Marriage Equality: October 2010

Georgia Megachurch Pastor Jim Swilley Comes Out

Filed by Betty Greene Salwak | October 31, 2010 | 5:30 PM | comments

Bishop Jim Swilley, pastor of the Georgia interdenominational megachurch Church In The Now has announced that he is gay. Swilley is a fourth generation pastor who says he has always been called to preach and has known since he was...Read More

Mean Boys, Mean Girls

Filed by Guest Blogger | October 31, 2010 | 2:30 PM | comments

Editors' Note: Guest blogger Victor Bumbalo is an award winning internationally produced playwright. He has also written for several popular television shows. Tyler Clementi. Our hearts break. His life is over because his roommate and a classmate thought it was...Read More

RED ALERT: One Iowa Needs Help Saving Equality Judges

Filed by Karen Ocamb | October 31, 2010 | 1:00 PM | comments

While the nation's eyes are on the Republican/Tea Party's campaign to take over Congress, the National Organization of Marriage - flush with money from the Catholic and Mormon churches - have their own under-the radar campaigns supporting antigay, anti-abortion candidates....Read More

Numbers Alone Don't Move a Movement

Filed by Lisa Weiner-Mahfuz | October 31, 2010 | 10:00 AM | comments

I come from the school of community organizing--often referred to as movement building--that seeks to connect issues, communities and identities. I engage in organizing from this place because, frankly, I don't know how to do it any other way. It...Read More

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#SSS: The Big Election Special Podcast

Filed by Phil Reese | October 31, 2010 | 8:30 AM | comments

This week on SameSexSunday, Joe chats with Human Rights Campaign's Kevin Nix and OneIowa's Justin Uebelhor about the National Organization for Marriage's efforts to influence the Iowa elections this year. Then, we get election predictions and highlights from GOProud's Chris...Read More

4 days and counting

Filed by Michael Crawford | October 29, 2010 | 2:00 PM | comments

Who was it that said the Tea Party doesn't care about social issues such LGBT equality? Whoever it was got it so wrong. Witness Republican senate candidate Sharon Angle's recent comments about marriage: I confess that we are a nation...Read More

Vote For Health Care

Filed by Terrance Heath | October 29, 2010 | 9:30 AM | comments

Still looking for a reason to vote? Here’s a three word answer: health care reform. I’m not sure why Democrats aren’t running on it, but it’s a big step towards "change we can believe in" — the kind that some...Read More


Barack Obama's attitude will fully evolve once he's out of office

Filed by Alex Blaze | October 29, 2010 | 7:30 AM | comments

"I have been to this point unwilling to sign on to same-sex marriage primarily because of my understandings of the traditional definitions of marriage. But I also think you're right that attitudes evolve, including mine. And I think that it...Read More

Lt. Dan Choi & I: Together at last on Democracy Now

Filed by Mattilda Bernstein Sycamore | October 28, 2010 | 3:00 PM | comments

I'm moving to Santa Fe on Sunday, and what could be a better going-away present than an appearance on Democracy Now? And, not just that, but in conversation with Lieutenant Dan Choi, about one of my favorite topics! And, after...Read More

Building a more tolerant & inclusive climate

Filed by Guest Blogger | October 28, 2010 | 9:30 AM | comments

Editors' Note: Guest blogger Peter Shumlin, the Vermont Senate President Pro Tempore. Senator Shumlin is currently running for Governor of Vermont and has been an incredible force in the fight for marriage equality. The struggle for equal rights for gay...Read More

My Next Steps

Filed by Marc Solomon | October 28, 2010 | 8:30 AM | comments

Over the past year-and-a-half, I have headed up Equality California's efforts to win back the freedom to marry. During this time, I've had the chance to work with thousands of tremendous organizers, advocates, volunteers, donors, elected officials, and other leaders...Read More


Republican: Gay marriage is like marrying table, clock, or dog

Filed by Alex Blaze | October 28, 2010 | 7:30 AM | comments

"This is a slippery slope. In addition to that at what point are we going to be okay marrying inanimate objects? Can I marry this table or this, you know, clock? Can we marry dogs? This is ridiculous. And biblically,...Read More

New Santa Monica Ordinance Would Help to Protect Same-Sex Couples

Filed by Guest Blogger | October 27, 2010 | 5:00 PM | comments

Editors' Note: Guest blogger Geoff Kors is the Executive Director of Equality California. Last night, Santa Monica City Councilmember Richard Bloom introduced an Equal Benefits Ordinance. This ordinance would require any company that contracts with the city of Santa Monica...Read More

Notorious Homophobe New Head Of Montana Tea Party Group

Filed by D Gregory Smith | October 27, 2010 | 4:00 PM | comments

You heard me. KXLH News is reporting that: Tim Ravndal, who headed the Big Sky Tea Party until he was ousted following a controversial message he posted on Facebook, has been tapped for a leadership post in the Lewis &...Read More

VA GOP's Scott Rigell Lists Hate Group Leader as Endorser

Filed by Michael Hamar | October 27, 2010 | 12:30 PM | comments

Click image to enlarge: Imagine my surprise at finding Lou Sheldon, head of the Traditional Values Coalition proudly listed as an endorser of Scott Rigell, the GOP candidate for Virginia's 2nd Congressional District. After all, the Southern Poverty Law Center...Read More

Allen West on Gays in Military Barracks "tumultuous things happen"

Filed by Michael Emanuel Rajner | October 26, 2010 | 2:30 PM | comments

Once again last night I was subjected to more of disgraced retired Colonel Allen West who is campaigning to be elected to Florida's 22nd Congressional District. West was asked by the moderator to explain why he supports the military's discriminatory...Read More

California helps LGBTQ youth in foster care

Filed by Nancy Polikoff | October 26, 2010 | 1:30 PM | comments

The vast majority of states are officially silent on the issue of both LGBT foster parents and LGBT children in the foster care system. We've gotten so used to opposing the states that ban LGBT foster and adoptive parents that...Read More

When the liberal agenda isn't so liberal

Filed by Bil Browning | October 26, 2010 | 11:30 AM | comments

It's not very often that this happens! I find myself agreeing with a gay conservative!! Well, not the whole article that Tammy Bruce published at the Guardian, but at least this one paragraph. The rest of the article is your...Read More


Everyone's watching... judges in Iowa

Filed by Alex Blaze | October 26, 2010 | 7:30 AM | comments

"I can't overstate the significance of what is about to happen in Iowa," said Brian Brown, executive director of the Washington, D.C.-based National Organization for Marriage. "The whole country is looking at you. This cannot be overstated." --NOM XD Brian...Read More

Could Gays Cost Democrats the Election?

Filed by Joe Mirabella | October 25, 2010 | 7:00 PM | comments

The Associated Press reported on Sunday that the LGBT community is so angry about the lack of movement on LGBT rights that many plan not to vote. Some are even voting against the incumbent even if that means voting Republican....Read More

NOM's financial transparency challenges are about more than marriage

Filed by Alex Blaze | October 25, 2010 | 5:00 PM | comments

The Washington Post recently profiled a few of NOM campaign finance challenges in a few states. NOM's main activity, it seems, is to challenge disclosure law arguing that the radical homosexual activists are going to hunt down their donors and...Read More

Rep Holt: The Next Chapter in the Civil Rights Struggle

Filed by Guest Blogger | October 25, 2010 | 2:00 PM | comments

Editors' Note: Today's guest blogger is New Jersey Congressman Rush Holt. You can donate to Rep Holt's campaign for re-election at the National Stonewall Democrats Elect Equality Act Blue page. Ending all forms of discrimination against LGBT individuals is the...Read More

A Come to Jesus Moment

Filed by Phil Reese | October 25, 2010 | 1:00 PM | comments

Over here in the Midwest, we have a little thing we call having a "Come To Jesus" moment. Despite what it may sound like, or its likely origins, it almost never refers to a religious event. A "Come To Jesus"...Read More

NOM's Hate Bus To Tour Iowa

Filed by Joe Mirabella | October 25, 2010 | 10:00 AM | comments

NOM is going for yet another bus tour despite embarrassing failures for the past bus tours. This one is their "Judge Bus Tour." Bleeding Heartland reports: On Monday, Family Research Council Action and the National Organization for Marriage will launch...Read More

Some Hispanic people actually do look Asian

Filed by Alex Blaze | October 24, 2010 | 7:00 PM | comments

Sharron Angle, the Republican contender for Harry Reid's Senate seat in Nevada, created a stir this week as she responded to a group of Hispanic students' concerns over several of her ads that demonize immigrants as people who come to...Read More

Terry Branstad Tells Kids Their Family Does Not Matter

Filed by Joe Mirabella | October 24, 2010 | 4:00 PM | comments

Iowans before you vote, please watch this video. More importantly please make sure all your Iowan friends and family watch this video. If I had my wish, everyone that reads Bilerico would share this video every day until November 2....Read More

A Gay Kiss In, Diversity Days, and Gigantic Gumby Jesus

Filed by Davina Kotulski | October 24, 2010 | 2:30 PM | comments

Next week I'm going to Arkansas. Home of Bill Clinton, Wal-Mart, and some notorious crimes committed by Bonnie and Clyde. It's also home to the kid who refused to say the pledge of alliegance until gay people can legally marry...Read More

Election night 2004: The worst night of my life

Filed by Phil Reese | October 22, 2010 | 4:00 PM | comments

September 2004 was an optimistic time for me. I was starting my first term as Vice President of the Gay Straight Alliance at Central Michigan University, and I was gearing up to apply for the Membership and Community Events co-chair...Read More

With Equality on the Line, Your Vote is Critical

Filed by Michael Emanuel Rajner | October 22, 2010 | 9:30 AM | comments

Conservative right-wing extremists are working harder than ever to get elected and trample on the rights and hopes of the lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender community. While many of us may be angered and frustrated with the slow progress for...Read More

Legends for equality

Filed by Michael Hamar | October 21, 2010 | 2:30 PM | comments

Author's Note: I serve on the Equality Virginia Legends Committee. The following is an op-ed piece that we hope to have published in the Virginian Pilot and the Daily Press. Among other things, Equality Virginia believes in a truly inclusive...Read More

Rep Tim Bishop: I'll continue the fight

Filed by Guest Blogger | October 21, 2010 | 9:30 AM | comments

Editors' Note: Representative Tim Bishop (D-NY) is today's guest blogger. Congressman Bishop was picked by National Stonewall Democrats as an Elect Equality candidate for his record of supporting LGBT issues. You can donate to his campaign if you'd like to...Read More

Who cares about queer youth? Not Maggie Gallagher!

Filed by Alex Blaze | October 20, 2010 | 1:30 PM | comments

Since the right has decided to move beyond intellectual consistency into more abstract narratives, Maggie Gallagher is in the NY Post responding to people who say she and other homophobes are responsible for the recent gay teen suicides that made...Read More

Rep Paul Hodes: Equality Is a Cornerstone

Filed by Guest Blogger | October 20, 2010 | 10:30 AM | comments

Editors' Note: New Hampshire Representative Paul Hodes is this morning's guest blogger; he is running for the Senate this year. Since Hodes is an actual champion of LGBT rights, I'd encourage you to donate to his campaign. We're going to...Read More

Yes on 8 Attorney Andy Pugno Trying to Mislead Voters

Filed by Karen Ocamb | October 19, 2010 | 3:30 PM | comments

Every political season, some candidates fashion their biography to win the primary, and then scrub or eschew their more extreme positions to court moderates and independents in the general election. This is especially true in California, which is far more...Read More

Why Meghan McCain's Wrong About 'Nut Job' O'Donnell

Filed by Andrew Belonsky | October 19, 2010 | 12:30 PM | comments

Meghan McCain may have sparked a Republican war yesterday when she said the Delaware Senatorial candidate Christine O'Donnell, the right wing's latest darling, comes off as a "nut job." McCain's word choice may be spot on, sure, but her argument...Read More

Why This Year Matters, Part Two

Filed by Amy Hunter | October 19, 2010 | 9:30 AM | comments

Part One of "Why This Year Matters" was a semi-humorous look at the mood shared by many of this year's electorate. It is indeed "scary out there". Despite the attempt at humor, please do not misunderstand; I am completely serious....Read More

Advancing Equality in the 112th Congress

Filed by Guest Blogger | October 18, 2010 | 6:00 PM | comments

Editors' Note: Guest blogger David Cicilline is the openly gay Mayor of Providence, Rhode Island. He is running for Congress and could use your support. Mayor Cicilline is one of the pro-equality candidates picked by National Stonewall Democrats to support...Read More

A one-question interview with Sassafras Lowrey

Filed by Mattilda Bernstein Sycamore | October 18, 2010 | 3:00 PM | comments

Mattilda: You recently edited Kicked Out, an anthology of stories by current and formerly homeless queer youth (including yourself) -- one of the dominant themes in the book involves the chosen families that youth create in order to challenge, undo,...Read More

Interview with Against Equality

Filed by Alex Blaze | October 17, 2010 | 4:00 PM | comments

I recorded an interview with Bilerico contributors Ryan Conrad and Yasmin Nair earlier this week on their book, Against Equality: Queer Critiques of Gay Marriage. While I don't agree with everything they said, their critique does have some valuable components...Read More

Same Sex Sunday

#SSS Where Republicans & Democrats Battle!

Filed by Phil Reese | October 17, 2010 | 10:00 AM | comments

We had the single most heated debate in SameSexSunday history this week--I actually had to jump in, play referee and send our Lefities and our Righties to their respective corners. What got our round table so fired up this week?...Read More

Weekly Reader: Glee De-Gays Rocky Horror & National Coming Out Day Is Like an Aryan Nations Rally

Filed by Bil Browning | October 16, 2010 | 6:00 PM | comments

One of our top stories this week was Glee's de-gaying of Rocky Horror Picture Show in their upcoming episode, but we also reported that the musical's writer, Richard O'Brien, is transgender. He played the part of Riff Raff in the...Read More

Half a Spouse Is Better Than None

Filed by Guest Blogger | October 15, 2010 | 1:00 PM | comments

Editors' Note: Guest blogger Robyn Greenspan is a social media and executive careers expert and writer, but most importantly, happily and legally married. Friday nights are the hardest. After a long week in the office, it used to be the...Read More

Dear. Mr. Paladino, That's So Gay

Filed by Terrance Heath | October 14, 2010 | 5:00 PM | comments

How on earth anyone with the very public history of Carl Paladino becomes a serious candidate for governor of any state -- let alone New York -- is a mystery to me beyond all understanding. But, these are strange political...Read More

LGBT teachers still fear being fired for coming out

Filed by Alex Blaze | October 14, 2010 | 1:00 PM | comments

I posted recently about Beaverton, Oregon, firing a student teacher because he came out when a student asked him why he wasn't married. I wrote: Stambaugh is just the tip of this iceberg, one of the few teachers willing to...Read More

An Open Letter To The Bishop Of Fresno

Filed by Father Tony | October 14, 2010 | 10:30 AM | comments

Dear Bishop Steinbock, Because I count myself among the people of God, I thank you for writing to me about the fact that a judge has ruled that denying civil marriage to LGBT people is unjust. Your 10 point letter...Read More

Log Cabin Republicans R Us

Filed by Steven Cheslik-DeMeyer | October 13, 2010 | 7:00 PM | comments

A friend reminded me last night--I'd forgotten this--that, in the case in which a federal court ruled DADT unconstitutional yesterday, the plaintiff is Log Cabin Republicans. And we all know, because we talk about how politically brilliant it was, that...Read More

No, I won't join your crusade

Filed by Alex Blaze | October 13, 2010 | 3:00 PM | comments

The right-leaning Advocate has another weird column up bashing Muslims for attempting to build a community center because that's, like, the number one LGBT issue right now. This one's from Jamie Kirchick, and I'm not going to get into much...Read More

Department of Justice appeal DOMA ruling

Filed by Alex Blaze | October 13, 2010 | 10:30 AM | comments

After the positive news on two court cases yesterday, we get this: The U.S. Department of Justice on Tuesday defended the federal law defining marriage as between a man and a woman by appealing two rulings in Massachusetts by a...Read More

Thoughts on Those Cookies...

Filed by Chris Douglas | October 13, 2010 | 8:30 AM | comments

Here's my perspective on the cookie situation. First, when I came out of the closet in 1996 here in Indiana, I did so publicly by founding an organization (the Indiana Chapter of the Log Cabin Republicans), issuing a press release,...Read More


Pence: Marriage Inequality More Important Than Economy

Filed by Bil Browning | October 13, 2010 | 7:30 AM | comments

"We will not restore this nation with public policy alone. It will require public virtue and that emanates from the traditional institutions of family and religion. ... To those who say that marriage doesn't matter, I say: You would not...Read More

Florida's Anti-Gay Adoption Law Ends Today

Filed by Nadine Smith | October 12, 2010 | 8:00 PM | comments

It's over! Moments ago, Department of Children & Families' (DCF) Director, George Sheldon, announced that the agency will not appeal last month's court ruling which struck down Florida's ban on gay and lesbian adoption as "unconstitutional." It is now legal...Read More

Matthew Shepard, National Coming Out Day, and Marriage Equality Looking Back

Filed by Davina Kotulski | October 11, 2010 | 5:30 PM | comments

On the anniversary of Matthew Shepard's death in 2004, 43 marriage equality activists and I stood at the Fireside Lounge, the bar where Matthew Shepard was last seen alive. We were crossing the country on a bus tour that I...Read More


Pink Houses aren't for NOM

Filed by Alex Blaze | October 10, 2010 | 7:30 AM | comments

"Please be aware that Mr. Mellencamp's views on same-sex marriage and equal rights for people of all sexual orientations are at odds with NOM's stated agenda." --Hoosier rock star John Mellencamp's publicist Bob Merlis on NOM using his song "Pink...Read More

The Long Dark Night of Eddie Long, Pt. 3

Filed by Terrance Heath | October 09, 2010 | 2:00 PM | comments

Statements to the media and details of in the lawsuits filed by the four men paint the picture a man who qualifies not only as an “emotional predator” (a term I wasn’t aware of until just now), but show several...Read More

Indianapolis is back in the gay news

Filed by Alex Blaze | October 08, 2010 | 12:00 PM | comments

Yesterday Bil posted that the city of homophobic cupcake/cookie artisans is finding itself with another gay scandal, although this one is a lot more banal. According to an arrest report from Indianapolis Metro Police, the arrest took place at 110...Read More

A little known legacy in the LGBT community

Filed by Guest Blogger | October 08, 2010 | 8:30 AM | comments

Editors' Note: Guest blogger Andy Szekeres is a political consultant from Denver who specializes on LGBT ballot measures and progressive candidates and causes. Americans for Democratic Action has been one of the most powerful forces in all liberal politics. For...Read More


What's normal?

Filed by Bil Browning | October 08, 2010 | 7:30 AM | comments

"Practically, we shouldn't be teaching children to accept homosexuality as normal, we should be teaching them to accept people who are not normal." -- Bilerico contributor Yasmin Nair in an interview with Time Out Chicago about the Against Equality book...Read More

It's back to school for LGBTQ people

Filed by Alex Blaze | October 05, 2010 | 7:00 PM | comments

I'm hoping it's just the few people who I see on listserves and the few, better known gay and pro-gay people out there who think that DADT repeal and same-sex marriage would solve the problem of homophobic bullying in schools....Read More

New public ad campaign addresses homophobia against black gay men

Filed by Alex Blaze | October 05, 2010 | 10:30 AM | comments

I post a lot about messages that take LGBT acceptance to the public sphere and bring it to people who otherwise wouldn't hear our incessant nattering because that's a lot more productive than speaking to people within in the realm...Read More

The war on LGBT teachers is about controlling what kids think of themselves

Filed by Alex Blaze | October 04, 2010 | 6:00 PM | comments

The solution to LGBT teen suicide, specifically death-by-bullying, should be about the students. There's a lot of attention being paid to gay teen suicide right now, and I hope that it doesn't get misdirected to other projects that people want...Read More

Unity, One Short Word

Filed by Amy Hunter | October 04, 2010 | 4:00 PM | comments

There are many signature issues around which the gay, transgender and allied communities rally — repeal of DOMA and DADT, passage of an inclusive ENDA, same-sex marriage. Social justice today for LGBT people seems to be defined by bumper sticker...Read More


Gays won't change marriage

Filed by Alex Blaze | October 04, 2010 | 7:30 AM | comments

"I want to say to the gentleman to my left, gay people who want to marry have no desire to redefine marriage in any way. When women got the vote they did not redefine voting. When African-Americans got the right...Read More

Interview with an ex-gay ally

Filed by Alex Blaze | October 04, 2010 | 7:00 AM | comments

Don't really like the slut-shaming at the beginning of the video, but the interview with former SF Pride Queen Karyme Lozano is interesting. Her story of going from wild to conservative after she found "something was missing" sounds a...Read More

Moscow's Gay Mayor?

Filed by Guest Blogger | October 03, 2010 | 5:30 PM | comments

Editors' Note: Named "the godfather of gay sensitivity training" by The New York Times, Brian McNaught is considered the world's leading corporate diversity consultant dealing with gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgender issues in the workplace. He has worked with corporate...Read More

Moving Day - In Search of Lost Time

Filed by Dr. Jillian T. Weiss | October 03, 2010 | 2:30 PM | comments

I have moved so many times over the past 15 years, probably about 10 times, and it is always difficult. And I'm moving again, today. It's not just the packing and the boxes and the labor. It's Marcel Proust's "A...Read More

My Life Again in New York, continued

Filed by Steven Cheslik-DeMeyer | October 03, 2010 | 1:00 PM | comments

Last Wednesday I met a friend at the public library for an author talk with Justin Spring, whose book Secret Historian: The Life and Times of Samuel Steward, Professor, Tattoo Artist, and Sexual Renegade just came out. Spring gave a...Read More

Gay Teen Suicide, Homophobia, Bullying and the Elephant in the Room: Religious Bigotry

Filed by Michael Hamar | October 02, 2010 | 2:00 PM | comments

In the aftermath of a cluster of gay teen suicides, there has been a great deal of commentary and discussion in the media, both LGBT and mainstream, about bullying and its destructiveness. A number of bloggers and commentators have skirted...Read More

Bill introduced to eliminate abstinence-only education

Filed by Alex Blaze | October 01, 2010 | 1:00 PM | comments

Lest we forget in the list of Incredibly Basic Things the Democrats Didn't Accomplish in Two Years, the federal government is still funding abstinence-only education. The Senate introduced a bill to stop that money, but I'm guessing it's too late...Read More

It Gets Better

Filed by Rev. Emily C. Heath | October 01, 2010 | 8:30 AM | comments

I spent a lot of time contemplating the topic for my first Bilerico post. I wanted to write something uplifting and light in order to introduce myself to you. But the rash of suicides of gay youth this week have...Read More