Marriage Equality: February 2010


Same-sex marriage throughout Europe in 10 years?

Filed by Ed Team | February 28, 2010 | 7:30 AM | comments

"I never thought that Ireland would introduce legislation on this [gay marriage] for the reasons others have cited about religion, but it is happening. So I am optimistic. I think in the next 10 years we will see it across...Read More

NOM's Maggie Gallagher Supports & Admires Killing Gays

Filed by Waymon Hudson | February 26, 2010 | 3:00 PM | comments

We all know Maggie Gallagher makes her living off of peddling anti-LGBT hate with the National Organization for Marriage. She claims she's just "saving marriage from the evil gays" and that she doesn't hate us. Sure she claims that we...Read More

Quiet? Yes. Dignity? No.

Filed by Terrance Heath | February 25, 2010 | 12:00 PM | comments

OK. I wasn’t going to say anything else about the John Edwards mess. It’s gotten sordid past the point of rubbernecking, even. I just want to look away. But after reading this piece about the “quiet dignity of Rielle Hunter,”...Read More


Is this change you can believe in?

Filed by Ed Team | February 25, 2010 | 7:00 AM | comments

"I don't know what more I can say, other than that I realize I was wrong. You may not embrace me, you may not vote for me, but I would only hope that you would at least accept the fact...Read More

IN marriage amendment dies in committee

Filed by Bil Browning | February 24, 2010 | 7:00 PM | comments

Now that the Indiana legislature is wrapping up their business for the year, Indiana Equality is claiming victory in this years' marriage amendment skirmish. From an e-blast: Senate Joint Resolution 13, the Marriage Discrimination Amendment, has died in the Indiana...Read More

Ads that don't work: French smoking ad and the Tim Tebow anti-choice ad revisited

Filed by Alex Blaze | February 24, 2010 | 6:00 PM | comments

Just because an ad says something doesn't mean that it's message is going to get through. Take this French ad that's supposed to be anti-smoking, even though all I see at first glance is a hot guy getting some action,...Read More

It's Not God Saying Gays Should Be Put to Death, It's YOU

Filed by Waymon Hudson | February 24, 2010 | 4:00 PM | comments

Alright. Let's get one thing straight, fundie homophobes- you don't get a pass when you "quote" the Leviticus Bible verse saying: If man lies with a man as he would lie with a woman, both of them have committed an...Read More

Maryland Attorney General Recognizes Same-Sex Marriage

Filed by Keri Renault | February 24, 2010 | 2:00 PM | comments

Attorney General Doug Gansler has released a long-awaited opinion in favor of recognizing out-of-state, same-sex marriages in Maryland. Senator Rich Madeleno (D-Montgomery) requested the Attorney General's opinion in May of 2009. The opinion concludes the State of Maryland may recognize...Read More

In CPAC's Conservative Circus, Are Gays The High-Wire Act?

Filed by David Badash | February 24, 2010 | 11:00 AM | comments

Last week was the perfect storm of Conservative carnival cacophony. "Ladies and Gentlemen, Children of All Ages...." should have been the rallying cry, starting on Valentine's Day, when homophobe Tucker Carlson did a spot with Clayton Morris of "Fox And...Read More


Same old, same old

Filed by Ed Team | February 24, 2010 | 7:30 AM | comments

"It's the same old song. Some people don't have enough to do creating jobs and moving this economy forward, so they think up divisive things." -- Indiana State Speaker of the House Pat Bauer in late January when asked by...Read More

Get hitched or get ditched!

Filed by Mattilda Bernstein Sycamore | February 23, 2010 | 4:30 PM | comments

The Skinny in Edinburgh asked me to write a short piece on marriage (no, my dear, you're not the only one), and here's how it starts: My mother, a straight white woman in her early sixties, recently moved to a...Read More


Bilerico WIN: LA Stonewall Democratic Club Bob Craig Media Award

Filed by Bil Browning | February 22, 2010 | 6:00 PM | comments

The Los Angeles Stonewall Democratic Club has announced the Stoney Award winners and I'm humbled to join fellow honorees Congressman Jared Polis and longtime activist Cleve Jones as one of this year's honorees. John Cleary, the club's President, writes: The...Read More

Fighting against same-sex marriage just isn't the ticket to popularity it once was

Filed by Alex Blaze | February 22, 2010 | 5:00 PM | comments

It's not surprising that marriage ranked lower than it normally does at this year's CPAC straw poll. It's been banned in the constitutions of a majority of states and there aren't any ballot initiatives on it coming up, while the...Read More

Covering the Prop. 8 Trial: Can the Gay Press Maintain Objectivity (and Should It)

Filed by Karen Ocamb | February 21, 2010 | 2:30 PM | comments

Next Thursday - Feb. 25 - I am going to be on a Los Angeles Press Club panel with Andrew Harmon, senior editor for The Advocate, and my legally married friend, Ted Johnson, managing editor of Variety and blogger at...Read More

What If...

Filed by Antonia D'orsay | February 20, 2010 | 3:00 PM | comments

What if one day you went into work and your name on everything there is different, your sex on all your records was changed, and you discovered that although you had just gone to the trouble to get everything fixed, you find out that your employer had just gone ahead and changed all of that for you since they didn't agree with the way you went and did it?Read More

Why DADT repeal gets more attention than ENDA

Filed by Alex Blaze | February 18, 2010 | 7:00 PM | comments

Adam Bink posed some interesting questions yesterday about how DADT is taking attention away from ENDA, whether that's fair, and what it means for the LGBT movement. In 2009, Congress kept on kicking ENDA further and further down; now it's...Read More

Catholic Charities pull out of DC because of same-sex marriage

Filed by Alex Blaze | February 18, 2010 | 2:00 PM | comments

It doesn't count as an empty threat if they pull the trigger: The Catholic Archdiocese of Washington has ended its 80-year-old foster-care program in the District rather than license same-sex couples, the first fallout from a bitter debate over the...Read More

The question of issue prioritization

Filed by Adam Bink | February 17, 2010 | 7:00 PM | comments

I like to have a lot of discussions around political strategy with friends, both politically-oriented folks as well as more detached friends. I was e-mailing with one fairly politically-oriented friend of mine back and forth through the day yesterday about...Read More

Civil unions can be about choice

Filed by Alex Blaze | February 17, 2010 | 2:00 PM | comments

An Austrian straight couple wants to get a civil union, which just started in that country in January: A heterosexual couple in Austria is fighting for the right to enter into a registered civil partnership - introduced for homosexual couples...Read More

Rep. Nancy 'Anal Sex in Schools' Elliott: Liar, Liar...

Filed by Waymon Hudson | February 17, 2010 | 10:30 AM | comments

New Hampshire Representative Nancy Elliott became youtube/Sally Kern famous last week when she gave a detailed rant on gay male sex and made the ridiculous claim that a fifth grade class had been instructed to draw two men having anal...Read More

Ban loveless marriage?

Filed by Alex Blaze | February 16, 2010 | 6:00 PM | comments

This Onion report comes a little too late - the right already proved that it can't be satired here because they actually believe that loveless marriage should be illegal. It's still funny, though....Read More

LA Gay & Lesbian Center and NGLTF lead misguided action about Social Security

Filed by Nancy Polikoff | February 16, 2010 | 12:00 PM | comments

The LA Center and the Task Force are mobilizing the gay community to "Rock for Equality." The equality in this instance is access to Social Security spousal and survivors benefits available to heterosexual married couples. But there's an enormous problem...Read More

What does Evan Bayh's retirement mean for LGBT rights?

Filed by Jerame Davis | February 15, 2010 | 2:00 PM | comments

[UPDATE: I made a few edits for clarity and added the statement made by Senator Bayh today in Indianapolis. Statement is after the jump.] Evan Bayh, proving he's a bigger douchebag than anyone expected, will announce today that he is...Read More

Down and Dirty with Bil Browning

Filed by Peter Monn and Alex Paredes | February 14, 2010 | 5:00 PM | comments

Running a social blog and discovering who the local celebrities are is interesting because what you find is that power is not necessarily confined by social status, wealth or interest, but sometimes by who is controlling what news reaches us,...Read More

Freedom to Marry Week: Bringing It Home

Filed by Guest Blogger | February 14, 2010 | 4:00 PM | comments

Editors' Note: Guest blogger Marc Solomon is the marriage director of Equality California, where he focuses on overturning Prop 8 and restore the freedom to marry in the state. Before joining EQCA, Marc led the successful fight to protect marriage...Read More

Friendship in the Time of Love

Filed by Yasmin Nair | February 14, 2010 | 10:00 AM | comments

I posted this two years ago, and thought it would be appropriate to repost this year. You can see the older post and comments here. Or you can just read it below. We know by now that Valentine's Day, like...Read More


Rick Santorum's Paula Abdul phase

Filed by Ed Team | February 14, 2010 | 7:30 AM | comments

"California's voters have spoken. The only point of Walker's rigged trial is to convince appellate courts that voters who passed Proposition 8 are intolerant bigots. But an honest look at the behavior of both sides over the past year tells...Read More

Greetings from Maryland: Pushing Snow & Equality

Filed by Keri Renault | February 12, 2010 | 4:00 PM | comments

Two record setting sieges are over. Another delayed. So how come the forecast is bright? Maryland may have had its fill of snow, but its LGBT advocates can't wait to push an aggressive equality agenda to the General Assembly in...Read More

Freedom to Marry Day 2010

Filed by Davina Kotulski | February 12, 2010 | 2:30 PM | comments

On 12, 2001 I went down to the San Francisco City Hall and asked for a marriage license with my then bride, Molly McKay. Not surprisingly, we were turned away. We continued to go ever year to San Francisco City...Read More

Lesbian marries a total stranger in protest

Filed by Alex Blaze | February 12, 2010 | 7:00 AM | comments

A Buffalo lesbian marries a stranger in protest of the same-sex marriage ban....Read More

Would the World be Better Off Without Any Trans People?

Filed by Guest Blogger | February 11, 2010 | 6:00 PM | comments

Editors' note: Alice Kalafarski is a law school graduate and transgender activist. She volunteers with Boston Area Rape Crisis Center (BARCC), SpeakOUT Boston, and spent a month with Maine's No on One campaign. Of all the places she helps out,...Read More

Gay Men, Straight Wives: Two Women Show Acceptance and Love

Filed by Betty Greene Salwak | February 11, 2010 | 4:00 PM | comments

Two women have been put in the public spotlight for having married now-famous men who later confessed that they were gay. The spotlight could not have found better examples of gracious acceptance. Jemma Thomas, wife of gay rugby star Gareth...Read More

Send in the clowns

Filed by Alex Blaze | February 11, 2010 | 3:00 PM | comments

Well, we all knew someone was going to say it eventually: "The revelation that Judge Walker apparently chooses to engage in homosexual conduct, if true, would explain much of his bizarre behavior throughout this trial," said [Matt] Barber. "At every...Read More

Simply Be a Mom

Filed by Sara Whitman | February 10, 2010 | 4:00 PM | comments

I know. I've been quiet for a while. Part of me had to go lick my wounds for a while. Naked frat boy, horrible Supreme Court ruling. I didn't want to read or think or do anything. So I didn't....Read More

Exclusive Interview: Evan Wolfson of Freedom To Marry

Filed by Bil Browning | February 10, 2010 | 12:00 PM | comments

I had a chance to sit down with Evan Wolfson, Executive Director of Freedom to Marry, and talk to him about why marriage recognition is such a personally important issue for him. Of course, I also had to ask him...Read More


Filed by Antonia D'orsay | February 10, 2010 | 11:00 AM | comments

Let's pause for a moment and look at one thing, though.  One thing that reaches outside that, so that people know why it is that I note, casually and consistently, the importance of our recognizing the kinship we have with each other within the LGBT. It starts when we are kids.Read More

Guess who's gay?

Filed by Alex Blaze | February 09, 2010 | 5:00 PM | comments

It turns out that Vaughn Walker, the judge at the Prop 8 trial, is gay. Not that that means that his position is going to be any more biased than all judicial decisions are, but that did just add another...Read More

Traditional marriage: Good enough for King David

Filed by Bil Browning | February 08, 2010 | 3:00 PM | comments

Indiana Family Institute policy director Ryan McCann wrote a post on their blog advocating for passage of a constitutional amendment to ban same-sex marriage and civil unions. Correct me if I'm wrong, but does the "traditional marriage supporter" who blames...Read More

Roll Up Your Sleeves, Arizona

Filed by Antonia D'orsay | February 08, 2010 | 10:30 AM | comments

So it's late in the day today at Creating Change, and I'm pissed off at people from Arizona. Rather intensely so. Here I've encountered a teacher from Coolidge, Alison Davidson from Saga in Tucson, Kim Pearson, who's based out of...Read More

Reviewing the Coakley/Brown Senate Race

Filed by R Conrad | February 07, 2010 | 2:30 PM | comments

Jim and Bob are fast becoming some my favorite folks in Boston. Over the last year we have become better friends, bonding over the shallow lunacy of contemporary mainstream LGBT politics. Our growing friendship has been mutually sustaining as we...Read More

Children Ask, Children Tell: Iraq war vet struggles to raise sons while closeted

Filed by Dana Rudolph | February 06, 2010 | 11:30 AM | comments

[Author's note: I first published this piece two years ago, when I had the honor of interviewing a lesbian-mom couple, one of whom is an active-duty military officer. Given the recent news about possible progress on a repeal of Don't...Read More


Oliver North says gays are pedophiles

Filed by Ed Team | February 06, 2010 | 7:30 AM | comments

"Now, here's what's next. NAMBLA members, same-sex marriages. Are chaplains in the US military going to be required to perform those kinds of rituals? Do they [pedophiles and homosexuals] get government housing?" --Oliver North on Fox News discussing DADT repeal....Read More

DADT and the Silence / Silencing of Queer Anti-War Voices

Filed by Yasmin Nair | February 05, 2010 | 7:00 PM | comments

The news of a possible repeal of Don't Ask, Don't Tell has gay and straight liberals billing and cooing at each other like long lost pigeon lovers. If the words of military top brass are to be believed, they really,...Read More

Want to Create Change? Take a Look in the Mirror

Filed by Waymon Hudson | February 05, 2010 | 6:00 PM | comments

I was having a chat with a friend at the Creating Change Conference where we were catching up, talking about our current projects, and chatting about the community in general. We got into the topic of what we both agreed...Read More

The State of the Movement: Speeches aren't change, change is more than words

Filed by Bil Browning | February 05, 2010 | 4:00 PM | comments

NGLTF Executive Director Rea Carey presented the annual State of the Movement address today at the 22nd Creating Change conference in Dallas, Texas. The speech was a real barnburner that brought the crowd to their feet multiple times as Carey...Read More

Why was the repeal of "Don't Ask Don't Tell" excluded from the 2011 budget?

Filed by Joe Mirabella | February 05, 2010 | 11:00 AM | comments

All things cost money, even the implementation of new rules that would repeal the outdated and completely unfair Don't Ask, Don't Tell(DADT) policy that prevents gays and lesbians from servicing openly in the military. One of the President's jobs is...Read More

President Obama: Uganda Kill-the-Gays Bill 'Odious'

Filed by David Castillo | February 05, 2010 | 9:30 AM | comments

While President Obama and Secretary of State Clinton addressed the invite-only ticketed National Prayer Breakfast, Americans gathered in cities around the country to protest the event. The American Prayer Hour was organized to protest the involvement of American politicians and...Read More


Sarah Silverman on marriage

Filed by Ed Team | February 05, 2010 | 7:30 AM | comments

"Not only would I not get married, it actually actively bums me out that anyone who is for equal rights would get married right now. There's nothing different between that and joining a country club that doesn't allow blacks and...Read More

Monogamy: Gender vs. Sexual Orientation

Filed by Michele O'Mara | February 04, 2010 | 7:00 PM | comments

After studying 566 gay male couples over a three year period, Colleen Hoff of San Francisco State University discovered that roughly fifty percent of gay male couples choose to be non-monogamous. Blake Spears and Lanz Lowen are a great example...Read More

Creating Change Day 2: Got Issues? We're Talking About Them Today!

Filed by Waymon Hudson | February 04, 2010 | 5:00 PM | comments

Everybody has an issue near and dear to their heart, but it's not just preaching to the choir at Creating Change. It's also about learning about other issues that are going on in the LGBTQI community. Today in Dallas is...Read More

James O'Keefe's same-sex marriage stunt

Filed by Alex Blaze | February 04, 2010 | 1:00 PM | comments

Surprise surprise, the guy who hated ACORN so much he went and asked them for financial advice and then doctored the video to make them look bad doesn't like gays all that much either. Here's another one of his "busts"...Read More

Go Saints

Filed by Father Tony | February 04, 2010 | 10:30 AM | comments

Hey FT, I know you will tell me the truth even if I won't like it. Is it possible to be a part-time gay? I read all the gay stuff I can find so that's why I'm here. I'm...Read More

It's economic interdependence, not marriage, that should afford benefits to partner of deceased state trooper

Filed by Nancy Polikoff | February 03, 2010 | 7:00 PM | comments

Missouri highway patrol officer Dennis Engelhard died in the line of duty on Christmas day. His surviving partner of 15 years, Kelly Glossip, is not entitled to a lifetime benefit of $28,000 a year. That benefit is reserved for spouses...Read More

I doubt this is just Republicans...

Filed by Alex Blaze | February 03, 2010 | 2:00 PM | comments

I've been saying for a while on this site that education is either the most or among the most homophobic sectors of the workforce, something that generally gets ignored since people don't really know what to do with it or...Read More

St. Louis officer killed in the line of duty, life long partner left in the cold

Filed by Joe Mirabella | February 03, 2010 | 1:00 PM | comments

The AP reports: Kelly Glossip and Dennis Engelhard shared love, a life together for 15 years and a modest ranch home in Robertsville. But in a state that doesn't recognize gay marriage, the two men didn't have a legal document...Read More

Congress and the public don't see eye-to-eye on ENDA

Filed by Alex Blaze | February 02, 2010 | 1:00 PM | comments

Update: People are providing links to state-level anti-discrimination legislation in the comments. If you know of any, please pass it along. I'd like to see how much there is and make another post out of it, since the numbers are...Read More

Gay, trans, man, and pregnant: Let's talk about cognitive dissonance in the media and the movement

Filed by Antonia D'orsay | February 02, 2010 | 11:30 AM | comments

...for all our effort to show how we are just as normal as anyone else, what we are saying is that we are not different from the het/cis people out there. And, in point of fact, we *are* different. And those differences shouldn't matter. We speak of how coming out is so awesome - how it frees us to be ourselves, how it loosens the shackles of conformity and enables us to truly be ourselves - to be an individual, different from others...Read More

Gist, or the demise of pseudo-privacy online

Filed by Dustin Kight | February 02, 2010 | 10:30 AM | comments

When I was fifteen and a budding gay in Small Town, South Carolina, I had an AOL account and a single mother who didn't have the time or the wherewithal to keep up with my Internet doings. (Thank God something...Read More

A Project of Love

Filed by Peter Monn and Alex Paredes | February 02, 2010 | 9:30 AM | comments

Often we cross paths with someone we never expected to meet who profoundly changes our life. Today was one of those days for me. Recently we had been contacted by the marketing executive for writer Barbara Benjamin Marcus who developed...Read More

Watch the Prop 8 trial online

Filed by Alex Blaze | February 02, 2010 | 7:00 AM | comments

You followed the live-blogs, you read the transcripts, now you can watch the Perry trial in the official reenactment! Day 1 is up here, part 2 after the jump....Read More

Moving forward on employment, with or without ENDA

Filed by Nan Hunter | February 01, 2010 | 11:30 AM | comments

One implicit message of President Obama's State of the Union address last week lies in what he did not say. He promised to move ahead with prioritizing a repeal of Don't Ask Don't Tell; he did not mention ENDA. While...Read More

Marriage equality takes a hit in Hawaii and Indiana

Filed by Bil Browning | February 01, 2010 | 9:30 AM | comments

The concept of marriage equality has not had it easy in the past few months. Washington DC passed legislation legalizing same-sex marriage and Washington kept their domestic partner registration, but other states haven't fared as well. Maine lost at the...Read More