Marriage Equality: December 2010

Top 10 LGBT News Stories of 2010

Filed by Bil Browning | December 31, 2010 | 5:00 PM | comments

Every December, Alex and I get together and pick our top ten stories of the past twelve months. This year's list sticks mostly to the political with only two stories standing out as non-governmental. 2010 stands out as a year...Read More

2010: When Official Republican Bigotry Went Unchecked

Filed by D Gregory Smith | December 30, 2010 | 6:00 PM | comments

For me, 2010 is/was about Republican political shaming of The Gays- and about the relative silence surrounding the issue. The Montana GOP approved a platform which included this blatant piece of ignorance and bigotry: We support the clear will of...Read More

Enough Faux Agonizing, Mr. President

Filed by Michael Hamar | December 30, 2010 | 4:00 PM | comments

There has been much coverage of Barack Obama's confession that he's "evolving" on the issue of same sex marriage - which in my view is yet another example of Obama trying to have his cake and eat it too by...Read More

Conservative orgs pull out of CPAC because of GOProud

Filed by Alex Blaze | December 29, 2010 | 1:30 PM | comments

CPAC, the largest yearly conservative convention in the US, is coming up, and it seems like the Religious Right set is more prepared for the homocons this year than they were last year. Two rightwing orgs have already announced that...Read More

Trans man denied marriage license

Filed by Alex Blaze | December 29, 2010 | 8:30 AM | comments

The local news covers the story of a trans man in Michigan denied a marriage license even though he had all the paperwork needed. This story says a lot about how politics, which is people of differing opinions on everything...Read More

Like a Horse and Carriage

Filed by Steven Cheslik-DeMeyer | December 28, 2010 | 7:00 PM | comments

This is from "Vows" in the Sunday New York Times, a column in which a couple who are about to get married, or have just gotten married, are profiled -- usually a fluffy, romantic tale of how they met and...Read More

Daily living for change: More than hot air

Filed by Susan Raffo | December 28, 2010 | 5:00 PM | comments

This piece is written in partnership between Susan Raffo and Lisa Weiner-Mahfuz. I avoid grandiose plans. I start with a small piece that I can do. I go to the root of the problem and then work around it. It's...Read More

Will LGBT Progressives Work with Log Cabin Republicans in 2011?

Filed by Karen Ocamb | December 28, 2010 | 12:30 PM | comments

While mainstream media pundits give President Obama, Democratic Senate Majority Leader Harry Reid and House Speaker Nancy Pelosi most of the credit for repealing the odious Don't Ask, Don't Tell military policy during the lame duck session last week, repeal...Read More

Does marriage change you or do you change marriage?

Filed by Alex Blaze | December 28, 2010 | 11:30 AM | comments

Divorce counselor writes in the Huffington Post that gay male relationships should be a model for straight ones considering divorce: But not every extra-marital experience needs to lead to a divorce -- and that is a lesson that many gay...Read More

How the Gay Agenda is written: Who's up for a marriage fight?

Filed by Alex Blaze | December 28, 2010 | 8:30 AM | comments

Last week I posted about how the mainstream media seem to have decided that marriage is the gays' next priority after being completely ignored for several months. Last Friday, the Washington Post ran this headline: Rights activists press Obama to...Read More

Patriarchy Alive & Functioning

Filed by Guest Blogger | December 27, 2010 | 4:00 PM | comments

Editors' Note: Guest blogger Warren J. Blumenfeld is an Associate Professor in the Department of Curriculum and Instruction at Iowa State University. Among his books are Investigating Christian Privilege and Religious Oppression in the United States and Readings for Diversity...Read More

The Agenda Item Barney Forgot

Filed by Dana Rudolph | December 26, 2010 | 11:30 AM | comments

When it comes to acerbic wit among politicians, Rep. Barney Frank (D-MA) is second to none. His response to a right-wing reporter about the issue of "showering with homosexuals" in the military is priceless: "What do you think happens in...Read More

Chai Feldblum confirmed to EEOC

Filed by Nancy Polikoff | December 26, 2010 | 10:00 AM | comments

In a last minute action, on Wednesday the Senate confirmed law professor Chai Feldblum as a commissioner on the Equal Employment Opportunity Commission (EEOC). Obama named Feldblum in a recess appointment last March. There were various holds placed on her...Read More

Barack Obama's ENDA post-mortem: DADT had to happen first

Filed by Alex Blaze | December 23, 2010 | 12:00 PM | comments

Kerry Eleveld published an interview with Barack Obama yesterday in which she asked a few questions about ENDA. Obama basically says that he didn't have time to do more than one piece of LGBT legislation, and here's why it was...Read More

Don't Move So Fast

Filed by Michele O'Mara | December 23, 2010 | 8:30 AM | comments

the right time to move in togetherRead More

Political power grows out of a barrel of money

Filed by Alex Blaze | December 22, 2010 | 5:00 PM | comments

Target CEO Gregg Steinhafel, August 6, 2010: While I firmly believe that a business climate conducive to growth is critical to our future, I realize our decision affected many of you in a way I did not anticipate, and for...Read More

And domestic partnership benefits for all

Filed by Alex Blaze | December 21, 2010 | 5:00 PM | comments

There's an interesting column in The Arizona Republic about the decision by Arizona Public Services, a private electric utility, to only extend domestic partnership benefits to same-sex couples: I learned about the new policy from an APS employee who has...Read More

Is it too soon to celebrate the end of DADT?

Filed by Davina Kotulski | December 21, 2010 | 3:30 PM | comments

DADT is soon to be dead (at least regarding sexual orientation), but with DOMA still around LGB soldiers in same-sex marriages, civil unions, domestic partnerships, and reciprocal beneficiary relationships will still not be able to give their partner's veteran or...Read More

Defense Drains - Offense Gains: A Journey Towards Full Civil Rights

Filed by Guest Blogger | December 21, 2010 | 10:30 AM | comments

Editors' Note: Guest blogger Alan L. Bounville is a full time graduate student studying theatre for social change at New York University and is one of the founding members of Queer Rising New York City, a direct action group fighting...Read More

Hopes for the New Year

Filed by Leslie Robinson | December 21, 2010 | 10:30 AM | comments

As 2010 draws to a close, I'm looking ahead. Here are some of my hopes for the LGBT community in 2011, along with a few predictions. I hope next year the Pope will reveal a new attitude toward gays. I...Read More

A Shining Star of Activism in the Arizona Desert

Filed by Bobby Parker | December 20, 2010 | 3:00 PM | comments

Caleb Laieski, a brilliant, 16-year-old dynamo from the town of Surprise, Arizona is a one-man force for equality and safety for all school children in our state. I don't think there's anyone like him in our whole nation. I'm giving...Read More

DADT repeal is "done," so what next? Reactions in straight media

Filed by Alex Blaze | December 20, 2010 | 11:00 AM | comments

Hate crimes, DADT, now... marriage? I've ready a half a dozen "What will the gays do next?" articles in mainstream media sources, and the gays with big media access are telling them the next goal is marriage, even though it...Read More

He's My Husband, Thank You Very Much

Filed by John M. Becker | December 19, 2010 | 1:00 PM | comments

Referring to my spouse and me as anything other than husbands is a sign of deep disrespect that I can no longer tolerate.Read More

New Trinkets from the Against Equality Collective!

Filed by R Conrad | December 19, 2010 | 11:30 AM | comments

The sassy folks at the Against Equality collective are always looking for new ways to create time and space to have critical dialog about the direction the gay and lesbian movement is headed. This month we have released a new...Read More

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#SSS DADT repeal passes; Log Cabin remains committed to Federal Case

Filed by Phil Reese | December 19, 2010 | 8:30 AM | comments

The SameSexSunday Skype chat room is in full celebration mode after the passage of the bill repealing "Don't Ask Don't Tell" in the Senate Saturday, December 18. Our special double round table episode starts out with a year-in-review and look...Read More

BREAKING: 'Don't Ask Don't Tell' Repeal Passes Senate

Filed by Bil Browning | December 18, 2010 | 3:00 PM | comments

The United States Senate just voted 65-31 to repeal the discriminatory 'Don't Ask Don't Tell' policy. The House of Representatives has already passed the legislation. It now goes on to the President's desk for his signature into law. Back in...Read More

An Open Letter to Dan Choi

Filed by Guest Blogger | December 18, 2010 | 10:00 AM | comments

Editors' Note: Guest blogger Jonathon Edwards is a pastor in the United Church of Christ and has been active on a local level in the glbt movement since his youth. He co-founded the first GLBT student organization at the University...Read More

When lesbians conceive through sexual intercourse, different legal issues can arise

Filed by Nancy Polikoff | December 17, 2010 | 3:00 PM | comments

We don't discuss it much. It confounds notions of fixed sexuality and fidelity. But sometimes when a lesbian couple wants a child one partner conceives through sexual intercourse. Relatively speaking, it is cheap and reliable, but it alters the legal...Read More

If Scrooge Were Queer: 20 Questions for Couples in the New Year

Filed by Guest Blogger | December 17, 2010 | 1:00 PM | comments

Editors' Note: Guest blogger Jeff Lutes is a psychotherapist who lives with his husband and their three adopted children in Austin, Texas. He is the principal consultant for, where he teaches online dating and relationship workshops to the LGBTQ...Read More


McCain plans to filibuster

Filed by Alex Blaze | December 17, 2010 | 7:30 AM | comments

"Yeah, I do. I think my father will filibuster probably. And I think that this will probably pass, and I think gay marriage will pass in this country." --Meghan McCain on her father's position on DADT...Read More

Both the French and Americans need alternatives to marriage

Filed by Alex Blaze | December 16, 2010 | 7:00 PM | comments

France restricts marriage to heterosexual couples but created civil unions, known as "PACS," back in 1999 for both straight and gay couples. In 2000, 76% of the couples that pacsed were heterosexual, in 2006 93% were, and in 2009 (the...Read More

Oprah is not gay, folks

Filed by Rev Irene Monroe | December 16, 2010 | 4:00 PM | comments

Oprah is known everywhere around the world, and has touched nearly everyone. Her media stardom and public ministry make her omnipresent as well as omnipotent. Her converts would argue she is also omniscient, especially with her monthly oracle -- O,...Read More

10 in '10: Freedom to Marry's Top Ten Moments for Marriage in 2010

Filed by Guest Blogger | December 16, 2010 | 8:30 AM | comments

Editors' Note: Evan Wolfson is founder and Executive Director of Freedom to Marry, the campaign to win marriage nationwide. In 2004, TIME magazine named Evan one of the "100 most influential people in the world." It's been a whirlwind year...Read More


Solidarity, Religious Right style

Filed by Alex Blaze | December 16, 2010 | 7:30 AM | comments

"We, the undersigned, stand in solidarity with Family Research Council, American Family Association, Concerned Women of America, National Organization for Marriage, Liberty Counsel and other pro-family organizations that are working to protect and promote natural marriage and family. We support...Read More

Tony Dungy gets humanitarian award named after him

Filed by Alex Blaze | December 15, 2010 | 1:30 PM | comments

I don't think a large organization name an award after anyone else who went around campaigning for discrimination and fund-raising for organizations that work to malign classes of human beings, but we just aren't quite there yet with the gays....Read More

You can't write "sexual orientation" without s, e, x

Filed by Alex Blaze | December 14, 2010 | 1:30 PM | comments

This is a strange little test of the UK's new equality legislation as many B&B owners there have apparently been operating under the impression that they just opened up their houses to guests but that they aren't really businesses (building...Read More

Cognitive Dissonance: The SPLC effect

Filed by Bil Browning | December 13, 2010 | 1:00 PM | comments

Jeremy Hooper at Good As You has one helluva scoop about an initiative several religious right orgs are launching to combat the Southern Poverty Law Center's designation of some of the most virulently anti-gay outfits as hate groups. Jeremy has...Read More

Speech from the San Francisco UN Plaza Rally to End the Criminalization of Homosexuality

Filed by Davina Kotulski | December 13, 2010 | 10:00 AM | comments

The Lakota have a saying "Mitakuye Oysain" - we are all related. Buddhist Monk, Thich Nhat Hahn, talks about oneness, and Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. talked about the interrelatedness of life. "I can never be what I ought to...Read More

Life is Not a True/False Exam

Filed by Steven Cheslik-DeMeyer | December 12, 2010 | 5:30 PM | comments

This blog post (which Andrew Sullivan linked to this morning) says succinctly what I've been thinking, what I've been trying to put in words, regarding the billboard that some atheist group put up near the Lincoln Tunnel ("You Know It's...Read More

Screw playing the game, let's take it all to the courts

Filed by Phil Reese | December 10, 2010 | 3:00 PM | comments

I should, of course, preface this post by saying that legislative appeal isn't actually dead at all. Though there is no word on who will push it (and how fast) in the House of Representatives, Senator Lieberman (I-CT) and Senator...Read More

Rachel Maddow stole from Bilerico Project!

Filed by Bil Browning | December 10, 2010 | 12:00 PM | comments

Remember this hateful sign from the Indianapolis rally sponsored by the National Organization for Marriage? The photo took the internet by storm and since I knew it would be popular, I put a watermark on the bottom to show we...Read More

Laughter: A Tool of Asymmetric Warfare?

Filed by Don Davis | December 09, 2010 | 8:30 AM | comments

So here it is, almost halfway through this President's first term, and it's starting to become abundantly clear that there is no way Obama is going to pursue the same agenda that he ran on in 2008. In fact, as...Read More

Thumbs up for 'Girls Who Like Boys Who Like Boys'

Filed by Rev Irene Monroe | December 08, 2010 | 4:00 PM | comments

The long-awaited reality series "Girls Who Like Boys Who Like Boys," highlighting the unconventional relationship between heterosexual women and gay men deputed on the "Sundance Channel" on Dec. 7. The show is produced by Randy Barbato and Fenton Bailey, the...Read More

Don't Ask, Don't Tell, Don't Give Us Your Professional Opinion

Filed by Guest Blogger | December 08, 2010 | 3:00 PM | comments

Editors' Note: Guest blogger Edward Falzon is the author of Being Gay is Disgusting, a very tongue-in-cheek (and not literally titled) humorous parody of the first five books of the Bible. I continue to be surprised at the persistence of...Read More

Perry in the Ninth Circuit: Reinhardt's Question

Filed by Karen Ocamb | December 08, 2010 | 12:30 PM | comments

My mind keeps coming back to a question posed by Judge Reinhardt Monday at the Perry vs. Schwarzenegger arguments in the Ninth Circuit. Which is a worse thing to do, he asked attorneys from both sides of the case, taking...Read More

In Death, Elizabeth Edwards Teaches Valuable Lesson

Filed by Andrew Belonsky | December 08, 2010 | 8:30 AM | comments

Six years after first being diagnosed with breast cancer, Elizabeth Edwards, lawyer, mother and estranged wife to former presidential candidate John Edwards, has died. Though sad, her journey gives us all an opportunity to remember the details of life so...Read More

How Friendfactor Speeds Up the LGBT Equality Movement

Filed by Leone Kraus | December 07, 2010 | 3:30 PM | comments

In case you missed it, a new social networking site has sprung and it's an important one. Friendfactor is a social networking site designed to give members of the LGBT community a platform to show their straight friends what LGBT...Read More

Liberty, Justice, and Marriage Equality for All

Filed by Davina Kotulski | December 07, 2010 | 11:30 AM | comments

A rally of 100 marriage equality supporters gathered early this morning outside the appellate court holding signs that read "Love and Commitment = Marriage" and wearing heart stickers that read "Liberty, justice, and marriage equality." Despite a powerful storm that...Read More

HRC to move into Harvey Milk's store

Filed by Bil Browning | December 07, 2010 | 10:30 AM | comments

What fresh hell is this? HRC is moving into Harvey Milk's old camera shop in the Castro? Methinks "insult" is a little too dramatic understated. In what some grassroots gay activists are calling an "insult," the Human Rights Campaign is...Read More

Oral argument leaves many options open for 9th Circuit Court of Appeals

Filed by Nan Hunter | December 07, 2010 | 9:30 AM | comments

The long-awaited oral argument in Perry v. Schwarzenegger before the Ninth Circuit is over, and we all now begin what I expect will become an even longer wait for a decision. Who won? To my hearing (via radio), it's hard...Read More

Washington State's Domestic Partnership Law One Year Later

Filed by Joe Mirabella | December 06, 2010 | 6:00 PM | comments

As I removed each ornament from the box I've been keeping them in since I was a kid, I remembered. A tiny book on a gold string with an inscription from my fourth grade teacher, a black and white dog...Read More

What will they discuss in the hearing today in the Ninth Circuit Court of Appeals on Prop 8?

Filed by Dr. Jillian T. Weiss | December 06, 2010 | 12:30 PM | comments

Today, the U.S. Court of Appeals for the Ninth Circuit will hold a hearing on the appeal in Perry v. Schwarzenegger, in which the United States District Court for the Northern District of California ruled that Prop 8 is unconstitutional....Read More

Rev Jesse Jackson to speak out against Prop 8

Filed by Davina Kotulski | December 05, 2010 | 1:00 PM | comments

Back in 1990, when I was 20 years old and a college senior, I was thrilled at the opportunity to shake the sweaty hand of Rev. Jesse Jackson after he spoke at Portland State University about equality and civil rights....Read More

Equality California's Geoff Kors Resigns: A 'Good Time to Leave'

Filed by Karen Ocamb | December 04, 2010 | 4:00 PM | comments

After nine years at the state's largest LGBT advocacy and lobbying organization, Equality California Executive Director Geoff Kors announced Friday morning that he will step down from his position on March 31, 2011. Kors will stay with EQCA until then...Read More

Contest: Marriage is soo gay

Filed by Davina Kotulski | December 04, 2010 | 2:00 PM | comments

Today while enjoying my weekly meal at Café Gratitude, a mostly raw vegan restaurant in Berkeley, my waiter, Change, handed me a cool new coloring book called Sometimes the Spoon Runs Away with Another Spoon. Yes, a coloring book. Inside...Read More

Reinhardt Refuses to Recuse Himself in Prop 8 Case

Filed by Karen Ocamb | December 03, 2010 | 2:00 PM | comments

There was lot of commotion Wednesday afternoon as Yes on 8/ filed a motion asking 9th Circuit Court Judge Stephen Roy Reinhardt to recuse himself from the three-judge panel that will hear the Prop 8 appeal and standing case on...Read More

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Gay donors give matching grants to LGBT groups

Filed by Michael Crawford | December 02, 2010 | 3:30 PM | comments

Talk about putting your money where your mouth is: Facebook cofounder Chris Hughes and his partner, Freedom to Marry political director Sean Eldridge, have a made a huge commitment to the nonprofit push for marriage equality nationwide. The couple will...Read More

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I called Lady Gaga evil and got death threats on Facebook

Filed by R Conrad | December 02, 2010 | 2:30 PM | comments

As some folks may know, I have been touring around the United States .with the new book, Against Equality: Queer Critiques of Gay Marriage. I edited this anthology which contains critical work from some really wonderful voices in queer and...Read More

What was that about being persecuted?

Filed by Bil Browning | December 02, 2010 | 12:30 PM | comments

The Boston Globe has a fantastic feature on Massachusettes Justice Roderick L. Ireland who signed the Supreme Court's decision in favor of same-sex marriage. He and his family received death threats. His mailbox mysteriously disappeared, prompting the State Police to...Read More


Schakowsky: This is a beginning

Filed by Bil Browning | December 02, 2010 | 7:30 AM | comments

"This is a momentous day in Illinois and I commend the state House and Senate for taking a historic vote to pass civil unions legislation. With it, Illinois removes some of the most egregious barriers currently faced by gays and...Read More

Illinois legislature passes civil unions: different-sex couples also eligible

Filed by Nancy Polikoff | December 01, 2010 | 7:00 PM | comments

The Illinois Senate has passed a civil union bill. The House passed it yesterday, and the governor has said he will sign it, so it's a done deal. When it becomes law the status will be available to both same-sex...Read More

Pentagon Study Analysis Part I: Overall Impression

Filed by Jarrod Chlapowski | December 01, 2010 | 10:30 AM | comments

I spent the greater part of yesterday in pure grad student glee reading over the Pentagon study which was finally released yesterday. Yes, I am that guy. This study is good. Really good. Incredibly exhaustive, you will be hard pressed...Read More

Civil Unions passes Illinois House, on to Senate

Filed by Phil Reese | December 01, 2010 | 9:30 AM | comments

While you were sleeping (well, at least right before bed) Illinois' lower house brought the Prairie State one step closer to equality in relationship recognition by passing a civil unions bill that includes many of the rights of marriage. Before...Read More