Living: December 2012


Looking To 2013 [Open Thread]

Filed by E. Winter Tashlin | December 31, 2012 | 10:00 AM | comments

Forget the 2012 retrospectives for now, and tell us what you foresee in the year ahead. Read More


Frontiers Co-Owner Mark Hundahl Dies at Age 61

Filed by Karen Ocamb | December 30, 2012 | 3:00 PM | comments

Mark Hundahl, the straight co-owner of the Los Angeles-based LGBT publication Frontiers, died of cancer early Thursday morning, Dec. 27. He was 61.Read More


Re-Thinking How We View & Discuss STIs

Filed by E. Winter Tashlin | December 30, 2012 | 10:00 AM | comments

In the lack of proper knowledge, half-truths and assumptions get taken as fact, as they always have. Read More


Our 2012 Wins Will Spur Further Advances in 2013

Filed by Mark Segal | December 28, 2012 | 10:30 AM | comments

Do you appreciate the watershed moment in LGBT history we are witnessing? If any of you doubt that we are living in historic times for LGBT equality, just note what you're about to witness in the next few weeks and months.Read More


A (Not So) Funny Thing Happened on the Way to Christmas

Filed by Bil Browning | December 27, 2012 | 3:00 PM | comments

So... My holiday plans haven't worked out at all as I'd planned. How did yours go?Read More


One Archives: The History of Us

Filed by Davina Kotulski | December 27, 2012 | 12:30 PM | comments

"I have something I want to show you," she said. I followed her into the back room. There were shelves of white boxes with labels on the side. She took down a box and opened it. Read More


Celebrate Each Day & Value Every Night

Filed by Norm Kent | December 27, 2012 | 10:00 AM | comments

As you celebrate the holidays and welcome the New Year, whether you are on South Beach or in San Francisco, may you be grateful for who you are and what our LGBT community is becoming.Read More


Poor Christmas Spirit Edition [What You Need To Know]

Filed by E. Winter Tashlin | December 26, 2012 | 10:00 AM | comments

Catholic leaders use Christmas to attach LGBT people, Mexico lifts its ban on gay blood donors, improving the experience of LGBT employees in India, a religious coalition in Illinois advocates for marriage equality, and more!Read More

Merry Christmas from the Bilerico Gang

Filed by Bil Browning | December 25, 2012 | 10:00 AM | comments

From our gang to yours, we hope your holidays are full of life, love, and laughter.Read More


Will You Be Home for Christmas?

Filed by Bil Browning | December 24, 2012 | 11:30 AM | comments

As the big day rapidly approaches, where will be spending Christmas? Are you going somewhere or hosting your own shindig? Or do you celebrate Jewish Christmas like Jerame and I do - Chinese food and a movie?Read More

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Ex-Gays: Court Stays CA Law Banning Psychological Abuse of Kids

Filed by Karen Ocamb | December 23, 2012 | 4:00 PM | comments

On Friday, Dec. 21, the 9th U.S. Circuit Court of Appeals issued an emergency stay of SB 1172 - the historic California law that would prohibit licensed therapists from using junk science to try to "change" LGBT kids into heterosexuals.Read More


What's In a Name?

Filed by Guest Blogger | December 23, 2012 | 2:00 PM | comments

Having the wrong name and gender marker can be much more than a hassle. It is a source of constant inner pain.Read More


Disarming the Conservative Gun Agenda

Filed by Terrance Heath | December 21, 2012 | 1:30 PM | comments

For decades, the conservative agenda rested upon a three-legged stool of "culture war" issues: "God, guns, and gays." Now there are signs that the third leg of conservative ideology - "guns" - is wobblier than ever. Read More


Adorbs: Ambassador to Poland's Holiday Christmas Video

Filed by Bil Browning | December 21, 2012 | 12:00 PM | comments

U.S. Ambassador to Poland Stephen Mull and all the American and Polish staff at the United States Embassy in Warsaw wish everyone happy holidays and a joyous New Year!Read More


It IS The End Of The World Edition [What You Need To Know]

Filed by E. Winter Tashlin | December 21, 2012 | 10:00 AM | comments

Winter writes an editorial on the end of the world, the right wing warns of civil war, Newt Gingrich has a change of heart, reason for optimism in Montana, and much more. Plus an obligatory REM videoRead More


Richard Adams, Pioneer for Binational Couples & Marriage Equality, Dies at 65

Filed by Karen Ocamb | December 20, 2012 | 3:00 PM | comments

Adams' first petition in 1975 to allow his Australian same-sex partner to stay in the United States was denied with just one sentence: "You have failed to establish that a bona fide marital relationship can exist between two faggots."Read More


Dead Kids Sell Advertising: Commercializing Tragedy

Filed by Bil Browning | December 19, 2012 | 6:00 PM | comments

After last week's school shooting in Newtown, Connecticut, I questioned how long it would be before all of the squalling and bawling on Facebook turned back into Christmas commercialism.Read More


Silver Linings: Trans Youth Accommodated Despite Politics & IFI

Filed by Austen Crowder | December 19, 2012 | 1:30 PM | comments

We can't always beat groups like the Illinois/Indiana Family Institute or MassResistance, who have deep pockets, deep connections, and a lot of pent-up anger. Yet at the same time schools have a far, far bigger problem than a tussle with quasi-religious nutjobs.Read More


The Lesbian & Gay Band Will March in Inauguration Parade

Filed by Karen Ocamb | December 19, 2012 | 12:00 PM | comments

The 2013 Presidential Inaugural Committee announced Tuesday that they "are thrilled that the Lesbian and Gay Band has accepted their invitation to participate!"Read More


Unit Cohesion Edition [What You Need To Know]

Filed by E. Winter Tashlin | December 19, 2012 | 10:00 AM | comments

Todd Akin wants to enshrine bigotry in the military, a number of gay rights figures and allies have passed away, good and bad news in Montana, and much more. Plus: what if humans acted like cats?Read More


Will You Hold My Johnson Forever? [Caption This]

Filed by Bil Browning | December 18, 2012 | 6:00 PM | comments

Reddit has made this photo of two happily married gentlemen famous - but not because everyone is wishing the newlyweds well. Instead, the jokes have come in fast and furious. What's the best caption you've got for the announcement?Read More


The East Aurora IL School Board Debacle Comes to a Disgraceful Close

Filed by E. Winter Tashlin | December 18, 2012 | 4:00 PM | comments

What began as a positive step forward in inclusiveness, degraded into a bullying, before finally ending in a victory for the anti-LGBT right. I hope that the board is half as disgusted with themselves as I am. Read More


Voting on My Marriage? Let's Vote on Your Guns

Filed by Patrick J Hamilton | December 18, 2012 | 2:00 PM | comments

We owe the children of Sandy Hook a debt. But if you get to vote on my marriage, I get to vote on your assault rifle.Read More


Hurting Mom on My First Gay Christmas

Filed by Mark S. King | December 18, 2012 | 12:00 PM | comments

If there was nothing wrong with being gay, then there should be nothing defiant about letting my family know about it - and my friends, teachers, and people at church. Never mind that we lived in Bossier City, Louisiana. Or that it was 1977.Read More


The Common Right of Toads & Men

Filed by Guest Blogger | December 18, 2012 | 10:00 AM | comments

Death is our common right, the same one that we share with toads. We have no right to life, only to enough lighter fluid and matches so that we may burn ourselves all to ash.Read More


Steve & Paul's Wedding: He Never Thought He'd See the Day

Filed by Bil Browning | December 17, 2012 | 5:30 PM | comments

I was asked to officiate long-time reader and commenter Steven Publicover's marriage to his partner, Paul. The wedding was last Friday and while the guys are a little shy with their personal lives, they did agree to let me run this beautiful photo from their reception.Read More


Remembering the Victims of the Sandy Hook Elementary School Massacre

Filed by Karen Ocamb | December 17, 2012 | 1:30 PM | comments

There is no "silver lining" here - but if there is some light of goodness - it is the empathy shown by Robbie Parker, whose daughter Emilie was murdered: he expressed sympathy for the family of the shooter, too.Read More


Crazy Years Edition [What You Need To Know]

Filed by E. Winter Tashlin | December 17, 2012 | 10:00 AM | comments

Are we living in "The Crazy Years?" Plus, a huge pro-marriage equality rally in France, questionable ethics from Scalia, Anglican vicars say they'll marry gay people regardless of the law, the WBC are still terrible, and more. Read More


The Continuing Saga of the Salvation Army

Filed by Annette Gross | December 16, 2012 | 11:30 AM | comments

I recently received a letter from Major John E. Turner, Divisional Commander of the Indiana Divisional Headquarters of The Salvation Army in response to a message I wrote to them when they sent me a form for a donation.Read More


Another Shooting? Everyone Should Just Shut Up

Filed by Terrance Heath | December 15, 2012 | 11:00 AM | comments

I haven't written about any shooting since Aurora. But I'm going to say the same thing now that I said then: Everyone should just shut upRead More

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A Gun-Owner's Response to the Tragedy in CT

Filed by E. Winter Tashlin | December 14, 2012 | 5:35 PM | comments

What I do know is that this wouldn't have happened the way it did if guns were harder to acquire in the United States, which likely isn't what the firearm advocacy groups are going to say today.Read More

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Connecticut School Shooting - How We Mourn [Open Thread]

Filed by James Holmes | December 14, 2012 | 4:00 PM | comments

It is too early to know all the details, and we may never have all the answers, but we as a country now enter a time of mourning and reflection. How does this happen? How to we prevent it from happening again? Read More


My Boy: RIP Charlie

Filed by Karen Ocamb | December 14, 2012 | 1:00 PM | comments

My boy, Charlie, died last night. I am sad beyond tears, as is his sister Pepper - a Carin terrier (like Toto in the Wizard of Oz) who loved him immensely.Read More


More on Hun Sen's Hot Rod Homos

Filed by Bil Browning | December 14, 2012 | 11:30 AM | comments

Andrew Sullivan picked up on my laugh at Cambodian Prime Minister Hun Sen's awkward statement of support for LGBT people this week. Two of his readers chimed in to acknowledge that the Prime Minister probably meant exactly what he said - and explained why.Read More


Bigoted Interference Edition [What You Need To Know]

Filed by E. Winter Tashlin | December 14, 2012 | 10:00 AM | comments

As the East Aurora IL School Board mess breaks down further, a very similar story comes out of Florida. Plus, Britain honors a trans* trailblazer, House GOP raise the DOMA defense credit line, PA readies for a fight, and moreRead More


Mom & Me at the White House

Filed by Jerame Davis | December 13, 2012 | 5:30 PM | comments

On Tuesday, I had the honor and privilege to take my mom to the White House for a Holiday celebration. She had the time of her life and she made sure to smuggle plenty of napkins emblazoned with the presidential seal out in her purse to take back home.Read More


The Night Don Lemon Hugged Me

Filed by Mark S. King | December 13, 2012 | 2:30 PM | comments

Our first meeting on-camera was six years ago. The memory of it pains me still, despite my enthusiasm for appearing on national television for any reason whatsoever.Read More


Thomas Roberts Interviews Married Couple Featured in 'Jet'

Filed by Karen Ocamb | December 13, 2012 | 1:00 PM | comments

Writer/producer Rod McCullom has written a good piece for Ebony on the marriage cases before the Supreme Court - and now Jet Magazine has featured a black gay couple in their popular wedding announcements. Read More


Washington's Beautiful Bear Boyfriends Get Married

Filed by Bil Browning | December 13, 2012 | 11:30 AM | comments

Remember the photo of two older bears applying for their marriage license that went viral last week? The beautiful duo got hitched yesterday and we have another photo of the happy couple that will bring you just as much joy.Read More


Bathing in Discrimination

Filed by Guest Blogger | December 13, 2012 | 10:00 AM | comments

I'm a transgender man. Earlier this year I guest blogged about what it felt like to be inducted into male spaces for the first time once I started passing as male consistently. This weekend I was ejected from a male space for the first time.Read More

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How I Would Rule if I Were a Supreme Court Judge

Filed by Norm Kent | December 12, 2012 | 6:30 PM | comments

Here is Justice Norm Kent's ruling in the DOMA and Prop 8 CasesRead More


Scotch Broth [VAAB]

Filed by James Holmes | December 12, 2012 | 3:30 PM | comments

This hearty vegan stew is simple, cheap, and perfect for a cold day. Read More


Young Latino Bi-National Couple Struggle With DOMA [Video]

Filed by Karen Ocamb | December 12, 2012 | 1:00 PM | comments

This is the story of a young Latino couple from Miami married in Washington DC fighting for their love and a Green Card.Read More


Um, Thanks: Hun Sen's Statement of Support

Filed by Bil Browning | December 12, 2012 | 11:30 AM | comments

Every morning we post a "Quote of the Day" and if I hadn't already done today's I'd be posting this one. I love it so much it had to become its own post.Read More


Defending 'Hate Crimes' Edition [What You Need To Know]

Filed by E. Winter Tashlin | December 12, 2012 | 10:00 AM | comments

Rebutting criticism of hate crimes law, gay marriage in Uruguay, Oregon declares "Trans* Youth Awareness" month, Ban Ki-Moon speaks out for LGBT freedom, the mayor of Reykjavik schools Russians on Pride, and much more. Plus: Anderson Cooper's denim care tipsRead More


Smoking: A Personal Update & a Wider Conversation

Filed by Bil Browning | December 11, 2012 | 4:00 PM | comments

I announced back at the beginning of October that my 40th birthday present to myself would be to finally stop smoking after 26 years. Sadly, I've not been successful yet. I managed to cut down dramatically for a while, but I'm right back where I started.Read More


I Agree with Maggie Gallagher

Filed by Bil Browning | December 11, 2012 | 1:00 PM | comments

It's not often that I agree with NOM's Maggie Gallagher, but I'll admit that I think she has a point in her analysis of the Supreme Court marriage equality cases.Read More

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Help! Helena Non-discrimination Poll Freeped By Haters

Filed by D Gregory Smith | December 11, 2012 | 11:30 AM | comments

While I'm not sure that this is a huge issue (the poll, not the ordinance), it irks me that those opposed are marshaling the forces of discrimination across the country to weigh in.Read More


LGBT Ally Mexican-American Singer Jenni Rivera Believed Dead in Plane Crash

Filed by Karen Ocamb | December 10, 2012 | 1:00 PM | comments

Mexican-American singing sensation Jenni Rivera is believed to be dead. Mexican authorities have found wreckage of a small plane they think is the one carrying Rivera and six others that disappeared shortly after take off Sunday morning. There were no survivors.Read More

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Don't Donate to the Salvation Army If You Care About LGBT People

Filed by Bil Browning | December 10, 2012 | 11:30 AM | comments

As the holidays approach, the Salvation Army bell ringers are out in front of stores dunning shoppers for donations. If you care about gay rights, you'll skip their bucket in favor of a charity that doesn't actively discriminate against the LGBT community.Read More


Living Arrangements Edition [What You Need To Know]

Filed by E. Winter Tashlin | December 10, 2012 | 10:00 AM | comments

B.U. rejects gender-neutral housing, Maureen Down on GOP decline, LGBT Ethiopians stand up for LGBT Ugandans, Judge Mary Yu marries the first WA same-sex couple, and more. Plus: George Will says something insightful about gay marriage and SCOTUSRead More


Lesbian Eloise Klein Healy Named LA's First Poet Laureate

Filed by Karen Ocamb | December 09, 2012 | 4:00 PM | comments

Los Angeles Mayor Antonio Villaraigosa announced Friday that lesbian poet Eloise Klein Healy has been named as the City of Los Angeles' first Poet Laureate.Read More


On Death & Exceptionalism

Filed by Yasmin Nair | December 09, 2012 | 12:00 PM | comments

Surely the Left can do better than insist that some people deserve to die more than others. Or have we gone so far down the path of exceptionalism that we cannot find a way to unstick ourselves from its gooey, affective mess?Read More


I. Love. This. Photo.

Filed by Bil Browning | December 07, 2012 | 1:00 PM | comments

This photo went viral last night and I found it fascinating how visceral the reaction has been to it. Why are people reacting so strongly (and positively)?Read More


It's Official: We Can Marry in Maryland

Filed by Terrance Heath | December 07, 2012 | 11:30 AM | comments

Marriage equality won big in Maryland this November. But, as with many things in life, the job isn't finished until the paperwork is done. So, this update from Maryland Governor Martin O'Malley is welcome news.Read More

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Getting Hitched Edition [What You Need To Know]

Filed by E. Winter Tashlin | December 07, 2012 | 10:00 AM | comments

Same-sex marriage licenses begin to be issued in WA, the youngest gay lawmaker in America, the queer case for immigration reform, wealthy LGBT people on the fiscal cliff, and more. Plus: reflecting on just how far we've comeRead More


The Season & Its Reasons

Filed by Terrance Heath | December 06, 2012 | 4:30 PM | comments

It's that time of year again. The holidays are upon us. That means it's time for us all to join in a couple of modern Christmas traditions. If "Christmas time is here," that means there's a war on.Read More


Washington's First Same-Sex Couples Apply for Marriage Licenses [Photos]

Filed by Joe Mirabella | December 06, 2012 | 11:00 AM | comments

At 12:01 AM PST gay and lesbian couples in Washington State began to receive marriage licenses. I was at King County's administration building, but couples in every county throughout the state are preparing to marry on December 9, after the mandatory three day waiting period is over. Read More


GLAAD Helping Beaten Alabama Lesbian Mallory Owens

Filed by Karen Ocamb | December 05, 2012 | 4:00 PM | comments

GLAAD has been on top of this terrible story first reported at the end of November, Here's the latest - including a new way to help Mallory deal with her costly medical bills. Read More


Correcting the 'GID Is Removed from the DSM' Reports

Filed by Mercedes Allen | December 05, 2012 | 1:30 PM | comments

Yesterday morning, I woke up to a rash of headlines proclaiming that transexuality was no longer considered "disordered" by the American Psychiatric Association. No, it hasn't. That's not true at all.Read More


Getting Better Edition [What You Need To Know]

Filed by E. Winter Tashlin | December 05, 2012 | 10:00 AM | comments

Twenty links today, including - New Zealand's new rules for gender markers, top-10 most promiscuous cities, right wing craziness, international news, and more. Plus: what *does* NPH keep in his pants?Read More


The Best Twitter Exchange You'll See Today

Filed by Bil Browning | December 04, 2012 | 5:00 PM | comments

This isn't LGBT related, but it did make me giggle. I'm a big proponent of gun control, but this woman's comeback to Piers Morgan on Twitter still made me laugh. I think you will too.Read More


Prayers for Frontiers Co-Publisher Mark Hundahl

Filed by Karen Ocamb | December 03, 2012 | 3:00 PM | comments

I humbly request those of you reading this to take a moment and either say a prayer or perhaps just say the name of Mark Hundahl, my friend and the co-publisher of Frontiers magazine, who is deathly ill right now.Read More


Is There a Connection Between Lefties & LGBT People?

Filed by Jesse Monteagudo | December 03, 2012 | 1:30 PM | comments

According to a study by Canadian scientists, lesbians and gay men are more likely than others to be left-handed. This was not the first time that scientists noted a connection between being queer and being left-handed.Read More

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Longtime Reader to Marry (With a Bilerico Twist)

Filed by Bil Browning | December 03, 2012 | 12:30 PM | comments

One of our first readers, Steve Publicover, is getting married to his partner, Paul, this month here in DC and I'm honored to say that I've agreed to officiate their wedding.Read More


Same Sex Couple Marries at West Point Cadet Chapel

Filed by Karen Ocamb | December 03, 2012 | 11:30 AM | comments

Army Veteran and OutServe-SLDN Board member Sue Fulton married long time love Penelope Dara Gnesin at the Cadet Chapel at West Point, the first same sex couple married at that chapel. Read More


Tell Texas School District to Honor Nondiscrimination Policy

Filed by Paige Schilt | December 02, 2012 | 10:00 AM | comments

My son's school district has taken the unprecedented step of cancelling a University of Texas graduate student play based on the story of two real-life male penguins who parented an abandoned egg at the Central Park Zoo.Read More


On Becoming Positive: An Open Letter to Manny

Filed by Patrick J Hamilton | December 01, 2012 | 2:00 PM | comments

Dear Manny: Thank you for sharing with me your news, even though of course the moment does not seem great. I am moved and honored that you trusted me enough to tell me you were just diagnosed HIV Positive.Read More