Marriage Equality: December 2009

The defining decade of my youth

Filed by Matt Comer | December 31, 2009 | 6:00 PM | comments

What Time is calling the "decade from hell," was nothing short a time of growth, self-discovery, exploration and transformation for me. This decade seems as though it has flown by, but entirely contained within that time was my journey from...Read More

The top 15 queer newsmakers of 2009

Filed by Alex Blaze | December 31, 2009 | 1:30 PM | comments

I drew up a list of the top 15 LGBTQ people who kept on making the headlines, both here in LGBTQ media and in straight media. These are not the "15 greatest LGBT people of 2009," nor are they the...Read More


There's more than 10 in one paragraph

Filed by Ed Team | December 31, 2009 | 7:30 AM | comments

"Get all pro-homosexual and pro-promiscuity programs, literature, teachers, and counselors out of every school now. Remove "gay" clubs, Planned Parenthood at health fairs, and GLSEN- PFLAG- SIECUS activists. Cease all condom demonstrations, abortion referrals, on-site birth control dispensing, sexual orientation...Read More

Top 10 LGBT Stories of 2009

Filed by Bil Browning | December 30, 2009 | 7:00 PM | comments

2009 was a year of momentum for the LGBT community. For the first time, federal legislation was passed that included sexual orientation and gender identity, over 250,000+ LGBT people and allies marched on Washington for civil rights, same-sex marriage was...Read More

Ohio Senate Removes LGBT Protections From Teen Dating-Violence Prevention Law

Filed by Guest Blogger | December 30, 2009 | 4:00 PM | comments

Editors' Note: Guest blogger Chris Geidner is a lawyer in Washington, D.C., who blogs at Law Dork, is a regular contributor to Metro Weekly and has written for The Atlantic Online, and elsewhere. You also can follow him on...Read More

Kissing Cousins - As Long as They Are Straight

Filed by Jerame Davis | December 30, 2009 | 1:12 PM | comments

I always knew there was something special about living in Indiana. I never knew it was that we are so backwards that we allow first cousins to marry - but only if they're of opposite sex, of course. We don't...Read More

Ushuaia is just as good as Buenos Aires

Filed by Alex Blaze | December 30, 2009 | 1:00 PM | comments

About a month ago a Buenos Aires judge ruled that the city couldn't ban same-sex marriage, and activists Jose Maria Di Bello and Alex Freyre set their wedding date for December first, World AIDS Day. Later that week, a federal...Read More

Why get married abroad when you can get married at home?

Filed by Alex Blaze | December 29, 2009 | 5:00 PM | comments

Colin Farrell's brother Eamon just got married to his partner Stephen. Congrats to the couple. But I can't help but wondering why they did it, and I know that there are more than a few people who read this site...Read More

Law professors' conference addresses needs of same-sex partners in a "defense of marriage" state

Filed by Nancy Polikoff | December 29, 2009 | 9:30 AM | comments

Next week, the Association of American Law Schools will hold its annual meeting in New Orleans. This is the annual meeting of law professors from across the country. In acknowledgment of the needs of same-sex and unmarried partners in a...Read More

Illinois GOP Senate primaries hit a homophobic low-note

Filed by Phil Reese | December 28, 2009 | 8:00 PM | comments

While openly gay Jacob Meister campaigns over on the Democratic side, it seems the Republican contest for the Senate seat once held by President Barack Obama is the contest with the real gay scandal. Illinois Republican Representative and active Navy...Read More

Anti-gay DC bus ads: Censorship or free speech?

Filed by Bil Browning | December 28, 2009 | 6:30 PM | comments

An interesting conundrum in the Washington DC area has two different groups of LGBT citizens lining up on opposing sides of a free speech issue. Stand For Marriage DC, an anti-gay group trying to reverse the recent decision to approve...Read More

The right's gAyTM

Filed by Alex Blaze | December 28, 2009 | 11:00 AM | comments

GOProud, a right-wing Republican gay and lesbian org, announced that it wanted to cosponsor the CPAC (big annual conservative convention known for its homophobia) along with other assorted rightwing orgs, and that promptly received calls for boycott from culture war...Read More

Weekly Reader: The Salvation Army, Katy Perry, & Lance Bass

Filed by Bil Browning | December 27, 2009 | 11:30 AM | comments

It might have been a holiday week, but we kept plugging away to bring you the best content we could - including tons of holiday-themed posts! Check out some of these great posts from last week: Sunday Disturbing: Pelosi &...Read More

Goodbye 2009, Bring on 2010

Filed by Cathy Renna | December 27, 2009 | 10:00 AM | comments

First apologies for not showing my face here for a while. Let's say the year is ending with a rollercoaster ride and a bit of a bang, both personally and professionally. Since many of you know me I will not...Read More

Gay activists disrupt NY State Sen Hiram Monserrate's holiday party

Filed by Bil Browning | December 27, 2009 | 7:00 AM | comments

Projector Alan sends in this video with this message: "Tuesday evening, December 22 we snuck into New York State Senator Hiram Monserrate's holiday party and chanted things like, "Hiram believes marriage should be between one man, one woman and...Read More

Christmas Eve in the Tenderloin

Filed by Guest Blogger | December 24, 2009 | 1:30 PM | comments

Editors' Note: Guest blogger Jerry Weiss is a writer and semi-retired consultant with the political section of CNN. These are survival costumes, however; he considers himself, now and forever, a gay hippie. It was late on Christmas Eve, 1971, in...Read More

My Marriage is a Stone

Filed by Father Tony | December 24, 2009 | 9:30 AM | comments

Earlier this week, we marked our twenty-sixth anniversary together and our first anniversary as a married couple. Now that I'm a year into it, I'd like to reflect a bit on marriage, that institution for which so many of you...Read More

How Newsweek Got It Wrong On Gay Rights

Filed by Dr. Jillian T. Weiss | December 23, 2009 | 12:00 PM | comments

No one reading my columns here and knowing my view of LGBT rights in the Obama era will mistake me for a dewy-eyed optimist. At the same time, however, the prediction that "Obama does nada on gay rights" in 2010...Read More

Mexico City legalizes same-sex marriage

Filed by Bil Browning | December 22, 2009 | 4:30 PM | comments

Mexico City has become the first Latin American city to legalize same-sex marriage. While other cities have passed civil union registrations, Mexico City is the first to give LGBT citizens the full equality. The new law also gives gay couples...Read More

Goodbye to Oughts That

Filed by Kate Clinton | December 20, 2009 | 4:00 PM | comments

The beginning years of this decade were like being in an eight-year abusive relationship. George Bush was on crack. It was Iraq. He and his thug pals terrorized the neighborhood, especially the gay kids. He ran up the credit card...Read More

Tom Duane speaks at a marriage rally in New York City

Filed by Alex Blaze | December 19, 2009 | 7:30 AM | comments

Tom Duane gets angry about the NY senate's vote against same-sex marriage....Read More

A Sesame Street death, Animation Domination, & LGBT rights in 2010

Filed by Bil Browning | December 18, 2009 | 3:00 PM | comments

Let's see, today's roundup of tidbits from around the web has quite the array of topics. There should be something for everyone to click out and see. New York governor Paterson signed an executive order prohibiting discrimination based on gender...Read More

Feeling burned by the Democratic party? Do something.

Filed by Joe Mirabella | December 18, 2009 | 12:00 PM | comments

Fellow contributor Adam Bink wrote on Open Left about the following Newsweek prediction for 2010: Patience became the 2009 mantra of the gay rights movement, which generally supports Democrats. Many activists believe that in his heart Obama supports their flagship...Read More

DC Mayor Fenty signs marriage equality bill

Filed by Bil Browning | December 18, 2009 | 11:00 AM | comments

Mayor Adrian Fenty has signed the Religious Freedom and Civil Marriage Equality Amendment Act of 2009, following the overwhelming vote in support of marriage equality by the Washington DC City Council on Tuesday. With today's bill signing, the District has...Read More

DC mayor to sign marriage bill tomorrow morning

Filed by Michael Crawford | December 17, 2009 | 7:32 PM | comments

Mayor Adrian Fenty has announced he will sign the DC marriage bill on Friday morning. Details are below. FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE: December 17, 2009 Fenty to Sign Same Sex Marriage Legislation WHAT: Mayor Adrian M. Fenty to take historic step...Read More

LGBTQ progress since 2000

Filed by Alex Blaze | December 17, 2009 | 6:00 PM | comments

Matt Foreman, who works for the Evelyn & Walter Haas, Jr., Fund now, sent us this summary of the work that has been done in the past decade to advance that LGBTQ agenda. Looking at the diverse contacts at the...Read More

Bad CBS analysis of same-sex marriage, written by the "marriage-focused"

Filed by Alex Blaze | December 17, 2009 | 2:00 PM | comments

I came across an "analysis" piece on CBS this morning that was particularly uninsightful. I'm actually surprised it got the forum that it got. It's focused on a topic that I've been following closely for years - the fight for...Read More

In Sickness and in Health

Filed by David Castillo | December 16, 2009 | 6:30 PM | comments

I've never been prouder to live in Washington, D.C. than this week when the DC Council voted to recognize same-sex marriages. Come next spring, D.C. will be this country's only major city in which marriage equality is the law, Congress'...Read More

GOProud vs. AFTAH: The straight right responds to the gay right

Filed by Alex Blaze | December 16, 2009 | 3:00 PM | comments

GOProud, the wingnutty cousin to the Goldwater conservatives at Log Cabin, announced last week that they'd be co-sponsoring the CPAC (big, annual conservative conference famous for homophobia). A few people pointed out that they'd be cosponsoring with folks like NOM...Read More

Expression, Role, and Identity: Gender

Filed by Antonia D'orsay | December 16, 2009 | 11:00 AM | comments

As promised, I will now tackle the concept of gender. Previously, I talked about What is Trans. Then I talked about What is Sex - between the legs it was, and now we come to the between the ears part....Read More

Catholic Gibberish from Communications Director Susan Gibbs

Filed by Father Tony | December 16, 2009 | 10:00 AM | comments

I can only imagine that Susan Gibbs must have laughed till she cried while writing this. Then she went home, poured herself a double scotch, and reminded herself that even though she hates being a tool for a bunch of...Read More


NOM promises to overturn DC marriage

Filed by Ed Team | December 16, 2009 | 7:30 AM | comments

"The people of D.C. have a right, guaranteed by the charter, which is D.C.'s constitution, to vote to protect marriage. Politicians on the city council are acting as if they have the right through legislation to deprive citizens of D.C....Read More

Building The LGBT Alliance: Transphobia in the LGBT Community Part III

Filed by Dr. Jillian T. Weiss | December 15, 2009 | 7:00 PM | comments

There is transphobia in the gay community in the US, and it threatens our political solidarity for the accomplishment of our political objectives, such as the Employment Non-Discrimination Act and marriage equality. Time spent fighting among ourselves represents time wasted...Read More

Focus on the Family focuses on Indiana. Again.

Filed by Bil Browning | December 15, 2009 | 5:00 PM | comments

Focus on the Family has decided to target Indiana again in their push for same-sex marriage amendments. While DC took a huge step forward today, FOF is resorting to their usual scare tactics to frighten the sheeple. Yes, that's right....Read More

DC approves same-sex marriage

Filed by Bil Browning | December 15, 2009 | 2:45 PM | comments

Congratulations to our nation's capital for approving same-sex marriage. While DC started recognizing marriages from outside of the district earlier this year, now they've gone one step further and have taken a firm stand for equality. The bill will now...Read More

The heart of the marriage issue

Filed by Alex Blaze | December 15, 2009 | 11:30 AM | comments

After a few months of silence, the right is back to attacking Kevin Jennings. While Fox News is even labeling the attacks "fresh" to make people think that there's something to look at here (if you have to call your...Read More


Jim Demint's "troubled" by a gay president

Filed by Ed Team | December 15, 2009 | 7:30 AM | comments

"[A gay president] would be bothersome to me personally because I consider it immoral.[...] Marriage is a religious institution. The federal government has no business redefining what it is. Governments should not be in the business of promoting a behavior...Read More

Ed Mullen wants to make more gay history in Illinois

Filed by Phil Reese | December 14, 2009 | 5:30 PM | comments

Ed Mullen, Democratic candidate for Illinois State Assembly District 11, got a bit of good news this weekend. He found out that the Victory Fund will officially endorse him in his primary. This is good news for his home town...Read More

"Brokeback" and "Bruno" Top List of Highest-Grossing LGBT-Related Films of the 2000s

Filed by Prince Gomolvilas | December 14, 2009 | 10:00 AM | comments

While I question the importance of box-office numbers when it comes to cinema (millions of Twilight fans don't negate the fact that those movies make me want to punch the screen), I do think they're a good barometer of public...Read More


What's the plan? Answers to your questions

Filed by Jerame Davis | December 13, 2009 | 5:30 PM | comments

In a comment thread on Becky Juro's post about the Ron Gold controversy, a commenter asked me some very important questions. And since so many others have asked similar questions, I thought I'd put my responses into a blog post...Read More

Husband of openly gay Illinois Senate candidate's rival makes a scene at Jim Madigan fundraiser.

Filed by Phil Reese | December 13, 2009 | 1:00 PM | comments

What on earth was Heather Steans' husband Leo Smith doing at the Jim Madigan community fundraiser Thursday night (even though he didn't pay to get in)? It certainly wasn't a diplomatic outreach mission. The prominent donor to shamed former Governor...Read More

Dissolving Same Sex Relationships - Tips For A Smoother Breakup

Filed by Michael Hamar | December 12, 2009 | 1:00 PM | comments

While I do not handle regular divorce or family law matters in my law practice, over the course of several years I have come to represent on a number of occasions one of the partners in LGBT relationship who are...Read More

My last post at Bilerico?

Filed by Brynn Craffey | December 12, 2009 | 12:30 PM | comments

I had intended to begin, "This will be my last post at Bilerico," for I had intended to resign. But a person I respect deeply here at Bilerico has urged me to reconsider. More on the final straw pushing me...Read More

Today in Houston

Filed by Adam Bink | December 12, 2009 | 10:00 AM | comments

Annise Parker, an out lesbian and solid progressive, is running for Mayor of Houston, and the runoff election is today. She has a slim lead in the polls. I posted an interview earlier this week with Annise, in which I...Read More

Jerry Nadler: DOMA repeal is going to have to wait

Filed by Alex Blaze | December 11, 2009 | 1:00 PM | comments

Jerry Nadler's talking some sense. DOMA repeal is the equivalent legalizing same-sex marriage in the minds of a good deal of Americans and a majority of Congress, and it's toxic right now. "The Respect for Marriage Act is a bill...Read More


My Responsibility: The difference between "challenging" and "offensive"

Filed by Bil Browning | December 11, 2009 | 3:00 AM | comments

Bilerico Project was launched with the knowledge that vast swaths of the LGBT community had no interactions with each other. As much as we love to embrace our rainbows, our color stripes tend to have hard edges like the flag...Read More

If we can predict the future, then why didn't we see the Prop 8 loss coming?

Filed by Alex Blaze | December 10, 2009 | 12:00 PM | comments

I'm really not getting why everyone in the LGBTQ blogosphere is laughing at Maggie Gallagher's "Eight Reasons Why Gay Marriage Is Not Inevitable." I know it's fun to mock someone like her because she's officially against us, but, seriously, she...Read More

Setting Sail on the Gayflower

Filed by Father Tony | December 10, 2009 | 10:30 AM | comments

Dear Father Tony, I've been a reader on Bilerico for a few months. I've read previous letters that you have received and posted on the Bilerico website and wondered if I could do the same. I am a 20...Read More

Here's your liberal media for you

Filed by Alex Blaze | December 09, 2009 | 4:30 PM | comments

Here's an interesting story. Larry Grard, a journalist for the Morning Sentinel in Waterville, Maine, lost his job because, the day after Question 1 (same-sex marriage ban) passed in Maine, he sent this email to HRC: Who are the hateful,...Read More


The Boss for Equality

Filed by Ed Team | December 09, 2009 | 7:30 AM | comments

"Like many of you who live in New Jersey, I've been following the progress of the marriage-equality legislation currently being considered in Trenton. I've long believed in and have always spoken out for the rights of same sex couples and...Read More

Woman Auctions Her Right to Marry in NY

Filed by Michelle Marzullo | December 08, 2009 | 6:30 PM | comments

In response to the recent denial of same-sex marriage to LGBT people in New York, Jamie Frevele is auctioning off her right to marry as a heterosexual woman on EBay. What do you think about this? Here's her reasoning:...Read More

An interview with Annise Parker for Houston Mayor

Filed by Adam Bink | December 08, 2009 | 11:30 AM | comments

Late last week I talked to Annise Parker, the out lesbian and Houston City Controller who is running for Mayor of Houston. Annise is in a run-off, and the election is this Saturday. If elected against her opponent- a lobbyist...Read More

Senator Ed Murray's road map towards full equality

Filed by Joe Mirabella | December 08, 2009 | 9:30 AM | comments

State Senator Ed Murray led the charge in Washington for the last three years that eventually resulted in our "everything but marriage" victory last November. Senator Murray was initially criticized for his incremental approach by some in the community. I...Read More


A Step Forward in New Jersey

Filed by Ed Team | December 08, 2009 | 7:30 AM | comments

"Throughout the history of our nation, New Jerseyans have been among the first to champion the fundamental rights of life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness - from the fight for independence to the civil rights movement. By moving forward...Read More

A Christmas Eve Call to Catholic Action

Filed by Father Tony | December 07, 2009 | 6:30 PM | comments

Will you please consider sending this call to Catholic action to all your Catholic friends and relatives? Did you know that the mistreatment of women, married men and gay men by the Catholic bishops is really the same issue? I...Read More

Poz Smokers And The Facts

Filed by D Gregory Smith | December 07, 2009 | 12:30 PM | comments

God, I miss smoking. I used to be so coy and cute and worldly standing by the bar with a cocktail and a cigarette. Seriously. People said so. It all started innocently enough. I was in a play in college...Read More

Washington's new domestic partnership law limited by DOMA and DADT

Filed by Joe Mirabella | December 07, 2009 | 9:30 AM | comments

Washington's new domestic partnership expansion law went into effect last week on December 3. My partner and I marked the occasion by registering as Domestic Partners with the state of Washington. We are already running into challenges. According to the...Read More

HRC meeting with Indiana 2nd district Congressman Donnelly

Filed by Donna Pandori | December 06, 2009 | 10:00 AM | comments

Since November Adrian Matanza, an HRC organizer, has been Hitting the Road In Indiana working to build support for an inclusive ENDA. This effort is coming to South Bend, Indiana Monday December 7th when Mr. Matanza and constituents from the...Read More


The Real Fight

Filed by Ed Team | December 06, 2009 | 7:30 AM | comments

"The real fight is not over marriage itself. Perry v. Schwarzenegger is only about gay marriage in the sense that Roe v. Wade was about privacy, or Brown v. Board of Education was about school choice. The case is really...Read More

The Recession and LGBT Communities

Filed by Michelle Marzullo | December 05, 2009 | 5:00 PM | comments

The global economic recession has been rolling over the world full force for over a year now. We have seen the markets flowing in red, homeowners being turned out at a rate not seen since the great depression, and the...Read More


Friends and Enemies

Filed by Ed Team | December 05, 2009 | 7:30 AM | comments

"The fight for justice is always long and hard, and while this vote was of course extremely disappointing, we now know with certainty who our friends are and who our enemies are. And, trust me, we won't forget it at...Read More

ENDA is not a bright, shiny object

Filed by Amy Hunter | December 04, 2009 | 4:00 PM | comments

"Fifteen years or more at least" Mara Keisling was saying in response to the question I had just asked. Ms. Keisling is the Executive Director of the National Center for Transgender Equality (NCTE) and a partner with United ENDA, an...Read More

Marriage was a drag in 1930

Filed by Gloria Brame, Ph.D. | December 04, 2009 | 2:30 PM | comments

Upholding the British naval traditions of rum, sodomy, and the lash.... Possibly from a line-crossing ceremony...Read More

Ruth Hassell-Thompson's gay brother

Filed by Alex Blaze | December 04, 2009 | 7:00 AM | comments

New York senator Ruth Hassell-Thompson speaks on the NY senate floor about her gay brother and marriage....Read More

Who decides LGBT strategy?

Filed by Alex Blaze | December 03, 2009 | 5:00 PM | comments

The fight for 2010 isn't dead yet: A coalition of Californian gay rights groups have said they are determined to get gay marriage back on the ballot next year. Jo Hoenninger of Restore Equality 2010, said: "This is a movement...Read More

ENDA Postponement Trumped By Marriage Debacle, Again

Filed by Dr. Jillian T. Weiss | December 03, 2009 | 11:30 AM | comments

It is 5 minutes to midnight on ENDA, with still a possibility of getting a vote this year if everyone pulls together, and what happens? Do we have LGBT and progressive media exploding with articles of protest and telling people...Read More

Go Ahead. Step Over That Line.

Filed by Father Tony | December 03, 2009 | 10:30 AM | comments

Dear FT, About 10 years ago I met a guy. He was in on business from another state and asked me out. We went out a few times before he went home, and we had incredible chemistry. Things didn't...Read More

New York Senate votes against same-sex marriage

Filed by Alex Blaze | December 03, 2009 | 9:30 AM | comments

With as much anticipation that went into the NY Senate's vote on same-sex marriage (I don't know how many times I read that the Senate would be voting on marriage "this week" or "today" or "soon" in 2009), one would...Read More

Papardam for Peace

Filed by Kate Clinton | December 03, 2009 | 8:00 AM | comments

When Urvashi and I went to the State House dinner, we found every bigwig we could find to talk about LGBT issues and peace. Of course, we suck at it; New York state just voted against marriage and President...Read More


The Right Side

Filed by Ed Team | December 03, 2009 | 7:30 AM | comments

"People have said to me 'now is not the time'. There's always time to be on the right side of history." --New York State Sen. Tom Duane...Read More

Jesse's Journal: Living Life to the Fullest

Filed by Jesse Monteagudo | December 02, 2009 | 9:00 AM | comments

The most memorable person I ever met was my cousin by marriage, Roger Alan Weinstein. Roger never had much money, was never elected to public office, never won a major award, never appeared on People magazine or reality TV and...Read More

Same-sex marriage moves forward in DC, possibly New York

Filed by Alex Blaze | December 01, 2009 | 3:00 PM | comments

The DC city council just voted to introduce a bill to open up marriage to same-sex couples 13-2. They'll vote again in a month, and, if it wins again, same-sex marriage will be legal in the nation's capital. Also, New...Read More

They said gay marriage would lead to this...

Filed by Bil Browning | December 01, 2009 | 7:00 AM | comments

Wait. You mean this wasn't what they said gay marriage would lead to? Well, it has to be close, right? Men dancing with dogs. What's next? Women working outside the home? (Hat tip to Bamboo Nation for the video.)...Read More