Living: February 2012

Woodhull Sexual Freedom Alliance

Making Sense of Sex - A Fabulous Collaboration

Filed by Ricci Levy | February 29, 2012 | 4:00 PM | comments

Woodhull is pleased and excited to announce the launch of "MAKING SENSE OF SEX" - a series of interviews with experts in the sex industry, including performers, educators and activists. Read More


The Leap Year Edition [What You Need to Know]

Filed by Bil Browning | February 29, 2012 | 10:00 AM | comments

It's that magical day when unicorns and leprechauns come out to play with good children everywhere in their bedrooms at midnight. Of course, this scares the shit out of kids, so that's why it only happens every four years.Read More


Uncomfortable Silence Edition [What You Need to Know]

Filed by Bil Browning | February 28, 2012 | 10:30 AM | comments

Today's edition of "What You Need to Know" is brought to you by Uncomfortable Silence Bear.Read More


Are Atlanta LGBT Activists Wrong on the Brandon White Incident?

Filed by Viktor Kerney | February 28, 2012 | 9:00 AM | comments

Atlanta activists have claimed that Brandon White, the gay man beaten by three other men, was lying about his story. The group suggests that White's beating wasn't a "hate crime," it was "revenge" for threatening to out some of his attackers.Read More


Priest Walks Out of Funeral Service Over Deceased's Lesbian Daughter

Filed by Bil Browning | February 27, 2012 | 3:00 PM | comments

A new champion has emerged for the "Asshole of the Year Award" after Father Marcel Guarnizo of the Gaithersburg, Maryland St John Neumann Catholic Church walked out of a funeral to protest the inclusion of the deceased's lesbian daughter.Read More


Shepard Fairey Faces Jail Over Iconic Obama Poster

Filed by Karen Ocamb | February 27, 2012 | 1:00 PM | comments

Los Angeles artist Shepard Fairey plead guilty Friday in the criminal case involving his iconic "Hope" poster for the Obama election campaign. He faces a maximum sentence of six months in prison and a maximum term of supervised release of one year. Read More


Was There More to Atlanta Anti-Gay Beating Than Appeared?

Filed by Bil Browning | February 27, 2012 | 10:30 AM | comments

Atlanta LGBT activists are now questioning whether the brutal beating of Brandon White was motivated by anti-gay bias after all.Read More

Family Values: Blogging My Marriage Continued

Filed by Steven Cheslik-DeMeyer | February 26, 2012 | 5:30 PM | comments

I've enjoyed seeing how much the wedding means to our families, how much joy our love and commitment brings to them, how much I look forward to them meeting each other and becoming one family surrounding and supporting us.Read More

Rutgers Spycam Suicide-Cyberbullying Case Goes to Trial

Filed by Karen Ocamb | February 26, 2012 | 4:00 PM | comments

Former Rutgers University student Dharun Ravi went on trial in New Brunswick, New Jersey Friday in the cyberbullying case that may have lead to the suicide of Ravi's gay roommate, Tyler Clementi.Read More


Anita Bryant's Ex-Hubby Dies Full of Hatred, Bigotry & Blaming Gays

Filed by Guest Blogger | February 26, 2012 | 1:00 PM | comments

Bob Green, was a onetime radio DJ who married pop Miss Oklahoma and orange juice spokesman Anita Bryant, managed her career and then followed her into anti-gay activism - which ultimately destroyed their careers and marriage.Read More


The LGBT Community & Alcohol Culture [Open Thread]

Filed by Bil Browning | February 26, 2012 | 11:00 AM | comments

How prevalent is the alcohol culture where you live? Do you feel it's more obvious and forced when you participate in LGBT events? Are the only queer social outlets where you live gay bars?Read More


The Jesus F--king Christ Edition [What You Need to Know]

Filed by Bil Browning | February 25, 2012 | 3:00 PM | comments

Jesus Fucking Christ! Some people describe sex as a spiritual experience, but this is taking things a little too far.Read More


The Soft Bigotry of Passive Rejection

Filed by E. Winter Tashlin | February 25, 2012 | 1:00 PM | comments

Hatred cloaked in ambivalence is no less hurtful, and after decades of fighting against the loudest voices in the room, we need to be listening with equal care for the soft voice of reasoned bigotry now more than ever. Read More


A Legal Take: Ryan Braun's Overturned Drug Suspension

Filed by Norm Kent | February 24, 2012 | 3:30 PM | comments

Neither a technicality nor a loophole today freed Ryan Braun from a 50 game suspension. What saved Braun was the fact that we live in a society, which is supposed to preserve due process, insure fairness, and honor agreements protecting the rights of employees.Read More


Santorum Nail Polish Edition [What You Need to Know]

Filed by Bil Browning | February 24, 2012 | 11:00 AM | comments

Today's roundup is brought to you by Santorum Nail Polish. You'll shit yourself when you see it. It only comes in brown.Read More


An Open Letter to Indiana from a Hoosier Expatriate

Filed by Bil Browning | February 23, 2012 | 5:00 PM | comments

I've always been proud of my Hoosier heritage. I didn't want to give up on you, Indiana. I wanted to help guide you away from being the middle finger of the south jutting up into the north.Read More


Is Refusing Service a Proactive Way To Change Minds?

Filed by James Holmes | February 23, 2012 | 4:00 PM | comments

I have struggled with how I should feel about this news clip out of New Mexico of a stylist denying the Republican governor service over her stance on marriage quality. Did he miss out on a greater opportunity? Read More


I'm Getting Married in May

Filed by Steven Cheslik-DeMeyer | February 23, 2012 | 1:30 PM | comments

We chose a sprawling 19th century resort hotel nestled in the foothills of the Catskills, because we wanted to show off our beautiful state where there are gorgeous mountains and lakes and rivers, and gay people can get married. Read More


Exclamation Point Edition [What You Need to Know]

Filed by Bil Browning | February 23, 2012 | 11:30 AM | comments

Today's round of news you need to know is brought to you by a very demanding road sign.Read More


Indiana Moves Forward on Banning Gay License Plate

Filed by Austen Crowder | February 23, 2012 | 9:00 AM | comments

Welcome to the flyover states, boys and girls; while the rest of the nation celebrates victory we deal with folks who will scorch earth if it means keeping those uppity queers from getting any table scraps!Read More

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DOMA Is Unconstitutional (Again)

Filed by Bil Browning | February 22, 2012 | 6:15 PM | comments

With so many steps marching forward toward full marriage equality and federal courts finding laws preventing it unconstitutional, how much longer do you think it will be before gay and lesbian couples can get married nationwide?Read More


Wonky Paving Stone Edition [What You Need to Know]

Filed by Bil Browning | February 22, 2012 | 9:30 AM | comments

What do you need to know today? I've rounded it all up into one post for you. Convenient, no? Be careful of the wonky paving stone though...Read More


Fat Tuesday [Open Thread]

Filed by James Holmes | February 21, 2012 | 12:30 PM | comments

It's the last day of sinning for some of us (not me) before Lent begins tomorrow. Have any great Mardi Gras plans? Cock and boob flashing for shiny plastic? Hurricanes during your lunch break? Let us know. Read More


Tuesday Edition [What You Need to Know]

Filed by Bil Browning | February 21, 2012 | 11:30 AM | comments

Yesterday was President's Day but the news didn't take the day off (and I'm pretty sure the President didn't either!). What do you need to know this morning? Here it is.Read More


Is AZ Sheriff Babeu's Story About Outing, Immigration or Mitt Romney?

Filed by Karen Ocamb | February 21, 2012 | 10:00 AM | comments

The story of Arizona's Pinal County Sheriff Paul Babeu - an anti-illegal immigration hardliner and a Republican rising star running for Congress - has been firing up news outlets that think they've hit the trifecta.Read More


BlogLocal: Infusing LGBT Blogging Into Local "Scene"

Filed by Sue Kerr | February 20, 2012 | 5:30 PM | comments

I was recently invited to submit my blog to a new resource, Blog Local, which bills itself as the resource "putting local blogging on the map." Read More


James Buchanan: America's First Gay President?

Filed by Guest Blogger | February 20, 2012 | 10:30 AM | comments

Historian James W. Loewen has extensively researched the personal life of James Buchanan, the 15th president of the United States, and he's convinced Buchanan was gay, having shared much of his life with William Rufus King, a senator from Alabama.Read More


Are Kids Coming Out Too Early?

Filed by E. Winter Tashlin | February 18, 2012 | 3:30 PM | comments

Different people have different trajectories for becoming aware of their sexual orientation and their gender identity. Denying the experience of someone like me does not positively contribute to the fabric of our community, even if we may represent a slightly uncomfortable reality.Read More


What They Don't Tell You

Filed by Father Tony | February 17, 2012 | 11:00 AM | comments

I assumed that physical attraction was like those fuel barrels that boost a rocket through the heat of the atmosphere and then are detached and are cast off to orbit the earth. Like debris. Like memories.Read More

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Constitutional Logic 101

Filed by Bil Browning | February 17, 2012 | 10:00 AM | comments

David Mixner shared this graphic from his niece on Facebook and the logic behind it is infallible. This should become one of our most regularly used arguments.Read More

Go vegan!

A More Positive Side of Vegan

Filed by James Holmes | February 16, 2012 | 4:00 PM | comments

Earlier today I published a post condemning PETA's newest pro-vegan ad that promotes violence rather than compassion. After seeing the comments coming in, I thought I'd post a few videos that put veganism in the positive light it deserves. Read More


Erotica, Valentine's Day, & the Missouri River

Filed by James Holmes | February 15, 2012 | 5:00 PM | comments

Last night for Valentine's Day, my partner and I decided to go for a less traditional approach. Rather than going out for dinner and a movie we accepted an invitation to an erotic book reading.Read More

HIV Criminalization Face-Off: A Poz Man & His Accuser

Filed by Mark S. King | February 15, 2012 | 1:30 PM | comments

What if you could witness a face-to-face confrontation between a man living with HIV and the sex partner accusing him of not revealing his status? Wouldn't you like to be a fly on that wall?Read More


Log Cabin Republican Pioneer Thomas Hunter Russell Dies

Filed by Karen Ocamb | February 15, 2012 | 10:00 AM | comments

On Monday, longtime activist Jeanne Barney sent me an email telling me that Thomas Hunter Russell died peacefully at his home last Wednesday, on Feb. 8. He was 71.Read More


Top 10 Reasons To Celebrate Being Single

Filed by Jeff Lutes | February 14, 2012 | 7:00 PM | comments

Today I am reminded that many people remain single. Let's include our whole community in today's festivities by recognizing the top ten advantages to being single on Valentine's Day.Read More


ADHD: A Drug Helps Daddy Too

Filed by Kergan Edwards-Stout | February 14, 2012 | 4:00 PM | comments

As gay people, many of us have been told time and again that we are not good enough - that there is something wrong with us. Being judged by others fed into that messaging. Still, they didn't have to deal with Marcus every day.Read More


Google's Valentine's Day Doodle Goes Gay

Filed by James Holmes | February 14, 2012 | 3:00 PM | comments

The Google Doodle of the day is a video showing a boy's attempts to woo the girl of his dreams and ends with images of other couples include gays and lesbians - but is it a good thing? Read More


Happy Valentine's Day! Get Engaged for Marriage Equality

Filed by Karen Ocamb | February 14, 2012 | 2:00 PM | comments

The annual Valentine's Day marriage license counter protest, which contributed to the May 2008 California Supreme Court decision that allowed same-sex couples to marry, will occur every year until same sex couples are afforded the same rights as the rest of society.Read More


Gender 'Differance': Alienation & Validation

Filed by Drew Cordes | February 14, 2012 | 12:00 PM | comments

I'm a transgender woman and I had gender reassignment surgery a little less than a year ago. At this point, I am expected to feel validated and "complete" as a person in terms of my gender expression. This is not the case.Read More


Happy, Anxious, Anxious, Happy

Filed by Leslie Robinson | February 14, 2012 | 10:00 AM | comments

Recent LGBT news from around the world has plucked me from my happy place and plunked me down on an anxious acre. Listen, if it weren't for that continuing glow from local news, I'd be on an irate island.Read More


Take Action: Queering Qdoba on Valentine's Day

Filed by Bil Browning | February 13, 2012 | 4:30 PM | comments

Okay, gang. It's time to queer Qdoba for Valentine's Day. The Mexican restaurant is running a special for the holiday. All entrees are buy one get one free if you kiss "a significant other, family member, friend, or understanding stranger" at the register.Read More


What Social Scientists Might Tell Santorum About Same-Sex Parents

Filed by Jeff Lutes | February 13, 2012 | 3:30 PM | comments

On the campaign trail, Rick Santorum has been repeating his false claim that same-sex parents are bad for children. Social scientists disagree. Publicly. Read More


Whitney Houston: How Do We Mourn Celebrities?

Filed by Adam Polaski | February 12, 2012 | 5:30 PM | comments

So how should we mourn our celebrities? When our personal or generational experiences and encounters with these public figures vary so greatly, is it even possible to follow a script? Is it even necessary?Read More


Aussie Gay Couple Want Their Son Back from DCFS

Filed by Karen Ocamb | February 12, 2012 | 11:30 AM | comments

Several Australian news sites confirmed Thursday that an unidentified Australian gay male couple is being investigated by the FBI for allegedly belonging to an international child pedophilia ring.Read More


North Korea: May His Light Shine Upon You

Filed by Bil Browning | February 11, 2012 | 4:00 PM | comments

The World Press Photo awards have been announced and, as always, the photography is simply stunning. You'll have to surf over to the site to see this year's big winner, but this photo from North Korea really resonated with me.Read More


Is This a Purebred Wiener Dog? [Caption This]

Filed by Bil Browning | February 11, 2012 | 10:00 AM | comments

What's your best caption for this photo of a, uh, wiener dog?Read More


Does Your Smartphone Think Rape And Anti-Semitism Are OK?

Filed by Daniel Villarreal | February 10, 2012 | 5:00 PM | comments

Iris, the voice-activated personal assistant on Android phones, thinks abortion is wrong, Satan is real, and that rape might be justified. This is a problem for LGBT people around the world.Read More

More Crazy Conspiracy Theories & Assumptions

Filed by Bil Browning | February 10, 2012 | 12:30 PM | comments

Here's yet another nutjob pontificating about me based entirely on their own assumptions and made-up conspiracy theories. It reminds me of a Twitter troll who insists I've "sold out to Gay Inc" for the invitations to "ski weekends and circuit parties."Read More


'Its Okay Because My Friend Is Gay' #FAIL

Filed by Sue Kerr | February 10, 2012 | 9:00 AM | comments

A local radio program was doing a sketch bit about "trannies" yesterday - it seems that they were guessing the biological gender of a photo array of sex workers. Yep, that's what passes for morning entertainment in Pittsburgh.Read More

Our Town

Our Place in the World: Reclaiming Our Humanity

Filed by Kergan Edwards-Stout | February 09, 2012 | 6:00 PM | comments

The right wing has been so effective in demonizing our community as something exotic, sexually driven, and threatening that the sheer normalcy of our existence has in large part been forgotten. By painting us as predatory beings, they have stripped us of our humanity.Read More


Colorado Student's Arrest Could Finally End Glitter-Bombing

Filed by Daniel Villarreal | February 09, 2012 | 4:00 PM | comments

The Secret Service arrested and charged 20-year-old Peter Smith for trying to glitter bomb Mitt Romney. Does this spell the end for the election season's sparkliest form of LGBT protest? Read More


Put a Ring On It: The Economics of Marriage

Filed by Terrance Heath | February 09, 2012 | 12:00 PM | comments

I'm off to cover CPAC today, where -- in light of a federal court ruling California's Proposition 8 unconstitutional -- I'm likely to hear a favorite conservative talking point repeated: Marriage cures poverty, unemployment, and another economic problem.Read More


Teenager on Prop 8 Ruling: 'My Family is Finally Normal'

Filed by Karen Ocamb | February 08, 2012 | 6:00 PM | comments

With so much attention paid to the legal aspects of the Prop 8 decision, much of the eloquence of those most directly involved has been glossed over. It's also important to hear from the people who live, eat and sleep this case, if only briefly.Read More


Looking Back: The Gay General in the Wizard of Oz

Filed by Guest Blogger | February 08, 2012 | 4:00 PM | comments

I'm currently reading Jane Lynch's autobiography and have discovered I have more in common with Jane than I might have first realized.Read More


Keep Leaping Toward Equality!

Filed by Davina Kotulski | February 08, 2012 | 2:15 PM | comments

Let's keep leaping toward equality and keep the fire for equality burning strong this month. This is a leap year, after all, and the year of the Dragon.Read More


Cynthia Nixon's Choice & Komen's Anti-Choice

Filed by Amy Andre | February 08, 2012 | 1:00 PM | comments

Her main thesis seemed to be that sexual orientation can be a choice for some, and is a choice for her. The "Born This Way" crowd gasped and berated her. I yawned. She was right.Read More


Have Things Worsened Since 'It Gets Better' Started?

Filed by Daniel Villarreal | February 07, 2012 | 6:30 PM | comments

It Gets Better founder Dan Savage says that anti-gay bullying has actually worsened since his campaign began.Read More

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Counter Protesting Westboro at the Super Bowl

Filed by Annette Gross | February 07, 2012 | 5:30 PM | comments

Westboro Baptist Church claimed they were picketing the Super Bowl because they feel that people spend too much time watching football when they should be in church instead.Read More


BREAKING: Prop 8 Is Unconstitutional (Again)

Filed by Bil Browning | February 07, 2012 | 1:00 PM | comments

The highly anticipated Proposition 8 ruling by the Ninth Circuit Court of Appeals has been released.Read More

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New Yorker Sheds More Light on the Clementi-Ravi Story

Filed by Yasmin Nair | February 07, 2012 | 12:00 PM | comments

Can we grapple with the complexity of the truth instead of being seduced by the more palatable tale of good and evil?Read More


What to Expect from Today's Prop 8 Ruling

Filed by Bil Browning | February 07, 2012 | 10:00 AM | comments

What can folks expect from today's highly anticipated Proposition 8 decision by a federal appeals courtRead More


Poisonous Parenting: The Santorum Edition

Filed by Terrance Heath | February 06, 2012 | 4:15 PM | comments

It was my work-related blogging that alerted me to a remark Santorum made, comparing gay parents to felons, which inspired me to return to this series.Read More


Meet Betsie Gallardo's Mothers [Video]

Filed by Bil Browning | February 06, 2012 | 1:00 PM | comments

One of the highlights of my career was starting the viral campaign to get Betsie Gallardo freed from a Florida prison days before she died; Gallardo was falsely imprisoned under an HIV criminalization law. Her mother, Jessica Bussart, is speaking out to the media about her ordeal.Read More


New Orleans Inferno: The UpStairs Lounge Fire

Filed by Jesse Monteagudo | February 06, 2012 | 11:30 AM | comments

On June 24, 1973 an arsonist started a fire that consumed the UpStairs Lounge, a second-floor gay bar in New Orleans's French Quarter. The UpStairs Lounge Fire was both the deadliest fire in the history of New Orleans and the largest mass-killing of gay people in the US.Read More

Playing Hooky [Open Thread]

Filed by Bil Browning | February 05, 2012 | 12:00 PM | comments

When was the last time you played hooky at work or school? What did you use as your excuse and what did you really do?Read More


Meet the Anti-Gay Woman Who Shredded the Komen Brand

Filed by Karen Ocamb | February 04, 2012 | 6:00 PM | comments

Former Georgia Secretary of State Karen Handel is widely credited as being the mastermind behind the Susan G. Komen Foundations decision to cut off Planned Parenthood. Now a Senior Vice President at Komen, she has a history of extreme anti-gay positions.Read More


Akilah Oliver & the Legacy of Grief

Filed by Kyle Bella | February 04, 2012 | 4:00 PM | comments

I explore the impact the queer, Black poet Akilah Oliver has had in shaping my politics, and how her legacy can influence the way we do politics in the future.Read More


Robin Tyler Separates from Wife Diane Olson

Filed by Karen Ocamb | February 04, 2012 | 2:00 PM | comments

With marriage also comes the possibility of divorce. Still need both rights - and responsibilities.Read More


Komen Will Keep Funding Planned Parenthood, but for How Long?

Filed by Daniel Villarreal | February 03, 2012 | 2:15 PM | comments

Komen's reversal leaves unclear their reason for initially denying Planned Parenthood funding and whether they'll approve future grant requests from the reproductive and child health organization.Read More


Occupy Valentine's Day: Bring Love

Filed by Karen Ocamb | February 03, 2012 | 12:00 PM | comments

Love is not a product! This Valentine season let's reclaim love. A call to action for Occupies everywhere; how will you occupy Valentines?Read More

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Defense Contractor Protects LGBT Employees After 50,000 Sign Petition

Filed by Joe Mirabella | February 03, 2012 | 10:00 AM | comments

Defense contractor DynCorp announced it is adding sexual orientation and gender identity to its workplace nondiscrimination policies after 50,000 people demanded the company protect its LGBT employees. Read More


Queering Greenpeace on a Boat

Filed by Jessica Max Stein | February 02, 2012 | 5:30 PM | comments

It's not every weekend you get to help save the earth and hang out on a brand-new trilevel 200-foot yacht, but due to a unique collaboration between Greenpeace and queer organization MIX NYC, I recently enjoyed this privilege. Read More


Michael Carroll Is Edmund White's Stroke of Good Fortune

Filed by Father Tony | February 02, 2012 | 1:00 PM | comments

Stellar gay author Edmund White has suffered a stroke that has changed the daily routine he shares with his partner, writer Michael Carroll.Read More


Ellen & JC Penny: A PR Tempest in a Gay Teapot

Filed by Bil Browning | February 02, 2012 | 11:30 AM | comments

After the hate group One Million Moms announced they were calling on their supporters to replace Ellen Degeneres as their new spokesperson because she's a lesbian, GLAAD and gay bloggers sprang into action.Read More


Susan G. Komen's Planned Parenthood Cuts Hurt Poor Women of Color Most

Filed by Daniel Villarreal | February 01, 2012 | 8:00 PM | comments

For an organization seeking a cure for breast cancer, Susan G. Komen might want to check if its heart is still in the right place.Read More


Hunger Games: German Man Killed & Cooked After Sex Game

Filed by James Holmes | February 01, 2012 | 6:00 PM | comments

The Berlin gay community was shocked Wednesday when it was reported that a gay man living in Berlin and missing since New Years was found decapitated, dismembered and partially cooked in the apartment of his occasional sex partner. Read More