Marriage Equality: November 2010

King of the Faggots

Filed by Guest Blogger | November 29, 2010 | 4:00 PM | comments

Editors' Note: Guest blogger David Mixner is a former strategist and adviser to several presidential campaigns, including those for McGovern, Clinton, and Gephardt. He currently works as an activist for AIDS, LGBT rights, and wildlife. Not even going to attempt...Read More

When Does It Stop?

Filed by Guest Blogger | November 28, 2010 | 11:30 AM | comments

Editors' Note: Guest blogger Brody Levesque has spent most of his career keeping an eye on American politics as a wire service correspondent. He runs Brody's Notes and Scribbles, a daily news blog. Earlier this week, FRC was included in...Read More

Family Research Council Deserves No Apology

Filed by Michael Hamar | November 26, 2010 | 4:00 PM | comments

More crocodile tears and shrieks of victimhood are emanating from the deliberate and vicious liars at Family Research Council. Having followed FRC for over a decade, I can state first hand that the anti-gay tirades have always gone well beyond...Read More

An Attitude of Gratitude

Filed by Davina Kotulski | November 26, 2010 | 3:00 PM | comments

We still have such a long way to go before LGBTQ people are equal global citizens, but 'tis the season to count ones blessings and I want to recap how all love warriors can have an attitude of gratitude this...Read More

Arizona Mormon Temple Outreach for Suicide Prevention

Filed by Bobby Parker | November 26, 2010 | 11:00 AM | comments

Tonight from 5 p.m. until 10 p.m., volunteers will gather at the corner of Hobson and Main Street in Mesa, Arizona for an outreach to gay Mormons in our state. I'm one of the co-organizers of this suicide prevention outreach...Read More

Kate and Allie had it right & we've been going backwards ever since

Filed by Yasmin Nair | November 23, 2010 | 7:00 PM | comments

Ryan Conrad was in Washington, DC, on November 16, as part of the Against Equality tour. As some of you know, the Against Equality collective recently published our first book, Against Equality: Queer Critiques of Gay Marriage, an anthology of...Read More

Reteaching Gender and Sexuality: Queer/Trans Youth Speak Up

Filed by R Conrad | November 23, 2010 | 2:30 PM | comments

Check out the fantastic short video by young queer and trans folks in Seattle from the Put This On the Map project. It does a really great job of calling out bullying as not the problem, but a symptom of...Read More

Grace, Gratitude, and My Big, Gay Thanksgiving Prayer

Filed by Rev. Emily C. Heath | November 23, 2010 | 12:30 PM | comments

One of the occupational hazards of ordained ministry is that every Thanksgiving dinner you attend for the rest of your life will result in you being asked to pray. I don't mind that. I went to school for this stuff....Read More

GetEQUAL's Robin McGehee Reports on Her Meeting at the White House

Filed by Karen Ocamb | November 21, 2010 | 11:30 AM | comments

On Monday, Nov. 15, GetEQUAL co-founder Robin McGehee and 12 others were arrested (photo by Sean Carlson/Talk About Equality) after having chained themselves to the White House fence to protest the possible failure of the repeal of Don't Ask, Don't...Read More

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#SSS: The State of States, Where is Marriage Equality Coming Next?

Filed by Joe Mirabella | November 21, 2010 | 10:00 AM | comments

Several states are poised to move towards marriage equality for gays and lesbians in 2011 and 2012. On the 25th episode of Same Sex Sunday, hear from those closest to the ground. Joining us will be the Executive Director for...Read More

Weekly Reader: Battling Nuns, Football, & a Teabagger Friend

Filed by Bil Browning | November 20, 2010 | 8:00 PM | comments

While all of today's posts on Bilerico Project have honored the Transgender Day of Remembrance and the many transfolk who have been killed for simply being themselves, we covered quite a bit more during the week. Managing Editor Alex Blaze...Read More

I'm the Wrong Dress Size

Filed by Amy Hunter | November 20, 2010 | 12:00 PM | comments

A dear friend of mine, Tucker Rafferty, after reading from Surfacing, a collection of essays I had penned, asked permission to adapt them into a one-woman show. The following was adapted from an essay titled "I'm the Wrong Dress Size"....Read More

Queer Music Friday: Justin Utley

Filed by Leone Kraus | November 19, 2010 | 5:00 PM | comments

I've been toying with the idea about writing a post about my friend and former PR client Justin Utley for quite some time. So when I awoke this morning, I was jazzed to see a note from Bil requesting for...Read More

Yelling at the TV

Filed by Amy Hunter | November 18, 2010 | 3:00 PM | comments

I have to be careful when I watch cable news. If I'm not, I can find myself shouting - inexplicably - at the television, which does nothing of course except scare the cats. I don't know about you, but, I...Read More

Nuns Join The Battle For The Soul of American Catholicism

Filed by Father Tony | November 18, 2010 | 10:30 AM | comments

I like New York's Archbishop Dolan. I really do. We were in Rome together as seminarians. We were not close friends, but the man radiates good will and has a huge heart. Unfortunately, his spiritual instincts are tempered by his...Read More

In the Beginning there was Sam Elliott

Filed by Mark S. King | November 17, 2010 | 5:00 PM | comments

A moment of reverence, please. In 1975, I went to the movies and discovered everything I needed to know about men, sexual allure, chest hair and the masculine ideal that would fuel my fantasies for the rest of my natural...Read More

Everyone Talks About the Weather

Filed by Kate Clinton | November 17, 2010 | 1:30 PM | comments

The mid-term auction kicked my ass. The gushers of money, the belly-up Dems, the betadyned Reps, the gloating media, my bummin' friends. At first I tried to be cheery but the jowly seditious Mitch McConnell, Sarah Palin's Alaska, Michele Bachman's...Read More


Mormons: Same-sex attraction is normal

Filed by Bil Browning | November 17, 2010 | 7:30 AM | comments

"We continue to disagree with the Mormon Church about fundamentally important issues like full respect for the marriages of same-sex couples, but we are encouraged that our advocacy has paid off with real movement that will help save young lives."...Read More

IN Republicans will fight for marriage amendment

Filed by Bil Browning | November 16, 2010 | 1:30 PM | comments

Fresh on the heels of a Republican sweep of Indiana's state legislature comes news that conservatives will once again try to push an amendment to ban same-sex marriage. Rep Chet Culver, long a proponent of anti-gay discrimination, has promised to...Read More

Me, my Tea Party friend, and gay marriage

Filed by Drew Cordes | November 15, 2010 | 7:00 PM | comments

I am close friends with a Tea Party-attending libertarian. (I'll pause to allow gasps of shock.) Our friendship is sustained by the usual things -- common interests and hobbies, sense of humor, etc. We're both passionate about current events and...Read More

Anti-discrimination statements aren't enough

Filed by Alex Blaze | November 14, 2010 | 4:00 PM | comments

One of the many reasons that assuming an employer is LGBT-friendly based on their official statements will make an ass out of everyone is that employers lie. And saying that they're a lot better people than they actually are is...Read More

Lessons from Massachusetts

Filed by Guest Blogger | November 13, 2010 | 2:00 PM | comments

Editors' Note: Guest blogger Kara Suffredini is the Executive Director of MassEquality. She is a seasoned LGBT movement veteran and has extensive background advancing laws that promote justice and fairness. It's the oldest play in the book: organized people and...Read More


Republicans take out a hit on the remaining Iowa justices

Filed by Alex Blaze | November 13, 2010 | 7:30 AM | comments

"That is an issue that the people overwhelmingly said, 'We want to have a say in this. It should not be overreaching government or judges.' I believe the (justices) would still be in office had Mike Gronstal allowed that vote...Read More

Disillusionment & Consequences: Moving Equality Forward After Setbacks

Filed by Waymon Hudson | November 12, 2010 | 2:00 PM | comments

Now that a little time has passed after the midterm elections, it's time for us to pick ourselves up and figure out how to move forward in a very different political climate. There has been much talk about voter disillusionment...Read More

Back In Power, Republicans Reclaim Anti-Gay Marriage Mantle

Filed by Andrew Belonsky | November 12, 2010 | 9:30 AM | comments

With the rise of the Tea Party and fiscal conservatism, I truly hoped -- and believed -- that Republicans had moved on from divisive culture wars. I sincerely thought the days of forcing gay marriage bans was in the past,...Read More

Focus Rebrands "Day of Truth" As "Day of Dialogue." Should We Be Buying It?

Filed by Andrew Belonsky | November 11, 2010 | 7:00 PM | comments

Exodus International left a gaping hole in the "Day of Truth," a conservative counter-protest to the LGBT-inclusive "Day of Silence," when they ended their sponsorship earlier this year. When Exodus, an "ex-gay" group, made the announcement last month, they specifically...Read More

Wedding Announcement Gets Lesbian Fired From Illinois Catholic University

Filed by Waymon Hudson | November 11, 2010 | 2:00 PM | comments

Benedictine University doesn't mind you being gay. Really. As long as you don't tell anyone. Administrator Laine Tadlock, who was director of the education program at Benedictine, was forced from her job from the Catholic university in Springfield, Illinois after...Read More

Is GetEqual Relevant In The New Political Environment?

Filed by Dr. Jillian T. Weiss | November 11, 2010 | 1:00 PM | comments

GetEqual, the nonviolent direct action organization that seeks to empower the LGBT community and allies to take bold action to demand full legal and social equality, sprang up at a particular time in history: March 2010. But the political environment...Read More

Lesbian family study: No sexual or physical abuse

Filed by Nancy Polikoff | November 10, 2010 | 4:00 PM | comments

Earlier this year, I wrote about the well-being of the 17 year old children of lesbians in the US National Longitudinal Lesbian Family Study (NLLFS). Now there's more data on these children, this time published in the Archives of Sexual...Read More

Barney Frank: LGBT issues are going nowhere

Filed by Bil Browning | November 10, 2010 | 12:30 PM | comments

Barney Frank told The Washington Blade this week that LGBT rights issues has "zero chance" under a Republican controlled House of Representatives. Color me surprised. ...Frank also said he was confident that the Senate, of which Democrats retained control, would...Read More

WTF?!: Cheney + Bush = Tolerance?

Filed by Bil Browning | November 10, 2010 | 9:30 AM | comments

George W Bush is currently making the rounds hawking his autobiography and he's included all sorts of snippets that just make your head want to explode. He says the worst moment of his presidency was when Kanye West said he...Read More

Examining death, including the one I caused

Filed by Mark S. King | November 09, 2010 | 9:30 AM | comments

Death is a subject about which I have both too much and too little understanding. I've seen more than my share of it, and yet I have no greater insight than the next guy. That's especially true if the next...Read More

Log Cabin's R. Clarke Cooper: The LGBT Community's New Inside Man

Filed by Karen Ocamb | November 08, 2010 | 2:00 PM | comments

I am among the many trying to read the tea leaves of the Nov. 2 mid-term elections. Some, such as openly gay Washington Post editorial writer Jonathan Capehart, note that CNN's small exit polling sample indicated that 31 percent of...Read More

I'm sorry I'm the reason you didn't vote

Filed by Phil Reese | November 08, 2010 | 11:00 AM | comments

I really didn't think I was being all that nuanced. I was, am and will be critical of crummy work, laziness and poor outcomes. I can't help it. My parents were whip-crackers. As a child, if I promised to do...Read More

My Top 5 LGBT Videos

Filed by Leone Kraus | November 07, 2010 | 2:30 PM | comments

YouTube is one of my favorite social media platforms. Its ability to allow users to create and upload any video they want, create and manage their own YouTube channels, and share their favorite clips with their friends is the perfect...Read More

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#SSS: Post Election Analysis with Log Cabin, Stonewall Dems, Victory Fund, and Americans for Democratic Action

Filed by Joe Mirabella | November 07, 2010 | 10:00 AM | comments

After Tuesday's election, the political landscape clearly changed for the gay, lesbian, bi, and transgender communities. But how did it change? What does a Republican majority mean? What role do Log Cabin Republicans play in moving us forward? How did...Read More

Weekly Reader: Evan Bayh, Smear the Queer, & Waiting for Rights

Filed by Bil Browning | November 06, 2010 | 6:00 PM | comments

The midterm elections dominated the news coverage this week and Bilerico Project was no exception. But we didn't just bring you the election results, we also published some of the best political commentary and queer news bits around. You know,...Read More

More conservative state supreme court judges could hurt LGBT family law

Filed by Nancy Polikoff | November 06, 2010 | 6:00 PM | comments

By now everyone knows that the three Iowa Supreme Court justices up for a retention election all lost their bids to remain on the court, the result of a coordinated, highly financed campaign to send a message against their vote...Read More

Democratic leader in Iowa Senate vows he'll block vote on gay marriage

Filed by Joe Mirabella | November 05, 2010 | 8:30 AM | comments

Despite NOMs bullying of the judicial system, one Iowa politician refuses to give into hate, "no matter how ugly it gets." There could be no truer ally to the gay and lesbian community than Iowa Democratic Senate Majority Leader Mike...Read More

Waiting for Rights Never Works

Filed by Waymon Hudson | November 04, 2010 | 6:00 PM | comments

It's been a common mantra coming from the Democratic Party, the Obama Administration, large beltway equality groups like the Human Rights Campaign, and many others for years: just be patient and wait. We'll get to you and your basic civil...Read More

Prop 8's author defeated at the polls

Filed by Karen Ocamb | November 04, 2010 | 4:00 PM | comments

Though AP declared Democrat Richard Pan the winner Wednesday with 49 % to 46% and a 3,000-vote lead over antigay Prop 8 author Andy Pugno (pictured), the Republican still has not conceded the race in the traditional GOP 5th Assembly...Read More

Arizona: Fighting back against Mormon hate

Filed by Bobby Parker | November 04, 2010 | 3:00 PM | comments

I answered the phone a few weeks ago and my friend was sobbing on the other end. He was calling in outrage and grief at the suicide of a young man in Houston whose photo became one of the faces...Read More

The LGBT Hate Crimes Project: Bullied to Death - Asher Brown

Filed by Terrance Heath | November 04, 2010 | 1:00 PM | comments

When I began hearing a few months ago about the rash gay youth driven to suicide by bullying, I immediately wanted to write about it. But when I sat down and started taking in the stories, I found I couldn’t....Read More

Marriage equality in the Ozarks

Filed by Davina Kotulski | November 04, 2010 | 9:30 AM | comments

Molly and I just got back from our Southern Fried vacation in Northwest Arkansas. We started in Bentonville, home of Wal-Mart, and drove down to Fayetteville home of the U of A Razorbacks and the Northwest Arkansas Center for Equality....Read More

What Democrats Can Learn from Indiana's Election Results

Filed by Bil Browning | November 04, 2010 | 8:30 AM | comments

The midterm election provides Democrats with plenty of lessons they can learn. Gullible pundits and conservative politicians will be throwing out advice like chickenfeed in hopes that media hens and party leader fowls will come peck in the dust at...Read More

LGBT Candidates and Allies Win Big in California

Filed by Guest Blogger | November 03, 2010 | 7:00 PM | comments

Editors' Note: Guest blogger Geoff Kors is the Executive Director of Equality California. Last night's elections in California were full of victories for lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender rights. Meg "Civil Unions Are Good Enough" Whitman was defeated by pro-equality...Read More

Some queer wins in Illinois

Filed by Phil Reese | November 03, 2010 | 1:30 PM | comments

Okay, yes. Looking at the New York Times House election results map for Illinois you may see a big giant red blob. This is true. We lost three major allies in the US House of Representatives last night: Debbie Halvorson,...Read More

Iowa Supreme Court Justices Ousted For Marriage Equality Ruling

Filed by Joe Mirabella | November 03, 2010 | 8:30 AM | comments

Three of Iowa's Supreme Court Justices were up for a retention vote in Iowa on Tuesday. NOM spent millions trying to oust them after their unanimous Supreme Court ruling granting Same Sex marriage equality. Sadly, the judges were punished for...Read More

Frustrated with the pace of change? Go vote

Filed by Guest Blogger | November 02, 2010 | 9:30 AM | comments

Editors' Note: Guest blogger Michael Mitchell is the Executive Director of National Stonewall Democrats. By the time you read this, many of you will have already voted, either by mail, at special in-person voting locations or because you made it...Read More

Buying the 2010 Mid-Term Elections and Voters Guides

Filed by Karen Ocamb | November 01, 2010 | 7:00 PM | comments

You might want to sit down for this bit of news: a record four BILLION dollars is expected to be spent on this year's midterm elections, according to an Oct. 27 estimate by the non-partisan watchdog group, Center for Responsive...Read More

No More Smear The Queer

Filed by D Gregory Smith | November 01, 2010 | 6:00 PM | comments

In a short note to me this weekend, my friend and colleague Brody Levesque shared a personal thought about this election cycle that stopped me: "I just cannot get over how hateful some of the rhetoric is this time out....Read More

Why This Election Matters More Than You Think

Filed by Jerame Davis | November 01, 2010 | 2:00 PM | comments

Sure, folks are pissed-off, disappointed, disaffected or just disillusioned right now. But, if you don't get out and vote on Tuesday, you're going to have a lot more to kvetch about for a lot longer than you might think. Here's...Read More

Why This Year Matters: Part 3

Filed by Amy Hunter | November 01, 2010 | 11:00 AM | comments

Many people don't spend much time figuring out for whom to vote in local races. Some folks simply vote for the county commissioner or township supervisor whose name they recognize. Even state offices such as Secretary of State, Attorney General,...Read More

Ouch: Understatement of the Year

Filed by Bil Browning | November 01, 2010 | 8:30 AM | comments

I'll admit that running Bilerico Project has really opened my eyes to the state of the LGBT movement nationwide. We've run afoul of some of the internal politics both in our personal dealings with the national org and in our...Read More


Betty White on same-sex marriage

Filed by Alex Blaze | November 01, 2010 | 7:30 AM | comments

"I don't care who anybody sleeps with. If a couple has been together all that time - and there are gay relationships that are more solid than some heterosexual ones - I think it's fine if they want to get...Read More