Living: March 2012


Modern-Day Algonquin: A Discussion with 5 Gay Authors

Filed by Kergan Edwards-Stout | March 31, 2012 | 2:00 PM | comments

One of the unexpected pleasures of my new journey as an author has been in meeting other writers, many of whom have formed a virtual Algonquin round table on twitter. Recently, a few of us connected, following the Rainbow Book Fair in New York, to discuss our craft and the state of gay literature today. Read More


Vegan Ain't All Bad: Cookies & Cream Cupcakes

Filed by James Holmes | March 31, 2012 | 10:00 AM | comments

These chocolate cupcakes have become a frequent request from friends. Packed with Oreo Cookies (yes, they're vegan!), how could you not love them? They go amazing with some coconut milk ice-cream or just a cold glass of almond milk. Enjoy.Read More


Breasts, Boycotts, & Bullies [Weekly Reader]

Filed by Bil Browning | March 30, 2012 | 6:00 PM | comments

You weren't able to read every post on Bilerico Project last week? Don't worry! Every Friday I round up the best Bilerico posts from the past seven days to help you stay up to date on the latest queer news and analysis.Read More


Dad, I Dub Thee!

Filed by Jeff Lutes | March 30, 2012 | 5:00 PM | comments

The Christmas after my partner and I started our family was a memorable one. Like many new parents we spoiled our first child rotten that holiday season with nearly every toy known to mankind.Read More


Channeled Beings & Extra-Terrestrials Endorse Same-Sex Love

Filed by Davina Kotulski | March 30, 2012 | 12:00 PM | comments

"Blended beings" are LGBT people who have begun incarnating over the past 60 years to help with the ascension process. Ascension is bringing us into the 4th dimension of consciousness. Us queer folk signed up for a cosmic mission.Read More

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Finding LGBT Aware Medical Care: An Ongoing Struggle

Filed by E. Winter Tashlin | March 30, 2012 | 10:00 AM | comments

My partner and I moved to Maine last July. We have a nice group of local friends, an apartment within our budget, and have been really happy here. Except for one thing. Neither of us have a local doctor. Read More


On Trans* Beauty Contestants

Filed by Mercedes Allen | March 29, 2012 | 6:30 PM | comments

I have to admit, as far as trans issues go, beauty pageants are way down my list of priorities. Miss Universe seems an alternate reality, in many ways. Read More


Positive Thinking as a Cure for AIDS?

Filed by Toshio Meronek | March 29, 2012 | 3:30 PM | comments

At events she dubbed "Hayrides," Louise Hay raked in thousands of dollars from AIDS-afflicted audiences who paid her to help them heal using her meditation and positive-thinking techniques. Days, weeks, and months later many of these followers were dead.Read More


A Few (More) Words About Breasts

Filed by Paige Schilt | March 29, 2012 | 2:00 PM | comments

As a chronicler of queer family life, there are two topics I have studiously avoided: breastfeeding and my wife's chest surgery. It has not escaped my notice that both of these topics have to do with boobs.Read More


HIV Positive Sports Star Magic Johnson Buys the LA Dodgers

Filed by Karen Ocamb | March 28, 2012 | 7:00 PM | comments

Yesterday, March 27, Magic Johnson - now a magic businessman, HIV educator and philanthropist - made another announcement: he and a group of investors bought the LA Dodgers baseball team for $2.1 billion. Read More


Nadine & Andrea's Baby [What You Need to Know]

Filed by Bil Browning | March 28, 2012 | 4:30 PM | comments

Contributor Nadine Smith and former contributor Andrea Hildebrand's son, Logan, has spent a long (in baby years) time around powerful and beautiful women. Is it any wonder then, that he's reaching out for First Lady Michelle Obama?Read More

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Boycott Celebrity Cruises

Filed by Norm Kent | March 28, 2012 | 2:30 PM | comments

For all members of the LGBT community who elect to board one of their ships again, shame on you. A horse kicks you once and it is his fault. Kicks you again, and maybe you are to blame. Don't ride that horse.Read More

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Israel, LGBT People & Equality Forum

Filed by Mark Segal | March 28, 2012 | 12:00 PM | comments

I believe it's fair to say that Israel has the right to protect itself against people who are at war with it. But for the LGBT community, that should not be the issue. Here's what it should be.Read More


Whose Son Will Be the Next Trayvon Martin? [Part 4]

Filed by Terrance Heath | March 27, 2012 | 6:00 PM | comments

Based on my reading of various reports, I think this is a likely scenario of what happened. Keep in mind, this is unfolding in about 15 minutes; from Zimmerman's call to 911 at 7:00 pm, to the arrival of the police around 7:15pm. Read More


Whose Son Will Be the Next Trayvon Martin? [Part 3]

Filed by Terrance Heath | March 27, 2012 | 4:00 PM | comments

That tugging at the heart becomes a vice-like grip when we don't know where our children are, or whether they're OK. They reappear, and eventually you can breathe again. But sometimes, like Trayvon Martin, they don't come home.Read More


Gay Cruise Couple Say Dominica Police Treatment Was 'Inhumane'

Filed by Karen Ocamb | March 27, 2012 | 2:00 PM | comments

KTLA reporter David Begnaud interviewed retired sheriff's deputy Dennis Jay Mayer, 53, about the experience he and his partner endured after being arrested and jailed for allegedly having gay sex while docked off the coast of the homophobic Caribbean country last week.Read More


Whose Son Will Be the Next Trayvon Martin? [Part 2]

Filed by Terrance Heath | March 27, 2012 | 1:00 PM | comments

Being committed to the people we love means realizing how vulnerable our loved ones are every time they step out of the door and how powerless we are to protect them once they leave the safety of our arms.Read More


Arrest Made In DC IHOP Shooting

Filed by James Holmes | March 27, 2012 | 12:00 PM | comments

An arrest was made Monday in the shooting of a gay man in the IHOP restaurant in DC's Columbia Heights neighborhood earlier this month. LaShawn Carson, 27, was taken in on charges of aggravated assault while armed. Read More


Whose Son Will Be the Next Trayvon Martin? [Part 1]

Filed by Terrance Heath | March 27, 2012 | 10:00 AM | comments

I walked our oldest son, Parker, part of the way to school yesterday morning. I do that every morning. Even when I'm on the bus, I keep my eyes on him, just watching until I can't anymore.Read More


Hoodie = Hoodlum?

Filed by Terrance Heath | March 26, 2012 | 5:00 PM | comments

Geraldo Rivera thinks Trayvon Martin should have examined his clothing choices before heading out for a bag of Skittles and an iced tea.Read More


Same-Sex 'Convenience' Marriages Can Be Affirming Too

Filed by E. Winter Tashlin | March 26, 2012 | 12:00 PM | comments

You won't see us used in a pro same-sex marriage campaign ad any time soon, but I believe that there's a place for stories like ours in the broader marriage rights narrative too. Read More


A Successful Wedding Depends on Compromise

Filed by Steven Cheslik-DeMeyer | March 26, 2012 | 10:00 AM | comments

I doubt that any skill is more necessary to cultivate in order to have and sustain a marriage than the ability to not take your partner's difference in taste personally, to shake off the hurt feelings, and to move on.Read More

A Letter to My Bully

Filed by Kergan Edwards-Stout | March 25, 2012 | 4:00 PM | comments

Dear Dirk, I have hated you almost every day since we first met. But for different reasons altogether than you might expect.Read More


Reuben Lack's Tweaked Plan For LGBT Prom Royalty

Filed by Daniel Villarreal | March 24, 2012 | 4:00 PM | comments

Alpharetta High School student body president Reuben Lack suggested that his school drop the "prom king and queen" labels to make the dance more inclusive of same-sex couples... but his plans needs a tweak in order to still include straights.Read More


SFGMC Sings 'Testimony': It Get's Better Anthem

Filed by James Holmes | March 24, 2012 | 2:00 PM | comments

The San Francisco Gay Men's Chorus sing a song written by Stephen Schwartz (Wicked) inspired by the "It' Gets Better Project." Titled "Testimony," Schwartz teamed Dan Savage for this moving video. Read More


Free Yo' Mind ... With Freemind

Filed by Terrance Heath | March 24, 2012 | 12:00 PM | comments

I thought I'd lost my mind until I made a map of it, and was amazed at what I found in there!Read More


Vegan Ain't All Bad: Red Lentil Artichoke Stew

Filed by James Holmes | March 24, 2012 | 10:00 AM | comments

I have noticed that one of the most common responses from people on why they could never be vegan is that they assume the diet is bland and that veggies are "yucky." I would like to prove this wrong. Read More


Ketchup & Mustard Star in Film for Kids of LGBT Parents

Filed by Dana Rudolph | March 23, 2012 | 1:00 PM | comments

If filmmaker Andrea James has her way, there will soon be a new film for young children with lesbian or gay parents.Read More

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Separate Your Whites & Colors: The 'U-Washee'

Filed by Bil Browning | March 23, 2012 | 11:30 AM | comments

While I'm traveling today, I thought this would be a good time to republish this post from 2009 about the U-Washee and the racist signs they proudly display. The last I knew, the signs were still up and the U-Washee was still going strong.Read More


2 Arrested: Why Did Atlantis Events Cruise to a Homophobic Country?

Filed by Karen Ocamb | March 22, 2012 | 5:00 PM | comments

Two gay men had been arrested for "buggery" (sodomy) by Dominican police on their Celebrity Summit cruise ship docked off the small Caribbean country. So why was a gay cruise line taking passengers to homophobic countries?Read More


Thoughts on Invisible Children's Jason Russell & Mental Health

Filed by Bil Browning | March 21, 2012 | 5:30 PM | comments

I've noticed a trend in several media sources lately that has me disturbed. Many blogs though - straight and gay - seem to be more interested in speculating about founder Jason Russell's sexual orientation than his mental health.Read More

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Love Your Partner & Change a Heart

Filed by Jeff Lutes | March 21, 2012 | 2:30 PM | comments

During my years as an activist I have shaken hands and had brief conversations about equality with some of the most influential antigay leaders in America; including Rick Warren, Joel Osteen, Tony Perkins, and the late Jerry Falwell.Read More


Spring Has Sprung Edition [What You Need to Know]

Filed by Bil Browning | March 21, 2012 | 11:00 AM | comments

Yesterday was the first day of Spring and you know what that means... It's time for all those creepy Easter Bunnies to show up in malls across America hoping desperately that some day they'll be as popular as the creepy retail Santas.Read More


GuiTARDIS Redux Edition [What You Need to Know]

Filed by Bil Browning | March 20, 2012 | 3:00 PM | comments

Last week I gave you the guiTARDIS edition of "What You Need to Know," featuring the totally awesome Dr. Who customized guitar. The maker, Art Lew, wrote in to tell me what he has in store for the future.Read More


Customer Service LGBT Culture Clash: I Don't Buy It

Filed by Sue Kerr | March 19, 2012 | 2:30 PM | comments

When I raised a red flag about a potentially homophobic comment by a Dell customer service representative, the company's response was less than adequate. In fact, it was downright horrible.Read More

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Silent March Planned to Honor DC Hate Crimes Victims

Filed by James Holmes | March 19, 2012 | 1:30 PM | comments

On Tuesday, March 20th starting at 7:00p.m. there will be a silent march to honor the victims of last weekend's hate crime attacks on two gay men and a transgender woman in DC's Columbia Heights neighborhood. Read More


More Thoughts on Catholics & Getting Married

Filed by Steven Cheslik-DeMeyer | March 19, 2012 | 11:00 AM | comments

I got in some serious hot water with my last post - which was not an installment of the Marriage Chronicles but a screed against the Catholic Church. I offended two people who are very important to me.Read More


What to Consider Before Tying the Knot: An LGBT Primer

Filed by Kergan Edwards-Stout | March 19, 2012 | 9:00 AM | comments

As the tide of marriage equality begins to turn, with same gender nuptials becoming a reality for increasing numbers of couples, along comes a perfectly-timed guide to provide insight into what elements to consider before taking such a step.Read More

Mental Health Break Today [Open Thread]

Filed by Bil Browning | March 18, 2012 | 11:00 AM | comments

What's your favorite thing to do on a mental health day? When you have some down time, what do choose to do to have fun?Read More


Kony 2012 Co-Founder Jason Russell Detained for Public Nudity

Filed by Karen Ocamb | March 17, 2012 | 4:00 PM | comments

Jason Russell, 33, co-founder of Invisible Children and the documentary "Kony 2012" exposing the brutal African warlord Joseph Kony as using children as soldiers or sex slaves, was detained by San Diego police for lewd behavior late Thursday.Read More


OMG! WTF Is 'Pink Slime?'

Filed by Terrance Heath | March 17, 2012 | 12:00 PM | comments

Until last week I didn't know what the hell "pink slime" was. My husband had to tell me. Sweet Jeezus. Well, I know now.Read More


Indiana Revokes LGBT Youth Group's License Plate

Filed by Bil Browning | March 16, 2012 | 5:00 PM | comments

Homophobic Republican state senators got their wish. The Bureau of Motor Vehicles has revoked the Indiana Youth Group's specialty license plate for violating "state law and Indiana Administrative Code" by giving donors low number plates.Read More


Dharun Ravi Found Guilty of Invasion of Privacy in Spycam Trial

Filed by Karen Ocamb | March 16, 2012 | 4:00 PM | comments

Former Rutgers University student Dharun Ravi was found guilty of invasion of privacy and a number of bias intimidation counts in the cyberbullying trial that may have led to the suicide of Ravi's gay roommate, Tyler Clementi.Read More

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Dealing with Shame Can Be a Drag

Filed by Mark S. King | March 16, 2012 | 12:30 PM | comments

I didn't want to be known as a drag queen ("It's comedy! I'm a performer!" I would insist). It's strange, how those things about which we have drawn the most shame are also able to liberate us, not to mention help others.Read More


Going to Hell Edition [What You Need to Know]

Filed by Bil Browning | March 16, 2012 | 10:00 AM | comments

Here's a novel advertisement focused on the gay community. While the kitschy ad is meant to sell hardwood floors, my first thought was "Well, someone wants carpet."Read More


The Bi-BQ: Grillin' and Chillin' with Bisexuals at Pride

Filed by Amy Andre | March 15, 2012 | 5:00 PM | comments

"BBQs are the most bisexual kind of a picnic because nobody wants to choose between hot dogs and hamburgers - or not-dogs and gardenburgers - and they don't have to." -- Allegra HirschmanRead More


A (Somewhat) Short Story on a Long Journey

Filed by Guest Blogger | March 15, 2012 | 2:00 PM | comments

Every day guest blogger Alan Bounville walks thousands of steps for gender and sexual orientation equality. That provides plenty of time to think about both the past and the future.Read More


3 Anti-LGBT Attacks In DC Neighborhood Within 24 Hours

Filed by James Holmes | March 15, 2012 | 1:00 PM | comments

I was shocked to hear that over the weekend three anti-LGBT attacks occurred within a 24 hour period in DC's Columbia Heights neighborhood - less than a 10 minute walk from my front door. Read More


In Defense of Tyler Clementi's Roommate, Dharun Ravi

Filed by Daniel Villarreal | March 15, 2012 | 9:00 AM | comments

You may want Dharun Ravi to pay dearly for the suicide of Tyler Clementi, but would anyone even care if Clementi hadn't killed himself? Not likely.Read More


One of Us: St. Patrick's Place in Gay History

Filed by Guest Blogger | March 14, 2012 | 5:30 PM | comments

The next time you hear offensive remarks from a homophobic Irish neighbor or colleague, just point out to him: St Paddy was queer. Read More

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Red Meat Kills You

Filed by James Holmes | March 14, 2012 | 4:30 PM | comments

Not trying to be a bitchy vegan, and in no way saying I told you so, but a new Harvard study shows that even a small amount of unprocessed red meat can lower your life expectancy by 13%. Read More


Santorum's Primary Wins: A Timely Caution

Filed by E. Winter Tashlin | March 14, 2012 | 1:00 PM | comments

I can't shake the knowledge of just how tenuous our place in American society really is. As queer/LGBT people, particularly of non-Abrahamic faith, the truth is that a great many of our countrymen and women would prefer to see us gone.Read More


Gay Mario Bros Edition [What You Need to Know]

Filed by Bil Browning | March 14, 2012 | 12:00 PM | comments

Who knew what those Mario Brothers were doing when they weren't plunging themselves into holes?Read More

Rutgers Spycam Case Goes to the Jury

Filed by Karen Ocamb | March 14, 2012 | 11:00 AM | comments

Jurors heard how Clementi checked Ravi's Twitter feed 38 times and saw posts mocking him in the 48 hours before his suicide. The jury is expected to start their deliberations today.Read More


Study: HIV Diminishes Lung Function

Filed by D Gregory Smith | March 13, 2012 | 4:30 PM | comments

If you know someone who's HIV+ who still smokes, show them this article - and ask them if they need support to quit. There are a lot of resources out there - and a lot of good reasons to choose from.Read More


In the Tank

Filed by Terrance Heath | March 13, 2012 | 12:30 PM | comments

I've gotten used to it, over the years - that look people get just before their eyes glaze over and their polite smile freezes in place, as I begin to answer the ubiquitous Washington DC question that everyone asks everyone upon first meeting.Read More

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Condoms, Porn & the Coming Political Conflict

Filed by Karen Ocamb | March 13, 2012 | 9:00 AM | comments

AIDS Healthcare Foundation announced on Feb. 27 that the organization has collected more than half the signatures required to qualify an initiative for the November 2012 ballot to require porn producers to secure an L.A. County health permit mandating condom use.Read More


The Sensitivity Games

Filed by Leslie Robinson | March 12, 2012 | 6:00 PM | comments

The Olympic Games are a huge undertaking for any country that hosts them. So many things can go wrong, from terrorist attacks to ticket snafus. Organizers of this summer's London games are determined not to fail in one particular area: sensitivity.Read More


58 Iraqi Gay Men Killed In Last Six Weeks

Filed by James Holmes | March 12, 2012 | 4:00 PM | comments

Stories like this remind me how lucky I am to live in this country. While the fight for equality still has a long way to go, and hate crimes our still sadly a worry, there is nothing as terrorizing as this. Read More


When Do Catholics Walk Away From the Crazy?

Filed by Steven Cheslik-DeMeyer | March 12, 2012 | 1:30 PM | comments

My sympathy is just about used up for people like you. I don't doubt it's complicated for you. What is not complicated is that you are supporting an institution that has for centuries caused vast pain for GLBT people.Read More


The Chick-Fil-A Edition [What You Need to Know]

Filed by Bil Browning | March 12, 2012 | 11:30 AM | comments

This Chick-Fil-A "hiring poster" has been making the rounds of Facebook lately. Of course, it's not real but apparently it seems perfectly possible with so many people fooled into believing it.Read More


An Open Letter to Duane Borders [Comment of the Week]

Filed by Bil Browning | March 11, 2012 | 6:00 PM | comments

This week's highlighted comment comes to us from Duane Borders. He conveniently reminds us that he earned his name only because his parents were too stupid to spell "Dumbass."Read More


The Sweetest Thing You'll See All Day

Filed by Bil Browning | March 11, 2012 | 2:00 PM | comments

Warning: There's about a 70% chance of tearing up...Read More


What's the Price of Gas Where You Live? [Open Thread]

Filed by Bil Browning | March 11, 2012 | 10:00 AM | comments

When we moved to DC, I sold my car to Jerame's parents. Since we're in the heart of everything, we can walk, ride the bus, or take the Metro everywhere. So help me out, Projectors. What's the gas price were you live?Read More


It's Not Always as Simple as 'Masc' or 'Fem'

Filed by E. Winter Tashlin | March 10, 2012 | 2:00 PM | comments

Masculinity and femininity are reoccurring themes in the gay male community, not only on gay dating/hook-up sites but also on many online gay forums where threads about how irritating or upsetting "fem-y" guys are is a weekly phenomena.Read More


Indiana LGBT Youth Group Keeps License Plate

Filed by Bil Browning | March 10, 2012 | 10:00 AM | comments

While Republican Hoosier lawmakers have worked in tandem with far right religious leaders to try and revoke a specialty license plate issued to the group, Indiana's only LGBT youth group has won the battle.Read More


Indiana Lawmakers Try Different Route to Ban Gay License Plate

Filed by Bil Browning | March 09, 2012 | 3:30 PM | comments

As straight Hoosier blogger Doug Masson says, "I love the smell of an equal protection lawsuit in the morning. Smells like victory."Read More


The Asian Underworld Edition [What You Need to Know]

Filed by Bil Browning | March 09, 2012 | 12:00 PM | comments

This year's Black Party theme is "Yakuza: The Asian Underground." Promoters describe it as "the seedy maze of back alley brothels, old fashion tattoo parlors and current Tokyo squalor."Read More


International Women's Day Co-Opted by Cosmetics Industry

Filed by Guest Blogger | March 08, 2012 | 6:30 PM | comments

If you ask the #Rock the Lips movement on Facebook what the day's about, you'll get quite a confusing message. They're asking women everywhere to celebrate International Women's Day by wearing red lipstick.Read More


Navy Seals Edition [What You Need to Know]

Filed by Bil Browning | March 08, 2012 | 4:30 PM | comments

What does the Navy want you to know today? Nothing. But here's the stuff I think you need to know.Read More


Honoring the Women In My Life: International Women's Day

Filed by James Holmes | March 08, 2012 | 3:30 PM | comments

In honor of International Women's Day, I thought I would write a post thanking the women in my life who have shaped me in more ways than I can fit into a blog post. Read More

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There Will Be No Chicken Dance

Filed by Steven Cheslik-DeMeyer | March 08, 2012 | 1:00 PM | comments

I didn't want a cake topper at all, at first. I thought it was gauche or too kitschy or something, but I changed my mind. I also didn't want dancing at the reception. Read More


Infant Death Linked to Blood Sucking Circumcision Ritual

Filed by James Holmes | March 07, 2012 | 5:00 PM | comments

What the fuck!?Read More


The Speedy Delivery Edition [What You Need to Know]

Filed by Bil Browning | March 06, 2012 | 10:00 AM | comments

When you need a hot load fast, these guys have you covered. What else do you need to know quickly today? Here you go:Read More


The Pinterest Perspective on LGBT

Filed by Adam Polaski | March 04, 2012 | 4:00 PM | comments

It's a lazy Sunday, so I figured it'd be appropriate to write a post about the newest online labyrinth to explode on the Internet: Pinterest, the online scrapbook slash bulletin board slash virtual shoebox that's full of fun ways to procrastinate. Read More


New Options for LGBT Jews

Filed by Jesse Monteagudo | March 03, 2012 | 1:00 PM | comments

As individuals and as a group, lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender Jews will continue to exist, to flourish, and to leave our mark on the Jewish, LGBT, and mainstream communities.Read More


I Still Get Letters for the Confessional

Filed by Father Tony | March 02, 2012 | 12:30 PM | comments

Father Tony returns to the "Confessional" to answer another letter.Read More


The Vodka Valium Latte Edition [What You Need to Know]

Filed by Bil Browning | March 02, 2012 | 10:00 AM | comments

Today's version of What You Need to Know is brought to us by the latest rage to hit coffee shops this year: the Cafe-Mocha-Vodka-Valium-Latte. I'll take two.Read More


Update on Priest Who Walked Out of Funeral

Filed by Bil Browning | March 01, 2012 | 1:30 PM | comments

After Maryland Catholic priest Father Marcel Guarnizo walked out a funeral service because the deceased woman's lesbian daughter participated, the nation reacted with outrage. The story just viciously punches you in the stomach with the ugly face of religious bigotry.Read More


May the Foreskin Be With You

Filed by James Holmes | March 01, 2012 | 12:00 PM | comments

Yesterday actor Alan Cumming wrote a blog post for Intact America - a group fighting for the end of infant circumcision. He has written a new book on the subject hilariously named May the Foreskin Be With You. Read More


The License Plate Edition [What You Need to Know]

Filed by Bil Browning | March 01, 2012 | 11:00 AM | comments

There's good news out of Indiana for once this morning. What else should you know? Here it is.Read More


Evolving Thoughts on Gay Marriage

Filed by Steven Cheslik-DeMeyer | March 01, 2012 | 9:30 AM | comments

C and I sat down Sunday afternoon to address invitations. If, for some reason, you ever want to uncover all the deep-seated ways in which you and your partner are different from each other, plan a wedding.Read More