaries. Cook County (Chicago) is leading the pack with...Read More

Should Heterosexuals be allowed to serve openly in the military?

Filed by Donna Pandori | November 15, 2009 | 10:30 AM | comments

According to One News Now the American Medical Association (AMA) is ignoring health facts in homosexual advocacy with it's passage of a resolution that opposes "don't ask, don't tell" and declaration that gay marriage bans contribute to health disparities: Elaine...Read More

No On One: The Documentary

Filed by Bil Browning | November 15, 2009 | 7:00 AM | comments

This short documentary about the final days of the No On 1 campaign really captures the effort to protect marriage equality. Best of all? Two Projectors made the film. See the other half of the doc after the jump....Read More

Weekly Reader: Fruit Bat Fellatio, Las Vegas, & Scaring Our Elders

Filed by Bil Browning | November 14, 2009 | 6:00 PM | comments

While I took a few vacation days this week to travel to NYC, the Editorial Team kept things plugging right along and the great contributor content didn't stop for an instant. These posts really stood out this week: Sunday Fellatio...Read More

Putting on the brakes: An apology

Filed by Austen Crowder | November 14, 2009 | 4:00 PM | comments

As Antonia said in my last post's comments, "My dear, you certainly stepped into it." It has come to my attention that my counterpoint article on trans exclusion/inclusion has made the rounds on e-mail lists, forums, and the desks of...Read More

Maine anti-marriage leader tied to several pro-gay companies

Filed by Bil Browning | November 13, 2009 | 4:00 PM | comments

Schubert Flint Public Affairs, a Sacramento, Calif.-based consulting firm, worked extensively on California's Proposition 8 and Maine's vote to overturn the new marriage equality law. Two companies listed in the HRC's Corporate Equality Index with excellent scores, however, are currently...Read More

When Its Not Your Fight

Filed by Antonia D'orsay | November 13, 2009 | 3:00 PM | comments

So for my first actual contribution, I'm going to talk about something that's been on my mind of late. Some of it is informed by Austen's recent posts, but for the most part its informed by the direction I've come to feel that things must go in order to make headway in our quest for equality and equity. And I think about this stuff for a really simple reason: its not really my fight.Read More

Video WH 'held for review': Obama official Melody Barnes' support for marriage equality

Filed by Pam Spaulding | November 13, 2009 | 1:00 PM | comments

This story is so weird; it exemplifies the paranoia over at the White House over anything G-A-Y, particularly regarding the President's current illogical-but-politically safe position on marriage equality. We have to roll the story out before getting to the meat...Read More

The Pernicious "Choice Myth" and "Change Myth"

Filed by Michael Hamar | November 13, 2009 | 9:30 AM | comments

As the recent Yes on 1 campaign confirmed, two of the key elements utilized by Christianist enemies of gay equality are the myths that (1) sexual orientation is a "lifestyle" choice as opposed to an immutable aspects of GLBT individuals...Read More


Of Pots and Kettles

Filed by Ed Team | November 13, 2009 | 7:30 AM | comments

"We warned all along that they [marriage equality supporters] would use this state as a springboard to force it on the rest of the country. This wasn't accomplished by people that cared about Connecticut. This was accomplished by people who...Read More

For marriage victories, we must face and use religion

Filed by Matt Comer | November 12, 2009 | 7:30 PM | comments

The Catholic Archdiocese of Washington, D.C., is saying it might not be able to continue its social services programs if a marriage equality bill is passed by the D.C. Council. The Washington Post reports that Archdiocese officials say the proposed...Read More

I've signed on to Don't Ask, Don't Give (and you should too)

Filed by Bil Browning | November 12, 2009 | 6:30 PM | comments

Conservative Democrats don't want to move forward on Don't Ask, Don't Tell after the last elections. There are concerns about the future of ENDA. No one in Congress is going to do anything about DOMA anytime soon. (If the votes...Read More

The Importance of "Straight Allies"

Filed by Michael Hamar | November 12, 2009 | 3:00 PM | comments

As the recent lost on marriage equality in Maine demonstrates, the GLBT community will never achieve full equality under the civil laws without the help of our "straight allies" who may in some cases be better able to open hearts...Read More

ENDA: not a done deal yet

Filed by Phil Reese | November 12, 2009 | 2:00 PM | comments

According to Dr. Jillian Weiss' Congressional ENDA spreadsheet, we seem to have enough "supporters" in the House to pass an inclusive Employment Non-Discrimination Act once and for all. That does not mean ENDA will pass. Dr. Weiss' spreadsheet shows 214...Read More

Michael Crawford: One of Advocate's People of the Year

Filed by Bil Browning | November 12, 2009 | 1:00 PM | comments

Congratulations to Bilerico-DC managing editor Michael Crawford for being named one of Advocate magazine's "People of the Year." In a city that is more than 50% African-American, Michael Crawford has been leading the charge on an issue often used to...Read More

Attacking Tax-Exemptions for Churches a Lose-Lose Proposition

Filed by Guest Blogger | November 12, 2009 | 9:30 AM | comments

Editors' Note: Guest blogger Sam Ritchie is a writer and activist who lives with his husband of twelve years in Crown Heights, Brooklyn. He writes, edits and manages online content for the American Civil Liberties Union's LGBT & AIDS Projects....Read More

Everything is not marriage

Filed by Alex Blaze | November 11, 2009 | 5:00 PM | comments

I'm more accustomed to calling out the idea that same-sex marriage will solve every problem that queer people face. No, it won't end school bullying, it won't give us all access to health care, it won't make our relationships any...Read More

Time For Gay Power

Filed by Guest Blogger | November 11, 2009 | 3:00 PM | comments

Editors' Note: Ronald Gold was media director for the Gay Activists Alliance in the early 1970's. He was one of the five original cofounders of the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force and its first media director. He is best...Read More

Rumors of ENDA Slow-Down In The House

Filed by Dr. Jillian T. Weiss | November 11, 2009 | 12:00 PM | comments

Congressional offices are closed today for Veterans Day, so we can take a break from calling our Senators. As you know, we have been working on moving the Employment Non-Discrimination Act in the U.S. Senate, where the real fight is...Read More

Weather Girl

Filed by Kate Clinton | November 11, 2009 | 9:30 AM | comments

"Purpose of your visit?" "To visit friends." "And you're only staying one night?" "It's for a party." "Are you bringing gifts?" "No." As usual I began my trip to Vancouver, feeling like a really bad friend. As we began our...Read More


Rhode Island Red

Filed by Ed Team | November 11, 2009 | 7:30 AM | comments

"This bill [to grant same- and opposite-sex domestic partners the right to make funeral arrangements when one partner dies] represents a disturbing trend over the past few years of the incremental erosion of the principles surrounding traditional marriage, which is...Read More

About that LGBT boycott of the Obama Campaign, the DNC, and Organizing for America....

Filed by Alex Blaze | November 10, 2009 | 5:00 PM | comments

I have the following problems with the LGBT boycott of the DNC that a few bloggers launched yesterday: 1. I thought we were already boycotting the DNC. Am I the only who thought that the gAyTM was already supposed to...Read More

A Rally in Albany

Filed by Father Tony | November 10, 2009 | 1:00 PM | comments

New York blogger bud Gavin contacted me with this report about yesterday's marriage rights rally in Albany, New York.. Just when I thought we were all burned out from Maine and Washington, looking at these photos made me feel hopeful...Read More

Exclusion of GLBT dialogue in schools hurts all children

Filed by Donna Pandori | November 10, 2009 | 9:30 AM | comments

We've seen in California and now Maine how far religious fundamentalists will go to prevent same-sex couples from obtaining the civil right of marriage. The successful theme continually used which resonates with their supporters is "homosexuals will indoctrinate your children...Read More


What the Elections Meant

Filed by Ed Team | November 10, 2009 | 7:30 AM | comments

"The Republicans were quick to claim on Tuesday that their victories were a repudiation of President Obama. The truth is, voters in Virginia, New Jersey and New York said their decisions had nothing to do with Obama. And voters in...Read More

Gays protest Catholics in Portland, Maine

Filed by Alex Blaze | November 10, 2009 | 7:00 AM | comments

Gays protested the Catholic Church in Maine....Read More

The time to demand unequivocal Progressive support

Filed by Phil Reese | November 09, 2009 | 2:00 PM | comments

I think everyone's already put their two cents in on 'Maine'--including myself and Maggie Gallagher. Certainly we're not all on the same page on marriage, but what happened in Maine was a demoralizing defeat for a lot of people. The...Read More

Down but Not Defeated

Filed by Sara Whitman | November 08, 2009 | 5:30 PM | comments

It's hard to think of what to say. My heart is broken. I am exhausted and sick (literally and figuratively). I kept checking the Bangor News site to see the last of the numbers trickle in, hoping it got closer....Read More

Roundtable on Kalamazoo, Washington, and Maine's ballot initiatives

Filed by Alex Blaze | November 08, 2009 | 4:00 PM | comments

Below is a roundtable I just recorded on the ballot initiatives in Maine, Washington, and Kalamazoo. In on the discussion were Joe Mirabella, the LGBT community blogger for Seattle Post-Intelligencer and worked as a social networking consultant for the approve...Read More

Sunday Funnies: Maine, Mormons, Guy Fawkers, & Glenn Beck

Filed by Waymon Hudson | November 08, 2009 | 10:00 AM | comments

It was a week of big losses and big victories for the LGBT movement. But one big winner? Biting satire calling out the ridiculousness of the anti-equality forces. First up is the Daily Show's take on the Maine Marriage Vote:...Read More

Because no lesbian has ever been harassed on the job or kept her opinions to herself before

Filed by Alex Blaze | November 08, 2009 | 7:00 AM | comments

There's just so much wrong with what this guy is saying. He says he was being harassed just because someone told him she was a lesbian, he says that his employer "says" that same-sex marriage is legal in Massachusetts,...Read More

Weekly Reader: Gay Geeks, Election Night, & Equality March Controversy

Filed by Bil Browning | November 07, 2009 | 6:00 PM | comments

Thanks to this week's election night open thread and our liveblog of the Senate ENDA hearing, this was the highest traffic week ever on Bilerico Project. While those two posts were two of our highlights, out of the many posts...Read More

Elizabeth Edwards helped my breaking heart

Filed by Gloria Nieto | November 07, 2009 | 4:00 PM | comments

While living in New Mexico, I heard many folk stories. Tales of emergence, creation stories, even UFO sightings. One in particular has always had a profound impact on me, the story of Apache tears. The story says that some Apaches...Read More

Take a tip from the Lions: or why I don't like the marriage fight

Filed by Austen Crowder | November 06, 2009 | 4:00 PM | comments

Thinking of gay marriage reminds me of Detroit. Here was a team that did everything wrong; up until the third game of this season they hadn't won a game since 2007. The stadium rarely filled up. The sportscasters used them...Read More

Marriage after Maine

Filed by Nan Hunter | November 05, 2009 | 7:30 PM | comments

As heartbreaking as it was for the people on the ground and as callous as this may sound, Maine 09 was just another move in the two steps forward, one step back dance that social change movements are. The overall...Read More

We can't deny the fact that you hate us right now, you hate us!

Filed by Alex Blaze | November 05, 2009 | 6:30 PM | comments

I was actually gone on vacation for the earlier part of this week in Seville, since French vacations don't line up with American elections... but I've been catching up and most of what I wanted to say about the elections...Read More

Maggie Gallagher (NOM) attended pro gay marriage rally in DC

Filed by Donna Pandori | November 05, 2009 | 4:30 PM | comments

Metro Weekly, Washington DC's GLBT magazine, is reporting Maggie Gallagher attended a pro gay marriage rally in Washington, DC, the night following Maine's vote on same-sex marriage. A protest rally held in Dupont Circle tonight brought together same-sex marriage supporters...Read More

Prop 8 anniversary in LA draws 150 and a Police Commissioner

Filed by Karen Ocamb | November 05, 2009 | 3:30 PM | comments

Openly gay Los Angeles Police Commission Rob Saltzman was among about 150 people of all ages who rallied at the Metro station at Santa Monica Boulevard and Vermont Ave Wednesday night marking the one year anniversary of the passage of...Read More

And Now, Two Steps Forward

Filed by Kate Kendell | November 05, 2009 | 3:00 PM | comments

Even as we took the sucker punch of losing marriage equality in Maine by popular vote, we saw history made and in the making in Kalamazoo, Michigan and--hopefully--Washington State. In Kalamazoo voters strongly backed an ordinance which protects lesbian, gay,...Read More

Are We Listening?

Filed by Rebecca Juro | November 05, 2009 | 1:30 PM | comments

It's times like these when, even though you're proven right, you take no joy in it. Back in February, I wrote that same-sex marriage is overall a loser issue in this country right now and that our community would be...Read More

On Projecting R-71's Outcome, Or, We Visit A Political Party

Filed by Don Davis | November 05, 2009 | 12:30 PM | comments

Over the past few days we have been talking about Washington State's Referendum 71, which was voted on this week. If passed, the Referendum will codify in law certain protections for same-sex couples. In the first story of our three-part...Read More

Speaker Pelosi (and all your Democratic friends): I'm not waiting anymore.

Filed by Kip Williams | November 05, 2009 | 9:00 AM | comments

Early November last year, I stayed up into the wee hours one morning obsessively refreshing my web browser. The incoming precinct results for Prop 8 confirmed that my rights were being stripped away from me. I should have been celebrating...Read More


Maine: Not Open to Persuasion

Filed by Ed Team | November 05, 2009 | 7:30 AM | comments

"I certainly don't think the No on 1 campaign can be blamed; by every indication, they ran a tip-top operation whereas the Yes on 1 folks were amateurish. But this may not be an issue where the campaign itself matters...Read More

Marriage ads in New Jersey

Filed by Alex Blaze | November 05, 2009 | 7:00 AM | comments

Garden State Equality has two new ads out for same-sex marriage in that state even though the anti-marriage Republican just won the election for governor. The first is about health care, and considering how the debate is going in...Read More

Mourn the losses... Celebrate the Victories!

Filed by Phil Reese | November 04, 2009 | 6:00 PM | comments

Today is not a day to be sad. Anger is a different story. We have a lot to be angry about with our community's razor-thin defeat in Maine. Its a hard pill to swallow. I've given quite a bit of...Read More

Our Muddled Electoral Mess

Filed by Diane Silver | November 04, 2009 | 4:00 PM | comments

Anyone who says they know exactly what yesterday's election results mean for the future of LGBTQ people is a blowhard and a liar. Yesterday's results were decidedly muddled. Marriage equality lost yet again, this time in Maine. For anyone who's...Read More

The Day After a Hard Night

Filed by Kate Kendell | November 04, 2009 | 3:00 PM | comments

Déjà vu is welcome when it flashes us back to a welcome or happy memory. Today déjà vu is not so pleasant. The loss of marriage rights in Maine is a traumatic reminder of our Prop 8 fight in California....Read More

Will Rev. Bernice King's bully pulpit at SCLC bash gays?

Filed by Rev Irene Monroe | November 04, 2009 | 12:00 PM | comments

Rev. Bernice King has been bestowed the honor to be the eighth president and first women to head the Southern Christian Leadership Conference (SCLC). Co-founded by her father, Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr., the Rev. Bernice King may be...Read More

Strange wedding rituals of the heterosexuals: cake topper

Filed by Gloria Brame, Ph.D. | November 04, 2009 | 11:30 AM | comments

Ah yes, another tribute to the so-called sanctity of straight marriage. I've had nightmares like this....Read More

Indiana's Senator Evan Bayh: Legislator of the Day

Filed by Dr. Jillian T. Weiss | November 04, 2009 | 10:30 AM | comments

Last night's loss in Maine for marriage equality was very disappointing, losing by about 5 percentage points, but the ENDA-like non-discrimination ordinance won in Kalamazoo by an amazing 30 percentage points. The Kalamazoo ordinance covers housing and public accommodations, in...Read More

Election Night Results Open Thread: Maine, WA State, Kalamazoo & Beyond

Filed by Waymon Hudson | November 03, 2009 | 6:30 PM | comments

Tonight is a big night for LGBT rights and issues- Marriage Equality in Maine, Relationship Recognition in Washington State, and a Human Rights Ordinance in Kalamazoo. Add that to the openly gay candidates (Annise Parker in Houston) and races that...Read More

New study of gay marriage from Census data

Filed by Gloria Brame, Ph.D. | November 03, 2009 | 6:00 PM | comments

First of its kind: a demographic analysis, based on new Census Bureau data, comparing statistics on married same-sex couples, unmarried same-sex couples, and married different-sex couples. The Williams Institute for Sexual Orientation Law and Public Policy at UCLA Law issued...Read More

A little marriage bill moves ahead in D.C.

Filed by Guest Blogger | November 03, 2009 | 5:50 PM | comments

Editor's Note: Guest blogger Bob Summersgill is a long-time GLBT rights activist in the District of Columbia who has successfully led numerous human rights efforts. Lost in the aftermath of the D.C. Council hearing on the marriage bill and in...Read More

In York, Maine Today: No on One!

Filed by Sara Whitman | November 03, 2009 | 5:00 PM | comments

My friend, and fellow board member of Mass Equality, Pete and I hit the road this morning to knock on doors. Specifically, we were in Kittery. The campaign was set up at the York Harbor Inn, and set up with...Read More

Maine, Obama and the LGBT Community

Filed by Guest Blogger | November 03, 2009 | 3:00 PM | comments

Editors' Note: Guest blogger, author, political strategist, civil rights activist and public affairs advisor David Mixner writes about his passions: progressive politics, foreign policy, LGBT rights and wildlife advocacy. Once named by Newsweek as the most powerful gay man in...Read More

Voting on marriage equality in DC

Filed by Nancy Polikoff | November 03, 2009 | 2:00 PM | comments

The hearing on marriage equality in DC continued today before the City Council Committee on Public Safety and the Judiciary. Last week there were theatrics by those opposing marriage equality, but there was also a common theme. They want the...Read More

DC marriage hearings end with a proposal

Filed by Michael Crawford | November 03, 2009 | 9:30 AM | comments

Monday was the second day of the marathon hearings on the DC marriage bill. Over 250 people signed up to testify for or against legalizing marriages between same-sex couples over the two days with roughly 80% of the witnesses supporting...Read More

Low Blows In The NJ Governor's Race

Filed by Rebecca Juro | November 02, 2009 | 6:00 PM | comments

Here in New Jersey, politics is a contact sport and the participants are not shy about drawing blood. It's been this way throughout my adult lifetime and I don't expect it will ever change. It's just the way politics is...Read More

Is Alan Grayson a politician, a rock star, or a nut job?

Filed by Phil Reese | November 02, 2009 | 5:00 PM | comments

Florida Rep. Alan Grayson is making a lot of waves on Capitol Hill over health care, and his words seem to be resonating with folks--and enraging others. This video comes directly from Grayson's own Rock-star-like YouTube channel. How does a...Read More

If you don't vote, it's all your fault!

Filed by Guest Blogger | November 02, 2009 | 3:00 PM | comments

Editors' Note: Having grown up in the suburbs of Washington, DC, guest blogger Steve Publicover worked for fifteen years in the non-profit field of consumer credit education and advocacy and has written newsletters, educational materials and numerous articles for a...Read More

Why gay marriage IS the End of the World (or the queer world, at least)

Filed by Mattilda Bernstein Sycamore | November 02, 2009 | 2:00 PM | comments

I organized a sassy roundtable for the queer issue of Maximum Rocknroll, which was the October issue -- the issue is now off the stands, but here is the roundtable for your viewing pleasure -- it's a bit long, but...Read More

Down To the Wire

Filed by Adam Bink | November 02, 2009 | 9:30 AM | comments

Last month, Bil asked you to chip in to send me to Maine to write at my home blog, OpenLeft, about the campaign to protect marriage equality, and to build a broader movement of non-LGBT activists. Many of you generously...Read More

Guess Who Just Played the Gay Card?

Filed by Guest Blogger | November 01, 2009 | 10:00 AM | comments

Editors' Note: Guest blogger Adam Bink is the Online Strategy Manager at Progressive Strategies, LLC, and manages design and advertising at, a blog covering national progressive politics. He is a Dupont Circle resident and enjoys cooking, cycling, ultimate frisbee,...Read More