Living: January 2013


Golly! Actor Jim Nabors Comes Out, Marries Partner of 38 Years

Filed by Karen Ocamb | January 30, 2013 | 2:08 PM | comments

Jim Nabors, the 1960s TV star known for his "Golly" country boy role as "Gomer Pyle, USMC," married his longtime partner of 38 years, Stan Cadwallader in Seattle, Washington on Jan. 15. Read More


Your Mother Liked It Bareback

Filed by Mark S. King | January 30, 2013 | 11:30 AM | comments

Can stop pretending that those who remain fixated on condom usage have the moral upper hand? The emperor has no clothes. And he isn't wearing a rubber, either.Read More


Christianists Hate Everyone Edition [What You Need To Know]

Filed by E. Winter Tashlin | January 30, 2013 | 10:00 AM | comments

Bryan Fischer has a bigoted agenda beyond opposing LGBT equality, Antoni Scalia says we don't know how he'll rule on marriage, the WBC files a SCOTUS brief, marriage foes are running short on cash, and more. Read More


Boy Scouts May End Antigay Ban

Filed by Karen Ocamb | January 29, 2013 | 2:10 PM | comments

The Boy Scouts may be close to ending their ban on gays joining or serving as scout leaders in their private youth organization.Read More


Can We Get Ellen to Montana?

Filed by D Gregory Smith | January 29, 2013 | 12:20 PM | comments

Can we get Ellen to come to Montana? Missy O'Malley thinks so.Read More


Job Discrimination Complaint Pitfalls & Traps

Filed by Dr. Jillian T. Weiss | January 28, 2013 | 2:00 PM | comments

How do you go about constructing an internal complaint of discrimination? Very, very carefully.Read More


Pride Picture Edition [What You Need To Know]

Filed by E. Winter Tashlin | January 28, 2013 | 10:00 AM | comments

Have a Pride picture for your personal use. Plus right-wing anti-equality Christians are setting up shop in South America, Canada gets their first gay premier, the BSA strong-arms an LGBT welcoming troop, a tearjerking student film about self-acceptance, and moreRead More


Affirmation & Lots Of Links Edition [What You Need To Know]

Filed by E. Winter Tashlin | January 25, 2013 | 10:00 AM | comments

Winter stands by his Monday post, marriage equality foes make their strongest argument yet, LGBT Jamaicans speak out, Vegas gets an LGBT themed movie theater, RI's House approves SSM bill, and more. Read More


Obama & the Future Present

Filed by Sean Bugg | January 24, 2013 | 2:30 PM | comments

There are moments in life that sneak up on you, but when you recognize them they take your breath away.Read More


NPR Re-Writes LGBT History Edition [What You Need To Know]

Filed by E. Winter Tashlin | January 23, 2013 | 10:00 AM | comments

NPR re-writes the history of the Stonewall Riots to be less scary to straight and cisgender people, President Obama still feels marriage equality is a states' rights issue, NPH goes down the slippery slope, and much more. Read More


Do You Sleep in the Buff?

Filed by Bil Browning | January 22, 2013 | 4:30 PM | comments

Let's get personal for a moment, shall we? Do you sleep naked?Read More


NLGJA's Michael Triplett Has Died at 48

Filed by Karen Ocamb | January 22, 2013 | 1:00 PM | comments

National Lesbian and Gay Journalists Association President Michael Triplett passed away Thursday, January 17, after a courageous battle with cancer. He was 48.Read More


The Employment Discrimination Lawsuit Blues

Filed by Dr. Jillian T. Weiss | January 22, 2013 | 11:30 AM | comments

If you have been harassed at work based on your sexual orientation or gender identity, and are thinking about filing a complaint, be prepared for what that involves. It might be more than you think.Read More

Inauguration Day [Open Thread]

Filed by Bil Browning | January 21, 2013 | 11:30 AM | comments

It's Inauguration Day and I'm headed off to the swearing in ceremony. How many of you will watch the event live on TV or via livefeed?Read More


Authenticity Edition [What You Need To Know]

Filed by E. Winter Tashlin | January 21, 2013 | 10:00 AM | comments

Two fabulous LGBTQ young people give us an object lesson in authenticity, Daniel Radcliff puts his gay sex scenes in perspective, the UK government looks at the question of a gay heir to the throne, and much more. Read More


Maybe 'Sandy Hook Truthers' Should See For Themselves ...

Filed by Terrance Heath | January 20, 2013 | 1:00 PM | comments

In the crazy world of Sandy Hook conspiracy theories, maybe we should force the "truthers" to view the crime scene photosRead More


LAPD Sgt. Ronald Crump Finally Gets His $1.5M

Filed by Karen Ocamb | January 18, 2013 | 3:00 PM | comments

In 2009, after going through the proper complaint procedure, Crump filed a civil lawsuit against the city and the LAPD alleging discrimination, harassment and retaliation by his LAPD supervisors.Read More


Fighting AIDS in Africa for 20 Years

Filed by Sarah Blazucki | January 18, 2013 | 1:00 PM | comments

In Senegal, a wave of homophobia has destroyed a lot of the HIV/AIDS work of the last decades - work done by Gary Engelberg, who's been in Senegal since he was a Peace Corps volunteer 45 years ago.Read More


Philly Mag Tries to Do LGBT

Filed by Mark Segal | January 18, 2013 | 11:30 AM | comments

Philly Mag says there are no women of power in Philly's LGBT community. How out of touch are they?Read More


The Social Component of Valid Gender Identity

Filed by Drew Cordes | January 18, 2013 | 10:00 AM | comments

Feelings kept solely internal do not add up to a valid identity: If gender is a social construct, it must receive some form of social corroboration.Read More


Before DOMA: Sacred Homosexuality in Hawaii

Filed by Davina Kotulski | January 17, 2013 | 2:30 PM | comments

Genora Dancel sued the state Hawaii in 1990 for marriage - the case that sparked the passage of DOMA.Read More


UPDATED: 'Lost Girl' Trans Panic Violence Goes Unanswered

Filed by Guest Blogger | January 17, 2013 | 1:00 PM | comments

The season premiere of SyFy's 'Lost Girl' was trans phobic. So far, GLAAD hasn't called them out on it & is still publicly touting the show.Read More


Meet Avi Andre: The Cutest Baby in the World

Filed by Bil Browning | January 16, 2013 | 2:30 PM | comments

Big congratulations and warm wishes for contributor Amy Andre on the birth of her son, Avi Saula Andre.Read More


Think SyFy's 'Lost Girl' Is LGBT Friendly? Think Again!

Filed by Guest Blogger | January 16, 2013 | 1:00 PM | comments

"Lost Girl" has received a lot of attention for its sexually charged plot lines and positive portrayal of lesbian and bisexual female characters. But it's treatment of transgender characters need to get better.Read More


Harvey Milk Airport & LGBT Superlatives

Filed by John M. Becker | January 16, 2013 | 11:30 AM | comments

While reaction to the proposed renaming among the LGBT community has been quite positive, some have expressed exasperation about what they view as an endless succession of LGBT superlatives.Read More


Distracted Winter Edition [What You Need To Know]

Filed by E. Winter Tashlin | January 16, 2013 | 10:00 AM | comments

An excellent recap of the recent transphobic Observer/Guardian fracas, KY town is the smallest in USA to protect LGBT people, Oxford University invites vicious homophobes over for a chat, and more. Plus, gay life in Hong Kong. Read More


Newtown Students Sing 'Over the Rainbow'

Filed by James Holmes | January 15, 2013 | 5:30 PM | comments

Prepare to cry.Read More


How Not to Argue that Marriage Is Important

Filed by Alex Blaze | January 15, 2013 | 11:30 AM | comments

Proving that children who are raised by their biological, married parents do better than other kids requires more than just looking at statistical attributes of those kids and comparing them to other kids.Read More


My Tin Man Recovery Continues

Filed by Bil Browning | January 15, 2013 | 10:00 AM | comments

I'm on the mend. I'm still nappy and a little tired so content may not be nonstop, but I'm back behind the curtain again. Winter has earned his break from Bilerico duty. Didn't he do a great job while I was gone?Read More


Trans* Targeting Edition [What You Need To Know]

Filed by E. Winter Tashlin | January 14, 2013 | 10:00 AM | comments

Fox News engages in a stunning display of anti-trans* dehumanization, a gay refugee writes about growing up in Iran, Jodi Foster comes out, Illinois' GOP chair resists calls to resign, and more. Plus: Rachel Maddow on Jeanne ManfordRead More


'Can't Hardly Wait' For The Hagel Confirmation

Filed by Andrew Belonsky | January 13, 2013 | 5:00 PM | comments

I watched Can't Hardly Wait to unwind after covering the ever-changing Hagel story at a breakneck speed. I needed a break from all that, and the teen comedy romp, I recalled, was a favorite. And then I remembered all the homophobia.Read More


Kate Clinton's Happy New Year!

Filed by Kate Clinton | January 13, 2013 | 11:30 AM | comments

I am grateful for my dear life partner, my work, my health and my family and friends. They have seen me through crass idiocy, violence, endless greed, cruelty, illness and loss of shoreline. Read More

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The Colonial Roots of Anti-Gay Violence In Africa

Filed by Guest Blogger | January 11, 2013 | 5:00 PM | comments

I am fascinated with the reasons behind the deliberately fundamental, and conservative interpretations that colonized African communities choose to enforce based on traditional Christian or Islamic beliefs. Why do they use these interpretations to justify murder? Read More


Trans Beauty Kylan Wenzel Competes in Miss California Pageant This Weekend

Filed by Karen Ocamb | January 11, 2013 | 3:30 PM | comments

"For transgender individuals... you have to act like you are Miss Universe, or you are the woman you see yourself being." Kylan Wenzel said during her interview. Read More


The Roaring Silences

Filed by Mercedes Allen | January 11, 2013 | 2:00 PM | comments

Speaking to family had become an experience in which I would step from a world where I lived authentically and people hardly gave that a second thought, back into a world in which I was still [old name]Read More


Where Babies Come From: Trans-Friendly Version

Filed by Paige Schilt | January 11, 2013 | 12:30 PM | comments

Most books for kids begin with "everyone is born a boy or a girl" and end with "some day you'll make a family too," but those are assumptions we don't make in our family.Read More


Christopher Brosius: Perfume God

Filed by Father Tony | January 11, 2013 | 11:30 AM | comments

Christopher Brosius, master perfumer, talks about his life, and creating fragrances with names like "Faggot" and "Here Piggy."Read More


Cute Picture Edition [What You Need To Know]

Filed by E. Winter Tashlin | January 11, 2013 | 10:00 AM | comments

The Marine Corps warns spouse clubs against discrimination, a pro-gay legal judgement in Serbia, Scott Lively goes off the deep end, a powerful anti-homophobic speech PSA from Canada, and more. Plus, an adorable picture. Read More

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Probing My Anal Phobia

Filed by Mark S. King | January 10, 2013 | 1:30 PM | comments

My fear of all things anal began when I was an early teen. Read More


Using Title IX to Combat Bullying

Filed by Guest Blogger | January 09, 2013 | 3:23 PM | comments

We know that bullying and harassment of LGBTQ kids in school is a serious problem. But here's what you may not know: some of this bullying is sex-based harassment that's prohibited by Title IX.Read More


Unwinnable Compromise Edition [What You Need To Know]

Filed by E. Winter Tashlin | January 09, 2013 | 10:00 AM | comments

Gallaudet reinstates their diversity officer after she signed an anti-marriage petition, Jeanne Manford - the founder of PFLAG passed away at 92, UK's 1st trans* doctor is under investigation, and much more. Plus, DOMA tragedy for a war widow. Read More


A Heritage of Words

Filed by Jesse Monteagudo | January 08, 2013 | 10:00 AM | comments

As a gay writer, I am particularly intrigued by lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgendered slang (also known as gayspeak), and by the words that are used to describe us; both by ourselves and by others. Read More


The Top 25 Things That Owe Their Existence to the LGBT Community

Filed by Guest Blogger | January 07, 2013 | 1:30 PM | comments

25 things that the world would be poorer for, if it was not for the contributions of LGBTQ individuals. Anything you'd add to the list?Read More


Some Common Sense Gun Control Suggestions

Filed by Mark Segal | January 07, 2013 | 11:30 AM | comments

Guns. We believe in the Second Amendment, the right to bear arms -- but, like the First Amendment, the right of free speech, we believe in limits. With that in mind, a similar limitation and several others should be placed on guns.Read More


Bigotry And Gratitude Edition [What You Need To Know]

Filed by E. Winter Tashlin | January 07, 2013 | 10:00 AM | comments

Oregon passes a breakthrough trans* insurance bill, a priest in handcuffs, looking for long-delayed justice in Victoria AUS, Taiwan moves towards marriage, was Soderbergh's Liberace film "too gay," and more. Read More


WeHo Photographer Brian Putnam Dead at 48

Filed by Karen Ocamb | January 04, 2013 | 1:19 PM | comments

Brian Putnam, an LGBT event photographer and friend to many in West Hollywood, took his own life on Dec. 23. I want to address those who might not understand how lethal the combination of alcohol and depression can be.Read More

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Inadvertent Argument For Equality Edition [What You Need To Know]

Filed by E. Winter Tashlin | January 04, 2013 | 10:00 AM | comments

An unfunded $4.6 Trillion protest against trans* equality, GOP support for marriage in IL, the Pentagon blocks LGBT blogs, conservative Christians declare hate a virtue, and more. Plus: an historic swearing-in in the SenateRead More

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The Private War That Killed Spencer Cox

Filed by Mark S. King | January 03, 2013 | 10:00 AM | comments

AIDS did not kill Spencer Cox in the first, bloodiest battles of the 1980's. It spared him that.Read More


Baseline Edition [What You Need To Know]

Filed by E. Winter Tashlin | January 02, 2013 | 10:00 AM | comments

The first What You Need To Know of 2013: marriage news, a (formerly) bigoted Bishop changes position on LGBT rights, a trans* man fights for a divorce, LGBT concerns around Hagel continue, and more. Plus a powerful videoRead More


Ten New Year's Resolutions for Our Community

Filed by Viktor Kerney | January 01, 2013 | 4:00 PM | comments

As we move forward into the new year, I hope we are thinking about the possibilities of what could happen in 2013.Read More


Be Gracious If It Kills You

Filed by Bil Browning | January 01, 2013 | 11:30 AM | comments

May we all sail smoothly under blue skies, folks, or at least ride out stormy weather together.Read More