Marriage Equality: March 2010

Ricky Martin's Coming Out. "Congratulations!" Or, "What Took So Long?"

Filed by David Badash | March 30, 2010 | 7:00 PM | comments

Yesterday on my own blog, I wrote, "Ricky Martin Comes Out: 'I Am Homosexual.' In Other News, The Earth Is Round." The title itself got a lot of guffaws on Twitter and Facebook. But at the end of the piece...Read More

Carrie Prejean Stiffs Christian-Focused PR Firm

Filed by Dr. Jillian T. Weiss | March 30, 2010 | 5:00 PM | comments

As the Face of Bilerico while Bil is out and about, I'm contractually obligated to put up a certain number of "fun" posts. I'm not much fun in general, but I'm managing it as best I can. But this one...Read More

Don't let the wing-nut bigots win--vote for Jon & Greg

Filed by Phil Reese | March 30, 2010 | 10:30 AM | comments

So I'm doing two things here you've probably never seen me do on this blog before. Maybe one more than the other... First, I rarely if ever really post exclusively about marriage equality--though I do support it--unless there's like a...Read More

Learning How to Talk about Gay Adoption in Florida

Filed by Father Tony | March 29, 2010 | 11:00 AM | comments

On Saturday March 20th, at the Hagen Park Community Center in Wilton Manors, the Gay and Lesbian Alliance Against Defamation (GLAAD) in partnership with the American Civil Liberties Union of Florida's LGBT Advocacy Project (ACLUFL) presented the four-hour workshop Adoption...Read More

Starting Over

Filed by Betty Greene Salwak | March 28, 2010 | 10:00 AM | comments

The summer after I graduated high school, my stepfather had a college reunion at Harvard. This was a weeklong event in Cambridge. The entire family was invited. Not all of us kids wanted to go, but I did. Turned out...Read More

Against Equality Launches Book Project!

Filed by Yasmin Nair | March 26, 2010 | 2:00 PM | comments

As some of you know, Ryan Conrad and I are part of the editorial collective of Against Equality, a web-based archive of material that interrogates the mainstream gay movement and explores queer possibilities for a radical new future. While the...Read More

What Do We Want? And When Do We Want It? ENDA NOW

Filed by Dr. Jillian T. Weiss | March 26, 2010 | 10:00 AM | comments

The media and the blogosphere are starting to blossom with stories about ENDA on speculation that it will come to a vote in the House in two weeks. Compared to other LGBT issues, there have been very few stories about...Read More

On Email Gay Bashing, Or, ENDA's Already Getting Ugly

Filed by Don Davis | March 24, 2010 | 3:00 PM | comments

It wasn't but a couple of days ago that we had a conversation about The Fear and the emails that are used to spread it, and I figured we had dealt with the topic, and that we'd move on to...Read More

Same-sex couples and the Census: Are they asking how we think of our relationships?

Filed by Nancy Polikoff | March 23, 2010 | 7:30 PM | comments

If thinking of yourself as married to your partner turned you into husband and husband or wife and wife, then we wouldn't need a marriage equality movement, right? So imagine my puzzlement to find gay organizations instructing us to fill...Read More

Class confusion

Filed by Alex Blaze | March 23, 2010 | 6:30 PM | comments

Pam posted an interesting question on her site: I guess my question is are we all fighting the same fight from very different points of view that make it difficult to understand what a logical, sane strategy for success is...Read More

Judge Walker Rules EQCA and ACLU Must Turn Over Documents in Federal Prop 8 Trial

Filed by Karen Ocamb | March 23, 2010 | 5:30 PM | comments

In a 24-page ruling issued Monday afternoon, Judge Vaughn Walker denied motions by the ACLU and Equality California to overrule an order to turn No on Prop 8 campaign documents to Prop 8 proponents in the federal Prop 8 trial....Read More

More Than Just A Crate & Barrel Wedding

Filed by D Gregory Smith | March 23, 2010 | 4:30 PM | comments

Same-sex partners are getting married in greater numbers than before in this country, but total acceptance seems a long way off. Surprisingly, Gregory Jones and Jonathan Howard are currently in second place in Crate & Barrel's Ultimate Wedding Contest. The...Read More

No one is a homophobe

Filed by Alex Blaze | March 23, 2010 | 3:30 PM | comments

It seems to me, and I have absolutely no hard evidence to back this up other than a general sense, that there's been an uptick over the last year of straight people trying to prove that other straight people, who...Read More

Health care reform passes

Filed by Alex Blaze | March 22, 2010 | 2:30 PM | comments

In case you haven't heard, health care reform finally passed, 219-212. Now Congress moves onto a much easier big ticket item: immigration reform! Unlike with health care reform, I'm sure racists and big business won't be able to find angles...Read More

"Dems" and We

Filed by Jesse Monteagudo | March 22, 2010 | 9:30 AM | comments

The Dolphin Democrats are South Florida's oldest, largest and most successful LGBT political organization. Founded in 1982 by Karl Clark, Tom Bradshaw, Jamie Bloodworth and other activists, the Dolphins have made Broward County the most gay-friendly county in a still-homophobic...Read More

Weekly Reader: A new queer order, Sigourney Weaver, & the insurance industry

Filed by Bil Browning | March 20, 2010 | 6:00 PM | comments

I was gone the early part of this week to attend SXSW in Austin and Joe Mirabella became the face of the blog as Bilerico while I was gone. (We stayed at contributor Paige Schilt's house and her dog Eddie...Read More

Rock for Equality: Social Security discrimination

Filed by Guest Blogger | March 20, 2010 | 12:00 PM | comments

Editors' Note: Guest blogger Tanner Effinger is a new activist from in the wake of Proposition 8 in California. He founded the Postcards to the President Campaign, was on the Executive Committee for the National Equality March, is on the...Read More

Push for same-sex marriage on again in New York State

Filed by Donna Pandori | March 18, 2010 | 4:00 PM | comments

Reuters reports: A group called Fight Back New York, created with money from software entrepreneur and openly gay philanthropist Tim Gill, is pledging to spend hundreds of thousands of dollars to get pro-gay marriage candidates elected to the state Senate...Read More


The queer blogosphere at SXSW

Filed by Bil Browning | March 18, 2010 | 1:00 PM | comments

Last weekend, I was a panelist at the South By SouthWest conference. I sat on the first specifically queer session at the major interactive, music and film gathering and the feedback was amazing. Engaging The Queer Community featured Fausto Fernos...Read More

Drag Mainstreamed: Rupaul's Tyra Sanchez Interview!

Filed by Peter Monn and Alex Paredes | March 17, 2010 | 4:30 PM | comments

After our interview with Ongina from cycle one of Logo's Rupaul's Drag Race, we thought it would be interesting to interview one of the girls from this season. We chose America's sweetheart and diva Tyra Sanchez. Here's what she told...Read More

LGBT New Yorkers Fight Back and Win

Filed by Michael Crawford | March 17, 2010 | 10:30 AM | comments

In what should become a model for how LGBT activists deal with elected officials who vote against equal rights, Fight Back New York's campaign to defeat former State Senator Hiram Monserratte paid off big. Monserratte was defeated easily by Jose...Read More


It's "equal marriage," not "equine marriage"

Filed by Ed Team | March 16, 2010 | 7:30 AM | comments

"You see, the Massachusetts Supreme Court, when it started this move toward same-sex marriage, actually defined marriage -- now get this -- it defined marriage as simply, 'the establishment of intimacy.' Now how dangerous is that? I mean, I don't...Read More

"I played by 'don't ask, don't tell'": Police and privacy

Filed by Alex Blaze | March 15, 2010 | 6:00 PM | comments

A USAF sergeant lost her job when the police, investigating her partner, looked through the window of their house and saw their marriage license from Iowa. So, just for fun, they called up the Air Force and turned her in....Read More

Why do I have to wait to get married?

Filed by Joe Mirabella | March 15, 2010 | 5:00 PM | comments

My partner and I are trying to decide when we should get married. We have a Domestic Partnership from Washington State, so we have some basic protections at the state level. Our home state of Iowa opened the door to...Read More

In binary-deconstructing news

Filed by Alex Blaze | March 15, 2010 | 2:00 PM | comments

Last year we saw Pakistan approve a new gender class on its ID's for hijras and India allow voters to declare themselves "O" for "Other." Now NSW, Australia, has changed its records on someone to identify hir as nongendered: The...Read More

Making Trouble: Trust, part one

Filed by Antonia D'orsay | March 15, 2010 | 12:00 PM | comments

This is part of the Making Trouble series, although it takes a different tack as I get ready to end it this week. This time, I talk about differences between now and several months ago. Trust. It's been just shy...Read More

When queer meant no war and fighting against the body police

Filed by Guest Blogger | March 15, 2010 | 11:00 AM | comments

Editors' Note: Guest blogger Susan Raffo lives in Minneapolis where she writes, is a bodyworker, parents, lives in communal housing, organizes and, when the weather permits, gardens. She is planning on going to Detroit for the US Social Forum. She'll...Read More

21st Annual GLAAD Media Awards in New York

Filed by Jason Tseng | March 14, 2010 | 6:30 PM | comments

I got the amazing opportunity to cover the 21st Annual GLAAD Awards in New York City. It was my first time at a glitzy awards ceremony or covering a red carpet (even though the carpet was technically more of a...Read More

Beyond Gay Marriage - A Radio Documentary

Filed by R Conrad | March 14, 2010 | 4:30 PM | comments

The lovely Lisa Dettmer has produced a fantastic community radio documentary for KPFA on the historic shift from the radical gay liberation politics of the 1960's to an assimilationist neoliberal gay politic of our dismal present titled: "Beyond Gay Marriage:...Read More

Transformational Ties

Filed by Terrance Heath | March 14, 2010 | 1:30 PM | comments

Originally published in MetroWeekly. It's funny, and often fascinating, how so much can change in such a short time — and yet change so little. When our family arrived back home on Tuesday evening, we were the same family...Read More

Weekly Reader: Salty Seaman, Drag Queens, and Nancy Pelosi's not helping

Filed by Joe Mirabella | March 13, 2010 | 6:00 PM | comments

With Bil on a grand adventure to SXSW in Austin, he asked me to try to fill in. It's been a fascinating couple of days being Bil Browning. I've tried my best to give the readers what they want, like...Read More

Instruments of Injustice: Why Bans On Marriage Are Unconstitutional

Filed by Guest Blogger | March 12, 2010 | 1:30 PM | comments

Editors' Note: Guest blogger Ryan Secord is a recent graduate from Michigan State University where he studied political science and journalism. He worked for the Capital News Service as a state and federal government correspondent, the Hillsdale Daily News, and...Read More

Homo-Hating Janet Porter Prays to be the Queen of all Media

Filed by Waymon Hudson | March 12, 2010 | 12:30 PM | comments

Nothing that comes out of Janet Porter's (formerly Janet Folger) mouth surprises me at this point. Folger is the gay-hating, fire-and-brimstone-breathing head of Faith2Action who authored the fundamentalist tome "The Criminalization of Christianity" and is the former national director of...Read More

Young Calen discovers same sex marriage for the first time

Filed by Joe Mirabella | March 12, 2010 | 7:00 AM | comments

Adults can learn a lot from children about how easy it is to evolve....Read More

H8 Me No More, For I Only Wish To Love

Filed by Guest Blogger | March 11, 2010 | 4:00 PM | comments

Editors' Note: Guest blogger Ryan Secord is a recent graduate from Michigan State University where he studied political science and journalism. He worked for the Capital News Service as a state and federal government correspondent, the Hillsdale Daily News, and...Read More

The most important issues, as I see it

Filed by Antonia D'orsay | March 11, 2010 | 3:00 PM | comments

Normally I get up on my little national biscuit company antique store box with the cracked 130 year old glass pane that once rested in Ouray, Colordao. And from that point I talk about meta concepts in the whole of...Read More

Action Alert: Help support same sex marriage recognition in Maryland

Filed by Joe Mirabella | March 11, 2010 | 9:30 AM | comments

Equality Maryland has been working hard ever since their Attorney General issued an opinion that basically said same sex couples that married out of state will have relationship recognition when they return home. For many residents who may choose to...Read More

Video of DC's first same-sex marriages

Filed by Bil Browning | March 11, 2010 | 7:00 AM | comments

Thanks to HRC for the video of Washington DC's first same-sex marriages. The ceremonies were held at HRC headquarters yesterday afternoon. This isn't just a 40 minute wedding video; it's history in the making. Congratulations to the happy couples. May...Read More

Dermot Meagher: Judge, Artist, Writer, Neighbor

Filed by Father Tony | March 10, 2010 | 2:00 PM | comments

(Fort Lauderdale is full of fascinating men of accomplishment. This is the third in a series of profiles I have written for the South Florida Gay News.) Dermot Meagher does not make small talk, and when he looks at you,...Read More

Gay panic from the Washington Post's readers

Filed by Alex Blaze | March 10, 2010 | 12:30 PM | comments

The Washington Post's Ombudsman's blog has a post up on the reaction to the photo they ran with their front-page story on same-sex marriage starting in the city last week. It shouldn't be all that controversial - same-sex marriage starting...Read More

History: The Furnished Means By Which We Suffer

Filed by Guest Blogger | March 10, 2010 | 11:30 AM | comments

Editors' Note: Guest blogger Ryan Secord is a recent graduate from Michigan State University where he studied political science and journalism. He worked for the Capital News Service as a state and federal government correspondent, the Hillsdale Daily News, and...Read More

For all they that take the sword shall perish with the sword

Filed by Alex Blaze | March 09, 2010 | 6:00 PM | comments

While I was gone last week, another conservative Republican who votes against LGBT rights turned out to be gay. I'm sure you've heard already how California senator Roy Ashburn was caught drunk-driving home from a gay bar and then came...Read More

Virginia and D.C. - Two Worlds Only A River Apart

Filed by Michael Hamar | March 09, 2010 | 4:00 PM | comments

In Washington DC, on the north side of the Potomac River, LGBT people have employment discrimination protections and, starting today, will begin getting married. In Virginia on the south side of the Potomac, same sex couples are barred by a...Read More

Following DC: What the Freedom to Marry in Our Capital Means Nationwide

Filed by Guest Blogger | March 09, 2010 | 9:30 AM | comments

Editors' note: Evan Wolfson is founder and Executive Director of Freedom to Marry. In 2004 TIME magazine named Evan one of the "100 most influential people in the world." Today, surrounded by friends and family, the first same-sex couples in...Read More


The "Trans Mafia" stifles allies

Filed by Austen Crowder | March 08, 2010 | 4:00 PM | comments

Bil made an excellent comment regarding trans allies on one of Antonia's recent posts. I want to repost it it here because I think its an important sentiment in the LGBT community: Even in a previous post from this week...Read More

How same-sex couples can save on their taxes

Filed by Davina Kotulski | March 08, 2010 | 2:00 PM | comments

Every year the IRS insults me. First, I have to check single on my tax form. People, I've been with the same wonderful woman for 14 years, I am not single! Second, even though we are now legally married, my...Read More

Karl Rove: Dad wasn't gay he just liked pierced dicks

Filed by Bil Browning | March 08, 2010 | 1:00 PM | comments

Just when you think Karl Rove couldn't get any douchier, he goes and raises the bar. In a recent Today Show interview with Matt Lauer to promote Rove's new book, the former presidential adviser claims that he had no clue...Read More

Our politics is more important than your health

Filed by Alex Blaze | March 08, 2010 | 12:00 PM | comments

Here's the former COO of Catholic Charities, which just decided to stop giving everyone health care benefits because of same-sex marriage and anti-discrimination legislation: Some, including the archbishop, have argued that by providing health care to a gay or lesbian...Read More


Uncut penises will end religious liberty

Filed by Ed Team | March 08, 2010 | 7:30 AM | comments

"New legislation now being proposed in the Massachusetts state legislature to ban circumcision of any male children, including Jewish children, comes very close to saying, "Yes, it should be a crime." Circumcision of infant males has been a requirement of...Read More

My Civil Rights Are Different Than Yours

Filed by Keri Renault | March 07, 2010 | 7:00 PM | comments

An ominous undertone pervaded hearings on Civil Marriage and Anti-Discrimination in Maryland last week. Gloomy gray skies and rain prevailed outside the Miller Senate building. Inside the Judicial Proceedings Committee a storm of hateful discrimination raged. Let me assure you...Read More

Making It Legal

Filed by Terrance Heath | March 07, 2010 | 4:00 PM | comments

I suppose it’s no secret anymore. We went down to the courthouse Wednesday morning, and got a place in line. At least 16 couples were waiting at 7:15 a.m. inside the city’s Moultrie courthouse, which houses the marriage bureau and...Read More

Wedding bells in the US and Mexico's capital cities!

Filed by Davina Kotulski | March 06, 2010 | 10:00 AM | comments

Spring weddings are on tap for our nation's capital. While our elected officials fight over health care reform, marriage is getting a make-over in DC. On Tuesday, after years of waiting, same-sex couples in our nation's capitol got ready to...Read More

Our world got better, way better, this week

Filed by Gloria Nieto | March 05, 2010 | 2:00 PM | comments

The world has significantly changed this week for the lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender population. Some significant events to note: Wedding licenses were issued to same sex couples in Washington D.C. Mexico City allowed same sex marriages to begin there....Read More

Oscar Challenge: Where do the stars stand on the freedom to marry?

Filed by Michael Crawford | March 05, 2010 | 1:00 PM | comments

It's that time of the year again: The Oscars. Sure, we'll have fun as always watching the show this Sunday night, but it will also be a great time to take note of the many celebrities who have spoken out...Read More

Help Wanted: Clinical Psychologist - No Experience Necessary

Filed by Keri Renault | March 04, 2010 | 7:00 PM | comments

Lobby Day arrived in Maryland on the 22nd of February. It's fitting this blog is posted two weeks late. The Blizzard of 2010 postponed the annual advocacy by 14 days. But on this lobby day of days, neither sleet nor...Read More

Think Pink

Filed by Paige Schilt | March 04, 2010 | 6:00 PM | comments

Katy's mother, Donna Koonce, wanted a baby girl. The year was 1962. Donna and her husband, a small-town Texas football coach called Big Phil, already had two strapping young sons. But Donna yearned for a soul mate, a confidante, a...Read More

Students stand up to abstinence-only education

Filed by Alex Blaze | March 04, 2010 | 9:30 AM | comments

Two students at Parma High School in Ohio couldn't take the fact that they were being subjected to Operation Keepsake, a standard-issue "just say no" abstinence-only program, so they took their concerns to the school board. "Operation Keepsake has made...Read More

DC Gay Couples Celebrate First Marriages

Filed by Michael Crawford | March 03, 2010 | 6:00 PM | comments

Today was quite a big day in D.C. This morning, more than 100 same-sex couples went to the H. Carl Moultrie Courthouse for the first day gay couples could apply for a marriage license in the city. Among those couples...Read More


Sodomy likes it at the back of the bus

Filed by Ed Team | March 03, 2010 | 7:30 AM | comments

"Rosa Parks did not move to the front of the bus to support sodomy. There is no difference between a black person and a white person other than their skin color when there's a tremendous difference between a man and...Read More

Ugandan Pastor Martin Ssempa Reads Bilerico and Responds

Filed by Waymon Hudson | March 02, 2010 | 7:00 PM | comments

Who knew Uganda's main proponent of the "Kill the Gays" bill read our blog? Pastor Martin Ssempa, who I have written about extensively, left this comment on my post "Uganda's Porn Peddling Pastor Ssempa Responds to Critics" (note- I'm assuming...Read More

The Immigration Closet: A Perfect (Unwanted) Storm for the US Conference of Catholic Bishops

Filed by Guest Blogger | March 02, 2010 | 2:00 PM | comments

Editors' Note: Guest blogger J. Todd (Tif) Fernandez is a volunteer activist with a Masters of Law in Human Rights from the University of Pretoria, South Africa, and a JD and BA from Boston University. With a past career in...Read More

UC-Davis students plan to keep hate graffiti up

Filed by Alex Blaze | March 02, 2010 | 10:00 AM | comments

Tobi Hill Meyer posted about a swastika that was spray-painted into the carpet at the University of Oregon's LGBTQA center a month ago, and this weekend anti-gay graffiti was found at the LGBT Resource Center at the University of California...Read More

Catholic Charities chooses worst option for complying with DC law...and pretends it has no choice

Filed by Nancy Polikoff | March 01, 2010 | 8:00 PM | comments

The long wait is over. Catholic Charities of Washington, DC has settled upon its response to the District of Columbia's approval of marriage for same-sex couples. Effective March 2, its employees will no longer be able to add a spouse...Read More

Prop 8 trial: At least they admit they aren't the "reality-based community"

Filed by Alex Blaze | March 01, 2010 | 6:30 PM | comments

Final briefs were filed in the Prop 8 trial, and we also found out that, despite the judge's suggestion otherwise, closing arguments won't be televised. You can read more about Olson and Boies's arguments at Karen's place, which are really...Read More

REAL ID & Comprehensive Immigration Reform

Filed by Antonia D'orsay | March 01, 2010 | 4:30 PM | comments

I suspect you'll be hearing about Comprehensive Immigration Reform off and on over the next few weeks. If for no other reason than I'll be talking about it. The good and the bad. One of the bad parts has me...Read More

Miss Faux Beverly Hills Lauren "Kill the Gays" Ashley Interview

Filed by Waymon Hudson | March 01, 2010 | 3:30 PM | comments

Looks like someone need a little practice on the interview portion of the pageant... Miss Faux Beverly Hills Lauren Ashley has hired publicist and is ready to talk to the media to "clarify" her statements that gays should be killed....Read More


Maryland Dems don't want to defend AG opinion

Filed by Ed Team | March 01, 2010 | 7:30 AM | comments

"In my opinion, it couldn't have been worse timing. You know they say in politics, timing is everything. It'll be a campaign issue, I think. And for Blue Dog Democrats, it could be tough." --Del. Galen R. Clagett, on the...Read More