Living: April 2013


Matthew Shepard Lives

Filed by Guest Blogger | April 30, 2013 | 3:00 PM | comments

Yesterday we learned that Jason Collins chose the number 98 for his NBA basketball jersey, to commemorate Matthew Shepard's death in 1998, even as Collins remained in the closet concerning his own homosexuality.Read More


The LA Meningitis Mess Reveals Critical Need for Cultural Competency

Filed by Karen Ocamb | April 29, 2013 | 4:00 PM | comments

While the L.A. gay community might feel some relief after a week of intense fear and anxiety, the mess created by mistrust and misunderstandings exposed the dire need for cultural competency in how public health departments deal with LGBT populations.Read More


A Weekend at Vitambi Springs

Filed by Jesse Monteagudo | April 29, 2013 | 2:00 PM | comments

Florida is blessed with several year-round, gay or gay-friendly camp grounds: Sawmill in Dade City, Camp David in Inverness and Camp Mars in Venus, among others. Add to the list Vitambi Springs, a members only, all male, year-round wilderness camp and resort near Clewiston.Read More


NBA Player Jason Collins Comes Out of the Closet

Filed by Bil Browning | April 29, 2013 | 11:49 AM | comments

Bravo to Washington Wizards NBA player Jason Collins! He has become the "first openly gay athlete playing in a major American team sport" by coming out in a piece posted to Sports Illustrated this morning.Read More


The Evolution of Former Republican Congressman Jim Kolbe

Filed by Guest Blogger | April 28, 2013 | 4:00 PM | comments

There are legions of closeted brothers and sisters hiding out there in the shadows. We need to let them know by our words and our actions that we welcome them into our community with open hearts and open arms. It worked with Jim Kolbe.Read More

Brendon Ayanbadejo - Michael Rajner

Bilerico Sits Down with NFL Champ Brendon Ayanbadejo [Video]

Filed by Michael Emanuel Rajner | April 28, 2013 | 2:00 PM | comments

Last week, Equality Florida drafted 2013 Super Bowl Champion Brendon Ayanbadejo, also a former Miami Dolphins player, in the fight for marriage equality. I sat down for a quick talk with him for Bilerico Project.Read More


Was It a Good Idea to Make Bradley Manning SF Pride's Grand Marshall?

Filed by Viktor Kerney | April 28, 2013 | 12:00 PM | comments

I would to hear your opinions about this incident. Was the decision to make Manning a grand marshal an honorable one or a catastrophe waiting to happen? Read More

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What You Need To Know This Week (4/21 - 4/27)

Filed by E. Winter Tashlin | April 27, 2013 | 3:00 PM | comments

We go to a weekly What You Need To Know, France passes marriage equality, the ACLU stands up for a young trans* man, WA GOP lawmakers try to legalize discrimination, and more. Read More


Why Don't We Profile White Guys?

Filed by Terrance Heath | April 26, 2013 | 2:30 PM | comments

I shouldn't be surprised, reall, that conservatives are actually using the bombing to justify profiling, and call for more profiling.Read More


20 Years Later: My Lazarus Boyfriend

Filed by Bil Browning | April 26, 2013 | 10:30 AM | comments

Late last night I realized it was the 20th anniversary of the 93 March on Washington - the same time I met Rick for the first time. That means Wednesday would have been our 20th anniversary if we had stayed together.Read More


IFI's Bigoted New Video Shows How Little They Get It

Filed by Annette Gross | April 25, 2013 | 2:30 PM | comments

A new video created by the Indiana Family Institute is definitely an attack on those of us who are working to bring about marriage equality in Indiana - especially PFLAG.Read More


Ex-Ex-Gay Poster Child John Paulk Apologizes

Filed by Bil Browning | April 24, 2013 | 12:43 PM | comments

Noted ex-gay activist John Paulk has apologized and recanted his earlier assertions that sexual orientation can be changed if you just love Jeebus enough.Read More


A Note of Caution Amidst Recent Victories

Filed by E. Winter Tashlin | April 24, 2013 | 10:00 AM | comments

We can't forget that opponents of equality know how to play a long game too. Read More


Not Ashamed to Be Slavic & Not Ashamed to Be Queer

Filed by Caitlin Breedlove | April 23, 2013 | 1:24 PM | comments

I am not ashamed of my poor and pagan Slavic grandmothers. I am not distancing myself from them. No, they can keep all that spiritual poison. I'm trying to be able to sleep at night.Read More

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What You Need To Know for 4/22/13

Filed by E. Winter Tashlin | April 22, 2013 | 10:00 AM | comments

Montana repeals their gay-sex ban, a Louisiana works to ensure employers can legal discriminate against LGBT people, a trans* high schooler is betrayed by his principal, and more. Read More


LA County to Offer Free Meningitis Vaccines

Filed by Karen Ocamb | April 21, 2013 | 3:30 PM | comments

AIDS Healthcare Foundation has already provided up to 1700 free vaccines and the LA Gay & Lesbian Center is also providing free vaccines through appointment.Read More


Boy Scouts Propose Lifting Antigay Ban for Youth

Filed by Karen Ocamb | April 21, 2013 | 1:30 PM | comments

On a day when much of America was fixated on the unfolding developments regarding the Boston Marathon bombing, the Boy Scouts of America decided to release it's potentially homophobia-shattering recommendation to allow gay youth to join the private religious-based organization.Read More


LA County: Four Gay/Bi Men Had Meningitis Since December

Filed by Karen Ocamb | April 19, 2013 | 2:00 PM | comments

At a news conference, AIDS Healthcare Foundation President Michael Weinstein, West Hollywood Councilmember John Duran and Casey Hayden announced the death from meningococcal meningitis of Rjay Spoon last December, raising questions about what appears to be the insensitive and cavalier attitude with which DPH shares information.Read More


Blaming the Right People

Filed by Terrance Heath | April 19, 2013 | 12:00 PM | comments

There was one more reason I decided to keep my mouth shut so far about the Boston Marathon bombings. I didn't want to risk joining in the inevitable speculation about who might be responsible.Read More

One Boston Marathon Bombing Suspect Dead, Younger Brother on the Run

Filed by Karen Ocamb | April 19, 2013 | 10:45 AM | comments

The latest breaking news about the Boston Marathon bombing... Two brothers have been identified as the suspects. After a night of violence, one suspect is dead and his brother is on the run as a massive manhunt continues.Read More

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What You Need To Know for 4/19/13

Filed by E. Winter Tashlin | April 19, 2013 | 10:00 AM | comments

The WNBA's number one draft pick comes out officially, John Paulk former head of Exodus Internation rejects ex-gay therapy, Turkey's first openly trans* journalist talks about her journey, honoring Sharon Gless, and more. Read More


Bell, Book & a Candle to Light the Way

Filed by Davina Kotulski | April 17, 2013 | 3:30 PM | comments

It is important that we remember the names of these brave straight love warriors who have been willing to take a stand for LGBT equality and are still dealing with hardships from the fall out of these decisions years later. Read More

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What You Need To Know for 4/17/13

Filed by E. Winter Tashlin | April 17, 2013 | 10:00 AM | comments

Pat Robertson calls for civil disobedience in opposition to LGBT people, Ban Ki-Moon reiterates support for LGBT protections, New Zealand is close to marriage equality, an incredible short film about love, and more. Read More


For Gay Cop at Boston Bombings, Heroism Runs in the Family

Filed by John M. Becker | April 16, 2013 | 4:00 PM | comments

In addition to being one of the heroes of the Boston Marathon bombings, Pagan is a hero to the LGBT community.Read More

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Your Health: How Is Bacterial Meningitis Spread?

Filed by Karen Ocamb | April 16, 2013 | 2:00 PM | comments

Let's clear up some misperceptions about how bacterial meningitis is spread. While it's serious, there's no need to freak out.Read More


Remembering Kayla Moore

Filed by Toshio Meronek | April 15, 2013 | 5:30 PM | comments

In a city known for its progressiveness on transgender and disability issues, the death of Kayla Moore while she was in police custody in February shocked her family, friends, and strangers alike.Read More

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What You Need To Know for 4/15/13

Filed by E. Winter Tashlin | April 15, 2013 | 10:00 AM | comments

Tony Perkins wants to withhold money from the GOP, medical schools start teaching LGBT care, anti-gay violence escalates in France, will Ireland get marriage equality, and more. Read More


US Airways Says Hoodie = Hoodlum?

Filed by Terrance Heath | April 14, 2013 | 5:00 PM | comments

Black guys in hoodies can't fly first class on US Airways.Read More


Broward Meals On Wheels Feeds LGBT Seniors

Filed by Jesse Monteagudo | April 14, 2013 | 3:00 PM | comments

On January 8th, Ft. Lauderdale's Broward Meals On Wheels began offering free lunches at the Pride Center's Tuesday morning "Coffee and Conversation" meetings.Read More


Brett Shaad's Death From Meningitis Causes Alarm in LGBT Community

Filed by Karen Ocamb | April 14, 2013 | 1:00 PM | comments

For West Hollywood Councilmember John Duran, the surprise of Shaad's death from meningitis is eerily familiar to the shock 30 years ago when friends and lovers started dying from a then-unknown illness that later was identified as HIV/AIDS.Read More

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West Hollywood Gay Man Brain Dead from Bacterial Meningitis: New York Connection?

Filed by Michael Hamar | April 13, 2013 | 4:30 PM | comments

Anyone who has seen this disease first hand would never be willing to just write off a given amount of lives as an acceptable reaction. I've seen the disease up close and it's simply horrifying.Read More

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What You Need To Know for 4/12/13

Filed by E. Winter Tashlin | April 12, 2013 | 10:00 AM | comments

Bryan Fischer says new offensive crap, mainstream comic books get their first trans* character, Uruguay passes marriage equality, the a new partnership for LGBT inclusion in hockey, Bishop Robinson pens a Savage Love response, and more. Read More


The State of Black America: Progress Made, But Far To Go

Filed by Terrance Heath | April 11, 2013 | 3:30 PM | comments

It seems appropriate that the Urban League's report is released on the same day that President Obama - our first African-American president, recently re-elected to a second term - presents his annual budget to Congress.Read More


They'd Have to Arrest Me Too

Filed by Bil Browning | April 11, 2013 | 1:30 PM | comments

If anyone tried to keep me from Jerame's bedside at the hospital, they'd have to remove me in handcuffs too.Read More


Will Marriage Equality Lead to Equal Sharing of Housework?

Filed by Terrance Heath | April 10, 2013 | 1:00 PM | comments

I can cook, clean, and kiss boo-boos with the best of 'em. But apparently, many men from my generation on down can't, or just don't. Even in the most progressive families, the lion's share of housework and childcare still falls to women.Read More

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What You Need To Know for 4/10/13

Filed by E. Winter Tashlin | April 10, 2013 | 10:00 AM | comments

Marriage equality advances in France, Montana gets closer to allowing gay sex, Texas' Senate tries for fairness in their Romeo & Juliet law, bigots in France film themselves vandalizing an LGBT center, and more. Read More


The Restaurant Industry Puts Your Health In Danger For Dollars

Filed by E. Winter Tashlin | April 09, 2013 | 4:00 PM | comments

Millions of other people, some of whom may very well be immunocompromised, are having our health put in unnecessary jeopardy by restaurants in the name of a bit more profit.Read More


Funerals and Freakshows

Filed by Paige Schilt | April 09, 2013 | 2:00 PM | comments

I can't spin rhymes, can't keep a tune, but I'm lucky to cast my lot with people who know how to sing and to grieve.Read More


Using Scripture to Rationalize Financial Slavery

Filed by Mercedes Allen | April 09, 2013 | 12:00 PM | comments

Now it is easier for a rich man to pass through the eye of a needle than for the meek to inherit the Earth.Read More


DOMA Packs a Particularly Potent Punch at Tax Time

Filed by John M. Becker | April 08, 2013 | 4:30 PM | comments

I choose to share my story because of the truly astonishing number of well-meaning people who have absolutely no clue that same-sex couples incur tax penalties even if they live in states that recognize their marriages.Read More


Remembering Film Critic Roger Ebert & AIDS History

Filed by Karen Ocamb | April 08, 2013 | 3:00 PM | comments

I learned to civilly argue and disagree with someone without hating and dismissing them by watching Siskel and Ebert "At The Movies." I also learned that I could agree with bits and pieces of each of their critiques and form my own opinion.Read More


Detroit Archbishop: Pro-Marriage Equality Catholics Shouldn't Take Communion

Filed by John M. Becker | April 08, 2013 | 1:30 PM | comments

Statements from Archbishop Vigneron and Edward Peters prove once again that the Catholic Church has made homophobic bigotry and the spiritual bullying of LGBT people and their allies a top priority.Read More

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What You Need To Know for 4/8/13

Filed by E. Winter Tashlin | April 08, 2013 | 11:30 AM | comments

Here's what you need to know for Monday, April 8 2013.Read More


Lesbian, Straight Woman Sue The Abbey for Alleged Sexual Assault

Filed by Karen Ocamb | April 07, 2013 | 1:30 PM | comments

A lawsuit filed against The Abbey by a lesbian and a straight mother of three alleges that on separate occasions in 2011, at least three employees slipped them drugs then sexually assaulted them.Read More


Gay Men Need to Adopt a Hands-Off Policy

Filed by Sean Bugg | April 06, 2013 | 3:00 PM | comments

The large majority of gay men aren't obsessed with fondling women in the name of fun and fashion. But what's with the guys obsessed with women's breasts? Hands off!Read More


The Godfather of LGBT Marriage Equality

Filed by Mark Segal | April 05, 2013 | 5:00 PM | comments

Hearings on marriage equality had some activists so enthused they were already handing out credit for victory - should it go to Evan Wolfson, Andrew Sullivan or even actor Rob Reiner? The answer is, none of the above.Read More

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What You Need To Know for 4/5/13

Filed by E. Winter Tashlin | April 05, 2013 | 10:00 AM | comments

GLADD will be honoring Bill Clinton, Texas A&M University passes an updated version of an anti-LGBT policy, looks like the Bears don't support NOM after all, a gay mermaid flaunts his tail, and more. Read More


Empathy Is Revolutionary

Filed by Terrance Heath | April 04, 2013 | 1:30 PM | comments

If a sincere apology and a genuine effort to make amends isn't good enough, then nothing short of going back in time and undoing what was done will ever be good enough. And that's impossible.Read More


Friends Don't Ask Friends to Live With Inequality

Filed by Terrance Heath | April 03, 2013 | 5:00 PM | comments

I've got news for Cardinal Timothy Dolan: I don't want your fucking friendship.Read More


Thoughts on the Boy Protesting Outside an LGBT Affirming Church

Filed by E. Winter Tashlin | April 03, 2013 | 1:00 PM | comments

Don't get me wrong, I was outraged by the video, as I imagine most people would be. That said, I believe that compassion requires us to look past the animus his words inspire. Read More


On Kevin Swanson and Robert Ross

Filed by Jesse Monteagudo | April 03, 2013 | 12:00 PM | comments

Leave it to a Bible thumper to remind us of an unjustly forgotten gay pioneer. Read More

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What You Need To Know for 4/3/13

Filed by E. Winter Tashlin | April 03, 2013 | 10:00 AM | comments

Texas threatens to pull funding for universities with LGBT resource centers, trans* hiring discrimination is rife in NY, Ugandan MPs push for a secret vote on the "Kill the Gays Bill," and moreRead More


Yelling Is Not a Management Style

Filed by Terrance Heath | April 01, 2013 | 3:00 PM | comments

If screaming and/or yelling is your primary method of motivating people or getting them to do what you want them to do, you do not have a "management style." You have a management disorder.Read More

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What You Need To Know for 4/1/13

Filed by E. Winter Tashlin | April 01, 2013 | 10:00 AM | comments

The White House shuts down consideration for covering trans* healthcare, Dan Choi gets a fine, pastors in Uganda take hate to a new level, Rep Matt Salmon doesn't want his gay son to be able to get married, and moreRead More